So you couldn’t tell me during the last year the real reason you don’t want to be involved with me anymore. You left me with so many questions. You give the tired “school/career” excuse. I pegged you for a much more mature and open person. You don’t owe me an explanation, fine. It was almost a year ago, it took some time, but I’m over it.
Now you go and tell my friend, who you work with, the real reason.
What. The. Fuck. For one thing, the reason is bullshit, I still think you’re making excuses for just being inconsiderate and selfish. But, why couldn’t you have either a) been up front and honest with me in the first place, especially since you say you really do want to be friends or b) just dropped it instead of so EASILY and EFFORTLESSLY disclosing that information to my friend? That conversation you had with him, last week, should have been had with me, 10 months ago. Or not at all. I understand you work with my friends, and my name will inevitably come up and things will be said. But, you wouldn’t have that job if it wasn’t for me and I feel kind of disrespected. No one likes their personal business talked about behind their back.
I understand it’s tough to tell someone the truth, and you’re under no obligation to tell someone the real reason you don’t want to date/be with them any more, but don’t bring it up to one of my best friends almost a year later. Just let it be and keep your mouth shut about it if you can’t even be straight with me. It’s just infuriating and disrespectful. I spent months trying to figure out why you just disappeared out of my life the way you did and it was like pulling teeth just to get you to have a Facebook convo with me. Then you turn around and freely volunteer this information to someone you don’t even know all that well.
You definitely aren’t who I thought you were. The girl I knew would never have done something like that. This just brings so many stupid feelings and “what ifs” back that I really don’t need right now. Just shut the fuck up about it or talk to me and have the conversation that I’ve been trying to have with you since September. Fuck. — Retroactively Slapped in the Face
This article appears in Jun 16-22, 2011.
who cares what the reason was…. they arnt into you…. and you cant force them into an awkward conversation just to make you feel better about your unrequited feelings. We have all been there… wondering why they cant see how great you are and how great you could be together…. but in the end it doesn’t matter does it.
there are no “what ifs” if she was into you, she would be with you its as simple as that.
whatever the reason she tells people…. she aint into your brand of koolaid homie… move on!
lol at brand of KollAid
OP says he’s moved on. He would have just liked for the truth to come out at the appropriate time to the appropriate party, or not at all. Read the bitch.
… so uh … what’s the reason?
if he had moved on he wouldn’t have been wanting to have a conversation with her since “september” thats not moved on… thats still carrying a torch.
and while the OP doesnt say it…. i suspect he has made his continued feeling for her known…. maybe even to the mutual friend… who then went to her and said… “hey whats up with that whole situation anyway?? why dont u like him that way?” and she told them.
there are 2 different parts to the bitch…. #1. talkin about my business at work… yeah thats a 100% valid bitch as it sucks to be the subject of gossip.
and #2 the torch is still burning…. which sucks…. like i said we have all been there. just saying its not worth wasting anymore time over it… there is a great girl out there just waiting for the OP to notice her.
I wanna know what the reason is too.
This is sort of a valid bitch — but I don’t see why it had to be so damn long. Point is: dude should’ve kept his mouth shut if he had any maturity and/or tact and you have a right to be pissy over it, but a simple “fuck off with talking about me to my friends behind my back” would’ve sufficed.
oops, my bad: it’s a girl who spilled the beans.
Yeahhh girls’ll do this sometimes.
I too thought it was a lady at first 😛
Well I guess it could be a girl bitching about a girl I guess. How narrow-minded of me 🙁
mmmmm that would be hot……. but only if they were lipstick lezzies….. nothing worse than sliding that dvd in for an evening of hot self loving and on pops a couple bull dykes slappin each other with the double ended dildos.
lol what does it matter the reason? It means nothing now, so she should have just took it with her to the grave, or if she felt like telling someone she should have told the OP. Maybe it was her way of letting him know without having to look him in the eye.
I just wanna know! Ok Diane.
lol it’s my bitch PK, that’s why it’s so long. Just how I roll/ramble.
To be honest Diane … I’m not surprised.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TCQBZmT2M8c
TJ you’re better off anyway.
yeah, I know… that kind of confirmed it.
C’moooooon tell us whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!
ok we guess. PK he’s got a AA problem?? ya think?
she was afraid of his massive schlong and couldn’t imagine being subjected to it every day.
lol I wanna hear some guesses, because I have some time to kill, as you all do I’m sure.. then I’ll tell you.
She didnt want to date you cuz her friend had a crush on you ( but you dont feel the same way about her) and didnt want to hurt her friends feelings but getting with ya.
LAME!
I know you can do better than that Killa
you have “man-hands”
she is catholic and you are protestant… would never work
she thought u were actually gay!
she doesnt think a relationship would work out due to the restraining order.
she never wanted a relationship with you but she used you to get her job and then kicked you to the curb.
Shes a blood and yer a Crip………. would never work
she wasn’t a fan of your “in-the-butt” policy
she isn’t ready to settle down with just one guy.
she thinks she might be gay cuz every time she looks at you she hates men
its complicated…..
so you really are the op thomas? she likes women? sorry, i don’t want to be mean
“Shes a blood and yer a Crip………. would never work” That’s it. That’s definitely it!
lol those are decent Killa,
Ok the big secret is…… I’m still friends with my ex. She still calls me often and we still chill often. I think it’s bullshit because it didn’t seem to bother her one bit when we were dating. I really think she would have done what she did regardless: fuck off once she had to go back to school and be a single college girl.
That whole thing pisses me off, when the new girl wants to make you break all contact with the old girl. Can they not think to themselves that they most likely will be the old girl one day and would they want me to throw away our friendship just for some new pussy?
