I’m basically a really nice person on the outside. I’m polite, friendly and I mind my own fucking business. But, to put it frankly, I’ve had it. My jaw actually hurts from walking around all day with this stupid fake grin.
I’m sick of crazy ex-wives who never get over ex-spouses and use their kids as pathetic tools (they are everywhere); mothers who never ever shut up about their whining bratty kids. Do you really think I give a flying fuck about your kid and want to hear about it? Is it because I am a woman and 40ish that you think I have a soft spot for your spawn? Zero population growth lady, get that fucking kid away from me. Seriously, you would think that they’ve done something special or impressive by having a baby. For God’s sakes, you want to impress me? Take some fucking birth control and DON’T have a baby! Now that would be more special!
Also, people who can’t mind their own god damn business and like to talk about other people instead of examining their own sad, pathetic lives. Why oh why can’t they look at themselves and know what they are? I want to scream and holler and say fuck off! I hate people like you, get away from me! But instead, I simply smile and nod and be polite because more than anything I abhor rudeness. How fucking warped is THAT?
So, remember that the next time you pull out your stupid baby pictures to show me, or chuckle when your kid kicks my seat, that while I am smiling back at you and looking at your kid like he or she is the next best thing since sliced bread, I really want to ask you what the HELL you were thinking and oh really? What was that? You don’t have a job and you’re a single mother? And you’re having another baby… oh that will be a difficult road ahead of you (you stupid cow).
While I’m at it (because I think I am feeling better already), to the asshole on the beach the other day that saw me applying sunscreen and politely asked “Oh wow, I didn’t know you people burned!” I say to you: Why did you come over to talk to me? It was my friendly smile, wasn’t it? I didn’t want to talk to you or your old bag of a wife and why would someone approach somebody anyway when they are lying there minding their OWN fucking business? I had to listen to 10 minutes of moronic conversation (oh Jesus, kill me now, he’s talking about his fucking kids) only to be topped off with that RIDICULOUS RACIST statement which I completely ignored because I am nice, and then after he left I thought of all the nasty things I should have said to him but didn’t.
See how I am? I just reread this, and I was like ‘What an incredibly fucked up person” but fear not, my own parents brought me up well, maybe too well, eh? Sometimes I just get sick and tired of “nice”. —Not a Nice Girl
This article appears in Jun 30 – Jul 6, 2011.
You are a nice person, it doesn’t mean that you have to enjoy everyones company.
You aren’t f’d up, you are just a normal person who doesn’t like douchebags. You have to know that you aren’t alone right?
Keep being nice, just learn when to walk away from Dumbasses.
wow what a rant lol
I GIVE YOU A STANDING OVATION OB. FUCK BEING NICE. THIS IS WHAT I’M ALWAYS TALKING ABOUT. PEOPLE WHO COME OFF AS NICE REALLY AREN’T THAT NICE THEY JUST ACT IT! TIME TO STOP GIVING A SHIT ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU. IF THE ONLY WORD SOMEONE CAN USE TO DESCRIBE YOU IS ‘NICE’ 9 TIMES OUT OF 10 YOU’RE LAME AND BORING.
It really does suck being a nice person, that’s why I’m not one anymore.
God damn I think this bitch turned me on a little.. lol You sound like a super lady, OP.
Be nice but be honest and to the point.
What you see is what you get kinda deal.
Oh my gawd, did I write this in my sleep?
i think your taking notes from suckster thomas^^what with the caps and the randiness
Love this rant. You may have just ranted about everything I have wanted to rant about in a long time. Love Love Love it.
Lolz
Yeah OP you tell him/them. Have a donair for me while you’re at it.
Your jaw hurts because you allow it to hurt, OP. Nobody told you to smile nicely like a performing arygle sock. You chose to mask yourself rather than spew all the bitterness, anger and rage you really feel. Get some professional help – I have a feeling this is just the tip of one honking big iceberg.
I figured the sore jaw was from grinding teeth while sleeping! I do this but have since got a bite plate and can no longer pop my jaw out of place :P!
lol yeah but… seriously this is the best GD bitch I’ve ever read, it really struck a chord with me. Every single thing she said I agree with, all those things bug the piss out of me, dimwitted white people’s stupid remarks and all. (I assume the guy was white , can’t picture an Asian or Indian or any person of color saying something like that. What a douche.)
I’m just glad that there’s one less person out there smiling when in their head they are picturing themselves bludgeoning the person do death with a tire iron. Seriously something about pissed off women turns me on lol, I like the energy.
