To the MAN parked in the mother to be/newborn parking spot..
oh sir.. when are you due?
get the hell out of that spot and let someone who needs it, use it! They are there for a reason and i can assure you its not for you alone in a car talking on your cellphone!
When you exit your vehicle and i say “excuse me.. when are you due?” and you chuckle and say “get a life you crazy bitch”
Did you not see the 4 yr old in on hand and a 2 yr old in the other.. and the big ol preggo belly i have?
Walking/waddling with two small children in a parking lot where people are jackasses and DO NOT LOOK where they are going is not safe!!!
im limited to the walking which i can do a day, those extra 50 steps is not the end of the world no, but it makes a difference.
—gonna go in labour!
This article appears in Feb 19-25, 2009.
My oh my, what did women do before these came along!
Perhaps next we should get motorized carts beside the spaces so you don’t have to walk at all….
or perhaps the eco-friendly way is to just make the driver carry you instead. You shouldn’t be walking or driving in your condition….
That was a little prickish to say, but there were tougher times and things turned out ok. You’ll be better for having to walk those few steps.
I’m not condoning his actions… I mean either he’s an ass for parking there for no reason, or he’s an ass for getting his pregnant wife/gf/mistress to go into the store without him.
just thought I’d get the post started by throwing in the first bit. it’s one item myself and TTFN actually agree on.
I agree with you too zZz. The guy is definitely a douchebag for a) taking the spot and b) cursing at the woman in front of her children, but it’s not the end of the world. 20 years ago, there were no expectant mothers parking. A little bit of excercise will do most new moms or moms to be some good. (before I get bitched for this, I know that some pregant women get lots of excercise, but most don’t get enough. Look it up). And the parking spots get abused by both sides. I’ve seen women with 5 and 6 year old kids use the spots too. Myself, I would never use one because I actually park as far away from the entrances as possible. Statistically speaking, your car has a better chance of being damaged the closer you get to the entrance. People who park further out are in less of a hurry and less likely to damage another vehicle.
I’ve never understood them and I never used them even when I was ready to pop…
You can walk around the mall for an hour but you can’t walk an extra few steps in the parking lot?
While he might have had a young mother of his own at some point in that car, his attitude sucked ass. May he be doomed to find out that he’s someone’s daddy which will make him a legit parent of a small child.
I think these mommy to be spots are ridiculous. But that said, maybe this “douchebag” was picking up his 8 month pregnant wife with four kids hanging off her. And why is he an ass if he left his wife alone. maybe she didn’t want him shopping with her. Geez talking about judgemental. My mother had 6 of us and she thinks these spots are ridiculous.
I’m hoping the OP said something to the man who parked in the space also.
Don’t you hate it when people complain about shit on here but do absolutely nothing with the situation arises?
I can somewhat understand the OP’s frustration, yet, I don’t really care. Sure, it sucks. But it’s not like you can’t walk a few extra steps – right?
So if a men drops of his SO and kids at a store then heads to do some of his own shopping, then returns to pick up his SO and children is he not allowed to use this space? Does he have to explain to crazies why he there? The crazy gave this guy attitude first, by giving an unrealistic comment, if she was normal and curious or nosy, she could have asked if he was picking someone up…blah blah. This crazy made a judgment call before knowing squat, she got what was coming. Didn’t her parents teach her about judging a book by its cover? Is the OP implying that only women drivers allowed to park in these spaces? that would be news to me. I don’t recommend calling an highly emotional women names but sometimes…
Ok, so what most of you are saying is that just because it’s not the end of the world we should stop having common curtesy and common sense. What is they were parked in wheelchair accessible parking spaces and left someone to walk the length of the parking lot on crutches, or to try an d squeeze their wheelchair out of their car when in a small normal space. Do you still agree that it’s not the end of the world? To someone who needs to deal with this every day, should we not go out of our way to park in another space and leave the marked ones by the doors for someone that needs them? Or if your building is burning down and cars are parked in the firelane so that the fire trucks can’t get in, would you say something ridiculous like it’s not the end of the world? What if you had no insurance…? Bet you’ll think twice in parking where you aren’t suppose to. Duh!
Hey zZz, what’s it gonna be? You say here, “My oh my, what did women do before these came along!” yet on that “other” post you were all for the young mom at the back of the bus to be ever so accommodating as to move her shit so someone can sit down. I ask you, oh my! what did people do before they had legs to stand on, walk with, etc.?
There’s a reason moms-to-be spots aren’t written into traffic law unlike handicap parking and, yes, people have to be told because people are quite stupid.
I wonder what people did before there was a law dictating what should be common behavior? Maybe way back then they knew what speech was invented for? I wonder what happened?
