If you are over say 40 and are looking at the 20 somethings as fair game, think again. There is NOTHING that you have in common with them. Old men (myself included) short not try to form friendships wity young women with the idea of dating in mind- it is delusional at best. Sure they are pretty and fun….but YOU are old enough to be thier Dad. Get over it, get over yourself and date some your own age.
—the truth shall set you free
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Maybe I’m a snob but I don’t want to date anyone that thinks “should” is spelled “short.”
Sucks to be you but I don’t mind a 20 something year old piece of pussy now and then.
What if you’re a good looking 40-something year old with lots of money and enjoy having a naive, little 20-something ride your hips like a saddle? I probably will when I’m in my kay-ages.
He also seems to have problems with the word “with” TTFN. Misspelled it twice.
I find the idea of older men dating younger women a little creep, but then again, I’ve seen it work out on severall occaisions, including my own parents.
And if this practice didn’t exist, where would that leave the gold digging industry?
Hell, if you’re in your 40s and can actually find a 20-something willing to date you, I say more power to you. There are plenty of mature guys and girls in their 20s, and also plenty of young-at-heart 40-somethings. If people want to date each other and they’re consenting adults, who the fuck cares how old they are? OP, you need to mind your own business (and take an English class).
Why bother trying to attract & date a young 20’s girl…when you can rent them by the hour, or for the night .
After all your going to end up spending money on her one way or another, my way guarantees your getting laid , & /or whatever arrangement consenting adults have made 😉
meOw: I get the feeling that the OP had his heart broken by some young twinkie, and is now selflessly trying to warn the rest of us of the dangers of dating young women.
I think when you’re talking a 20 year old age difference it’s not dating, just getting a piece of ass…and honestly, at 35, the 20 year olds never looked firmer!
Just look how happy Celine Dion is.
Either that or his friends are dating 20-somethings and he’s not getting laid. I often find that those who judge the personal relationships of others don’t have fulfilling ones of their own.
Perhaps this thought just spontaneously popped into his head?
You know what’s really hot? People who can SPELL. Get a grip, old man. You’re embarrassing.
Everyone will say this is creepy territory because like a cliche that’s how it usually goes down, but if two people can make it work, who am I to throw down at them? Even if it’s just a sexual tryst, if both parties are honest and leave on better terms than how they came in, then great. The OP would be better off admitting their jealously than standing on the faux moral high ground.
I was a trophy wife in my 20s – yes, married to a guy in his 40s who, yep, had lots of cash and flash. Biggest mistake of my life. Only consulation – he’s taking a dirt nap and I’m not. OP is spot on.
Didcha at least get a good settlement, TTFN? 😀
TTFN, you never miss cracking me the fuck up, ” dirt nap “, classic, thanks for the giggles.
Nope, the son of bitch went bankrupt and left my $25 grand in debt so I went bankrupt as well. He ended up recouping hs fortune within two years, married a ubertwat redhead who nagged him to fucking death in a million dollar mansion. Now that’s what I call karma. You just have to live long enough to see it happen.
As long as you’re not 49 (my dad’s actual age) I have no problem with being your naive 20-something date.
Met my wife (soul mate) @ 32. Now I’m 44. She’s 3 years older than me. Couldn’t be happier. No complaints.
She’s a rare find. Also, which was unique, our birthdays are only one day apart. And Honey, if you are reading this…I Love You, Poopyhead!
Love Sninkypants.
OH, whatever, OP. You don’t have to have anything in common with someone to have a relationship with them. They might not be what you deem proper and successful relationships, but they are relationships nonetheless, and if it works for the pair in question then what fucking business is it of yours?
You think age gaps are bad? I knew four people in college who were in what they called a ‘collective relationship’. Two girls and two guys. They all lived together, slept together, etc. They were all each others’ boyfriends/girlfriends. Not just the guys and girls, but the girls and girls, and the guys and guys. It was fucking weird and didn’t last very long, but they all got something out of it and left the relationship with fond memories. So who am I to say that my fourteen year monogamous hetero relationship is any better than what they had? It’s not, this works for me, that works for them, end of story.
