What is the deal with the women around here? I have been rejected numerous times just because I don’t have a set of wheels. How do I know this? She can’t get enough of me until she finds out I have to take the bus. Then she disappears. I treat a lady well, make her laugh, etc etc, but because I’m 35 years old and still take the bus, that’s all blown out of the water. How fucking superficial! Why is every fucking woman so impressed with cars? I don’t make a lot of money and if I have a car, I will struggle to keep up with my other bills. Guess I could go out west, but you know what? I don’t want to live in Alberta. This is my home and I’d like to stay here. Is it so much to ask, to find a girl who likes me for me and not for what I don’t possess? —I shouldn’t have to buy a car just to impress a girl!
This article appears in Oct 3-9, 2013.
fact is, cars are modern status symbols. They show you have disposable income and a means to transport your lady and youngins around.
If the ladies you are courting aren’t interested in you because you dont have a car, then thank them for leaving early in the relationship. They saved you a lot of grief in the end.
Keep on fishing, there are lots of lovely ladies in Halifax that don’t care about such trivial material possesions.
Do these superficial bimbos have vehicles? Let them drive over a cliff!
consider yourself lucky op, you escaped their clutches early. they would have been dead weight dragging you down. just think of the amount of dirt/sludge one has to sift before finding a grain of gold. same thing. let them inflict their sorry selves onto the assholes who ride jacked up bass mobiles.
Interesting theory…
The Captain was single right up until he obtained his current vessel
It must have something to do with its ability to transport booty
You should score yourself a land boat, OB. That way, in the future you’ll be able to sail right on by these sirens you speak of.
Just find a lady who has a car herself and wouldn’t mind driving her beau around.
“I don’t make a lot of money…” That says it all right there. Maybe it isn’t the fact you don’t have a car that is putting these women off. Maybe the problem is your low income… Just a thought.
“Maybe the problem is your low income…” – Maybe finding fault in someones income is the ‘problem’
Seriously, read that statement over and over in your head. Can you hear the elitism?
Here’s some food for thought the next time this comes up, only about 9% of the world’s population will own a vehicle at one time so don’t worry, you’re in good company and they are just being ignorant to the world around them
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_percentage_…
I’ll fuck you, on the bus!
LESSON #1 IN FEMALE PSYCHOLOGY
“I treat a lady well, make them laugh, etc etc, but because I’m 35 years old and still take the bus, that’s all blown out of the water.” I shouldn’t have to buy a car just to impress a girl
You must remember that, unlike the male who places lust at the center of the dating game, the female places economics. The female is a realist, not a romantic. She wants a prospective mate who is able to provide the proper care and shelter for her fertilized eggs. At age 35 and still riding the bus is a loud signal. It tells her that you will not be able to provide for them in any appropriate fashion. You must remember that the female has only one chip in the mating game – her body. To ensure appropriate provision for her fertilized eggs she must up the ante to its fullest. This means cutting out the economic deadwood. You are economic deadwood.
You are at the low end of the mating game, of the dating dance. Your options appear negligible. To say that you “treat a lady well” but take the bus indicates that you have no understanding of the phrase. It might have been true at age 17 but not 35. I suggest that you pursue a life of chastity.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
You could always tell them you’re on Stephen MacNeil’s staff and things will be looking up on Wednesday?
But, don’t mention the war
Honestly, dude, you sound like a drummer who lives in his mom’s basement. I’ll even wager you’ve never had a gig but have the best vinyl collection of Gene Krupa and Buddy Rich albums in the city.
It’s not about the car op. It’s about women in your dating age bracket not wanting to date men who live like college students. Most people who you’re probably looking to date grew out of that a long time ago. A car is not a prerequisite but most women in their late 20s to mid 30s don’t want to have to support their boyfriend OR deal with him having juvenile habits and while you may not be that guy, you seem to fall square into the lap of that category. They don’t know you so they must make an assessment before investing time and if they have no time to invest, pre-assessment, they must use fairly superficial qualities to do so. That’s only logical, since nobody can get to know you in four days. And forget young, dumb women. They only tend to date older men who are already established. Those who date older men at all. And they are a vast, VAST minority.
I want a guy who contributes similarly to me because i have a future in mind and i’m not wasting time. Don’t you get that it’s not about you giving me money. It’s about you not taking the money I work very hard to make. It’s about someone who can pick up the slack if i suddenly fall ill with cancer or become pregnant or whatever. Quite frankly, the fact that this doesn’t concern YOU also means you’re still thinking like a college student.