Unleash your inner bitch OP, you’ll feel alive again!
well, i think you came to the right sandbox
ah halifux, home odf the silly people and inane ideas, from city hall. just be a little more patient o.p., the end is coming in may of next year.
If you can’t control your own damn kids, you shouldn’t be having them. Tell her to get your legs tied shut.
i’ll go out on a limb here, is that you donk, doing the o.b. thing today. i feel really bad that people are what they are, people.and of course, people do and say idiotic things, now and again. i put myself in there too. i’m not perfect, just perfect for me, how about you?
It sounds like your need to be polite is totally overboard and has crossed the line into phoniness. I understand the obsession with manners; I feel the same way you do about them and I resent the position it puts me in at times; I think some people sometimes take advantage of overly-polite people and dump more shit on them as a result. They take a polite smile as encouragement to harp on and on about this and that boring/innapropriate/rude crap pertaining to themselves, but I don’t necessarily think it’s always intentional; it’s natural to take a smile as encouragement, afterall. If you’re not encouraging them in any way and they still take advanatge, then you have more of a right to be angry. So don’t smile so much, OP; it disarms you and people pick up on that very quickly. Especially in the case of selfish pricks, they’ll use it against you and leave you feeling angry and depleted. You should be more honest and draw the line sometimes; you’d probably be less resentful. You’re phony but that isn’t other people’s fault afterall; it’s yours.
You keep using parents in your bitch as examples of this rudeness while I find that there are just as many non-parents who take advantage of seemingly open ears. I’m a mother and I make it a point NEVER to push my child on other people… live or in conversation.
It’s not me LS. It does sound like me somewhat. I’m not 40ish though, lol. We can all be silly sometimes, but the difference comes in recognising it.
well they won’t mistake you for myself…
I tend to wear the more subtle scowl or leer.
trust me, it’s much more effective at people leaving you alone than being all phony and acting ‘chipper’. me, I’d sooner throw you into a wood chipper…
Yeah I thought it was you too, Donk. I forgot about the OP being 40ish. I don’t know how old you are but I assume you’re younger than that. I wasn’t sure if you were black or not either.
I feel sorry that it took OP 40ish years to realize these harsh truths. People who walk around with a smile all the time are either repressed or just fucking stupid. Seriously, you can’t be that happy all the time.
While I think the comment coming from the guy on the beach about how he “didn’t think your people burned” was ignorant, I don’t really think it was racist. It’s a pretty common misconception from what I’ve seen; ‘the fairer a person’s skintone (ie, redheads), the higher the risk of sunburn”…etc, is something you hear pretty often, whether it’s true or not. Personally, I don’t know the facts, except for that even the darkest skin is definitely still vulnerable to the sun. I’d say the guy didn’t know how to approach and so just came in with a really akward line.
“If you can’t control your own damn kids, you shouldn’t be having them. Tell her to get your legs tied shut.”
I agree in part. That way there will be less of your kind being born and polluting the Earth and human blood lines.
The “you people” part of it would rub me the wrong way. I didn’t know dark skinned people could burn either, till I dated a black girl last summer. There’s better ways to come at people.
He probably wasn’t trying to be rude, but in my opinion, NOT trying NOT to be rude is almost just as bad. It’s called being inconsiderate.
The reoccurring theme in this bitch is people just letting their gums flap without even considering other people. That’s a good example. Like, how many times do we have to get beat up or given dirty looks before we realize that no one likes to be called “you people”.
OP, being approachable is definitely a valuable asset that, alas few women today possess. Don’t lose that, but don’t be afraid to speak your mind! EVER! You’ve lost a lot of time to pretending you give a shit, you can be polite but firm:
“no offense Ron, but I’ve got some work to do here and I really don’t have time to hear about juniors weekend antics”
Anyone who works in an office can relate to your post. People really feel the need to tell you about their lives. You know why? Because they know you won’t flip out at them because you might get fired. Deep down they KNOW that you would give anything to not have to hear their bullshit but they go on anyway because they just HAVE to tell people about their stupid lives. They need constant chatter because if they are forced to shut up for a minute they start to realize how pathetic they are.
This is why I don’t talk much, when I do talk, people listen. I only open my mouth if I really have something meaningful to say. Something I feel strongly about, something that I need to get off my chest. Not what I did yesterday and what I have to do tomorrow or how cute my little cousin is, or was when they were born.
I’ll stop now.
And Z, it doesn’t have to be hateful to be racist.
It’s amazing how people who suck the life out of others have radar for the nice ones and move in for the kill! Don’t make eye contact!
“You people.” Yikes!
