I know a relationship is hard work and commitment and compromise but God dammit, when is it my turn? When, in all of this, will you try and actually satisfy MY needs instead of obsessing over what YOU need and want. I’ve done this for so long and you can see I’m worn out and near my wits end yet you just keep asking for more from me. You’re crushing me.
Just because you’re too sensitive and broken and needy and your mom was a bitch and you have tonnes of baggage, why does it have to be dumped on me? Why has OUR relationship turned into something you can use a crutch? If you actually gave two shits about how I feel, like you say you do, you’d end this sorry mess you call a partnership and let me go. You’d let me be with somebody who can truly appreciate me instead of trying to hoard me all for yourself like a desperate little puppy clinging onto its master’s leg because it can’t handle being left alone.
You make me hate you. Do you have any idea the amount of resentment this builds up? And then I’m still supposed to WANT to have sex with you non stop? Do you even listen to yourself?
You’ll never let me go, not even for your own good. You don’t want to try and be stronger and challenge yourself or anybody else. You’re too weak and dependent. You threaten to come undone and I can’t trust what you’ll do to yourself. And despite everything I actually do fucking love you for YOU, the person you used to be, the person you showed me when we were first together years ago and the one I fell in love with. The healthy person who I deserve to be with.
You let fear become the driving force in your life and now I’m stuck to either circle the drain with you and try my hardest to fix YOUR life so our child won’t grow up in a broken home, or just leave to look like the cold partner who destroyed our little family and let the guilt eat me alive.
And of course you’ll play the victim. Your whole life you’ve been a victim and it makes me sick. Take some fucking responsibility for your own feelings and stop making everybody else do it. Be a man. Be my man, the one you used to be. —Your Girlfriend/Therapist
This article appears in Jan 12-18, 2012.
DTMFA
Wow … did I write this?!? I have soooo much to say, but not the time to do it now … but to summarize in the meantime, and as unfortunate as it is, I agree with Koda.
Time to bail, OP, not just for yourself but for your child as well. Let Mr. Victim wallow in his own fucking misery – the longer you stay with this putz and put up with his emotional blackmail, the more bitter you will become. Don’t do it to yourself or your kid.
It sounds as though you are being held captive against your will. You ask for your husband to “let you go”…well why don’t you use those 2 pins connected to your hips that God gave you to free yourself and walk away from this? I suspect you’re the dependent one because the next thing you say is “Oh I looooove you”. Stop playing therapist and get one yourself. Nobody likes a nagging, manipulative, frigid bitch.
Lots of people have shitty childhoods and shitty parents — thing *is* at some point you have to get over that shit. Yes his mother is a bitch, but as a grown adult, he should be working towards accepting that and moving on instead of using you as the crutch you say he’s using you as.
I know people in their 50s who still use the fact that their childhood/parents sucked as a reason why their lives are failures and why they’re so affected. It’s pathetic. Get some therapy and move on. I certainly didn’t have a childhood that was filled with sunshine and cupcakes all the time, but it is what it is. I can’t change it, and if I let it consume my life than I’m the only one suffering in the end. I accept the shitty parts of my childhood for what they were, and focus on the here and now.
I’d give the boyfriend an ultimatum: get some help/get over it, or find someone else. You have to take care of yourself and your own emotional well being, OB. As much as I hate Dr Phil he is right on one thing: people treat you how you allow them to treat you. Your boyfriend uses you as an emotional crutch because you enable him to do so. The sooner you stop doing this, the better off you’ll both be (because it sounds like he needs a big fat wake up call).
PK, I agree. I have friends with some pretty shitty upbringings, but instead of letting that past drag them down their whole life, it instead became the catalyst for personal change. If your parents sucked, you should be an awesome parent because you know what NOT to do. If he’s depressed and resentful all the time this will influence the child to a great degree. Children, especially very young ones, take in a great deal of information from their surroundings. Your child will be influenced by his negative attitude, change that! Either by changing his attitude with therapy, or change the child’s surrounding by dumping his ass.
