So we started dating. Things were going great. Until… I asked a direct question, and you just changed the subject. Even a mundane thing I ask, you just laugh off, or sideline it. I’m allergic to cats, and you brought your big fat cat over to my house. I asked you why you would do that. Again, you could not, would not, answer a direct question. I really like you, gal, but I don’t like how you won’t give me a direct answer to a direct question. Am I crazy? You got all pissed off and tell me I am being too critical and picky. I don’t know what to do. Sex is great. We have fun times. Well, I think we do cuz if I asked, I doubt I would get a direct answer. Do you think I’m an undercover spy or something like that? I thought communication was important. That cat thing was pretty insensitive. Maybe I should chuck it out the window and then maybe you would ask why I did that. And maybe I would use your weird-ass sense of humour to just change the subject. (No, I wouldn’t really do that). But still… I hope you read this and ask yourself a direct question then don’t answer it! It’s really pissing me off. I feel crazy. —Going Round in Circles
This article appears in May 17-23, 2012.
funny thing here o.p.. if you are as you say, allergic to cats, then cat dander or fur on her clothes, should have been a trigger too. methinks that you are just using this cat, as an excuse to say bye bye to her.
i could be wrong, but the other bitchers here, will expound on this too, bet on it. there are cat people here, and they will let you know.
and the breakups begin…
ask her again… if she laughs it off or changes subject, ask her directly again…
over and over and over… until you get an answer.
if you have to drill it out of her like that though, I’d bet it’s not going to be the answer you Want to hear…
she sounds kinda creepy ob
Also would drive me nuts, I HATE when people side step questions. And who brings their cat over to someone’s house?
she sounds mental….. and if she refuses to talk about anything of significance then most likely thats all the relationship is to her.
or there is something in her past that prevents her from opening up and letting you in. either you want to take the time to try to get her to take down her walls… or you prefer to just let things stay superficial till one of you breaks it off.
the cat thing was a douche move on her part regardless of how allergic you are or not. if i told a chick not to bring her cat over and she did, she wouldn’t be coming in #1 and she wouldn’t be coming back #2. and btw who the hell brings a cat over??? its not like a dog.
yeah thomas, a dog maybe or even your trained falcon
Bringing her pussy to you …. no problemo with that!
Bringing her feline to you ……. run like hell…..
Well, at least you know somewhat early on that she is crazy… rather than in 10 years when you have 3 kids and are thinking, “WTF am I doing with this person? She can’t even answer a simple question! Our kids are allergic to peanuts and she keeps feeding them PB&J!”
Ahhh, the beginnings of an abusive relationship. She has no respect for you, your words and feelings mean nothing. So, you had better learn to like it, or dump her….NOW.
OB… you’ve described the problem of a great relationship perfectly.
It isn’t all about great sex, not that there’s anything wrong with that. But at some point you are going to have to put your clothes back on to go get something to eat, or go to work. If someone doesn’t listen to your point of view, or doesn’t care about what you say, want to share the work load, or get along, be attentive to the others needs. A relationship is a fuck of a lot more than someone you think is the one…. & fucks yer brains out.
perhaps you can just be bed buddies ,if not-
P.S.
( run away while you still can)
Hay Painey. me Old Dad sent me this vid:
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Hella Kule >: )
There’s still time to dodge this bullet. Run, run, run…
that was awesome, admiral. perhaps i could get my crows to do that, when i’m riding. *mental image* naw, i’d crash
“And who brings their cat over to someone’s house?”
My question too, Thomas.
She sounds like a bit of a nut. As much as I love my kittehs, a) I’m not attached at the hip as to bring them wherever I go and b) if someone’s allergic then respect that shit, yo’. I’m allergic to dogs and if a SO brought their dog over to my place I’d be pissed the fuck off.
She sounds like a weirdo, OB. I dated a weirdo like that and… get a new girlfriend. Trust me.
In the spirit of direct questions …. why would you continue to hang around with someone who makes you feel this ‘crazy’, as you state? Not sure how long you have been hanging out with them, but they probably are not going to change to fit your standards. Just because the sex is good is not usually a great reason to put up with things that constantly cause us grief of some type. Sure couples do not always mesh in their outlook etc., and have their ups and downs. But when it is a constant problem, there is no reason to continue with it. Better to have realized the situation before getting to the “I do”s. Yep, time to direct a few good questions to the person you see in the mirror.