This just proves once again that most of the people that comment in here have a hate on for kids and parents alike. Doesn’t matter what the bitch is about if it involves kids or parents there is always negative comments made.the reasoning behind being a little more courteous or understanding to parents with small children seems very unrealistic to people in here.
It’s like when people bitch if an able body person (with a handicap sign) parks in the spot and walks in a place (esp if a young male) saying what’s he parked there for. Again that person could be picking up his wheelchair bound grandmother but all the douchebags see is an ablebodied male getting out of a vehicle in a handicapped spot.
OP here..
This man was not picking someone up, he walked infront of me into the grocery store picked up a chicken meal and walked out to his car, there were no carseats in the car.
Did i say something to him? you bet your ass i did.
I spoke with customer service and they simply told me that they cannot monitor the spots.
Actually the few extra steps i had to take are not safe for me. as a high risk pregnancy im only permitted on my feet for so much time a day, If i do not go buy my children food then who will? My husband is overseas and i have no family here.
These spots are for people who need them.. can i get one every time i go? No i cannot nor do i expect to. This man shouldnt of been in that spot.. period..
MeShell: are you REALLY likening pregnancy to being physically disabled because if you are you need a reality check.
The fact that the guy was sitting in the car talking on a cell phone does suggest that maybe his SO waddled into the store or wherever you were at and he stayed behind to finish a call or make a call.
Anyway, my feelings on the subject are pretty much the same as everyone else’s: pregnant women survived without those spots 20, 10 and even 5 years ago (they’ve just started popping up within the past 5-ish years, I swear), so what’s the big deal? And if you physically can’t walk an extra 50 feet then maybe you should be home on bed rest instead of going to the mall/grocery store/wherever.
And Enlighten Me’s right: if you can walk around a mall for an hour, why is it such an injustice to have to walk a few extra steps from the parking lot?
Anyone remember that bitch a year back or so when that 8 month pregnant woman was bitching about someone who wasn’t as pregnant as her using the pregnancy parking spot? Shit, pregnancy’s turned into one big pissing contest: who’s more pregnant, who can’t walk a few extra steps, who can’t do their job because wah wah they got knocked up and chose to stay knocked up. Fuck sakes. In Soviet Russia women worked in the fucking fields until they popped!
Pregnancy and being a parent with a young child has turned into one big entitlement. Newsflash: people have been doing this shit for thousands of years, it’s not really a big deal to anyone but yourselves. I repeat: no one cares you got knocked up and no one cares you had a kid except yourself.
PK, no one cares about much of anything except their own comfort and convenience. I think that’s a very sad commentary on the direction in which we are moving as a society.
It *is* sad, but it’s human nature i.e.: survival.
We’re no better than the animal kingdom, really, and all they’re trying to do is survive. Screw the other guy.
But we can choose to be better than that, PK. It may be futile. It may be that the march toward a dog-eat-dog society is inexorable. But I will continue to resist it in whatever little ways I can. And that means that I will extend these little courtesies that so many here seem to feel are undeserved and unwarranted. I wish more people felt the same.
I agree with both PK and SA. This is bleedin’ ridiculous. Pregnant women have been doing this shit for years. Just because you’re pregnant, does not mean the world revolves around you (although you probably do have gravitational pull around month 8). To the OP: this is gonna be real harsh, but guess what? Just because you’re in a “high-risk” pregnancy, that means that people do not need to obey or accommodate your every whim/need, regardless if your husband is out of the country or if you’ve got 8 kids on your arms. You chose this pregnancy, you get the responsibility and risk associated with it, and in this case, the situation we have here today. Sure the guy who did that is a fucker for stealing the spot, but that’s life, and no one owes you any favours. Finally on one parting note; sure, I sound like I have a hate on for people with kids or people who are pregnant, but that’s my choice. It doesn’t mean I’m inconsiderate or selfish. Need I mention that pregnancy is a selfish act?
Fever, I don’t really see how your comments constitute agreement with anything I said. I actually think people ought to respect little courtesies like special parking spaces. No one is obliged to go out of his way to make someone else’s life a little easier. But in the value system I was raised with, when we encounter someone who would benefit from a little extra consideration, and we can offer it without significant inconvenience to ourselves, we do so. We offer that little extra courtesy, cheerfully and without resentment, not because we must, not because the other persone has a right to demand or expect it, but simply because it is the right thing to do.
Unfortunately for us all, that value system appears to be gasping it’s last.