Kick him to the curb. Maybe then he’ll wake the fuck up.
While I agree that a relationship takes work & there has to be, give & take etc.
I have never felt it was HARD WORK.
Plus there are times you both need a little space, time out with friends etc. doesn’t mean that there’s cheating going on, you IMO shouldn’t be in a relationship if you & your partner don’t trust one another.
Trust is huge IMO, without it you really don’t have anything.
I fully empathize with your situation, OP. Breaking up is never simple…when your left brain tells you it’s best for you to end a relationship, your right brain flashes back all the good times and you can’t bring yourself to do it. The “ultimatum” is a good idea…couples therapy, psychologist, etc. If your partner shows no willingness to fix this, then it will probably eliminate any guilt you might have had and make the decision easier for you. Good luck.
Sounds unhealthy OP. Time for both of you to try and find happiness apart.
Why are you waiting for him to let you go? You’re an adult (I assume) you can leave, you don’t need his permission.
OB, your co-dependent behavior is enabling him. If you want things to change you’ll have to change your own behavior instead of waiting for him to grow up and accept responsibility and change himself.
I am going against the grain of the other posters here. It seems you have children in the mix. If you don’t then run, but you do. So what you need to do first is get him counselling.
The reason I say don’t DTMFA is that you have children and breaking up with him will cut your time with your children in half, and you don’t want that.
If he won’t go to counselling get him this book.
And all you other Men out there would do well to read this and all you women should buy this for your man (trust me)
THE WAY OF THE SUPERIOR MAN.
This book helped me like no other. Honestly, Men, even if you think you already are a superior man, READ THIS BOOK! It helped me, and it can help your man.
You can’t help someone who’s not reaching out to help themselves. It’s not her responsibility to save him. Having a child with someone shouldn’t be the determining factor in staying in an unhealthy relationship. The children suffer living in environments where the parental relationship is toxic. The children would profit more from having there mother take care of herself instead of allowing herself instead of being emotionally drained. Who knows what the custody arrangement would be or if the separation would need to be permanent. Until OB makes a move, however, no amount of pleading, cajoling or threatening is going to bring the man to change. She needs to put herself first by taking responsibility for her own well being so that she can be present and available to her actual child. She is not responsible for her adult husband. He is responsible for getting his own help and in order for him to receive any benefit from it he has to want it. He ‘getting him help’ continues to put the onus on her to make him the priority when she needs to focus on getting help for herself.
A shock to the system is needed. Leave him for a minute or two. That won’t fix things, but will put him, and you in the right frame of mind to make the changes needed to move forward. But really, what the fuck do I know?
Change is scary, OB. Moving home to Hfx from PEI when my marriage went tits up was an amazing part of my journey. I was fucked up about not being a “good husband” etc, but after I got back into life as a single man, I realized I have a lot to offer someone. I have a great gf now, and I wouldn’t change a frigging thing.
Be strong and move on. You deserve it.
Wpaul
Jesus Christ, I was just venting. Read the title, it’s a bitch not an advice column.
What kind of loser would take advice from a group of weirdos online? I mean, seriously….I really hope all you people at least work for The Coast or else this is totally pathetic.
The same 6 people commenting on everyone’s rants all day long because they see it fit to judge strangers and dish out their annoying opinions based on nothing but snippets from one small part of their lives. Sad. Instead of constantly preaching, why not get under the goddamn microscope and fix yourself.
Nobody cares what you think.
Um… some of us were trying to be nice, you fucking c-unt.
As far as I’m concerned, from your asshole response, you deserve what you’re getting.
Have fun being your emotional fuckbag boyfriend’s crutch! You obviously deserve it!
Twat.
Right. You heard her, gang.
Carry on, socommon. You’re doing fine. Everything is peachy and coming up roses in your world. Everything’s going to be ok. Just stay the course. Ignore everything that was typed before this and have a great life.