I’m not saying it’s right. I’m saying it’s logical.
You’re looking to date women who have grown out of a guy just out of his mom’s basement. Which is the vibe you’re giving off, even if it’s unlikely true.
Most women in HRM are gold digging sluts, OB. It’s okay for them to not have a car but you’re expected to have one and buckets of money to lavish them with shit they don’t deserve. Consider yourself fortunate you won’t be with someone who destroys your potential and drives you to wanting to kill yourself.
you are completely self-entitled. so women should fall all over you just because (you claim) you treat them right and make them laugh? fuck that shit. at 35, you probably should have your own vehicle by now. you’re not taking the bus because you’re keen on the environment or because you work in an area where parking sucks ass. you’re taking a bus because you cant afford a damn car! not even an old beater, reeealllly?!! most 35-year-olds can afford a car ffs and your competing against other men who also treat women right and make them laugh BUT…..make a helluva lot more money. maybe women don’t want to support your ass. most people choose partners they can grow with.
FFS go out to freakin alberta for a few years, come back then you can probably afford a brand new set of wheels! then you can quit whining about not having a girlfriend!
Batshit actually makes a good point.
You might be a great guy, but women in your age bracket, especially single women, don’t want to date someone they might have to support.
I hate to say it, but i want someone who can contribute along the same lines as me. I make good scratch and I don’t want to support someone’s broke ass. I’ve worked too hard to end up struggling because my partner doesn’t contribute to our future family adequately.
Also, how do you get around on dates? Nothing says romance like taking a lady for a night out on the town on the bus.
Exactly my point, PK. But, I’m an elitist….LOOOL
Ob, you need to date a lower socioeconomic class of women which is going to be hard to do, considering that you are 35 and dont have enough coin to own your own car.
I recommend that you shop around for a walmart girl that has a grade 5 education and is impressed with your bus pass.
Btw, OB, do you realize it is not the car that is the issue, it is the image/impression that you present to them. You should also consider the possibility that their assessment about you is correct…the average working 30 something female is either a career girl or saddled with children. You inability to support yourself as well as not be a burden on them is a huge turn off.
Just saying.
Meaty, you’d give “Do it on the bus” a whole new meaning, lol.
I don’t intend to buy a car. I was raised in the city and it isn’t my problem if these girls had hick upbringings and somehow associate car ownership with maturity. Be strong OP, find yourself a city girl!
Well wait now.. I don’t think op should be REQUIRED to buy a car in order to demonstrate self-sufficiency. That’s merely one way to demonstrate that you’ve grown up enough to support yourself in a manner to which you’d want a partner to also support themselves.
Lots of people don’t WANT cars. So the car itself is not the issue. The issue op, is that you yourself have suggested you struggle to make basic ends meet. I have lots of friends who pay their bills and have worked to get themselves situated and choose not to own a car for reasons financial or otherwise.
It sounds like you’re mired in debt, live rough and are likely a huge liability.
I don’t think you have any right to deem someone superficial just because they don’t want to raise an adult child. And that’s the vibe you give off, accurate or not.
I have every right to want to date someone that isn’t going to drag me down. That’s not superficial. That’s survivalism.
good grief, can’t we get past ‘biology is destiny’ in this new millennium?
what mm says about the female urge to get a provider – I agree with. that’s our species history. but it doesn’t need to be that way NOW. a woman can choose a mate for decorative purposes only. or because he makes her laugh. or because he cooks a mean pot roast. and she can ‘flip’ her mates and get a new one weekly. there is no biological imperative anymore for a muscle bound, alpha club wielder. please. start thinking with your brain/heart and not your ovaries. we should be long past this crap by now. I swear we are going backwards.
I know lots of guys in their 30s that don’t have a lot of money and maybe have racked up a bit of debt along the way. There is no shame in that. But don’t expect someone who has managed to maintain balance in life to want to date someone like that. Financial balance is a house of cards and it only takes one extra bill (which dude… you WOULD BE judging from the sort of women you seem to want to attract) to topple it.
So why don’t YOU stop being so superficial? It sounds like the car and even your income are not the issue here. THe issue is that you have allowed yourself to fall into a financial trap. Nobody can afford to support that.
it sounds to me like OP is avoiding debt by not buying a car. he makes a certain amount, and will not go into debt to take on a car that he doesn’t need.
what if he is working at something he enjoys, but that doesn’t pay well? or someone who refuses to play the corporate snakes n ladders game? or someone who is taking more care of inner business than outer business. maybe he is an artist, musician, writer or just some guy who has a rich off-work life and just works to keep the basic necessities paid.
no car does NOT mean lazy ass bum.
could be a good argument here for finding a compatible date online instead of in person. op you can get the no car business out there up front.
