I can’t get over the picky men around here who overestimate themselves. I have lived in larger Canadian cities and I have to say, without a doubt, I’ve had more trouble getting a date let alone a boyfriend in Halifax than any of those other cities. This has nothing to do with other cities having a larger population base, having more to choose from–there are plenty of single men around here. For every one rejection I got living in another place, I’ve had about 3 more here. And most of them seemed to be because of my looks. Trying a couple online dating sites in my lifetime, I noticed ALOT of the guys here ask me for more pics of myself, after I’d already given them 5+!
Yeah I know people reading this will think it’s because I’m aiming too high. But just to clear it up right now– I’ve gone out with guys in Calgary who were a hell of a lot hotter than these Haligonian guys who rejected me, so it can’t be me.
Something in the water around here? I’m an attractive, intelligent, friendly, caring woman with a great career but don’t live up to the standards of some of these average-looking, broke guys in these parts. I don’t get it–you’d think the pickiness would be more modest in NS because there IS less to choose from! —No Guy Here For Me
This article appears in Jan 31 – Feb 6, 2013.


You flip all the genders in this bitch around, and you’ve got The Captains life story.
Also…
Bitches be crazy
it seems to be the norm lately. I blame TV – too many sitcoms where the ugly geeky fat guy has a hot wife/girlfriend.
But then again, what doesn’t TV get the blame for?
Captain. I get the impression that you’re the type of guy who has lots of ladies around him, but he doesn’t notice.
I know plenty of guys like this. Ladies hit on them all the time and they’re oblivious!
Because, I can’t for the life of me, figure out WHY you can’t get a lady! You’re smart, you have a job, you’re well spoken and you’re a hottie. Frig sakes, ladies! Jump on this man!
SHOW US YOUR TITS!
Considering the number of ex-pat Nova Scotians working and living in Alberta as of late, I’d say there is a better-than-average chance that one or two of these allegedly “hell of a lot hotter” guys you went out with in Calgary were probably Bluenosers by origin.
Also, the whole perception of what’s considered “hot” is extremely subjective. What you consider to be hot may not be what somebody else considers to be hot. For example, you mentioned dating men from Calgary. Maybe you find the whole pick-up-truck-drivin’-cowboy-hat-shiny-belt-buckle-wearing-done-roped-me-a-steer persona hot. Whatever. To each their own.
Likewise, maybe “shallow NS men” aren’t particularily turned on by a lady with rugged K.D. Lang-esque looks or someone who looks like they just walked off the set of Heartland.
Keep an open mind.
Good luck
Bwahahahahahahahahaha – Good one PK, always with the funny jokes.
“…the type of guy who has lots of ladies around him…” – That’s precious.
I appreciate the support, PK, honestly. My close friends and I are just as flabbergasted. And that does sound arrogant, but not at this point in the game (nigh on 4 years of almost entirely single living). I’ve tried everything and nothing, to no effect.
Maybe I AM all those good things, but awkward as well, which ruins the whole experience. Social skills, it seems, are a higher priority than good morals or intelligence and success. If people aren’t interested right away, the chances of any lasting connection being formed are greatly depleted. No one wants to invest their time. And why should they? They’re certainly not obligated to.
“I’m all full up wit luv, but wit no one for which ta receive it.”
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Have you tried putting a paper bag over yer head ?
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Hey Captain, PK is all of those great things too… I believe she’s also single. Maybe you two should meet up at Starbucks for a latte 😉
Try not being an uppity bitch, that calls all guys “average looking and broke”.
OB, if there is less to choose from, you weren’t picked, take a look in the mirror. Maybe you lied on your profile. Let me guess, five pics and none are full body shots? Captain; You may have my sister, also, bitches is crazy, you right.
PurpleFire – Pk is the one encouraging the girls to go for me tho, I’m assuming there’s a reasons for this.
And you love your Starbucks, dontcha? I’m afraid I didn’t follow your previous advice to the letter. I chose the PaperChase over Starbucks… so far nothing on the radar tho.
Sonic Love – If your sister is nothing at all like you, then I’m game! Nothing personal, I hope you understand, I just feel girls similar to you wouldn’t be my… ‘type’
exactly no great shakes or loss around here, except 4 gary, and he’s taken.
