Once a month I seem to go crazy.
Certifiably n.u.t.s.
Classified as the bigger, bitchier sister of PMS, PMDD is characterized by unpleasant physical and psychological symptoms occurring in the second half of a ladies “cycle”. This is no fucking joke. And unpleasant doesn’t even begin to sum it up.
Try explaining to someone that once a month for a matter of days, your emotions are uncontrollable and unreasonable, without sounding like you’re making excuses for your “flavour of the month: Crazy”.
Really, I should just spend my days locked up during this time.
I am unbearable to be around. I feel hopeless, out of control, despaired, sad, anxious, tearful, lethargic, am constantly, but inconsistently, irritable and angry, sorrowful and my personal favorite, as fat as a whale… should I continue? Some days I even contemplate why I continue bother to put anyone, myself included, through this bullshit.
And of course, for someone who’s in a relationship… how do you think all this bodes on the poor individual who bears the brunt of this uncontrollable insanity? Generally not very well. [I’m so very sorry, my love. So sorry, I don’t know how to deal with myself when I’m like this anymore than you do… just be patient with me and know that none of it is a personal attack on you, I’m trying, but it’s so hard.]

This all just creates a vicious circle for the primary suffering party (me!), and the secondary parties (bloody interpersonal conflicts)… because then I’m increasingly sensitive to rejection (even if I’m not being rejected), although if I am, I guess I rightfully deserve it, even if this is beyond my control. Hold me, but don’t (I’m my very own rollercoaster, I hate rollercoasters).

Apparently, according to a leading theory, PMDD is caused by the lack of serotonin and an abnormal reaction to fluctuations of the sex hormones.
So it’s like a double whammy. FML much???
I’d really like to be able to explain this to anyone without having them think that I’m just a crazy… but sometimes I even have a hard time explaining it to myself. I know I’m not the only one to suffer from this, but it’s such a new “disorder” (I hate that word) that there is still a great deal of skepticism surrounding it, which just makes one feel lost and alone when they want help on how to deal with it.
And now that I’ve blurted this, in all its seeming randomness, which boils down to my out of control thought patterns at the time of writing this (imagine that!), I’ll sit and wait on the nasty comments that I trust will follow. —AnonEmous

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  1. Is there nothing on the market yet, (like a supplement or hormone treatment), that can be used to treat or, at the very least, lessen the affects of PMDD? I know nothing about it.

  2. in my world it’s called going to the *treehouse* there are products on the market that help, but nothing makes it go away completely. you are not alone op, if that helps

  3. are you not on an SSRI? Sounds like you should be, if you are not already. Also, try to get outside when the sun is shining and get an OTT lamp.

  4. vastie — the BC pill “yaz” has been known to help symptoms of PMDD, but unfortunately ‘yaz’ and it’s bigger sister ‘yasmin’ have higher than average rates of blood clots and other nasty things.

    I’m wondering if an SSRI might help you?

    I don’t have PMDD, but my GAD does flare up when I’m about to get my period and I completely and totally understand what you go through, OB.

    You’re not the only one out there who’s dealing with this!!!

  5. as long as we also keep in mind that men are to be coddled for their over-abundance of testosterone and the anti-social behaviour that causes….

    Look i’m on your side sister.. i’m just being fair.

  6. i might as well have a uterus where my head is^^i agree with xeno and pk, but sometimes it takes some trail and error to find the right kind/dose. my doctor is awesome, we laughed at st john’s wort. she said it would be like spitting on a bonfire

  7. Anti-depressants have side effects though not as bad as the symptoms you seem to be suffering. See your doctor if you haven’t already. Google it for support groups.

  8. the side affects are nothing comparatively. there are no support groups here, my doctor suggested i start one

  9. lol @ red tent.
    At the risk of coming off like a sexist arse, here are a couple of other phrases I’ve heard used to describe “that time of the month”.

    -Getting my monthly visit from Aunt Flo

    (and my fave)

    -Riding the cotton pony! lol (TY Vicki Lawrence!)

  10. When SOBova is accursed I’ll pantomime playing a Dixieland Jazz trombone (Ragtime – yeah, I know they’re not the same) or I’ll sing that line of Toby Keith’s – …”and when you staaa-aart”
    So basically that makes 7 days out of 28 that SOBova hates my guts with a pathological loathing that would shock an FBI profiler. >: (

  11. “Granny’s stuck in traffic”? I don’t get that one!

    I can’t imagine dealing with that kind of physical and emotional chaos. It does pass but sheesh, are you supposed hide a week of every month?
    That’s where men have an advantage, the penis, as schizoid as it can be, is relatively trouble-free. Sure, you have those situations where you have to pee in the middle of the night but you have a boner and can’t pass any urine so you stand there like an idiot. Or maybe an untimely erection while lying in the dentist’s chair.
    Otherwise, the organ is well behaved.
    Funny how the menstruation and lunar cycles are roughly the same length. Is it a coincidence? After all, the moon is responsible for the ebb and flow of the tides, why not a woman’s body.
    You’ll have to check the lunar cycles OP and see if there is any correlation. I mean just for the fun of it.

  12. but painy, it has been proven, that i don’t have a brain, or a heart. fucking wizard, he lied to me to get dorothy to fuck him.

  13. Your body sounds inflammed. You need to cool it down with foods that heal your insides. Drink flax water. Cheap, no side effects. Boil water with cinnamon bark and honey or sugar. As it rolls to a boil add in flax seeds, a few tablespoons. Turn off the heat and let it sit. Put the whole mess in a pitcher and put it in the fridge. When it is cold drink it. You do not have to drink the seeds, just drink the flax slime. It is the best thing for hot blood.

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