Cool lack of ambition in life dude. Some people in Halifax are so sad.
How ya gonn’ take a girl out on a date? You gonna drive her on your schwin ten speed or let her use your transfer on the loser cruiser? Get a better job and some life goals. Women wanna man to support her and her chillens.
i don’t have a car too. it’s ok though i just wait until ma is out to bring the ladies over for some sweet lovings. she has bingo on thursdays at the forum. the basement provides a romantic atmosphere. i bought some candles at the dollarama and the bitches eat it right up. my cone i mean. they eat my cone right up. i don’t even care that most of them are on the dirty. as long as the pylon fits right?
Apologies, Shamira. I wasn’t actually intending to call you an elitist, merely attempting to point out the elitism in your words. I’ve heard that argument before, and the line “maybe you don’t make enough money” (or whatever variation you prefer) is something people say without realizing the impact. It’s a social idiom that promotes an elite social/economic class because those who make more money are better… right?
Consider it a screening process OP. The fact that these ladies don’t seem impressed with your lack of combustion-based steed means that they are the wrong ladies for you. Where do you meet them? Online? Perhaps put your status up front. Save yourself some grief.
Take it from an old hyena.
Fuck that, bunch of stuck-up bitches. The list of double standards for men is too long a list to rhyme off, and I’d just be wasting my time arguing with women that perpetuate the act of being snobs but, because they can “justify” it in their own minds, don’t feel they deserve the label of “stuck-up bitches”. Why try and justify it? Just be a bitch, and own that shit!!!!
You “empowered” women say you want to be equal, but you don’t. You still want men to pay your way when it comes to dating and, impress you with their “money penis”. You pretend to want the responsibility of being equal, which includes being the financial bread winner and “supporting” your family (without thinking you are paying more than your fair share) but, seem to think that your money is YOUR money and you should not have to contribute anything above and beyond what YOU use. Its a childish way of looking at your “family” and an immature outlook on life in general.
Its funny, everything you have gained (as women) since the days of the 50’s housewife, you completely throw out the window when you look for a mate. I guess you can take the woman out of the kitchen…
If a girl really likes you it wont matter if you have a car or not. you just haven’t meet the right one for you OP.
However when dating someone who doesn’t have a car it can become frustrating, being the one who ALWAYS has to drive isn’t much fun. I have been with my boyfriend for over two years and he has never had a car, and before we started living together it did get annoying always being the one who has to drive……but because I loved him I over looked it. It’s not always status its also the convenience.
‘money penis’
OMFG
I’m dieing from giggles right now
If you truly love someone you can overlook almost anything.
The only time a car comes in handy is grocery shopping day.(:
A possession isn’t a possession if your a slave to it. OP you’ll find the right woman for you.Not all women are into possessions there are some who know what’s important in life.
Steve your bang on but not all women are like that.
I agree with half of you and disagree with the other half…
Perhaps you should try meeting people on the bus…
that’s already something in common.
Aw screw it, just get a cat.
http://themetapicture.com/media/funny-whit…
My cat doesn’t judge me. Hey, come back here kitteh!
Y’know, this thread reminds me of something…
…can’t quite put my finger on it…
…oh yes; here we go, at the 2:00 mark: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xy4FXhkm6Nw
“You might be a great guy, but women in your age bracket, especially single women, don’t want to date someone they might have to support.”
What if he lives at home with his parents too?
Awesome read though, more the comments then the Bitch. I love it when we can all save the world.
the bear had a yellow corona, that was it for me
it’s my bedtime, so my brain is somewhat fuzzy pg. did he have, like, a halo? or a beer?
I could see him with either….
not exactly as shown http://www.todoautos.com.pe/attachments/f2…
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: Good dog Molly (10/07, 9:30PM)
“there is no biological imperative anymore…”
It depends on how deeply you look. Yes, superficially, the female can choose a mate for “decorative purposes” or change them as the as the spirit moves her as you say but this is to overlook the reason she chooses a mate in the first place. Why does she choose a mate? She chooses a mate because she is hard-wired to do so. The biological imperative necessarily kicks in.