Dear OP
YOUR PREGNANT NOT DISABLED. Exercise is good for you and your children. The store is right they can’t monitor parking spots and I am sure they don’t care either. If I couldn’t find a parking spot somewhat close you can bet I am going to park in the prego spot, and think nothing of it. What would you do if those spots weren’t there? I will tell you what you would do….You would walk those few extra steps high risk or not like everybody else. Suck it up your pregnant not dead, diseased, disabled, just pregnant. Why not create parking spots for men with kidney stones. Give me a break lady
Dear OP
YOUR PREGNANT NOT DISABLED. Exercise is good for you and your children. The store is right they can’t monitor parking spots and I am sure they don’t care either. If I couldn’t find a parking spot somewhat close you can bet I am going to park in the prego spot, and think nothing of it. What would you do if those spots weren’t there? I will tell you what you would do….You would walk those few extra steps high risk or not like everybody else. Suck it up your pregnant not dead, diseased, disabled, just pregnant. Why not create parking spots for men with kidney stones. Give me a break lady
Just because you are pregnant, it doesn’t mean you can’t walk.
If you’re equating pregancy and being disabled, then you’re an idiot. You can still walk when you’re pregnant you know.
Not initially, no, however, despite my comment, I still am respectful of other people, and I often “go out of my way” as you say, to do the right thing. Doesn’t mean that people who are self-centred and idiotic don’t deserve to be called out on it. I’m nice, but those who take that niceness for granted (the preggo spots aren’t law) such as our OP ruin it for everyone. That sort of attitude breeds resentment.
Generally, if we see someone who seems fine in a hanicapped/pregnancy spot we’ll jump to conclusions without knowing their situation. Maybe we should give people the benefit of the doubt more often, but then again, plenty of people are rude and inconsiderate and don’t deserve it.
Anyway the main thing I wanted to say is that even though some may not agree with “accomodating” pregnant women by giving them something as simple as a parking spot, shouldn’t we all just try to be a little more considerate because, even though it was their choice, the majority of us are walking with much more comfort and ease.
Whether a pregnant woman can walk or not is not the fucking issue here people. The issue is that this fuckwad parked in a designated spot, not unlike handicapped or reserved spots, for his own entitled convenience. No, the pregnant woman won’t die due to the extra walk, but again this is not the fucking issue. Unless all you fucktards, who have unnecessarily blasted the OP with your shit, are also the types to park where they shouldn’t. If that’s the case, may you all get towed or better yet, the boot on your wheel.
Actually, I bus a lot. And when I park, I park far away from the doors because it’s empty, and have less chance of getting dents in my doors. So now ticket and/or tow for me.
The issue from my perspective is that yes, it sucks. The guy is an ass. However, this woman is going ape-crazy because of it. Spot-Stealing happens all the time in Halifax, but you just have to get used to it. Really, in all honesty, why spend 10 mins in your car waiting for the guy to come out so you know that he got two chickens when you could have parked and in the midst of your shopping? The OP is complaining for the sake of complaining. You’re not entitled to the spot, it’s not law! When it’s signed into law, then you can complain all you want and watch someone get towed instead of watching them come out with chickens.
Also, as a poster here, I don’t have a hate on for kids – I have a hate on for parents. Many parents of today can’t control, or look after their kids. Swearing in front of their kids, smoking in front of their kids, letting their kids run wild everywhere, not giving a shit about one kid while proceeding to get knocked up with another kid.
I secretly hope they bring back the cane. Because we all know, schools are the only place for a sembelance of discipline these days.
Wow, I’m kind of surprised at the comments on here. If you’re not supposed to park there, DON’T PARK THERE! People with cars think they can do anything.
Kirbul – There are negative comments on every bitch on this board, thats what we do here. This does NOT mean that we all hate kids and people with kids.
And as far as the argument about not having these spaces before and being perfectly fine, well guess what, we used to live without electricity, so you can stop bitching about NS power and outages; We used to live without clothes, so give up on bitching about UGGS, Crocs, and tights worn as pants; We also used to live without Metro Transit, and we thought smoking was good for us!
so if we were able to live without it before, we can’t bitch about it being abused, or taken away, or not working now. There goes the bitch board.
im not really sure what to say on this one…expectant mother spots? unecessary? maybe not. but going a tad too far. maybe so. i mean dang, thinking back to pregnant women ive encountered growing up, i dont recall any of them having such a sense of entitlement that pregnant mothers have now.
its as though the whole world must stop and accomadate them for fear of being labelled an asshole, or heaven forbid…insensitive. im not against the spot so much as i amthinking whats the reasoning for needing such a spot?
@peoplearestupid
i think youve oversimplified things in your post. clothes are a basic need. electricity is not, but it provides the ability to cook and heat the other basic needs. comparing basic needs to expectant mother spots is just silly in my opinion. consider your quality of life without electricity and clothes…now consider the quality of a pregnant womens life is she needs to walk 50 or 100 feet further.
not even in the same ballpark. so i think its sensible to say that we lived for years without preggo spots, so whats the big deal? i hear a little exercise never killed anyone…even pregnant women.