Rest assured Captain, I am one of a kind. I will make the preparations immediately and if it doesn’t work out, I will blame her.
Well done. I’m glad you’ve got my back, Sonic!
Hey, I’m not gonna lie: I have a bit of a captain-crush. 😉
Word to the wise…get off the dating sites and meet men the natural way. You’re only gonna find men on POF that are after one thing, or are complete douche bags.Besides,there’s nothing like seeing someone from across a crowded room and feeling that connection as you lock eyes. You’re missing so many opportunities.Shut off your computer and get out and mingle..Wait..do people still use that word? God I’m old…
I’m not gonna lie, so does my sister. She just doesn’t know it yet.
I can totally level with where you’re coming from. I’ve got a crush on The Captain too!
J/K
SHOW US YOUR FLAPS!
http://users.telenet.be/dkaviation/B747_fl…
“”Word to the wise…get off the dating sites and meet men the natural way.”‘
And what would THAT be, DJgirl? At a bar where everyone’s is drinking? There IS no real natural way, now that Jesus has left our lives, there’s no more church picnics, and we have abandoned the shotgun wedding.
Maybe if Halifax had more puppet shows, people could meet each other at them. But it’s not a puppet-friendly city (at all!)…
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exactly no great shakes or loss around here, except 4 gary, and he’s taken.
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Often, from behind.
(shudders)
PisP
hell, i have a crush on the captain! who wouldn’t? i was wondering why you were involuntarily single there duder, until you mentioned the social shyness. that’ll do it for sure. it’s difficult for many people to see past that. but one would think internet pre-meeting should work around that…..maybe wait longer before meeting in person?
re OP….the good guys are out there. just, being near so much water here, you have to wade thru more frogs (haha). from what i have heard from women who have found very nice guys online out here, there seems to be a distinct division. really nice guys, and assholes. not a lot of grey. guys from cape breton seem to be good family men.
and re ‘the natural way’. bars? uck. but you could let your friends/coworkers know you would be interested in meeting some guys. and then be well mannered to them.
Thanks, Good Dog. Ya knows I luvs ya! If I was 25 years older, I’d take a pass at you 😉
As much as I talk-talk-talk on here and annoy the shit outta some people, I’m usually pretty quiet in person. I prefer to listen instead of speak.
heh heh, if you are still single in 10 years cap, i really will adopt ya so i can have sometime to shovel that damn driveway.
I think you’re a gem, Captain, just the type of guy I’d like my 22 year old daughter to date.
Nice set of elevators Ivan! Rowwrrr Rowwrrr! 😉
Love in exchange for manual labor?….. It’s a deal, Good Dog
Thanks, TTFN! You guys are all full of compliments and good things today.
well, i dunno about the love business there dude, but i will feed you til you squeak for mercy. i have a roasting pan full of chicken n rice in the oven, plus two mac n cheese casseroles.
my social phobia manifests itself in an avoidance of humans unless i can stuff them with food. i may have been a jewish baba in past life.
I love those who feed me, Good Dog, so there’s no avoiding it! And I can EAT, no doubts there. I’m of the mind that you’d have a hard time fillin’ me up.
Is it just me or can anyone else hear Barry White playing softly in the distance?
Captain my Captain – if I can impart a small piece of advice that you may or may not have already heard: The minute you stop looking is the the minute you will find that person who is digging on you as much as you are digging on them.
I know, I know, it sounds totally cliche and there are no guarantees but, I’m speaking from personal experience. Stop actively searching, (sounds totally counter intuitive, I know) To put it into nautical terms, switch your sonar from active, (One ping, one ping only please, Mr. Vasily), to passive detection, you’ll probably find greater success.
Aye, Avast.
Message received and understood. The Captain’s had that advice imparted upon him once before, but honestly never took it seriously. Perhaps I was too skeptical?
ditto avast’s advice, i have seen it happen too often for it to be coincidence.
i can spout off with a long winded gdm type theory about why that is so, but suffice to say it’s feast or famine. when you are looking, its a famine. once you get someone, others are dropping out of trees at ya.