I often wonder how someone with a limited education manages to submit a bitch in the first place…
I say let’s go back to the hippie days of free love, mountains of pot and no worries. You just fuck whomever you happen to be with, regardless of age and you do not get hung up on it..hey..a man can dream can’t he? But in seriousness, I married a woman 12 years my junior and I have alot more in common with her than women my age.
I was once married to someone 9 days younger than me. By OP’s logic, I shouldn’t be divorced, but that’s the way the world works. If both parties are happy, fuck age.
Age is only a number!!!…there’s old twenty something’s, and young 40 something’s…every case is individual..I have dated 2 men in the last year..one is 42 and one is 21 and I’m in my late 20’s…I enjoy hanging out with both of them for different reasons…and I’m still really good friends with them. If you find someone who wants what you want, who likes what you like, and who makes you laugh, then who cares what “society” thinks is the norm. People need to stop classifying an entire generation based on a few people.
Hey, if you’re a young woman and want to look at a saggy bag and grey chest hair, good luck with that. Just remember that there will come a day when you will have to make a little cart for his scrotum or carry it yourself.
I call bullshit on this. It was not written by an older man, but by a 20-something girl who thinks all men want her.
Now, just where *did* Dino go, anyway?
Anyway, if a 20 year old girls wants to give me a blowjob thinking she’ll get diamonds out of me, who am I to destroy her illusions?
Ustwess that was quite the assumption without any real scientific proof. I know plenty of people in their 40s who are either still having children or having their first child ever.
Trust me, a 40 year old man will bend you over and pound you better than your little toy boyfriend would. And yes, mature people pack more venom than you young ones nowadays.
But, I bet in your mind that you can show a 40 year old some bedroom tricks. You know, stuff they’ve probably known for 20 years already.
I’ll further TTFN’s post by saying that while it *is* all find and dandy now, when you’re in your 40s/50s and he’s in his 70s/80s and perhaps he’s had some medical problems…and now you’re stuck spending your pre retirement years changing his diaper and spoon feeding him baby food.
This *is* a bit extreme, but when it comes to the aging process there are some disconnects in some life stages. My parents are a perfect example of this — mom’s in her mid 50s and dad’s in his mid 60s. Next year he’ll be getting his old age pension while mom’s got another 12 years or so of working time….and health wise there’s a disconnect there as well. And there’s only a 10 year gap there!
I wouldn’t discount dating someone because of age, but, you do have to consider some of the realities of the situation.
True Love knows no practicalities!
If I had to do it again, I would have run in the other direction faster than a horny hummingbird. PK nailed it – it’s fine and well for now but in 20 years it ain’t going to be so pretty when the old boy considers a good shit as good as it gets.
so i’m 26, and i met this great guy– who turned out to be 40. ( he had told me he was younger) the 14 year age difference wasn’t so much my problem, it was the lack of truth -thats beside the point- — i have no problem with an age difference as long as the people are happy. i would sooner date a nice 40 year old than someone my age who is actually an asshat. and why do people assume there is gold digging? in some cases there is no gold to be dug.
You’re young, kid – when you hit your 50s, it becomes a lot clearer – most men who chase after much younger chickies are immature to begin with. There are exceptions, mind you, but they are very rare from my own personal experience. And money is usually involved. It’s one thing being broke with an old man and quite another to know his demise could create a very comfortable nest egg.
like someone said,if you can get it,go for it.being over 40 myself,i wouldn’t mind a young honey.maybe she could even keep up.seems the younger girls find maturity in older males,something the younger guys don’t have these days.all they wanna do is fucking play there nintendo games.real men make up their games as they go along,get the drift girls,i know you do.young guys are just sore losers to the older guys taking from THEIR HERD.wake the hell up,this is 2009,not 1910.
Charlie Chaplin married a young lady many decades younger than him and had a happy and fruitful marriage. He was also loaded ( in several ways) with a nice villa in Switzerland. He made millions laugh, and the millions laughing made him millions.
All of which is of no consequence because we all know that women lie about their age.