I’ve been doing online dating for quite some time. Being considerate, when getting a message from a woman I’m not interested in (be it she’s not my type, something on her profile I don’t like, etc), rather than ignore her and leave her wondering what-if, I politely tell her something along the lines of “Sorry, no thanks.” Making a fuss, telling me off, and writing about how much of a bullet you just dodged just makes me relieved that I didn’t pursue anything with you. An insecure, whiny woman who can’t handle rejection not sexy to any of us. -True Bullet Dodger
This article appears in Jun 5-11, 2014.
So instead you come here and do what she did… just to us…. I’d say you should message her back!! You two were made for each other!!! You may have dodged a bullet but we didn’t 🙁
Either way, I blame Harper.
(Unless you’re the shallow retard from last week who’s the big shot accountant, stay in the ditch with the gangbanger if that’s the case, you’re not done.)
Yeaaaah, I have a friend who does this.
Instead of saying “Sorry, no thanks” (which can come off as condescending, no matter how good intentioned you are) I’d say go with the non-response. Sure it sucks when you message someone and don’t get a message back but most people will get the hint after 1-2 messages max and won’t have to hear “No thanks”. Some people really can’t handle rejection.
On the other hand, if you feel better making it clear you’re not interested, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. You sound like you are being polite and not trying to hurt anyone’s feelings. Just might save yourself a headache to not respond in the first place.
P.S. Online dating is terrible.
Unlike men, women can usually take a hint. If you don’t respond, a woman will not write you again. You don’t need to spell it out for her with the douchey “no thanks” replies. They are pretty rude. The protocol is don’t respond, delete or block if you need to. Simple. No hurt feelins’. I bet these little rejection messages you’re sending around all willy nilly make you feel like the big man. Ever wonder why you ain’t havin much luck on the dating sites? Sounds like your standards are too lofty – get over yourself and stop judging based on looks! E’rryone knows dat fatties have the tightest poonamies and give the best head anywayz! Deal with it, skinny bitches!! Phat bitches can suck a golf ball through a garden hose, make ya head spin, fool.
Actually, I agree with the ‘no response’ thing. I think I’d much rather get no response than get a ‘no thanks.’