Three words: secret Internet fatty
I’ve found the same thing with girls around here too OP, pretty reserved, shy, socially awkward, in a lot of cases just stuck up, or super picky. In other places I’ve been (USA, Europe) I notice a big difference. Girls are a lot more approachable and even approach you, or at least smile or give you some kind of indication that they’re not going to mase you if you try to talk to them.
I’m not sure what the reason for this is. People say Halifax is cliquey, people are a lot less likely to give the time of day to a stranger and want to be introduced to someone via a friend. Maybe there’s some truth to that. I don’t know. I just find an overall air of pessimism in this town, especially when it comes to the mating game.
“I’m an attractive, intelligent, friendly, caring woman with a great career but don’t live up to the standards of some of these average-looking, broke guys” … yeah, we’re the shallow ones who over estimate themselves.
I agree, there’s definitely something in the water. Seems to be lots of entitled men around here who are 5s at best who think they deserve women who are 8s, 9s, 10s…and said men also lack in ambition and personality. Sure, there are women like this, but I’ve seen far more men who are guilty in this town.
If a guy thinks a woman is trying to be someone she’s not,she’s a fraud. Or,If she’s 100% honest(doesn’t spill everything on the first date),if she has any flaws.she’s considered something else…
As a woman who has been on 1 or 2 dates since my marriage fell apart,I don’t get it.Then HEAVEN FORBID a woman has a years worth of crap and stress finally break her,she’s considered a fraud because she’s a different person because of the stress.
Then there are those who tell a woman she can trust them,those guy’s who tell her they understand, and she can lean on them if/when she needs help?
Hypothetically,A guy goes to a strip club,falls in love with a stripper/prostitute.Then a year latter he’s dumbfounded,surprised and crushed after he catches her fucking around on him.He then calls her a fucking slut.
*I mean no disrespect or judgements towards anyone who does that for a living.*
Those men just don’t live around here,they reside in every city.I’m sure there must be good men out there somewhere,even in Halifax.
Avast is absolutely right, Cap, I found Hub Unit two months after I swore off all relationships – 30 years and holdin’!
Dear McGuinty: SHOW US YOUR WEE LITTLE WRINKLY TROLL NUTSACK – A JPG OR TIFF WILL DO, YA CRUSTY DEMENTED OLD FART! (I double-dog dare ya.)
Wow! That felt great. Stress of the day rollin’ off my back like a 2L bottle of Mountain Dew.
Don’t be hatin on the uggies dating the hotties, I’m a 3 married to an 8. It must be my positive disposition, cause I highly doubt it’s my tiny penis.
It may be your tiny penis.
could be that a lot of men in Halifax are insecure and think you’re out of their league. you could be reading them all wrong, OB.
men suck everywhere, don’t take it personally lol 😛
Donk’s “advice” corner:
Get a hobby. That’s really my answer to everything … find something you utterly love and get involved with others who enjoy it. Life will just be better in general, and maybe love will mosey on by.
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“girls in this town are reserved”
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TTFN, I heart you 🙂
…and Captain, I’ve never laid eyes on you, but your personality is bangin’ 🙂
^^ donk..awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
Op, halifax is second to like montreal for beautiful women.
No offense but this city is steep competition. Also as the Can Francisco that halifax is, a lot of guys might just be into dudes.
also op.. and i want to say this as gently as possible. You moved to a university town. Most of the women you’re competing with are, like, 18.
Just saying. Your veiled insult of “there IS less to choose from” is petty. People here are gorgeous. and lots are ALSO smart and have excellent prospects. Just so you’re better aware of your playing field my dear.
People running around with bar graph checklists assessing who’s a 83% next to an 87% are missing the beautiful thing about life. Surprises, and un planned experiences. Too many people see their mate as a status symbol similar to their cars. Don’t go out with someone if you’re not attracted to them but too many preconceived notions will ruin eye to eye relationships before it even “starts”.
Oh pulease!! Us NS men fucking rock and you know it. Most of the women in this burg would be lucky to have any guy. Fuck right off, smelly cunt.
A couple months ago I was in a pub in downtown Dart..After talking to be a little,this nice looking guy asked me out,I said no.Last Friday evening same place,same nice looking guy.We’re both sitting at the bar,I over heard the scum tell his wife(months before,he told me he was divorced)how much he loves her…He noticed me laughing and ended his conversation with his little woman.
