I honestly don’t know what you see when you look at yourself in the mirror. You wonder why you’re still single at 33, and when I told you that your standards are too high, you scoffed at me. I see what men you pursue and which ones you rejected. You used to be modest, but then you got a Uni degree and your standards went through the ceiling. Shortly after that, you adopted a couple of animals from a shelter and then the standards popped through the roof (likely you felt entitled to a dream guy after these two good deeds). Don’t get me wrong, adopting a few pets who were in dire need of a home is wonderful, but you became more arrogant and conceited. You have the mentality of “I’m so awesome, I have a career, an education, I adopted homeless pets instead of buying them from the pet store, so I deserve this gorgeous dream man with a high salary! I don’t have competition, other single girls aren’t up on my level!” (That last sentence, you actually said!!)
When you complained about the guys you messaged online not responding, and only getting messages from ‘unattractive’ or ‘unsuccessful’ ones, I asked to view the site through your account. Every single guy you wrote made at least 80K, working as doctors, accountants, etc. AND were hot. In comparison, you make barely more than 30K at your admin assistant job, have average looks, and can’t afford a car. Then I looked at your competition to see these other single women who weren’t ‘up on your level’. Hate to break it to you, but I found plenty of beautiful and/or successful (more so than you) on the same site. When I brought this to your attention, you still scoffed and claimed that those women were bimbos or bitches because they wouldn’t still be single if they weren’t. WELL, honey, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out why all the guys you pursue keep turning you down…
You have a huge, unwarranted ego and self reflection is a must for you. Or keep thinking your shit don’t stink and die alone. —You need to be knocked down a couple of pegs
This article appears in Jul 11-17, 2013.
‘…..gorgeous dream man with a high salary…’
Hahahahahaha – what the fuck is this? A plot for a cheesy Harlequin romance?
Expectations are planned disappointments.
Aren’t all the bitches like that?… which would make you a little hypocritical OB.
fool
OP, your friend is not alone in her attitude and it’s not limited to he gender, either. Everyone wants mr./mrs. perfect but fail to realize that there’s no such thing and even if there was, that would probably be annoying as fuck. Everybody has flaws and relationshits take work.
Maybe that’s what this lady is looking for! A rocket scientist. That or a brain surgeon.
on line dating is the modern equivelant of singles bars in the 1970 s .your friend is a poor catch no matter where they throw out thei r net .
also ; who needs to be pegged ?
( hint ; shes been away since last week )
LOOKING IN THE MIRROR, OR: TO SEE OURSELVES AS OTHERS SEE US
“I honestly don’t know what you see when you look in the mirror.”(You need to be knocked down a couple of pegs)
This is an interesting theoretical question. What DOES one see when one looks in the mirror? The concept of the mirror itself is paradoxical. On the one hand, it is you who is looking in the mirror. You are seeing yourself but through your own conceptual framework. What you see is necessarily fused with your own subjectivity. What you see, in other words, is what you get.
On the other hand, the mirror is itself not part of your subjectivity. It is part of extra-mental reality. Your image, so to speak, is “out there.” To reverse the usual equation, what you get is what you see. The question, of course, is whether the paradox can be resolved. When one looks in the mirror is what one sees the “real” you or is it some thing else? In other words, when one looks in the mirror can we see ourselves as others see us? This is a difficult question.
To see ourselves as others see us presupposes that one can adopt their conceptual framework since, of course, that is what is meant by the expression, “To see ourselves as others see us.” But how can one do this? Can one assume a position of another’s perspective in respect to one’s own image? One of course is not using the term “see” in a strictly visual sense but rather in an extended sense, one involving the act of perception. When the other perceives you, in other words, he perceives you as being you and not someone else. But what is entailed in the act of perception?
Many philosophers claim that how one defines “perception” is crucial to one’s tacit general philosophical position because it involves one’s relation to extra-mental reality itself. How does one grasp that reality? Is one’s perception of it necessarily infused with one’s subjectivity, one’s unique conceptual framework?
Most philosophers would maintain that there is no such thing as “the view from nowhere,” some sort of pristine interface between oneself and reality. One necessarily brings one’s conceptual framework to the act of perception. One necessarily sees everything “under an aspect,” as being under a concept which renders that particular thing a thing of a particular sort. In other words, the act of perception properly understood renders reality comprehensible. But does this then mean that reality as such is necessarily beyond our comprehension?