Thank you Tommyjules, I’m well aware of that fact. Like you said, you didn’t know black people could burn until you dated a black girl. Would you say that you were racist for that, or just ignorant to certain facts about the sun? As I said above, it’s a common misconception; one that I don’t think stems from racism, but rather a lack of knowledge about suncare; why else would you hear of so many people believing a “base tan” prior to travelling somewhere hot would prevent them from burning? Because alot of people dumbly think that the darker their skin is, the less likely it is to burn; they see a beautifully dark skinned person and assume the person doesn’t have to worry about sunscreen. I’m not saying the guy wasn’t rude for asking: I agree with you there. but I don’t think it was necessarily racist.
PS Tommyjules: I agree with the “…you people” thing; it implies hostility. In this case, however, I don’t think this guy meant it that way.
People annoy me too, but I disagree with tommy about how people who are nice are usually fakes.
Sometimes I don’t feel like being social when i go out so I just don’t bother being ‘friendly’ and I’m rather stoic when people talk to me. Not rude, just not interested (which is perfectly ok) — usually just with strangers though. I’ll always be great with people I run into that I know…. however, sometimes I will admit that I’ll see people I know and avoid them because I just don’t feel like being social. Usually people I don’t know all that well though. I’d never avoid NGF, for example. But that’s just cause I don’t HAVE to be all chipper with that fat bastard.
But, when I’m in a relatively social mood or a non-blah mood and I’m nice to people (I tend to be extra cheery — blame the meds, heh) I actually mean it. I don’t tend to put on fake emotions when dealing with others. Polite and respectful doesn’t have to mean hurting your jaw by being fake nice.
And OP, I would’ve called that fuck out at the beach. You don’t have to be a raging kunt about it — but you really need to learn the difference between being assertive and being a doormat. It’s not impolite to be assertive. Number one thing my mamma taught me and she’s got hella respect from pretty much everyone she knows. 😉
“… they see a beautifully dark skinned person and assume …” I don’t think many people think that way Z, but it’s all ignorance sooooo whatevs … I guess …
I’m not generally one for small talk and tend to just be silent which sometimes comes off as aloof. I’ve been told many a time to be happier … when I actuallly was. What can you do OP, nothing … take off the fake smile. Who cares.
The way the question was worded was racially insensitive. Maybe not racist, but that depends on what your definition of racism is, everyone’s is slightly different.
There’s nothing wrong with pointing out racial features in a respectful way, imo, but when you just come up to someone and say something that sounds like something you’d say while looking at an exhibit at a zoo, it’s offensive.
The bitch contradicts itself slightly here, though. First it says that he saw her applying sunscreen and came up and made the remark, then it says that he chatted her up about nothing for 10 minutes and topped it off with that remark. To me it makes a difference. Either way the use of “you people” is where I side with OB. You don’t say stuff like that.
I bet I could have made the same remark in a less retarded way and got a laugh out of her (a real one, not a fake). If I chatted her up for a bit and then was like “you know, I really had no idea that black people were prone to sunburn, I guess I learned something today.” I don’t think that’s offensive. It’s really not about what you say, but how you say it. Ask any salesman or comedian.
I bet she just has this approachability to her, it’s a gift and a curse, but if you just learn to say no to people and not be afraid to upset them, it’s awesome. Being approachable and not knowing how to blow people off is a deadly combination. I’m surprised OP doesn’t have kids! You can’t have that much trouble saying no OP.
No see, PK, that’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about people who are CLEARLY fuckin phony as fuck. You don’t make an effort to always smile and always be EXTRA nice to everyone. You’re who you are, depending on your mood. You’re real. You’re PK all day every day.
For the record I am a nice guy, I just ain’t that nice. I’m not defined by my niceness and neither should anyone else be. You should be something besides nice. When people describe me they use words like passionate, straight-to-the-point, maybe sometimes opinionated although I don’t like that term. At least they know me for more than being nice. I truly don’t believe that people make an effort to be nice just out of the kindness of their heart. They want to be liked and they fear confrontation.
Like I say, when people can’t find any other words to describe you, THAT’S NOT GOOD! Especially men but women too, I know I don’t find overly nice girls attractive at all, they’re annoying and I feel like I can’t trust them. They also have difficulty saying no which is a huge red flag if you’re looking for a long term relationship. Girls like that are usually promiscuous/unfaithful, in my experience. They just can’t say no to anything without feeling guilty. The moment you’re not around and some other guy tries to holler they can’t turn him down. It’s never their fault later either.
