I have to admit the first time I heard that usual pay it forward story about someone paying for someone else’s cofee and/or food, I thought it was a nice thing. I mean, it’s all nice to buy someone a coffee and for them to buy someone else a coffee, but what kind of good deed is that? Wouldn’t it be much better for society or even for your own Karma to help an old lady with her groceries, tutor some kids, mentor someone, shovel your neighbours driveway, etc? I mean, a free coffee is all good, but if you have to turn around and buy someone else a coffee (paying it forward), it’s not really a free coffee and not really any extra benefit to anyone other than the company selling the coffee/food. IMO it really just seems like a lazy way to feel like your doing a good deed when in reality you are not helping anyone but yourself to feel good and the company selling the coffee/food. —You are not Haley Joel Osment
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Don’t be so narrowly focused on the coffee aspect. It’s not about keeping bean pushers in business. It’s about a random act of kindness offered to a stranger, who may or may not be having a lousy moment in their life, who may or may not appreciate it, and who may or may not respond in kind to someone else. There is a certain grace to the anonymity and an acceptance of the randomness of existence in the scattershot approach. It doesn’t preclude directly targeting your acts of charity; it is simply another aspect of it.
So, enjoy your free coffee and bite me. >; )
I agree with op. You want to do good or do something for mankind? Buy a homeless person a sandwich, a coffee, or give them a warm blanket.
Give an underprivileged child your attention, time and love.
Volunteer in a soup kitchen, local charity, etc, etc.
This will give you purpose and joy. Buying someone a coffee who can afford a Hummer, not so much.
Yours truly.
it’s a GESTURE of kindness. and it’s the thought behind the gesture that is paid forward. in whatever manner, means appears at the next opportunity. absolutely nothing to do with coffee. and if you only pay for pretty girls’ coffee you are really missing the point.
and for fuck’s sake you do NOT do it for your own karma. oh vomit already with the fucking karma.
and wheels, that also is not the concept of paying it forward. what you speak of is charity, which should also be a routine part of one’s life.
stop measuring kindness with fucking calipers.
You’re a fucktard, OP. ‘Paying it forward’ is simply a nice thing to do, whether it’s coffee or biting off Granny’s yellow toenails.
As for Karma, I tend to side with Karl Smith on this one:
‘Karma is bullshit — the greatest lie ever told. In truth, the arc of the moral universe is long but it bends towards death and destruction. The universe is either utterly indifferent to your suffering or it actively seeks to destroy you and repurpose your molecules for other uses. In no way, shape or form is it your friend. In no way, shape or form is it balanced or just. If there is evil in the world then it is nature. If there is a God then he is a demon. If there is fate then ours is doom.
Nothing ends well. In the end, the universe, like the house, always wins. Yet, we do not have to tolerate agony and pain all the way up until our inevitable demise. We live. We love. We laugh in defiance of that inevitability. If we have our heads on straight we’ll do it right up until the cold, bitter, utterly unjust and utterly unavoidable end. We are mortals — those who die. That fact should infuse our every value and animate our every action.’
The movie was not about buying the guy behind you a coffee, it was about a boy who wanted to make a difference in the lives of people. A random act of kindness to bless someone. Not so that the next guy buys the next person in line a beverage and so on and so on.
Yours truly.
real life is not a movie!!!!!!
Is it wrong that every time I see a bitch where the OB uses “your’ instead of “you’re” I immediately invalidate what they’re bitching about?
I will admit, I DO feel ok with it, mainly because 90% of the bitches on here are usually written by whiny prats who are are about as intelligent as a door knob whining about the most inane stupid shit that usually makes absolutely no sense.
OB (and I feel like I’m writing the same response to these lame bitches over and over again): you’re an idiot. Go frig yourself.
SHOULD I “PUSH THE ENVELOPE” WHILE “PAYING IT FORWARD”?
“Paying it forward” is one of those slimy modern locutions similar to “push the envelope.” It can mean anything or nothing, depending on the context in which it is used. And even then, it probably means nothing.
New Avatar Alert! The Spadroon
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Miscegenation Alert! A Famous Quadroon.
http://mightyniche.com/images/dumas.jpg
Yes, the grandfather of the author of “The Count of Monte Cristo and The Theree Musketeers, Alexandre Dumas, was born a slave on a Haitian plantation.
And now you know the rest of the story.
^^^ lol, yes mr harvey!
THE MISCEGENATION TANGO
: Col. Ivan Sonofabitch – 95th Rifles (03/02, 4:50PM)
“MiscegenationAlert! A famous quadroon!”
You buffoon, a spadroon is not a quadroon!
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Wheels – I once gave a homeless guy a nice warm jacket that was brand new because I already had one, it was a gift and I had no use for it. I saw that homeless guy every day on my walk to work so one day I brought the jacket with me and gave it to him. Never once saw him wear it though.
Also, what wrong with feeling gratified for doing something nice for someone else, even a total stranger? It’s OK to feel good about doing good things. And if your whole driving force behind doing something kind for a stranger is just so you can feel that way – so what? There are worse things you could do.
T.T. That is an awesome quote. I am going to look up this Karl Smith.
War Toy Alert! An Officer of the 5th Regiment of Foot, circa 1776, armed with a Spontoon.
http://www.firstlegionltd.com/images/newim…
So many questions. Was this officer brave, or was he a poltroon? Was he, in fact, a displaced Scot? Did he hail from Duntroon? And , most importantly, how long can Ivan carry on this lampoon?
THE FLATULENCE OF THE PHOTOBUCKET POP-UP
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: Col. Ivan Sonofabitch – 95th Rifles (03/03, 6:40AM)
Once again we see the one-dimensionality of another photobucket pop-up. While there is content, if only in the barely minimal form of an officer of the 5th. Regiment of Foot, circa 1776, there is no context in terms of which the officer and his spontoon might become conceptually rich. In other words there is nothing, whether historically or in terms of manufacture, which might situate the officer in some meaningful context. The consequence is one of a lobotomized flatness.
Instead of such context we are offered only a series of flatulent questions which serve little purpose other than casting a malodorous miasma of an unmistakable fecal character. The question, of course, is whether there is a necessary logical relationship between such photobucket pop-ups on the one hand and such malodorous flatulence on the other. My guess is that there is such a relationship.
No New Aatar Alert! It’s ready to go but will not be posted until the bitch rotation changes. They are too valuable to squander on the dregs of old bitches.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
OB my sweet lord , but ‘your’ petty !
OH… and to the spelling nazi’s ‘your’ worse than the OB is
Don’t give the homeless money,clothing or anything that can be sold for drugs or booze.They(not all) don’t really appreciate it besides, your just enabling them.If anyone wants to help the homeless give your time or/and money to a food kitchen or homeless shelter.
ahh paying it forward….
http://www.quickmeme.com/img/77/7742e4cae8…
An act of kindness is just that, no matter how big or small. Don’t try and qualify it, you’ll just come off as a pretentious jackass.
I hate the term “pay it forward”.. it always got on my nerves..
I tried leaving money behind to pay for some kids candy at a well-known Barrington Street candy store but they told me the owner wouldn’t allow it… and IN NO WAY would he…
Needless to say, I don’t shop there anymore; nor should anyone for that fact…
Were you in full Evil Clown rig at the time, Mr. M? Cuz, I can kind of see their point………>; )
that’s freakish meaty, i frequent the barn of bulk for my candy needs