Do you not get the concept of a bitch board, socommon? People come on here to vent, bitch, spew, whatthefuckever and the kind people at The Coast have made allowances for ANYBODY to come on here and make comments, good, bad or indifferent, to your post. That’s how it works. Why in the blue fuck did you come onto a PUBLIC FORUM to air your private, personal problems anyway, if you didn’t want anybody to comment on it? If nobody cares what we think, as you stated, then this is a non-issue. Our opinions shouldn’t be affecting you to the point of ragging us all out like you did. Right?
Also, no one, anywhere, anytime said you had to take anybody’s advice from here. You don’t like it, don’t fucking read it. Simple.
Best of luck, bitch.
BWA -HA-HA-HA-HA . Socommon – for the win – j/k. – At least I looked up from my microscope long enough to check out her new sitcom:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sAHp5lv4RQo
….. bitch
If you didn’t want opinions/advice, than why did you post here, on a board that allows comments, socommon?
On top of the bargain, the vast majority of us were supportive, kind and wanted to offer words of support, and for some reason, in your warped mind (perhaps your bf ISN’T the issue here — do you actually HAVE a bf, or is it just someone you conjured up in your head? Because you seriously sound like one crazy bitch) is a horrible contemptible thing to do worthy of getting bitched out and insulted.
You need to get a grip on reality you dumb, ignorant bitch.
You type like an unattractive woman, socommon.
LOLz – This is just like the time that Kay posted a vicious bitch about Desi – and then had it deleted. >: )
There is no bigger loser than the bitch who bitches the kind of bitch you just did and then not only sits on her hands and does nothing to change her situation but resents that other people care enough to comment and then denies that there’s really a problem. You are the worst kind of bitch and the most pathetic loser and I feel very sorry for your child.
Perils of relationships. In some ways it was hard enough to gather who was truly dragging whom towards the ‘drain’, as there was enough drama on each side of this mess to float a few plays. But from the ‘update’ of ‘thanks’ from the OB, I’d say that the two of them may not have got what they bargained for but seem to have received what they deserve. Enjoy folks! Can only hope it does not end up in a lot of violence. Too bad there is a child in the mix – another ‘relationship disaster’ in the making for someone else down the road. Yeesh!
the suckster to the rescue, ditch that lame mother fucker in a flash, then get hold of me. satisfaction gaurenteed.
What really makes me laugh is that she claims “no one cares” about what people here have to say. That may be true, but on the flip side why should anyone “care” about your sadsack I’m a Martyr for Love diary entry? Obviously you hoped someone would care…at least enough to read it, if not to comment. Or else why post it in a public forum.
Seriously…relationship bitches are the worst.
It’s true Mole Rat. People can’t handle the truth and don’t want change, it seems. The devil you know as they say.
Lol wow, what’s wrong with wanting to vent about something just to vent. To be fair, that’s what the site is designed for. I never asked for advice yet everyone started telling me what to do. Maybe you’re jut not used to someone telling you to back the fuck off and that;s it’s not your place to tell other people how to LIVE.
You’re all just waaay too defensive (and so easily riled up). And isn’t it funny how “anyone can post whatever they want” yet when someone doesn’t worship your ass or simply disagrees you come out with ‘cunt’ and ‘bitch’. Classy.
I was just making a point that nobody was asking for your all-mighty opinion. I wouldn’t be so peeved if I hadn’t noticed there were literally a group of you who judge everyone on this site on EVERY bitch like some life-coach drill sergeant perched on their high horse.
Also, my child does not need your pity. She’s a few months old but I’m sure she already has more sense than you.
I’m kind of wondering wether you (OB), had the courtesy to have this enlightening conversation with him? It sounds like it may be too late for that anyway, you already seem to be carrying a pretty heavy load of resentment already. If the little whiner can’t grow a set, time to punt him back to his mom for some more punishment.
You are a weeeeeirdo!
We aren’t telling you what to do, we were simply being kind and offering advice, empathy and sympathy. Venting on here’s fine, but part and parcel of this site is the ability for others to comment. If you don’t like it, don’t write a bitch. And spitting in people’s faces when they’re just trying to be kind is about as low as someone can go. Lou’s right — that makes you the worst kind of loser.
