Are there any normal men over age 30 using online dating sites? Scammers aside, the only responses that I’ve gotten have been from men with serious (and I mean serious!) personality and lifestyle flaws. Is it too much to ask for someone who a) has a job, b) has enough education that they can spell their own name correctly, c) doesn’t consider alcohol and/or drugs to be essential for basic functioning, and d) bathes on a semi-regular basis? I don’t think I’m too picky! I’m using online dating because I’m in a female-dominated career, and most of the men I know are either married or in serious relationships. Where are you nice, normal, thirty-something men? —Losing Faith in the System
This article appears in Mar 22-28, 2012.
“Where are you nice, normal, thirty-something men?”
They’re married or in serious relationships.
As it’s been said before, the nice guys are in the friendship zone where you left them.
Yes. There are. But maybe you need to re-define what you want and what are dealbreakers. Maybe go out on a date with someone who doesnt look exactly like everyone else you dated. I met my man online, he was so intellectual but not the physical type i normally went for. We went for a beer just to hang (as friends I thought!) and it ended up being a wonderful connection. Thank god I allowed it into my life 🙂
The last place you’re going to find a quality person is online dating. Get out more and make sure you don’t have a look on your face like you disapprove of everything or just smelled a fart, that helps.
WE TALKED ABOUT THIS ON FRIDAY, THOMAS! SOME OF US CAN’T HELP HAVING A SERIOUS FACE, OK?
Cheesus rice.
😉
all those rules you’re imposing…
you’re sucking the life outta the guy before he can even meet ya.
You’re going to have to like them the way they are… they’re old enough now to have figured that much out.,,, even if they can’t quite spell their name by heart.
The answer would be: No.
Go forth, buy an impressive arsenal of sex toys, travel, enjoy your life and don’t give a single gram of fuck as to whether or not you have anyone else in your life.
You will be much better off. And have a shit load more money.
Online dating should only really be used for booty calls. And you dont have to be single to have an impressive arsenal of sex toys.
I’m just sayin PK, a smile goes a long way. I’ve noticed I get a lot more female attention since I started making a little effort to smile. You should try it!
:P:P:P
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I’ll go on a date with you
I’m sure there’s a Baptist church supper somewhere, OP – you’d stand a better chance of getting the type of guy you want than thru the deception of on-line mating. And that’s coming from someone who aims loogies at religion.
Hay Thomas:
http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=yf1QLjXmoHk
😉
Stop looking. It will happen, and if it never does, find a hobby.
http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-Q4V01iFnX9A/TjSD… Real.
Op, the good ones are either married or dead or both.
Maybe you’re not using the right bait. If you’re using worms and sinkers, you’ll catch bottom feeders. Try fly-casting. It involves a little more technique but the results can be amazing. My last fly fishing excursion involved just a couple of casts and a bit of time to land her but I ended up with a keeper.
Find a hobby/activity where you mingle with, or at least meet, like minded people. Sifting through 100’s of online profiles is not dating/meeting new people.
i don’t use them, never had, and never will. theey are the boon of the shyster, con man, and hustler. and i know of one, that is very close to getting his fucking ass kicked.
too many ssmart people are staying away from sites like plenty of crabs, or ebaloney. and the ones that you might find there, mle and female, are sure fire fucking winners, of that i jest.
yeah, you can have your rape sites, and bars, and slithering hook up sites, but i’d rather be alone, than to think of wasting my time joining one. and why bother, we have the bitch board dating site, right?
I disagree that you are not going to find a good guy online. If you are a good person and you are online than what would make you think you are the only Great person to use such a service.
It is all about numbers OP, it takes time and dedication to meet many to find one. Don’t give up.
What PK said.
I remember going out somewhere to meet people. That’s how I met my wife. I guess that’s outdated these days.
I’m 33 and I’ve had zero luck with dating websites. I think it’s because after I exchange email addresses with the person, I immediately send them a picture of my junk. No hello email or communication….just a dick picture with a smiley face emoticon.