You can’t trust a man to tell you the truth about being married or not.Whether it’s in person(chance meeting) at a pub or an on-line dating sites.
Not all NS guys are like that. you just gotta give it more time for that decent guy to come by!
Well if you can suck cock, then I’m all yours.
senior you are a vulgar excuse for a man. period.
Well, isn’t that just a classic case of the pot calling the kettle african-aluminum.
Continuing the trend, I also admit to having a crush on the Captain (in a completely non-homosexual way). He’s just so dreamy! *sigh*
Myself,I’m into younger men who wear fedora’s. They are soooo sweet.
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You can’t trust a man to tell you the truth about being married or not.Whether it’s in person(chance meeting) at a pub or an on-line dating sites.
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You have been on (self admittedly) 1 or 2 dates since your husband did whatever you think he did to you.
Someone who resuses to Let Go will always be alone because they can never be open to loving/being loved, and can can never love someone else because they don’t believe they can be loved.
This is not “the dating scene’s” issue, it the dater’s.
The vast majority of people I know are happy with people they love. You need to stop going to bars to meet people. Otherwise, when you meet someone who you *think* proves your expectations right, you feel vindicated.
PisP
Thank you kindly, Boru.
Hay everyone — summit this sunday. If you haven’t heard from me and want to come, email me at prettykittylady@gmail.com
Yes. I was TOLD I’m still organizing these events, so bite me. 😛
Just to add to Boru’s point — I dated this guy in my younger days for a few months who neglected to tell me he had a girlfriend.
Know how I found out he did?
My supervisor at work told me in the context of “so and so has a girlfriend AND a skank on the side.”
Of course she didn’t know the ‘skank on the side’ was me.
Apparently he had been bragging about playing two girls at once.
Fuck love sucks, sometimes.
Also: don’t date co-workers.
PisP “You have been on (self admittedly) 1 or 2 dates since your husband did whatever you think he did to you.”
I take offense to that statement.Marriages breakup,period.So what?I wasn’t implying that by leaving he abused me.
the social scene at bars,pubs isn’t my fault….Can’t a single woman go out for 1 or 2 drinks alone,without people implying she’s out “trapping” men?
OP. Put down that fucking paint brush!
I’m not shallow, just oblivious!
“The minute you stop looking is the the minute you will find that person who is digging on you as much as you are digging on them. “
I used to believe that… back when I was young and naive.
It also helped that I was thrust into academia where everyone was also relatively the same age. Out in the big, wide world there’s way less chance of meeting similar groups of relatively compatible people.
So… I did the only thing I could. I gave up.
Still *crickets churping* is the new norm for any sort of compatibility…
but after giving up, I don’t really care.
It does get better… just give up, get a cat, and die alone.
Problem solved.
Never said you said he abused you, that the social scene at bars was your fault, or that you were trying to trap a man.
I WAS saying you continue to project into every Bitch and Love, saying over and over again that no men can be trusted. Given your (admitted) experience, I was pointing out (again) that your experience is only *your* experience, and *not* the way it actually is. Otherwise, all women would be passive aggressive bitches, based on my experience with my ex.
Feel free to catch on to this at some point.
PisP
oh ZZZ – I didn’t look, found love, didn’t see it coming and lost love. Now again I’m not looking, have been alone too long. Granted, not going to meet a lot men sitting on my sofa but I hate going out and meeting people I don’t know – sad but true. Friends don’t know any single guys ‘good enough’ for me – whatever that means so I stay single, have my DVR, cat and a quilt to keep me company on a cold night.
Man, I could never do the bar scene. I’d be hissing at any twat jockey like a spastic goose before I bit off his head and spit in his neck.
Bars are shitty, underlined, shitty places to meet anyone. The older you get, the worse it gets. Prime breeding grounds for married men or confirmed bachelors trolling for a poke.
Put down the paint brush, sweetheart!
Another summit bites the dust due to my work obligations… Damn this shift work life *sigh*
I’m sorry COAST. I spoke my mind at least three times on this bitch. Did I go overboard?
I got a letter awhile ago from this guy on an on line dating site I joined.He sent me photos of him and his teenage daughter.That was too FN weird for me so I quit.Not like I ever went on a date from anyone I met on there..