I mean, are you for real? You are upset over something and some people who really don’t have to give a shit about you offer some supportive words and you shit all over them. That, my dear, makes you a c-unt and a big fucking bitch — none of us pulled those labels out of our asses — you earned those titles all on your own. And you talk about class? You wouldn’t know class if it hit you in the face. No one’s telling you how to live, and MAYBE if you’re that sensitive and take shit that personally, your problem is more with yourself than any of us.
In any event you seriously need some help because Lady (and I use that term very loosely), I highly doubt you’re playing with a full deck of cards and having a crazy ass mother is not really a positive environment for a kid to grow up in.
You should’ve swallowed and saved some poor innocent child a lifetime of dealing with a crazy ass mother who’s a classless bitch (I can just imagine what you plan on teaching this kid about the way the world works and how to treat others). I mean, you’ve seen what it did to your ‘boyfriend.’
OP, you are a typical bitch. If you really love him, you won’t be looking for a million fucking reasons why you shouldn’t have sex.
I really feel as though this classless c-unt is going to bring all of us LTWWBers together, guys.
Maybe we should thank her for this. It was about time we had another kay around here — someone who we could all agree is a huge whack job. Group hug, guys?
One Group Hug – coming right up
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I think there needs to be a mandatory class, starting in junior high, explaining to people how the internet works. And also more education in pregnancy prevention. Who the hell has a child with some dude who’s messed in the head, especially when they don’t even have a real desire to have sex with them? This can’t be real. Where the fuck is Zilla?
Well, if it *is* real, Mel, that kid’s got two whackos for parents.
Too bad the foster care system sucks so badly.
Op.. listen. You got into a relationship with a guy who has mommy issues, a ton of baggage and clearly traumatized. Did you expect things to go any differently than they did?? What about this situation surprises you? Disappoints you, yes. Totally understand your frustration. But you’re talking as if this all came as a shock. When really.. it shouldn’t. At all.
This will not change. You are doing the same thing every day and expecting things to change. That’s lunacy.
You’re pulling the same routine every day and expecting things to change.
That’s illogical.
So much for beimg supportive…
Go fuck yourself. He’s the one in the right, and you’re a typical psycho hosebag.
I wouldn’t fuck you with Montrealman’s penis(sic).
For frig’s sake, Survivor, when will you ever learn?
Wpaul
Soooo glad I don’t actually know human beings like you. You think this is the world? Do you actually think this sad site is reality? Get over yourselves.
You stoop so low it’s depressing, but not surprising in this city. Calling me ‘unattractive/hosebag/cunt/whore/psychotic person who should have never had children? Well who the fuck are you, huh? You literally know NOTHING about me or anyone anonymously posting on this site and yet you talk to everybody like you’re fucking Jesus Christ.
Don’t act like being a self-righteous, bossy, ill-informed, hostile, pushy stranger is actually ‘caring’ because it’s not. It’s you throwing out your opinion, the only thing you people are capable of actually caring about, and acting like maniacs when someone (admittedly harshly) tells you it was not warranted. It’s not empathetic and it’s not welcome. Maybe some folks like that or need that from strangers but where I’m from, you ask someone to back off and quit being disrespectful and people usually oblige and apologize.
I’m not mistreating anyone, I simply asked you all to back off and not offer advice when you really aren’t being asked for it. That’s a dangerous hobby.
I just needed to vent so that I wouldn’t lash out and could keep supporting my boyfriend through one of the many rough patches that comes with the territory in a committed, long-term relationship. And suddenly, a panel of ‘experts’ (9 outcast hipsters sitting in coffee shops all over this pretentious city) do what they do best and attempt to preach out their nonsense to whoever will listen and act like it’s noble. So who’s the weirdo?
You need a licence, to drive a car.
You need a licence, to own a dog.
You need a licence, to hunt.
You need a licence, to go fishing.
You need a licence, to get married.
But, you don’t need a licence to have a child…too bad.