All I can think of is the Seinfeld where Jerry’s lady wouldn’t eat a piece of pie and wouldn’t say why, just shook her head “like a psycho” :D.
She does sound weird. She probably knows you won’t like the answer to the question like, “I believe my landlord is breaking into my apartment and feeding my cat treats, hence why he’s so fat and why I brought him here”. I keep those thoughts to myself too ;).
Heh Heh – it’s not your landlord, Mel. >; )
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OB -start thinking with your big head.
Ivan-just beautiful- parasailing and falconry–a combination of two great sports–
It’s on my bucket list. I love the fact that Where I live in dartmouth I can count on seeing large raptors on a regular basis. Mostly ospreys; bald eagles a couple of times.
Screeeee!
OB, your comment about tossing the cat out the window, whether or not you would do it, makes me think that MAYBE you are an asshole, and MAYBE you shouldn’t date a cat owner. Most of us tend to be pretty crazy about our kitties.
(although not quite crazy enough to bring them visiting people’s homes)
You sound pretty self centered, IMO.
Too bad I can’t tell you this in person, so I could enjoy your look of judgement and disgust.
She sounds like a cuckoo-fruitcake to me… fuck her and be done with it
The look would probably be pretty similar to this, Kontee:
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This is strange. How long have you been dating? Maybe you’re a mumbler or a low-talker and she can’t quite make out what you’re saying so she takes a stab at an answer. You mumble “what time is it?” and she replies “heh, heh, that’s great!”
On the flip side, maybe she is slightly hearing impaired and is embarrassed to admit it. Same kind of results.
P.S. You mumble “I’m allergic to cats” and she hears “I’d like to see your cat”.
Seriously, OB?
Maybe there’s more to the story than what you’ve posted, but honestly just because someone *can’t* answer a direct question and *laughs* instead could just as easily mean that she’s embarrassed by her actions and doesn’t really know how to explain her stupidity and/or inconsiderateness.
Or….maybe she didn’t know or didn’t remember that you’re allergic to cats (seriously, you keep tabs on every friend’s /girlfriend’s/boyfriend’s allergies?? Yeah, I know she’s got a cat but still….)
Maybe you didn’t make it clear enough, maybe she forgot, maybe she is a self-centred jerk and couldn’t be assed remembering something like that.
Regardless, bitchers, it doesn’t make her crazy.
You, OB, however…..if you’re writing a bitch about this one little incident, telling of her character as it may/may not be – and you’re going on about the importance of communication – why the hell don’t you just ask her why she wouldn’t answer your question?????
If you plan on seeing her again and having a few drinks while you’re at it, ask her after things are well-lubricated. She’ll probably be more forthcoming then and if she’s not, then maybe she is a weirdo after all.
That’s the thing about dating hot chicks. Hot chicks treat you like crap and walk all over you because they can (I know cuz I am one). She showed up toting a cat? REally? And wha the litter pan and food and everything too? Sounds psycho. But depends how much you like her. Definitely a high-maintenance bitch… hope the poontang be worth all that! You want her all up in your crib all the time givin you that good coochie you need compromise, buy some Dristan and ball-up.
if you were one, you would instinctively use ‘we’ and not ‘they’.
busted…
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yeah we, that’s what I meant, egg-fucker
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Also, OB and I say OB, not OP cuz you’re a tampon –
If she’s evading your questions, maybe its because you’re asking her awkward shit that’s none ya damn buiness.
yeah, stay outta her bid’nis…
a chubby, trashy whore like no_fool will tell ya,
you pull on her tail, expect the claws
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Ivan, here’s another awesome one in a different style.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2aCOyOvOw5c
That shit punches all the right buttons for ‘I wanna be an astronaut!’ childhood dreams.
Wow, Maes. Awesome indeed. Soft-core erotica for Tom Clancy wannabes like meself.
Merci >: )
Someone brought an animal into the OP’s home, I believe that would qualify as his bid’niz
I’ve never seen a shot like that before, thanks Maes 🙂
Geez eggs, most gay men like me. Why ya gotta be callin me a chubby trashy whore? If I ever see you at a summit, we gonna dance so I don’t mean two-steppin mo fucka so watch ya back