If this is to be understood in some absolute sense – that we unerringly perceive reality as it really is – then there appear to be grounds in support but, at the same time, this does not mean that there is a complete disconnect between reality and our perception of it, that we are condemned to a thorough-going solipsism. A philosophical realist, for example, would say that there is indeed an extra-mental reality, that we do not simply “construct” it “ex nihilo” (“out of nothing”) but rather that there is no supervening perspective in terms of which reality on the one hand and our perception of it can be impartially adjudicated.
So, what do you see when you look in the mirror? You see extra-mental reality suffused with your personal conceptual framework. Therefore the poster’s claim, “I honestly don’t know what you see when you look in the mirror” is correct since she has no unimpeded access to the conceptual framework of the one who is looking in the mirror but, and this is important, would she be able to defend her claim philosophically? One wonders.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Hey if snooki can get someone to bang her…
there may just be hope yet.
With any luck, she may just go blind and finally find the decency in people rather than being judge judy on a bender.
what’s the purpose of writing this bitch? what do you think will result? your friend will change? have a light bulb moment? or did you just want to trash her ‘in public’?
it’s no skin off your nose if she is lousy at snagging a date/mate is it? this is truly a ‘victimless crime’ , so MYOB.
This is one of the few bitches of this type that I feel is probably legitimate and not driven by your own jealousy or insecurity.
Why exactly do you continue to remain friends with this deluded egomaniac? Just tell her she’s getting too old to play this game and women 10 years younger have the same credentials she does. That might shape her up a bit. Throw her fucking age in her face.
Then seriously. Walk away. You don’t need this.
Maybe she has low self-esteem and feels she isn’t worthy of a doctor or a lawyer or a hot guy or…
It’s OBVIOUS she has low self esteem. If she just got her degree at this age and thinks she’s that much better off it means she struggled hugely before and feels like she’s entitled to some pride and increased position in life. That’s pretty clear.
That’s also pretty fair. She has every right to be proud of her accomplishments and to feel more secure about the future. This has clearly gone so far beyond that it’s ridiculous. Which implies to me that she KNOWS she is competing with people far younger than she is (and likely with more experience) and doesn’t want to admit that she’s late to the game. So she’s pretending her prospects are better than they are. Otherwise she’ll have to admit that her mistake of starting so late cost her dearly.
The ironic thing is, she’ll do much better if she just chills the fuck out and will catch up a lot faster.
Women don’t know what they want, they need to be told what they want.
Well if she keeps up, she’ll catch the attention of “The User”. Sure, he makes a lot of money and looks good, but he damn well knows it. He knows how his looks and bank account can be used to take advantage of others and he doesn’t give a shit. Just remind your homely friend that it wont help her situation any if she gets taken advantage of. Even at age 33, I don’t think she knows what she wants and who the real her is and you need to help her figure that out.
RSVP
: FuckingChrist (07/16, 6:55PM)
“Even at age 33, I don’t think she knows what she wants and who the real her is and you need to help her figure that out.”
: “When one looks in the mirror is what one sees the ‘real’ you or it is somebody else?” (Montrealman, 07/16, 11:07AM)
An excellent point FC. Perhaps my reflections might help you to help the poster help the Oblivious Chick to figure out who the real her is.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
“What’s the purpose of writing this bitch?”
Uh. I don’t know, to vent? Isn’t that the point of this board?
Where did my sponge bob meme go? Are there new rules I wasn’t made privey to? I like memes.
me too, i saw it and then it was gone. whassup mod
Yay. Just yay.
I love ity when girls talk about unrealistic girls. It gives me less grief when I’m rejected (as she may have been unrealistic), and reminds me that there are so many good ones’ that are in so many ways real.
One big like for OP from me. Maybe I’ll throw a good head to toe picture of me in reasonable clothes (girls never put me down for my looks) even though I detest internet dating, at least the the real girls can reject me for REAL reasons.
yay.
Wowzers, you sound miserable. Your friend sounds cooler than you. Methinks thou doth be jelly.