Poor little tyke, born with to strikes against her 🙁
I know you aren’t interested in advice, tough shit. Get to counciling, or your daughter will grow up to be just like mommy & daddy.
http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_AZFO4yZmDiY/TE5_…
RSVPs
: wheeliep Bader (Jan. 13, 11:50PM)
” I wouldn’t fuck you with Montrealman’s penis (sic).”
I must say, Wheeliep, that in addition to the physical impossibility involved in the exercise, I found the comment to be in extremely questionable taste.
There is, of course, the further question as to whether you would be able to handle the beast.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
“the beast” – Lolz
http://thegreasiest.files.wordpress.com/20…
Finally, someone willing to comment on their own bitch; I LOVE IT! Your insanity is entertaining. Whether you agree or disagree with socommon props for continuing the discussion instead of bitching and running.
@OB: If you’ve read this site for any amount of time you’ve noticed that if anyone bitches about any kind of problem they’re having, people are going to offer advice (of varying degrees of helpfulness) in the comments. So why post a cry for help sounding bitch about how your spouse is emotionally abusing you (threatening to have a nervous breakdown or worse if you leave?) and then be surprised when people try, in their own limited internet way, to help you? At least you could have said “I’m just venting, don’t need any advice” and saved people wasting their time.
By the way – here’s some more unsolicited advice from someone who comes from a “broken home” and whose parents really should have divorced long before they did: your kid won’t break if you two split, assuming the divorce doesn’t draw out for years and the kid is used as a pawn. Sometimes I miss the family I grew up with but I don’t miss the years of quiet tension between my parents. Yes divorce is sad and people may blame you for it. They don’t matter. All that matters is your kid. Even if you don’t divorce, even just taking some time apart might be a good idea. Take it or leave it. Good luck.
Ah, socommon… you are clearly an adolescent, probably a high school dropout, if you honestly believed that you could treat this newspaper’s write-in feature as a personal diary and not expect commentary on it. You are probably thinking that working in Internet porn might be a nice side career, being all anonymous and all…oh, wait.
Occasionally, the fine folks at this publication actually commit these sorts of things to paper – with ink! – and distribute these paper and ink confections throughout the city. Trust me (or not) when I say that what you’re reading on these boards is merely a cross-section, not even turned up to 11, of the comments your little rant on paper will have generated in coffee shops, music stores, restaurants and bars; hair salons, gyms, doctors’ and dentists’ offices, call centers, kitchens and everywhere else where people may gather and talk about anything but shop and school and kids and parents.
You, and your emotionally-stunted, possibly trapped-feeling boyfriend and the unfortunate offspring of this now-toxic, clearly played-out union, are being or will be discussed, most of it out of your ability to control, whether you like it or not. If I were a betting woman, I’d say they’ve been discussed among your relatives and friends already, in detail, to the point at which your parents are merely sighing in resignation and offering to take the baby every weekend and probably a few days a week besides while you and he try to “work it out.”
At the risk of being chewed out for actually listening instead of being written at, here’s my one and only suggestion. Leave, with the baby, for about a week or two, somewhere he can’t contact you; then, after you’ve cooled your jets, set up a meeting with the father of your child and hammer out the details of a breakup – visitation, support, the whole nine yards; have your breakup plan already in place and leave it to him to negotiate. Tell him why you’re leaving and what you expect from him from here on out (he _is_ that child’s father after all, isn’t he? Isn’t he?) If he gives the clear vibe that he does not want the breakup, lay out what needs to change in order for him to stay, then HOLD HIM TO IT. Otherwise, it’s over between you and now you know it’s over.
However, don’t you dare presume that this board is merely a place for you to vent without consequences or even a response. We’re not your posse; we’re not your personal army; we’re not here to validate your every nuance of emotion or to sympathize (though we may, if we feel like it.) If we feel like commenting, we will, and you may not like what we say. In the end, though, we really don’t care. Freedom is the willingness to accept consequences. Part of growing up is accepting consequences.
MMan:
“The Beast”
Lulz!
Socommon:
I love it! Anotger dumbass that believes the thread is her “personal property”.