Come on, how many times have you heard the words “he’s really nice, but…”
When a girl gets back from a date with a guy and she says “he was really nice” there probably won’t be a second date. Usually if she likes him she’ll say something like “he was just… aaaah”. Nice ain’t sexy, it signifies weakness to a lot of people and this bitch proves it. I’m not saying you should be a mean person, just don’t make being polite and nice to everybody your top priority or you will ultimately be unhappy. You gotta put your happiness first.
If I say something that pisses you off I want to know that it pisses you off. Especially if that wasn’t my intent. How can people change their ways if they don’t realize they’re hurting others? That idiot at the beach still probably has no idea that what he said was inappropriate and the next person he makes a comment to might physically harm him. You should have said something.
I don’t want a nice girl, I want a bad bitch. I can leave her alone for a couple hours and have to worry who and what she’s saying yes to. She knows how to hurt a dude’s feelings. Like, if you’re nice to everyone, why should I feel special?
You’re not the type of nice person I’m talking about, but I know you know exactly what I’m talking about, everyone knows at least one of them.
The kinds whose jaws literally hurt from walking around with a fake grin all the time. If you’re always smiling, no one notices how pretty your smile is, if you’re always nice, people tend to take it for granted. Niceness and smiles should be earned, not handed out to every asshole you interact with.
It is not rude to tell someone who is ignorant (i.e the man on the beach) that they are being ignorant/racist. And its not rude to tell dumb people (who don’t know it) what you honestly think, especially if they consider you a friend and can’t come to a realization on their own that may help them grow as a person. People need to hear it strait up. They might be offended a little at first, but they may come to realize later once it is out there, and appreciate you for it. And if nothing else, at least then they may be a little more tolerable to you.
I like that you aren’t rude to these people, but speaking your mind in a matter of fact type of way doesn’t have to come out that way, … unless you want it to =P
Your life, what others say to you, how they treat you and perceive you, is what YOU make of it through effective communication.
I feel like most people, especially whites, are racist to some degree, but you don’t have to be hateful to be racist. Sometimes a lack of initiative to educate yourself can be racist in itself, but it’s a continuum. There’s being wilfully ignorant, and then there’s burning a cross on someone’s lawn. You can’t equate the two, but drizzle and a hurricane are both weather.
I enjoyed this bitch for its sheer unadulterated rage.
I don’t plan on having kids, it’s just not for me and I hate when people act like having kids is the greatest thing ever and that I’m missing out and ruining my life and will die old and alone etc. Like….that may be true? But why do you care? Argh, anyways, I like reading STFU Parents, it makes me feel good.
I used to be so nice I was really stuck in doormat territory. I was so sugary sweet nice that sometimes I made myself sick. Then I met NGF.
Heh.
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when are you getting married? when are you having a kid? when are you having another kid? don’t just have one child, that’s not right…piss orf. sorry, i’ve gone off on a tangent
Nothing wrong with being nice OP. You have to be civil because you live and work in a society but, at the same time, you have to look after yourself and your own mental health. Hit the gym, go to yoga (try to avoid the one with the shirtless guy), rant on this site anything to channel your anger.
You just need a learn a little assertiveness and tact. Keep a positive attitude and try to “train” co-workers and others into respecting your boundaries.
You seem like an intelligent lady, don’t let life’s drones get in between you and your happiness.
unfortunately, too many people are thin skinned, and let every little word get to them. i will not point a finger to anyone, or race. but fact is, we are all fucking human, or so i have taught. maybe it’s time to take down some of the bullshit barriers and realize that. i have been cursed at, and insulted in at least 20 different languages and dialects. do i let it bother me, nah, because i don’t give a fuck what anyone thinks of me.
that is being real, right up there with my likes and dislikes. if someone gets all bent out of shape, because i differ from them, too fucking bad. you do your thing, i’ll do mine, so to speak. but it still comes down to being too fucking sensitive about anything and everything. i smoke, fuck those that don’t. i drink once in a while, fuck those that don’t. see where i’m going with that line. now, maybe everyone on this fucking planet, maybe should try it out. a lot less shit will go on.
Reaching for my dictionary….
“i have been cursed at, and insulted in at least 20 different languages and dialects.” how do you know?
i hear it on the internetz. and some was german, greek, hindii, lebonese, italian, french, spanish, and the dreaded u.s. drawl;. to name some.there are more, but some i can’t put here, because it might offend others. no, martian tiang was not one. but fuck me, klingon was in sept. of year.
Yob Tvoyu Mat – Russian for “Fuck Your Mother”
Va Fanculo – Italian for “Fuck Off”
Quss Umakh – Arabic for a part of your mother that it’s not very nice to talk about, at all.