To my ex’s family: Don’t get pissed with me because I’m moving to Toronto to pursue my career and end our 2 year relationship. I asked him to move with me if he really wanted to be with me, but he said no and insisted that I stay here in NS and continue to wait tables. Don’t call me an insensitive bitch just because I’m ‘throwing away my relationship with him’ to move up in the world. In case you haven’t noticed, people with Bachelor of Commerce degrees don’t aspire to be servers. And that’s basically the only kind of job (that, and fast food and call center work) you can get in NS unless you know someone on the inside, which I don’t. I got a great job offer and SURPRISE it’s not here! So to the mom, if your son really cared for me he’d be supporting me in my decision, not bitching me out to you. So fuck off and you all have a nice life. I’m outta here! —Go-getter
This article appears in Mar 24-30, 2011.
C-Ya!
See you in 15 years, when you move home.
Good for you! Why doesn’t he relocate and wait tables instead, anyway?
DOn’t let the door knob hit you, where the FSM split you !
Best of luck! And if he’s uncompromising like you describe him, leave him behind with no regrets and move on : )
I don’t see why you guys are dissin’ the OP here. All she’s trying to do is better herself and trust me, when this bozo leaves her (and he WILL leave her eventually whatever the relationship is — this shit never lasts), she’ll be left with a server’s salary scrimping for tips (and coming on here to bitch when some asshat doesn’t leave a tip) attempting to pay off her student loans from the degree that has become absolutely useless to her.
And as one of those people who are going to die childless and alone: might as well have SOMETHING in your life that doesn’t completely bite! 😀
I didn’t “dis” the OB…I warned her to watch her ass, as the door swings shut.
I went away when I was young & ended up coming home for family & a good job opportunity with advancement, when it opened here…
Best of luck OP. You’re making the right decision for yourself…for all the right reasons. Never make life choices based on someone else’s life…unless they are blood or you share a child.
there’s an old saying about people being millstones around our necks, and honey, i think he is one fucking big one. if you have no kids, then go where the life might be better for you.
You got it, RC and LS.
Once you’ve got kids, you have responsibilities which usually include not being able to just pick up and go for whatever it is you want to go for whenever it comes along. Best of luck, OP if I didn’t say it already. Going away to get some experience opens up a lot of doors, especially ones back here!
The CoastCrew are a fickle bunch when it comes to dissing the hometown, and heaven help you if you make the big decision to leave for a better life.
Cranky…It doesn’t get any better than the Maritimes 🙂 JK
I have been in your situation before. I was living in ON and moved to BC. Asked if she wanted to come with me, wasn’t interested. So I said see ya
Anyways, being a dude, I totally support you in your decision. Yeah, it might suck leaving someone behind but you can’t live your life based around what everyone else wants. You will just become miserable and resentful.
Besides, you can’t make shit being someones GF. Go where the $$ is!
Good for you, really, it’s probably your best decision. My bf supported me in my move here, he couldn’t come, so we’re doing the distance thing. though I’m tired of that so I’ll be moving home shortly (I hope). But I needed this. And I think it’s made us tougher in the long run.
If he cared, he’d have done the same for you. You don’t deserve that flack.
Miss Ralmn…how far apart are you and the BF? I didn’t realize this wasn’t home for you.
Good choice OP and bullet dodged!
i think he lives in noveau brunswick rawk ralmn? that picture is the best mamab
Good for you OP, I had been dating this guy in high-school for two years when he threatened to break up with me if I left to go to university in the states. So I broke up with him, and hilariously enough, ended up going to university in NS anyway.
Thanks Miss Pain. I had a cute brown bear pic but it kept showing up as an X. I like this one too.
i saw the brown bears they were cute, no x for me
Good Luck!!!
Best of luck op, hope you find what you trained to do, isn’t it sad that nova scotia is failing its educated?
I’ve been thinking a lot lately of leaving this crap hole (sorry, guys) and heading out west — not to Alberta (*vomit*) — Vancouver, likely. The husband’s been harassing me to apply for positions out there. Seriously considering it to be honest.
We’ll have to see how things play out in the next month — select bitchers know what I’m talkin’ ’bout! heehee
Congrats OP. People with careers and a university education should never have to stoop down to the level of dating servers and dishwashers. Best of wishes for your career in Ontario.
we moved here to be near my family. i miss the boy but he is better of elsewhere, for now
Honest with you PK me and the misses are moving out to Alberta soon ourselves, i just can’t find a decent job here.
*off* sir better of elsewhere^^
Yeppers, RC he’s in NB. Not too far, really, and we’ve been super lucky to see each other almost every weekend…. but the weeks are long, the commute is pricey and I’m not liking my job, it was a bad career move, even though it was an excellent life move. I’m happy to have gotten out of smallville for a bit, I needed it. And we won’t stick around there forever… soon be time for grad school and world wide adventures…
And I loves the mama bears av too. Tres cute!
You made the right choice OP, when you get a chance to make something of your life and a person is too scared that you’re going to have success it’s for the best you leave without them. Best of luck in your new job!
Best thing, cutting ties. I say go go go… That being said, B.Comm’s are a dime a dozen in Halifax according to my boss, so a waiter could conceivably make more than the slobs I work with that have this. If he makes good coin, why go sit at a desk face-fucking your computer all day???
Can I tag along to your journey to Vancouver PK? I can fold up nicely into a suitcase and just need a good sized closet for me and my cat <3 and maybe some wifi here and there. And lime tortilla chips.
Ok, you had me at lime tortilla chips, mel.
..bring LOTS of money…unless you wanna live in the downtown eastside..and you do not want to live in the dte 🙂
I’m gonna shack up with the husband. He’s on scholarship and can certainly support his lovely wife 🙂 hahaha
Good for you for getting out while you can! Good luck
I’ve heard this argument that it costs sooo much to live out West but you also get paid a lot more and pay less in taxes. I know a couple people who lived in Victoria and someone else in Alberta and they said it wasn’t as difficult to live there as people make it out to be. You certainly don’t need to spend as much money heating your place and cars even last longer! The last comment obviously being about BC, not Alberta :P. Dat playce gits cooooold!
You and da kitty can come live with me and my gay husband and my two kitties, mel. 🙂
Just make sure you keep the lime tortilla chips ’round 😉
Ooh yes. They have are constantly in stock at Chez Mel. I had great conversations with cashiers and some random others in lines at the store about just how great they are :D! When I was in the Dominican, they actually had lime Lays. I even took a picture <3 haha. Whatta world.
Try them with the cheesy salsa if you can tolerate it. If I’m episode-free and having a good week I can usually handle some if I pick the peppers out 🙂 They’re yummy together!