Survivor, you have a competitor!
Love it!
Wpaul
if you don’t want feedback, don’t vent on a public forum where people are invited to comment and then take the time to come back and read the comments, let alone create a user name so that you can comment on the comments. that’s not advice, merely simple logic.
Ahahahaha wheelie!
This whack job actually expects us to apologize? Ahahaha. Please tell me how ’empathy’ translates to ‘disrespect’?
I anxiously await your response, Survivor 2.0!
FFS, WTF is DTMFA?
Dump
The
Mother
Fucking
Asshole
“And suddenly, a panel of ‘experts’ (9 outcast hipsters sitting in coffee shops all over this pretentious city)”
L-O-FUCkING-L. I just lost urine I laughed so hard. Our crimes against humanity are diverse and many; not by the wildest stretch of psylocibin induced dementia could any of us be called hipsters. A+ for effort, though.
Okay OP here’s what I won’t tell you. I will not offer the opinion of you and your SO seeking out some sort of therapist to help sort out your issues. Why? Because he obviously does not seek the approval of his mother and definitely not, by extension, yourself. I will also refrain from mentioning that keeping a child in a toxic relationship may not contribute to permanent psychological damages.
“You let fear become the driving force in your life and now I’m stuck to either circle the drain with you and try my hardest to fix YOUR life so our child won’t grow up in a broken home..”
Your child isn’t in a broken home now and moving out won’t help he/she to mend.
You seem to be a pretty stable person OP so maybe you should maintain the status quo.
BTW, if you want to vent and not receive any feedback, LTWWB is definitely the right choice.
I hope this didn’t help.
OP your lashing out responses to your own bitch post show you are the one that needs help. As one of my fellow posters stated if you don’t want opinions on a Bitch column than don’t post on a bitch site. Write in your journal instead. Most and I say most posters here are supportive and are trying to give you advice(even if it is harsh) and or support. People give advice based on their own experiences so don’t think people here don’t know what they are talking about. You are indeed in something unhealthy and your responses confirm that.
hope you turn your life around and find some happiness, especially for the child.
Next time try Kids Help Phone.
Whoops! That was advice. Alright then… umm.. go breastfeed your baby. In public. In the coffee shop I’m in right now so I can giggle atchu. Does your bf buy you flowers often by any chance?
@Montrealman – sorry to hear about the passing of “Harlow” If I understand correctly – that was her litter name? What did the M-Man family call her?
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: Col. Ivan Sonoabitch (Jan. 14, 6:20PM)
Well, thank you Ivan, but I didn’t realize that I had mentioned it on this site. I usually like to avoid personal things.
Yes, I’m afraid Harlow – that was her kennel name and, since we adopted her at the age of five we kept it as her household name – had to be put down at the age of 15 1/2 on December 17. Her original parents, a very nice looking young couple, were splitting up, and the lady who owned the kennel contacted us to adopt her since our other whippets came from there. The couple were crying as they left her which was very sad but Harlow – she would rush to the gate when she saw a lady with long blond hair getting out of a car across the street – eventually adapted.
She was really the most gentle whippet we have ever had – always wagging her tail regardless who she met – and there is still a strong absence in our lives. I’ll post her picture later on my avatar.
Thanks again for your kind thoughts.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Awww MoMan — I’m sorry to hear about your loss. Animals become family and it can be as hard losing an animal as it is a person in your life. <3
“not by the wildest stretch of psylocibin induced dementia could any of us be called hipsters. A+ for effort, though.”
~Ivanski
LOLZ, I know! Aren’t hipsters usually one of our biggest sources of bitching-entertainment? ROFLZ.
One of the biggest, at least Ms. Kitteh. The sole bright spot about the shoppe moving to D-mouth – Unless the #10 develops a reputation as the most “ironic” bus route in HRM – NO more slack-jawed hipsters coming in asking “Do you ,like, have any Bukowski?”
Speaking of which, some twat forgot his pack of Juicy Jay rolling papers at the counter today.