(shrugs)
PisP
“Another summit bites the dust due to my work obligations… Damn this shift work life *sigh*”
>: ( AWWWW Nurse. Bro Tim and I even went 50/50 on this little objet d’art for you for Valentine’s Day. There’s nothing arachnoid about it so it’s safe to look.
http://www.museumofbadart.org/images/p-pop…
Those who can’t forget the past are condemned to repeat it over and over and over. I have a friend who couldn’t get past her horrific marriage and, as far as I’m concerned, she’s just waiting to die. I have no sympathy for her wasting her life over shit that doesn’t matter fuck anymore. I also had a horrific first marriage – a sordid tale not for the weak at heart – but I was goddamned if it was going to define me for the rest of my fucking life.
Don’t feel too bad, Nurse, I can’t make it to this Summit either.
“Oh pulease!! Us NS men fucking rock and you know it. Most of the women in this burg would be lucky to have any guy. Fuck right off, smelly cunt.”
Real stand up guy right here. He knows how to insult women and probably knows how to beat them too. Perfect example of what Halifax has to offer single women.
Thank you for the wonderful valentine Ivan and Timothy… I see you have invested much thought into this heartwarming gesture. Now, which one of you is on clown watch duty whilst I attempt to sleep tonight?! Lol!
Awww shucks….I can’t make this summit either! Gosh darn it! Maybe next time guys!!!!!1111111onewon11
It will have to be Ossifer Tim. Wednesday is my HALO Night.
*bazinga*
Don’t worry nurse, just put it above your bed and the sleep-watcher has it covered.
Welcome to Nova Scotia, the asshole of the universe, where the ugliest bastard has the confidence of a king.
yeah, but at least gary stopped posting so…
he can direct all that confidence at the wog.
Hey, where is Gary these days anyway?
I dunno Nurse, but if wogdog is so desperate for attention that she has to “pee on a stick” (see “Read and Ignored” posted today @ 2:56 P.M.) then he must have really gone off the grid.
…and the residents of Wittenberg tremble in fear at the sight of the lone lean-to guarded by wooden cowboy shadows.
…Pig Rig is yarning for the fjords of Colchester County.
For the first time in a long time, today I enjoyed having to stand on a cramped bus on my way to school. I was the only lady in that little nook 🙂
Speaking of Montreal, where did MM go. Did I scare him away??
PisP Was your *shrugs* directed at me,or..?
PisP are you going to the summit,this weekend?
TTFN Yep your right,shit happens.
APPEARANCE vs REALITY
“I can’t get over the picky men around here who overestimate themselves.” No Guy Here For Me
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: Daniel Abraham (02/06, 7:22PM)
No Daniel, you didn’t “scare me away”. In addition to the question being incoherent – no one scares Montrealman away – I have been busy beavering away of a couple of other sites. Now to work.
The problem “No Guy” addresses has long been a classic in philosophy. It is the problem of Appearance vs. Reality. What does that mean?
“No Guy” is making a generalization, possibly a confused one, based on her perception that the men around here are picky because they overestimate themselves with the reality of the case, whether it is factually true that the men around here are picky because, as it happens, they do overestimate themselves. Both “No Guy’s” perception of things – in philosophical terms this would be called “Appearance” – does not conform to what may in fact be the case – in philosophical terms this would be called “Reality,” that which subsists independently of any particular perception. Of course, both Appearance and Reality cannot both be simultaneously true. How, then is the issue to be resolved?
Sadly, it cannot be resolved. One cannot, by means of some boot-strap operation, levitate oneself above one’s own perceptions as they are delivered in one’s personal experience. One cannot, in other words, win through to a pristine, unconceptualized Reality. Does this mean, “mutatis mutandis” (that’s Latin for, roughly, “other things being equal”) that we are, in effect, prisoners of Appearance? Yes, it does.
Next.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
mm… i missed ya!
so…granted one cannot physically or figuratively lift one’s self up by the bootstraps to escape one’s perception which is molded by one’s experience. how about astral travelling? out of body. scrabbling up the slippery slope to higher levels. squishing out the top of one’s head into ether. thus leaving behind the imprisoning corpus with all it’s biased sensation. if you become pure mind, does ‘all that’ slough away? or would perception linger and indeed, wallow, in the bodily muck and mess as it clings, mucus-like, to the spirit?