What is that biological imperative? It is to copulate with the male, to have her eggs fertilized and to give birth. I was previously speaking about the raw, hot, wet ruck of female sexuality, not about any attraction to some “ornamental”qualities a prospective mate might or might not possess. In the same way the male is hard-wired to lust after the female’s body. He is driven by his nature to want to copulate with her. It must be remembered, however, that there’s nothing wrong with lust. Without it – if, say, the male preferred to read poetry rather than to copulate with the female – the species would die out. Like the female, he is subject to the biological imperative. Other decorative factors are just that, decorative.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Is that an old gremlin paingirl ?
I’ve been know to drive back a Corona or three.
mm, snatching out of context. a prior sentence. ‘it doesn’t NEED to be that way now’.
yes, the biological imperative is still urging us but our current environment doesn’t require it. we don’t club others to death for walking on our lawns. we don’t chase down our food and eat it raw and pumping blood. other assorted past behaviours. we substitute sports or games. and we can have sex for recreational, not procreational purposes. we can acknowledge the urge, acknowledge and respect the affect, but don’t have to bow to it. we should only be ‘subject’ to it by choice. for eg in sexual play between a couple it could be fun to play at caveman/woman roles. but good grief, what kind of idiot female would actually want a caveman type mate? ( I know, baby mommas – nuff said)
now if we get a damn good meteor strike or virus and this veneer of civilisation peels away we’ll be playing musical chairs for survival. but those ‘urges’ are counterproductive in our pvc world.
no klyde, it’s a toyota corona, tho my brother had an orange gremlin
Thanks for clarification paingirl….I have a 91 Corolla in my garage that needs a little attention….other than that you can’t kill Toyotas.
it’s true, my folks had a camry that had over 300,000 kms on it. they sold it and it’s probably still going. at the present, i own a japanese made toyota, vroom vroom
I wish I still had my tercel. I kept a can of oil in the back and added it when the oil light came on. that was the extent of my service maintenance. that little beast crisscrossed the continent, passed cars ‘like they was standing still’ on the grapevine in 115 degree heat, carried a loveseat in the hatch, stored enough clothing and scraps of food to keep me alive for a month if stranded, I even wrote a nice epic poem about it to the tune of ‘one headlight’.
The motor’s indestructible…
it’s the rest of it that slowly wears out.
all in all, great, cheap-ish, and reliable.
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: Good dog Molly (10/09, 10:24AM)
“MM snatching out of context. a prior sentence. it doesn’t NEED to be that way now.”
Well, of course, it depends how you define “need” in the present context of the biological imperative. In a narrow, restricted sense, no sexual attraction doesn’t NEED to be that way now. Sexual attraction can, I suppose, have other grounds than biology and in that sense, the two genders don’t NEED biology either, whatever that can possibly mean.
But I wasn’t talking in a narrow, restricted sense. I was speaking in my usual ontological sense, i.e., the nature of human reproduction by sexual intercourse between the sexes and their necessary innate biological attraction for each other. It is difficult to understand what you can possibly mean if you are claiming that sexual attraction and consequent reproduction doesn’t NEED to be that way now.
No chance of your writing a little erotica for us, is there dear?
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
no, not ‘other grounds than biology’ if you mean *not* biology or *superseding* biology
additional grounds, not limited to the basic grunting urge to rut with the current leader of the pack. and esp in this day because to crown a lead contender for the breeding privilages based on their car is foolish, foolish indeed.
if our ovaries had any brains at all, if our wombs yearned for the continuation of the species, we should be leaping upon the david suzukis of the testicle pool and not some cretin who drives a ram truck to and from his office job.
about as much chance as the proverbial snowball sweetcheeks.
First world problems.
SHIT-D: “Fuck that, bunch of stuck-up bitches. The list of double standards for men is too long a list to rhyme off”
Fuck THAT!… No ya ain’t cryin’ bout double standards…when men are still higher earners than women, women gotta twist our titties up in a bra all day and teeter around on stilts, with a bunch of paint on our faces and a big birdsnest on dey heed and a mattress of a maxipad taped to her ass… you men get to rule the world. This shit is your oister…Doublestands? Bitch please.buy yoself a damn car or else NO PUSSY MOTHAFUCKER.
I think money trumps wheels. I have a pretty nice car but since most of my money gets dumped into it, it makes it hard to afford to date.
People asking how you gonna take someone out on a date without a car? Really? Never heard of cabs? Shit a date usually involves a drink or 2. I leave the car at home anyways, so I don’t have to spend half the night looking for parking.
