So last year, you and I decided we were going to save money to go out to Calgary for work and to put dents in our student loan debt. Five months ago I met this really great guy and LAST month decided he was worth staying in Halifax for. When I broke the news that I wasn’t going out west with you, you went ballistic! Okay, I know you can’t afford an apartment out there by yourself and had I came we would go splits on the rent, but this was my decision to stay after all. I’m not basing my life decisions around you. I felt dreadful about the short notice I gave you until you started making shitty comments such as he’s probably cheating on me because, quote, “There’s no way a guy with a chiselled abs like that would just stick to fucking only your fat ass!” and “I don’t know how he can even stand all that flab. Yeah there’s no way he’s only fucking you. I never saw such a mismatched couple! He’s either cheating or he’s gonna dump you soon!” And not to mention the hurtful comments that implied I wasn’t complete without a man. Wow, you totally showed your true colours. Umm, looks aren’t the be all and end all, and maybe my “fat ass” has a personality that won over this so-called out-of-my-league man. You should try working on your personality a bit, then you wouldn’t still be single and bitter and jealous. I’m staying here for this guy because I really care about him and I enjoy my time with him not because I’m scared to die alone! I was going to ask him if he wanted to come out with us, but after the deplorable, belittling shots you took at me, it’s not happening. We were friends for almost three years, but now our friendship is gone down the crapper because you’re a fucking bitch. —Fatty In Love
This article appears in Jun 7-13, 2012.
So you broke a commitment because you want to get fucked. You’re talking about her personality? You tanked her financial plans, left her in risk of being homeless if she goes, and put her into a total fucking panic, you undependable twat. No wonder she’s lashing out.
It’s shitty you backed out at the last minute and your friend had every right to be upset over it, but that was just mean and over the top.
At least you found out now how much of a c-unt this chick is before you signed a lease and moved in with her!
How fat, exactly, are you, OB? Just curious. One’s person’s fat is another person’s thin.
I don’t think verbal contracts are binding in NS, Canada….
she had to know making plans so far out leaves a lot of time for plans to change.
has she looked into hostels?
If she wanted to go badly enough, she’d find her own fucking way instead of relying on someone she’s known a few paltry years.
Get fucking real, man. Hotties don’t date notties unless they arrrre cheating or they plan on dumping the nottie eventually for someone in their range. Or if the fatty, or ugly, is rich. Which you aint. Your buddy is dead on and your an idiot in denial! How ya gonna like it when 6 months down the road your not with your hot lover anymore and your friend is making big bucksss out west! Ha!
I believe you are one of those women who will dump their friends in a nano-second for a few inches of dick. Had women like you in my life, punted such friends to the curb many moons ago. No wonder your friend exploded – a little whiff of pecker and you’ve crushed all her plans abrupty while this dude, who has been in your life for SIX WHOLE MONTHS, becomes your primary reason for not leaving. You’re the fucking bitch, OP, not your buddy. I would have taken a weed whacker to you, you thoughtless cow.
Well, TTFN, when you’re fat, you only have SO many chances at love. This chick clearly had to jump on a chance to get some dick.
Who knows when her puffy pussy’d get some beef stick again?
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Hmm.. lots of angles here.
My biggest question is were you really planning to move with your friend? Were you maybe looking for a way out or having second thoughts? Because when I had planned on moving away from this city I actively avoided getting into a relationship for that very reason. I was looking for a way to Montreal or Toronto or somewhere for the last 3 years or so, but then when I lost my job in January I decided I would look into getting an education in NS and then looking to greener pastures.
I starting seeing my current girlfriend and before we got really serious I got a job potential job offer in Montreal. I turned it down but not just because I had started seeing somebody, more due to the reasons mentioned above. I felt like I needed to get out of the cycle of just having another at best half decent job and get some qualifications while I’m still in my 20s. I would never alter my life plans for someone I’ve only been seeing for a month, even if I wanted to, but I’m talking about moving permanently, not just going out there to make some quick money and then coming back. So it’s a little different. I honestly don’t see why you can’t leave for a couple months and come back and still continue to see this guy. If he’s that great and it’s meant to be it’ll be, that’s why I ask if he really is the only reason you decided not to go.
If he really is the only reason you’re staying.. I hope it works out for you, and by the sounds of it your friend IS in fact some sort of bitch. If there was more to your decision than just this new guy you fell for, you should have told her.
She definitely is a stupid bint for saying those things to you. I’d be pissed if I were her too, but to say mean things like that is not helping her cause whatsoever. There might have been some compromise that could have been worked out if she (and possibly you) had been more mature about it. Now it’s not even about the boyfriend anymore, it’s about the fact that she’s an immature, hateful little heffer.
All and all I say bullet dodged, and things happen for a reason. She sounds like a real piece of work.
You should have discussed this with her as soon as you realized things with this guy were “serious” or she should have brought it up or seen this coming and made backup plans. OB she has every right to be pissed you really fucked her over and for some guy who you have only known 6 months. That’s practically married for a highschooler but to a grown up that’s nothing. You will really regret not going money > dick. I suggest you have a serious chat with Romeo about how far he thinks this relationship is going to go and unless he thinks you’re “the one” (in which case he should come with you or wait or whatever?) you should kiss your friends ass and go. Chances are you will find another guy out there anyway who is also making good money, someone serious who might get serious about you and if not at least you can be proud you took a chance and lived a little. Or you could just stay home and get knocked up, that’ll show her!
There’s nothing wrong with a weighty woman (or even a guy). As I’ve said before, as long as someone is healthy and takes care of themselves, it doesn’t matter if they have a little extra ’round the middle. If you’re healthy, you can only get soo big anyways.
Personality trumps looks any day of the week.
Also, good hygiene helps, no one likes a smelly camper.