I missed him too…
my crosshair must be a little off.
i aim for the feet, it makes him dance.
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: Good dog Molly (02/07, 10:45AM)
Good afternoon Good dog.
“if you become ‘pure mind’, does ‘all that’ slough away?” Good dog Molly
Since I don’t know what “astral travelling” means – indeed I’m not sure if it has any meaning at all if it is to be understood as suggesting a state of affairs in which sensation no longer exists which, you must admit, is by no means obvious based on the phrase itself – I will by-pass it to engage your second claim, that relating to “pure mind,” that which remains after bodily sensations – indeed perceptual experience generally – has been sloughed away.
There is a common and as far as I am aware generally accepted saying in philosophy which goes as follows: “There is nothing in the mind which is not first in the body.” But what does that mean?
It means that we are, by our very nature, “embodied” entities. It means that we are, by our very nature, corporeal beings. It means, therefore, that the concept of “pure mind” is incoherent, that it cannot possibly exist unless, of course, some appeal is made to a supernatural theological entity like “the soul”. But philosophy makes no such appeal. While it may speak of the “res cogitans,” (literally, “the thinking thing”) as part of our being, this is not to be understood in some autonomous sense, as being apart from the body. It is a distinctive part of the body but a part of the body nonetheless. To be “embodied” then, means both that we act on the world by means of our body and, in turn, are acted upon by that same world. To speak of “pure mind” is therefore incoherent.
So your question, “if you become ‘pure mind’, does all that slough away” is, “in actu exercitu” (as we say in Latin meaning “in the very act of uttering it”) is incoherent and is not to be entertained.
Next.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
so ‘pure mind’ cannot exist …. hmmmm does that mean then that mind is matter? ie: stuff?
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: Good dog Molly (02/07, 4:43PM)
“Does that mean that mind is matter, i.e., stuff?” Good dog Molly
Good morning Good dog.
An excellent question and, of course, one which is foundational to philosophy itself. What is that question? That question is, “What is the nature of consciousness?”. More specifically, the question concerns the manner in which an immaterial consciousness – the mind – can arise from matter or “stuff” – the brain. There are three broad approaches to this question which require a brief commentary.
The first approach involves the reduction of the mind to the brain. It can take the path of neurophysiology, that is, reducing mind-states to brain-states. In my view this is mistaken. The reason is that the approach cannot explain intentionality, the essential ingredient of consciousness. For example, I form the intention of raising my arm. I then proceed to do so. Neurophysiology can never explain this because – wait for it – mind-states can never be explained in terms of brain-states. Brain scans, for example, can detect “activity” in certain parts of the brain. but that is all. Such “activity” might consist of anything – my intention to raise my arm or of Shakespeare’s neurological activity in writing Hamlet. Neurophysiology is unable to discriminate between the two.
The second approach is that of behaviourism. The mind is reduced to its overt, observable behaviours. This is the approach, generally speaking, of psychology and which in my view renders that pursuit vacuous. The reason for this is that behaviourism does not explain the REASON for such behaviours and reason – wait for it – resides at the level of consciousness, not behaviour. There is a philosophical counterpart of psychological behaviourism most famously held by Gilbert Ryle whose “the ghost in the machine” (a title of one of his books in which the mind was the “ghost” and the “machine” was the body) was a failed attempt to overcome what is known as Cartesian mind-body dualism. In other words, it simply ignores what it purports to explain.
The third approach, the one which I support, recognizes that mind-states cannot be reduced to brain-states or behaviours but it does not posit a dichotomy or a dualism between the two which, if it existed, would indeed amount to a “ghost in the machine”. Instead, it is based on the concept of “tacit knowledge” which informs and directs all our conscious activities. For example, you are reading this commentary and understanding what is being written. But such understanding relies tacitly of the meaning of my words and involves a projection of your mind to engage the meaning of what is written. This has been described as the process of “sense-reading” while, in writing this, I am engaged in the process of “sense-giving.” They are inter-related activities – the one necessarily involves the other – but neither is reducible to a simple objective description of neurological brain-states or behaviours. It is an approach to consciousness from the perspective of the intentional, conscious agent herself, and not merely a descriptive account by some impartial third party.