I’ll go on record and say I had a better dating life before I got my car, but I was making more money and almost all of it was disposable.
dumb assumptions-
1-that the OP is, or is interested in dating someone in their ‘age brackett’.
2-that the OP is in some kind of ‘financial danger’ or otherwise unhappy with their life.
3-that the OP is a man.
i agree, why chase someone who doesn’t like you? whether the reasons are meaningful or superficial?
Yo yo yo, hold up, foo!! Who asked you to wear a bra, maxi-pad, or high heels? You can’t blame men for your beauty regimen, that’s your own fault. You don’t think we (us men) hear you bitches making fun of other bitches for not living up to your own fashion standards? Bitch please!!!
“men rule the world”, yup, cause bitches that speak ebonics are too stupid to rule it. Now back to what you know, jamming yourself full of mini-pizzas and sanpelligrino, whining about how late your baby-daddy is with his child support. Peace!!!
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: Good dog Molly (10/09, 10:24AM)
Well Good dog, to repeat, I was speaking in “ontological” terms, a philosophical category which addresses the basic nature of reality, in this case the basic nature of reality as it relates to the reproduction of the species. While the male, also to repeat my point, is hard-wired by lust, his innate desire to copulate with the female she, unlike the male, has the further goal of conceiving and nurturing of her off-spring. Both male lust and female nurturing are both then part of the ontology relating to the reproduction of the species. So in that sense the ownership of a car is a marker for the female that her partner is able to adequately provide for both mother and child. Conversely, the absence of ownership of a car is a strong marker that he is not able. “Smart ovaries” do not have a role in the ontological account. They fall into the category of “additional grounds.” They are additional, but they are not ontological.
(4:40PM)
Of course, your refusal to write a little erotica for us simply confirms my point that the female is a realist, not a romantic. Not being a romantic in the present sense, i.e., as a writer of eroticism, I knew you would decline and was simply looking for confirmation. The only book of eroticism by a female I have actually read was E.L. James’ “Fifty Shades of Grey.” I read it not for the purposes of titillation but for the same reason I read anything, including the posts on Bitch: To enter the mind (if there is one) of the writer. James confirmed for me the absence of imagination in the female mind. Her focus was exclusively on the physical encounter and lacked a further dimension in which any successful eroticism must be situated. (Note the humour in my story about Xenophilia and the pool match; note my political framework in which Ivan, by means of his skill at cunnilingus, struck a blow for Ujrainian freedom from Nazi oppression.) It was a rather boring story about how her heroine overcame her infatuation with Grey’s power, money and looks – the standard tropes – to achieve personal autonomy. In other words, it was one-dimensional as, one supposes, is the female mind.
: HoistThatRag (5:51PM)
To dismiss the present discussion on the grounds that it’s a “first-world problem” is simply stupid for two reasons: (1) We happen to LIVE in the first world, you buffoon, and (2) Philosophical discussions transcend all such “worlds.” They are timeless and universal. So go now to your reflection-free third world. Go now.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Fuck yeah SHITD comes out with two left hooks and an upper cut. Man, that guy is my hero.
MM…you impetuous vile swamp donkey. You imbecile! You wretched goat’s maid! The most infectious pestilence upon thee!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XqV_7fOcWgw
Again not all women are blood sucking,money hungry betches.
There are some of us who know whats important in life and a relationship.IMO having a vehicle shouldn’t make or break a relationship.
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: HoistThatRag (10/10, 10:00PM)
Flattery will get you nowhere. And “a wretched goat’s maid?” Was that a billy goat? Do I detect bestiality here?
: WHATACROCK (11:31PM)
Yes dear, we know that having a vehicle shouldn’t make or break a relationship but we were speaking in a general, theoretical sense – an ontological sense if you will – so your personal opinion has no bearing on the question whatsoever. Being female, I realize that you will not understand this.
I know you weren’t talking to me but, IMO, that doesn’t matter doo doo. I am talking to you.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
No car? No problem! HOWEVER, you better have the henscratch to have decent transportation arranged and to look like you give a fuck. A cab, a shower and a decent outfit will work nicely; the bus, a T-shirt and sweatpants won’t. What might also help is an address somewhere other than Spryfield or North End either side; a decent job worth mentioning during the conversation and some volunteer work. You know, things that make you appear interesting and – here’s a shock – nice! Show, boys – don’t tell.