Join a homebrewer’s club and learn to brew beer. Demographics on home brewers are pretty yummy, and if you don’t find anyone you’ll still be able to drown your sorrows.
“Are there any normal men over age 30 using online dating sites?” – Ummmm….no.
Who wants “normal” anyway?
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Lol, I only meet 2 of 4 of your prequisites OB. Guess which two.
If you want a man who’s squeeky clean, find a Scoutmaster.
Ugh. my link didn’t work from my damn phone.
THIS, is what I posted for Thomas:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yf1QLjXmoHk
xeno’s onto something…
zilla… must be a panorama shot to get it all in.
HD indeed
So I’m the only one who appreciates pictures of a penis with a smiley face?
Bitches these days. *shakes head*
There are a lot of 30+ guys, myself included, that haven’t embraced online dating. We are old enough to remember a time when online dating wasn’t mainstream and seemed a very odd way to meet someone. Online dating has become more mainstream over the years but it still seems kind of odd …. for us luddites.
I’m of the age (30) that it’s still embarrassing to tell someone you met your partner on the internet when you’re asked how you met.
It just seems sad and desperate.
scoutmaster eh hugo? http://pics.livejournal.com/katzk/pic/0003…
I agree, there is nothing wrong with online dating at all. It is totally mainstream now.
Many of us younger folk don’t mess with online dating either, PK and Raul.
LOL you say that like 30 is old.
I’d have no problem with online dating if it weren’t the desperate and sad that flock to those avenues.
I’d rather die alone than die with a desperate sad loser.
I have to make use of the zoom function of my camera and the enlarge tool in photoshop…. I just made myself sad.
“oh, is he crying?”
“no, dear, he’s happy!”
Here’s the trick Zilla, take a picture of it really up close but then photoshop it to a picture of you standing like 5 feet away from the camera. You’re welcome buddy
that’s what a lot of internet daters do…
I’m with you Donk.
I couldn’t seem to find someone when I was younger..so I gave up.
About 6 months later I was invited to a friends for drinks & burnt meat, there was a girl there I met for the first time. We clicked & ended up married a year later & it lasted for 20 years. When that disintegrated, I said never fucking again…4 months later I met someone , who when I walked into her apartment it looked like she had stolen my entire book collection as well as most of my CD’s !
I was a lot more cautious ( & so was she after her break up) & we became friends & it took about 3 & a half years for us to decide to become a couple & shack up.
Maybe I’ve just lucked out, but for me actually looking for someone has never worked out for more than a few months to a year !
books and music and religion (or lack thereof) that’s the ticket. the clash *straight to hell* waves at bruce^^^
OP – Still waiting for that date.
I used one of those sites once. I thought I was hooking up with one of the Kardashians
http://s3.amazonaws.com/TrekWest5/S04.Pete…
It was uncomfortable
lower your standards on appearance. That’s where they’re hiding. The nicest guys i’ve ever dated have been ugly as shit. Ugly turns me on.
I am here 🙂 Well, for another two days, anyway.
Was that directed at eats_crayons, jonno?
Because, ahahaha if it was.
Also: lolz, eats_crayons. You’re awesome.
Honey, it that’s your criteria, who’d want you?!
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I thought I was hooking up with one of the Kardashians
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Robert?
Zing, sir!
You have been zinged!
Hey OP, the dating sites are like a bar: most of the people in there are skeezy and not up to the standards of you and I.
But sometimes someone comes in there who is awesome.
That’s what happened to me. My gf and I met in the fall. Great relationship that we both have no idea where the hell it came from. But we see the awesomesauce we make together and don’t question it.
And yes, sometimes you have to “lower your standards”, looks-wise. I’m not exactly ugly, but I am nothing like what you imagine as your Man Of Your Dreams when you close your eyes. I think I’m a good bf though. I think I try and give a shit, and so far, very good.
Good luck. Try not to become bitter. The One will be scared off.
Wp
I take my zings with grace, my good man.