However, and this is crucially important, the brain is necessary for the functioning of the mind. Consciousness cannot exist without it. It is what is called a “necessary condition” for the existence of consciousness. But the brain cannot account for the CONTENTS of that consciousness. It cannot distinguish my raising my arm from Shakespeare’s Hamlet. In other words, it is not a “sufficient condition.”
Well, I’ve gone on a bit but this, at least for me, is THE central question of philosophy, that is, what is the relationship of the mind to the brain.
A pleasure as always,
Cheerio!
OB, here’s my advice for increasing your chances of encountering _quality_ male companionship:
a) Get your ass to your neighborhood house of worship (if that’s your thing.) 1.) It gets you in touch with people who share both a geographical and a religio-cultural realm of experience with you (at least you’ll be able to follow along with the service.) 2.) You’ll make social connections in the old-fashioned sense of the term, who may then introduce you to age-appropriate men they know and know are eligible.
b) Take up a class or a hobby that involves a mixed-gender group. Volunteer for a cause you support. Attend conferences or other events held by your professional organization, or one of a number of charity social events that may cost you rather a bit. Network, network, network. Again, you’re looking for who actually shares your interests, culture, beliefs: commonalities in these areas will improve your odds of finding someone you’ll want to marry.
c.) If you must hit the bars, don’t go downtown, and don’t go at the peak hours. Go to the neighborhood watering holes where the best guys to frequent the joint may go after work (no rush to get home to Mrs. and the kids), but will not stay later than 9-10. Such men usually have things to do in the morning which require them sober. The best of that lot, of course, is their designated driver. 8)
My advice is… move to the valley or try becoming a lesbian or both. I should try becoming an advice columnist, I really have a knack for this.
morning TF, you’re going for the toaster oven, aren’t you? fuggitaboutit. that recruitment bonus expired in the 70’s. now we are offering dogs. for every 100 women you sign up, you get two large fluffy dogs. thats how i got mine. i am now working on a whole sled team.
mm, back to this… 3rd approach..does that place consciousness in same playpen as sense then? dependent on the physical matter of the brain as sense is to body (plus brain i imagine)
but then isn’t the brain plus body equally dependent on the non-matter of the mind to continue? even if just the automated portion of the non-matter..without it, the grey stuff rots. it ceases to function to keep the physical process chugging along. does the automation belong to the matter side of the family? or the non-matter part?
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: Good dog Molly (02/10, 10:42AM)
Good afternoon Good dog.
I’ll try and tackle your questions one after the other.
1. “does that place consciousness in the same playpen as sense then?”
While I’m not sure what you mean by “playpen” I think that one must obviously be conscious to engage in sense perception. But perception is guided or framed by consciousness in the sense that one is not simply “a camera” in recording the objects of perception. In other words, even sense perception is an intentional activity.
2. “… dependent on the physical matter of the brain as sense is to the body (plus brain I imagine).”
Yes, consciousness by which I mean the mind is dependent on the brain but is not reducible to neurological brain-states. It “harnesses” such brain-states to achieve its intentional activities.
3. “isn’t the brain plus body equally dependent on the non-matter of the mind to continue…”
In terms of consciousness the brain IS the physical component so “the brain plus the body” is redundant. But the mind is not reducible to the brain, i.e., to simple neurological brain-states.
4. “the automated portion of the non-matter…” I’m not sure what that means. Do you mean the “autonomic system” as in breathing? I’m not sure that would count as intentional consciousness as I’m using the term.
5. “does the automation side belong to the matter side of the family? or the non-matter side?” But why are you focusing on the autonomic system? Is your post a product of the autonomic system or a product of your intentional consciousness? Wouldn’t you say the latter?
So, are you asking whether a person who is breathing is consciousness? I would say only in a very basic sense, but that is not the sense I was talking about. Would Shakespeare have written Hamlet if he were just breathing? I don’t think so.
Let me know if you want to discuss this further.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Two large fluffy dogs for every 100 women converted GDM? I’m working on two at the moment, maybe three if I can swing the responsible vagina owner with the hormonal issues. I’m disappointed about the toaster oven but the canines will have to do.