It’s ten years since our year & a half, wickedly naughty and completely rule breaking affair ended. Affairs don’t tend to end well and ours was no exception. Still, from another country, you called me at my office today to say that you still love me and that I’m not really the monster you’ve been making me out to be… at every opportunity, apparently. Well, I still love you, too, or that ideal image I have of you occasionally. Believe me when I say that I prefer to remember ‘us’ through rose coloured glasses, but usually I just remember how many people we hurt and that is nothing to brag about.
And that’s why I’m here writing this bitch. I’m amazed that Mr. Brain wants to take a vacation down south every time I think of you. Still! Damn biology and damn brain that checks out every time you come near… exactly when it should be working overtime to stay the hell away from you.
I’m going outside to chop some wood (and not the so-to-speak kind either). Hell, I have a family and so do you! —Dumb-Ass Once is Enough
This article appears in Jan 12-18, 2012.
Good on you, mate. Walk away and don’t ever look back. It’s a gift you owe to yourself.
10 years.. jesus.. Good for you OP
Boy oh boy.
Love never goes away, you just have to deal with it. Humans are not born with a memory and feelings delete button, BUT, you do control who you contact, and you should cut off contact with your old lay for your own good.
If anyone, affair or not, called me up 10 years later talkin about they still have feelings, I’m changin my phone number. I’m not THAT awesome, she’s probably just crazy.
Hopefully your partner finds out about this.
DROP this now …… sheesh, this is one crazy bitch! I have been in relationships with marrieds before and to me it was just play time ~ for some of them it meant a way out of a bad situation — got ugly most of the time.
Having had a long distance affair only caused my arse to accumulate more miles than my frequent flier card. Ya know, the “new car smell” wears off rather quickly when ya take home a used vehicle.
are you sue it’s not the other brain that is doing the thinking about this other person? my top brain cuts out too, when the bottom brain sees a nice ass.
Sebastard, you sound like one effin’ tattletale.
Though I agree that open & honest communication is important to a healthy relationship, you have to know when to be open & honest and when to shut your mouth and let dead dogs die.
OB said other people were hurt by the events ten years ago. Get that part? Ten years ago. OB answered their phone at work, got pulled through a vortex in time, and got bugged out by the flashback. What good would opening old wounds for others do for anyone? I say chop more wood & say good riddance to the whole deal.
Why u so defensive? … … *suspicious eyes* … …
Yoiks! I didn’t do it, honest! lol. Oh my, did you know your eyes are beautiful when they’re filled with suspicion?
(Meanwhile, back at the ranch: “Darlin’, I have something to tell you. I think you should sit down….”)
You made a big mistake OP, you seem to be over it somewhat ten years later. Yes, let sleeping dogs lie as one poster was trying to say but you are human, you did it for a reason, a selfish reason but something was going on in your head to allow you to that all those years ago. This woman was special to you, that’s loaded into Mr. Brain and sprung when you got the phone call.
However, it is time to put Mr. Brain to work on something else.
you can never make the same mistake twice. The second time you make it, it isn’t a mistake it is a choice.
I think Tommy is right after 10 years someone is ringing you up again, can’t be good. People change.
I have to wonder if the ‘Unsaid’ love signed by Wordsworth was what prompted the contact.
OB, sometimes memories are best left as just that, and based on what you’ve written it seems that this is one of those times … but I think you know this. Good luck dealing with the flashbacks and staying on the path that’s best for you.