Aw, Kitty, she could get a fourteen inch Turbo-Twat-Thumper from Venus Envy if she’s that hard up. And she won’t have to make its breakfast in the morning.
She’s trying to hurt you the way you hurt her by giving her “short notice” and ruining her plans. Had you given her more notice and adequate time to come up with a new plan and not feel screwed over, she wouldnt have gone that far. Tit for tat. You were unreasonable and mayhaps she was as well.
TTFN, a fourteen inch Turbo-Twat-Thumper won’t hold you down, smack you around and call you a slut between the sheets!
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Oh, yeah, I forgot about that. They can be quite useful for blowing an ol’ clit-berry.
It won’t? Mine must be defective…
PK likes it rough, eh? 😛
PK, go join a dating website; for you seem rather desperate.
Nahhh, If she was desperate she would have succumbed to my charms long ago.
You shouldn’t make fun of people, Lucyfer, just because her sexual exploits make you blush.
Pk’s NOT desperate…she just hasn’t found the one that deserves her yet. Pickins are slim around here. You seem a little bitter, hence your name, Lucyfer, I guess.
*sigh* oh lucyfer. Perhaps you should get the stick out of your ass and cultivate a sense of humour? 🙂
Or insert said stick into yours, PK. Can you say win win?
I like fattys, they will never cheat on you or leave you…..besides, if they do, who cares! they are a fatty!
Oh fuck off.
The fuck off was for Tommy, not you, GV.
How valid your argument is for ruining your friend’s plans really hinges on how exclusive the relationship with the “great guy” is. Are you exclusive? Making plans? If not, it was a crappy thing, not that that excuses her reaction, but still.
just fucking meow. tell her to see a doctor, dr. suckulous.
and by the way, chick had every right to be pissed. i did almost the same thing here 6 years back. had a great chance to go out west, but turned it down, because of a female.
that non relationship lasted for exactly 2 months after i decided not to go. i could have been making 25 bucks an hour, just for driving a half ton pick up, doing fuck all. they called it tool delivery. you go in morning, check your list, if their is stuff needed at a well, they load you up, you go to well, guys there unload you, you sit back and sleep or read or whatever til your next call comes on radio.
the only thing that was a bitch, were the 12 hour shifts. you either had a lot of sleep, or you read til you fell asleep. i could have made 40 grand in less than 6 months. o.p., i hope she goes, gets a real kick ass job, and laughs at you, when macho man throws you to the curb. i had my chance, you had yours, and we both fucked up here.
if i ever had the chance again, poof, i’m there. just like a magic act, i’d disappear from here in a heartbeat. and rose, is it really like that, you poor girl, the suckster can help you babe.
Besides the last sentence, I think suckers actually has the most valid post here.
Like my ol’ ma says: she’s losing her head over a piece of tail.
Also: trood — come to the summit!!!! Bitches wanna be meeting yo’ sexy ass!
Bet you never thought you’d live to utter those words eh PK?
Meh, I guess the fact that you’re a shitty friend kind of makes it okay (to me) that she called you those names. She was upset and lashed out.. it happens. It wasn’t mature and not the way to handle it, but you just ruined her plans and she was mad.
Yeah, you’re not basing your life plans around her, just around some guy that you’ve known for what, 5 months.
Lol. Good luck, OB.
OK phewf, Naveed, thanks for that post. I needed one more valid than suckers’ 😛
I personally think Tommy has the best post here… his new girlfriend is having a great effect on him 🙂
Regardless of whether or not bailing on her friend so last minute was a shit thing to do (which it was), calling her names like that and hitting so brutally was wrong, childish and very hurtful. You definitely dodged a bullet in the friend department OP. But, make sure you’re not making a life decision based on a guy who you make think you know, but don’t necessarily know all that well. Maybe like Tommy says, you’re just looking for excuses not to go.
I second PK on the Trood comment.
Your friend’s right – dudes with chiseled abs spend a LOT of time defining those abs and they spend a lot of time sharing those abs with the women of the world. I don’t have abs, I think I was born without them, although I’ve watched many documentaries about abs while eating bon bons, so I know what I’m talkin about.
Also you are a shitty, shitty-ass friend. Pee you, you stink! You said, “I’m not basing my life decisions around you!” Well that’s exactly what you did, you made a life decision which included her and then fucked her over at the last minute for a dude you just met. Bitch please, you are totally basing your life decisions on someone else – a random stranger with abs! Can we say desperado?
Hey, I’m not bitter; I just think PK is an over-sharer.
*over-sharer* that’s how she rolls
There’s tons of stuff I don’t share, Lucyfer.
Besides, what’s it to you? If you don’t like my comments, here’s a suggestion: don’t read them. 🙂
Thanks PF!
Yeah I do think OP made a shitty move but like I’ve said before romance and all that stuff is all about taking risks, sometimes you gotta go with your gut and roll the dice. She might get burned but from the sounds of it moving all the way out there with her friend that’s so quick to insult and berate her wasn’t a great idea either. Even if dude disappears tomorrow I still wouldn’t move away with her now.
If I was the friend I’d like to think I’d handle it a little better. I’d be pissed, no doubt, but resorting to personal attacks is just childish. She’s making OP’s decision that much easier.
There are much more effective ways to talk some sense into someone.
And let’s not assume that all good looking people are two timers. Some guys actually prefer heavier girls, and a little personality goes a long way. Ugly people cheat too. All the time.
You’re a shit friend. Shit friends attract shit friends.
3 year friendship < 6 month relationship?
Thanks for the invite PK but my weekends tend to be very busy particularly in the summer. I would like to meet some of the regulars on here absolutely including yourself. I’ll keep an eye out for the summit talk and when a good opportunity comes, I’ll contact you. Again, I appreciate the invite.