So the reason she gave itself kind of pissed me off, but not as much as the fact that I would have done anything at one point for her to tell ME that. I had NO idea whatsoever. It had crossed my mind.. but I was like NAAAH. And, NOW that I’m finally over it she decides to re hash the shit.
It’s just a shame because I had sooo much respect for her and she’s letting me down right now. Kinda like when you find out there’s no Santa. I really do just want to be friends and friends don’t do each other like this. So I guess I don’t really want to be her friend anymore, as amazing as she is and as much as I really do enjoy her company. Makes all the good times we had seem fake.
well yer better off without her…. those kinds of people hate themselves and will try and isolate you from your friends so you have to depend on them.
I call em lifesuckers…. as in they suck the life out of you until 5 years from now u suddenly wake up and realize you gave up all your friends and in some cases family, for someone who you now understand was not right for you at all.
and who is to say that what she told the mutual friend is even the truth….. some people dont like to admit to themselves that they enjoy being able to date/sleep with whomever they like.
I don’t think it’s the truth either Killa, which is another reason it pissed me off. You hit the nail on the head, she made an excuse for wanting to be a free woman.
She could have just said that I would have understood, I wasn’t optimistic about keeping a relationship going with a gorgeous college girl surrounded by young horny guys hours away from me.
I knew we probably weren’t going to continue our little summer fling, I just could have used a little more closure and just when I thought I was over it she goes and fans the flames. NOT TO MENTION she has a job because of her association with me.
There’s more to it but I won’t go on, you get the picture, she did me dirty and now wants to do mental gymnastics to make it somehow my fault. All with a smile and fake show of concern on her face. Nice people are the worst, I’m starting to dislike and distrust them.
… that’s not a nice person.
no it isn’t donkaloo but it smells fishy, sounds like her trousers are aflame
Cut that bitch, Donk.
Holdddd up now, I ain’t that ghetto. I’ll give her the side eye gurlll look, if I see her and run over er foot with my Lexus 🙂
Lawls.
i have a turquoise mitsubishi for the week, if it was a standard it would be more fun but it should hold the hound
Don’t really drive a Lexis, lol. I know the turquoise of which you speak, that’s quite flashy my lady!
KillBrindi……..a couple of those items on your list is perhaps the reason I was single for a couple of weeks last year 🙁
Some people just don’t get it!
i enjoy being single….. i get girls trying to get me to commit to more all the time and they get upset when i tell em “no deal” i never lie to them and i’m always honest with my intentions.
Society says we should settle down and be good lil family units, but human nature/instinct doesn’t intend for us to be with only one person forever.
I see my friends in relationships constantly fighting and dealing with drama, why would i want to add that into my life….. don’t mess with my fung shui!!
Anyway until i find a girl i cant imagine living without, ill stick to the single life.
“… human nature/instinct doesn’t intend for us to be with only one person forever. ” w/e bro.
Your name isn’t Mick is it … heh
Um, night.
Who cares. She left you, move on. Why waste energy even thinking about her.
I think it’s fair she had an issue with you constantly conversing with your ex.
I don’t think it’s fair she didn’t air that concern as it led to ‘fake’ or wasted time…
she used her one out (the school thing) as a front … but still valid.
I dunno… I wouldn’t want my sig other regularly conversing with someone they’ve been intimate with. there’s always going to be some chemistry there….
of course, that also makes it mandatory for me to not date slutty ho’s who’ve bagged half the city.
You are so wise KillBrindi <3
I can see both sides to this, definitely, both her point of view and from the point of view from the person who’s still friends with their ex.
On the one hand it shows that you end relationships on good terms and you’re not an asshole to break up with. That’s always an attractive feature in a significant other.
On the other hand… I might not really want my significant other spending too much time with someone they’ve, you know, seen NAKED and even more than that had an intimate relationship with in the sense of dealing with feelings and all that icky feely crap that comes with being with someone for more than just sex (lol).
I can honestly say that I only still talk to one of my exes, still, and it’s more a case of him trying to get me to get with him, and me telling him to go away andddd then mocking him relentlessly to my friends who know him. The rest….
yeah, I kinda broke their hearts 🙁
It works both ways though, zed — do YOU keep in contact with any of your exes? If not and you ahve that opinion good on ya, if you do then youre a fucking hypocrite 😛
Yeah,
I agree PK, it’s just a weird situation. Bottom line though she was gonna drop my like a bad habit regardless of anything. She’s making an excuse. And that’s cool whatever, even when I was super down in the dumps about it I understood, she wasn’t the type to be tied down. I never said a bad word about her, but now that she’s back in town from school and working with my close friends, I’m starting to realize she’s a self centered bitch. I got half a mind to tell her off..
Please don’t do that. For your own sake.
Why not? I get her a job and she decides to drag my feelings through the dirt behind my back? She should know that I’m upset about what she said, I’m always the one to tell OP’s to grow a pair and handle shit like an adult. Now that I’ve submitted a semi-anonymous bitch I might as well tell her how I feel. I got nothing to lose or gain at this point. If she really wants to be friends she’d want to know. If not then I can tell her that I really don’t need her kind of friendship. I just don’t like to leave things unsaid. This shit is on my chest and I need it off.
Like I said I’m over it, it just made me so mad that that one little sentence could have saved me some grief when I was still getting over it.
I’ve never been the type to let a girl get me bent outta shape but she mind fucked me good. It wasn’t and isn’t cool.
You’re still firends with this bint?
DA HELL Diane.
in this case, I practice what I preach there chat….terbox.