I hope his copy of “The Alchemist” makes up for that crushing loss.
Just dealt with a loverly couple from Quebec. My faith in the inate decency of humanity is temporarily restored.
Sorry to hear about your loss, MM – as an animal lover, I know how hard it is to lose a member of the family. My condolences.
OP, I gave you some pretty solid advice, based on my years of viewing situations such as yours so sod off.
I didn’t make it to the cafe but I wandered into a whiskey distillery. And my hip needs some oil.
Hah! TTFN and Hub-Unit – the original hep-cats. 23 skidoo.
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…and here’s hoping that the
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had a Happy Birthday.
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: Pretty Kitty (Jan 14, 8:22PM) & TTFN (9:25PM)
Many thanks for your thoughts. I’ve just posted a picture of Harlow lying down in front of a row of differently-coloured tulips in our backyyard as my avatar. As the “Bio” note indicates, the different colours represent individual whippets who have already passed away.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
thanks ivan, i made him a turkey dinner. he was lamenting the absence of turkey sammiches after christmas. very sorry to hear about harlow monsieur
Lucky Bear >: )
A lovely way to remember your dogs , Montrealman.
This whole thing sounds like a set-up.
jesus dennis, sorry to hear of the loss of harlow. whippets are one of the most beautiful canines going, next to great danes, and greyhounds.
hope things remain cherry for you though. and not let it get you down.
but sosocommon, i just have to say that you are eing very, very fucking rude to the people that inhabit this site. most are decent people, with the exception of moi. i’m just an old horny dog. ask anyone here, they will tell you.when and if advice is offered on this site, you have the option of paying heed to it, or not. most of the bitchers here, come from many different backgrounds and jobs. don’t be surprised, if one is not into psychology, such as i used to be, years back.
there is deffinately a varied cross section of people reading this column, either online or in print form.and as one other poster said, don’t be surprised, if you family and friends read it, and recognize you for the bitch/vent that you wrote.
there is a need for asking advice from time to time, else we never learn a thing, or from mistakes that we’ve made in the past. i feel for you, being in a bad situation, but myself, have been there too. as have a few others on here, you can tell by reading what they say. don’t get pissed off at us, we are/were only trying to help a fellow human out. and in this city, that is something that doesn’t happen too much. the people here are good people, having met a bunch, at one time or other, and seeing others, that didn’t see me. yes folks, the old suckster sees a lot, but does not tell all. anyway, hopwe that you will at least read and maybe heed some things that were said here, it might indeed help you now, or in the future.
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: Paingirl (Jan. 15, 10:32AM); Col. Ivan (10:42AM); Life Sucks (1:15PM)
Thanks again from Harlow. She was the last of the “H” whippets from Clearhound Kennels in eastern Ontario and now all that remain are “Lily” (Madeira) and “Wynnie” (Magnolia) from the “M” litter. Although Harlow was their grand aunt – she was the sister of their grandmother – they thought she was their mother. While she was alive they acted like pups, often making a nuisance of themselves around her, but now she’s gone they have become quite subdued, often just lying on Harlow’s cushion and staring ahead. I guess that’s the way whippets mourn.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
My deepest and sincere condolences to you and your family, Montrealman, for your loss. Having once had greyhounds myself, I know just how very special a breed they, and whippets are. Almost magical. Very regal, (in both stature and sometimes personality).
I used to love taking them to a fenced-in ball field and watch them break into full stride blinding speed. The absolute embodiment of freedom.
Looking at your picture, your Harlow was a beautiful animal and judging by your posts, it would appear that she was very lucky to have had such a gracious and loving family as yours.
I hope you can find some comfort in the memories of the past 10 or so years that she was with you. If there is a doggie heaven, (and I like to think there is), I know she is up there now, in full sprint, chasing that ever elusive rabbit and having the time of her life.
*walks in*
*sees the raging douchecunt*
*turns around and walks away*
Worry not, O-man. Thou hast the edge in charisma, agility and hit-points so cast the Spell Of Vinegar & Baking Soda and roll dem bones, me old son.
