So I have this terminal shyness problem where I just don’t let other people get close to me, especially other women. I was a weird kiddo and an ugly duckling, I’d make a best friend and then some girl with a mean streak would usually come in and I’d get ostracized, always bottom of the social totem pole. Looking back on it, yeah I was an annoying, un-medicated ADD brat a lot of the time, so no grudges.
What sucks is that it’s left me unable to form anything deeper than a very casual acquaintance type of relationship with other women. And I have this little passion of mine, I love love love to get into a club and just dance the night away. But I have no girlfriends to go with. I wish there was a way I could meet some other painfully shy chick who just wants to bust a move on a Saturday night. But she is probably to shy to talk to me 🙁 —Wish I could be dancing through my twenties
This article appears in Aug 5-11, 2010.
Do I ever know the feeling…I have no idea how to make friends with fellow females. But I also don’t know how to dance, and am very shy about doing so…
You’re a loser. Yay.
Try going to a shrink.
Don’t listen to these dicks.
If you’re in your 20s get a service industry job. Food service in particular. It is ritual for cohorts of young service staff to go drinking and dancing together.
The harder the work, the greater the camaraderie.
If the Lighthouse were still around, they would have the perfect solution for your affliction.
That;s really sad… I have been lucky enough to grow up with 5 girls who have been my best friends since I was 5, but I moved here a couple of years ago from NL and definitely find it hard to meet girls. It’s so much easier to meet guys. I’ll be your friend 🙂
“If you’re in your 20s get a service industry job. Food service in particular. It is ritual for cohorts of young service staff to go drinking and dancing together.”
Wrong.
My youngest was very shy until she started working retail about a year ago. Learning to deal with the best and worst of humanity will get you out of your self-imposed shell. The only way to cure a fear is to face it head on, kid.
i HAVE THING THAT WHEN i GET A LITTLE … UM, TIPSY, i TELL EVERYONE THEY’RE BEAUTIFUL AND GIVE COMPLIMENTS LEFT AND RIGHT. tHAT MAKES FRIENDS FOR ME PRETTY QUICKLY, TIPSY OR NOT. dON’T BE AFRAID TO TALK TO PEOPLE. jUST GO UP AND START WITH A COMPLIMENT OR SOME MIDDLE OF THE ROAD QUESTION. aLSO, SMILE. i THINK YOU’LL FIND THAT THE WORLD IS VERY RECEPTIVE, ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY’RE BUTTERED UP.
Aw man, my caps lock key was on and I was watching tv while typing. It stays.
I did that once, Donkey, many moons ago. Afterwards, whenever I’d see someone from that party, they’d take one look at me and cross the street.
OP, I am somewhat the same. Although, having had women as friends, I know that they’re not worth it and do not have any desire to ever get news ones! I love all my guy friends and I always go out dancing with my gay guy friend :P. Go get one of those instead; they’re a billion times nicer and can dance forever ;D! The only problem is, he usually wants to go the Reflections but I can’t stand that place anymore…it always smells like a cat’s litter box and ther are only 4 bathroom stalls in the girls washroom, and by the end of the night there is only ever one that still flushes, and the door may or may not stay closed. Oh and there’s usually a layer of gross water all over the floor.
To sum up; don’t waste your time with women friends.
“you’re a loser” “go see a shrink” wow people, really nice, my guess is that you are both women because that’s exactly why it is so hard to make friends – women are bitches – they snub each other, are judgemental and always think they are in competition with each other, ffs, get a grip and stop taking life so seriously! Stop the games and the drama! It’s much easier to make friends with men.
I don’t have any close female friends and I love losing myself on the dance floor, I’ll be your friend!
lol The Lighthouse. Ralph’s conquered that market….with their crack-whore anorexic pole polishers.
i’ll be your friend!
Facebook?
OK who kidnapped LS? Two days now and no invitation to the OB from him. LOL.
He’s busy with his new grandson :)!
Meet some gay men, they’ll take you dancing, missy.
yea but than she’ll fall in love; a love that can never be 🙁 🙂