I went out with some friends to a pub we love. You took a liking to one of my friends, which is great!!! You had a friend that looked a lot like you in some ways, so the other 2 of us asked “are you guys twins?” You roll your eyes and get pissy. You assumed we were asking because you are both black and started asking if we we were twins. Seeing how one of us is porcelain white with long blonde hair and the other with russet skin and pitch black hair we found this ridiculous. You started ignoring us. Even the friend you fancied, you would not look her way if we were there even passing her a drink to the side to avoid eye contact with us. As this bothered me, I confronted you telling you that you were being very childish. You asked how, so I tell you.
You’re ignoring us because we offended you. You think we were being racist for commenting on your guys’ similarities. My mistake, I didn’t mean to bruise your huge ego. You tell me you guys are in your 30’s and since kindergarten you have been getting asked that because you’re black and have braids. Give me a fucking break. If that question has been being asked for almost 30 years you should be used to it and laugh it off. Not blame it on racism and making it seem like we said all black people look alike. But no, you went the childish route by saying “you guys are white you must be twins” I had news for him. “No, actually, my mother is native and my father is black you asshole. So you can stop playing this stupid little race game.” You proceed to argue with me that there’s no way I am mixed race because I “act too white” wtf!!!!! And I’m the racist one?!?!?
I believe we hurt your ego some but someone needed to take you down a few notches because you weren’t as great as you think you are. I had to break it down for you like a child and tell you. Looking alike and having similarities are not the same. That I do in fact have a twin but we do not look alike just have some similarities. I’m sorry you haven’t been able to get over that question being asked for as many years as it has. You should take it as a compliment for he was a better looking guy than you were. It didn’t help that you guys had the same jeans and coat on. It almost looked like you were asking for that question to be asked. Get over yourself. We are not racist, you’re self righteous. Fuckhead. —Go Fuck Yourself
This article appears in Apr 5-11, 2012.
“russet skin” – Great description ♥
WTF? This rant is not back-and-white to me. First paragraph seems to be about you asking whether the two friends were twins …….. second stanza is about the other party thinking your friend is your twin …….. thirdly, we discover you do have a twin ………..
Any wonder the person was confused and ignored you.
holy shit … they must have been pretty skinny to be wearing the same pair of jeans and the same coat!
no this makes sense to me…
like he was just being a dick and asking them the same question to be an ass. in the first paragraph it even says that he asked if the friends were twins
to me it sounds like there was no confusion.
this is obviously about race i don’t see any confusion in that
Duuuuuuuuuuuuudez!
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You could have asked immediately if you offended the guy and politely apologized. It sounds like you guys were out having fun and it would have helped smooth things over for the whole group. Only knowing your side of the story it doesn’t sound like something to get bent out of shape over.
Instead, you let it bother you, get some drinks in, and you confront the guy. No wonder the dude got defensive. Was it really your place to take the guy down a “few notches”?
We only know your side of the story, but, reading between the lines it sounds like this guy had 10 lbs of crazy in a 5lb bag giving him the gears.
Did everybody have a good time?
i don’t know things like this have happened
i’m on their side. if the questions been being asked for that long it shouldn’t bother them. and the fact that he says they can’t be a mixed race because they act too white….
he sounds like he was all about making it racist
You sound really insensitive op. If the person you’re talking to mistook it as a race issue (when you didn’t mean it), they’re doing so perhaps because they’ve encountered it before and that hurts. Doesn’t matter if it’s 30 years on or not. Show some damn compassion. The only person coming off self righteous here is you wanting to knock the person down a few pegs. Raoul Duke is right.
i dont know, what if he was a really arrogant person?
maybe he did deserve it
maybe this is just the basics of what happened
Did you write this bitch?
if i wrote it i would admit it.
i would have approached him in a more tactful way than that. there was definitly a better way to go about it but it happened. i see faults on both sides of this.
i’ve been in situations similar to this.
but i can see ops side.
and just the fact that he said op acts to white.. just hearing that really bothers me.
it’s been said to me.
how does one act as a whole race. saying that you are perpetuating stereotypes of given races. and to me it just sounds very racist when it is said
Attitudes like that only help to perpetuate racism.
Oops, sorry Alex. Hadn’t realized you had already said that, didn’t mean to steal ya thunder.
It’s pretty much my go-to line when prejudice issues come up in a conversation.
The only one I know that acts… and she’s too white.
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obviously the OP didn’t approach this in a very good way. I’ll say that. but i”ll also say in my opinion this guy is an ass. I met a guy like this once he was ranting saying he hates it when people say “all black people look alike” than continued to say all white people are the same. your being a hypocrite plain and simple. and by the sounds of this bitch there is some hypocrisy to this guy.
Treat em mean, keep em keen comes to mind and you fell for it.
You mean I was acting white my entire life?! Here I thought I was acting human.
Seriously? I ask if you guys are twins so that means I’m racist and think all black people look alike? Fuck that. I’m with you OP. Then to go on and try and tell you what race you are.. wow. Talk about ignorant and over sensitive. It’d be one thing if anything remotely racist was said.
…and that’s coming from a white black man.
i’m a good bad guy, not a bad good guy
Tommy is Mexican….as you can tell from his picture.
By the sounds of this the guy who played the race card sounded like an idiot. The op probably could have handled this better. Both are at fault in the end of it.
The race card gets played way too much now. I don’t care what color your skin is. At the end of the day when it is all said and done we are human.
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OHHHHHHH, SNAP!!!!
Who the fuck cares about your stupid problems? All the shit to complain about, and you pick this?
mindless drama
I’m half-Black! Instead of saying, “Whattup y’all,” I just say “Whattup.”
there are thin skinned assholes, no matter the color. and if they get offended that easy, then i would hate to them go to an all white country and pull that shit. there are those that hate you because of color, race, religious background, take your pick. and no one, will ever fucking move an inch ahead, if they keep up this fucking foolishness. but wait now, i guess i’m being a bigot or some stupid shit, for pointing this out to all, not just black, pink, yellow, orange, or a loverly martain green peoples. fuck, some of you make me wanna go fucking banonkers on your asses.
So you joke that the two guys are twins, one of them takes it as a racist remark and fires back the same question to you, hoping you’ll take it as a racist remark but, in fact, you are a twin just not with the lady you’re with. So you confront the man and tell him that you’re not the race he thought you were. In fact, aside from being one half of a set, you’re also biracial. He further remarks that you act like someone of the race he thought you were which you take as racist and it pretty much went downhill from there.
Sounds like a fun night.
but it wasn’t a statement they could twist into thinking it racist. he said they’re not the race they are because they “act white”
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they black.
’nuff said.
gaw overreaction much? It’s not like they were asian…
hatcha!