Hahaha I’m fully aware of that, but the XP and loot I’d get aren’t worth the time or effort. 😛
A NEAR CLASSIC: REFLECTIONS ON “SOCOMMON”
(Thanks for your thoughts, Avasto.)
Montrealman has reflected on “My Breaking Point” and has concluded that is a near classic “Trap” which nearly, but not quite, is to be awarded three stars. It falls nicely into distinct parts, the first being – wait for it – “The Trap.”
1. The Trap: Socommon writes well and at length but, most importantly, inserts classic ingredients into her bitch. There’s the wimpish boyfriend, still attached to his mother’s apron strings, the young child they had, and Socommon herself WHO STILL LOVES HIM! This is a sure-fire recipe for the commenters, particularly the females, to coo and offer their sympathy which, of course, they proceed to do.
2. Empathy and Sympathy: The commenters, to a man (or woman) offer their support, advice, and heartfelt feelings for Socommon’s plight.
3. The Blowback: Socommon’s first response is to REBUFF ALL SUCH ATTEMPTS! She just blows them all off! She just “wants to vent” so take a hike. But look at her pseudonym. Those conversant with lower-middle class English (from England) will spot it in a minute. “Common” is lower-middle class Britspeak for low class “chavs” (another bit of Britspeak) and, by extension, “So-common” means very low-class chavs. In other words, Socommon has laid the trap and the commenters have fallen for it. She can now proceed to spank them which, of course, increases their fury. Things are going swimmingly, but here Socommon falters.
4. Socommon’s second response simply continues dumping on the commenters who, predictably, become even more enraged. But, and this is why Socommon wasn’t awarded the full three stars: She should have turned it around and begin to OFFER EMPATHY AND SUPPORT FOR THE COMMENTERS! She might have recommended things like anger management, reflective self-awareness, and so on.
But it was a very good effort, and two stars is nothing to be ashamed of. Let’s hear it for Socommon!
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
P.S. By the way, I’ve just gotten off debating education with some Brits on City Journal (city_journal.org) in the comment section of Theodore Darymple’s piece, “The Less Deceived.” I’m using the same pseudonym so things should be quite simple to follow, for those interested.
Also, to further Mel’s point: http://www.cracked.com/article_18861_5-int…
Sorry for your doggie-loss, Mman. I had a great cat for 13 years who was with me through some very hard times, who died 2 1/2 years ago. I still miss his company. I’ve been thinking about getting a brother/sister kitty pair to replace him. The thought of holding my Ernie when he was put to the Big Sleep is the only thing keeping me from going to the SPCA. Maybe this Spring.
(back to normal)
FUCK YOU MONTREALMAN!!!
(wink)
Wpaul
Well … Socommon … initially I didn’t have time to write everything I wanted to and was going to comment at a later time … sharing perspective from my own life experience which, unfortunately, sounded eerily similar to yours. However, seeing your reaction, I will not be taking the time to do so. Good luck in your life, it sounds as though you need it … and I’m not saying that to be a smart ass.
socomom you’re just pissed because people are telling you things you don’t want to hear.
People are trying to help but you’ve got your head so far up your ass you’re too thick to see it. And instead you call them horrible people for trying to fucking help you.
You aren’t going to get the response you want. You need to deal with that. You’re clearly a very emotional person and emotional people tend to get very distraught when they get an answer that doesn’t involve waving a magic wand and miraculously making everything okay.
There is no answer here that will satisfy you. You are basing your expectations on SOMOENE ELSE’S behaviour. That doesn’t work because you can’t control that person. You can only make your own choices.
Grow up.
Haha, exactly B! Except that parents can’t teach their kids those things because they have no idea about any of those things themselves! Socommon is the perfect example… submitting a personal journal entry on the INTERNET for anyone in the world to see, and more importantly, thousands of people in this city who might know who she is, and not expect anyone to ever read it or say anything about it is idiotic!! I see that someone had “liked” this Bitch on Facebook, meaning even MORE people who might not even read the Coast will now see it. Fucking moron!