These spots should not exist and therefore it is no surprise that many do not respect them. They have no legislative authority to back them up and are nothing more than politically correct promotional bullshit by Loblaws and their ilk trying to lure moms with kids into their stores to spend more money. Next thing you know someone will be complaining that there are no preggo spots at the liquor store.
Personally I think I’ll idle my gas-guzzling SUV there while I browse the tobacco shop buying cigars just to piss off the maximum number of people.
I’d say the comparison with power and the preggo spots is pretty valid. You guys are mostly saying get over it, you had to walk a bit because he was in your spot, you didn’t always have that luxury and you lived through it. I say, you have to deal without power for a bit, guess what we had to deal without power for thousands of years, and we lived through it. They’re both luxuries that it’s nice to have when you need them, but if you can’t bitch about one, why can you bitch about the other? Because more people want power than want preggo spots. Because preggo spots are for a minority, and are exclusive, the majority shouldn’t use them, so they’re jealous and petty about it.
To Keith: You simplistic twat! It’s fucks like you that make today’s society as ignorant as it is. Get over your stupid sense of entitlement and park in a regular spot with your goddam gas guzzling beast of a vehicle. You have no sensible argument at all to debate this issue and are only spouting ignorant shit to try and shock us. Guess what? I can see right through you, you fuck!
holy crap i didnt think this bitch would get this much attention!
the point of my bitch was not that i had to walk, if that space was taken by a mother to be or someone with children i guess id be walking none the less.. the point is that there was someone in the spot WHICH SHOULDNT OF BEEN THERE.
I didnt sit in my car to see what hes was buying i was walking directly behind him as he was walking in, i saw where he went as as i was picking out some fruit i saw him go to the checkout with chicken ALONE..
Its simple.. Dont be a dick.. dont be a bitch.. dont park in those spots if you dont need to. They are not law but what happend to just doing the right thing?
lalala: I agree with your bitch that the guy shouldn’t have been parked there and he is douchebag for doing so. But you have to admit, your post did come across as though you thought you have some sort of right to a closer parking space.
Especially when she pulled the whole “high risk pregnancy” card, Never Wrong, and said she COULDN’T walk the extra steps.
The whole “if another pregnant person needed the space then fine” is just a back step once she got called out.
Stercus……I know it’s too late but will you please be my valentine?
Kay, … I don’t know why I’m bothering to do this but, oh well…….
I’m pretty sure I’m right in line….
This lady didn’t have to PAY to get any of those spots.
We all (are supposed to) pay to get on the bus. We are all entitled to seats and get on with the expectation of one to sit in… ESPECIALLY when one IS available. That’s also why they recommend you give seats up for others who deserve it. It’s not mandatory last time I checked.
http://www.halifax.ca/metrotransit/policie…
If pregnant ladies had to pay for the convenience to use the spot and he parked there, then ya… berate and rant until your hearts content. Otherwise… well yeah, just wasn’t your day because of some idiot, just the same as if she were on a full bus and this guy didn’t give up his front-of-the-bus seat. He was there first so tough shit.
electricity a luxury? do you work for NSP, people are stupid? sounds much like the attitude they have.
“its not really an essential service here people. not like you need power to heat your home, provide lights or cook your food” that would be true if we all lived in caves. but since i havent used a rock for a pillow lately…such things are a necessity. if you want to deem power a luxury…i highly doubt its in the same category as preggo spots. geez.
PAS, without electricity, where would you plug in your electric blanket-mobile? Solve the pickle matrix, put on your hamburger earmuffs, and head on back to where-ever you came from. Power is not a luxury unless you’re country’s standard of living is abysmal.
actually zZz… on the Transit, I’m pretty sure it IS manditory to give up your seat to someone elderly, disabled or pregnant. When I was eight months along and got ont he bus (mind you I was perfectly fine standing. I don’t mind at all.. do it almost every day) no one wanted to give up their seat. the bus driver actually yelled and refused to move the bus until someone let me sit down. It’s a liability issue.
As far as the halifax metro site which posts the rules and policies, it isn’t. I posted it there as a reference 4 up, did you take a glance?
As far as the bus-driver helping you out…. I’m pretty sure that by now everyone knows they don’t always know/follow rules.
Nice of him/her, yes sure, but only required on rogue preggo-watching bus-driver routes.
“PEOPLE ARE STUPID” , If you read my comment throughly you would know I didn’t say “all” I said most people. And reading the rest of these comments solidifies my belief even more, most of you people are assholes. Get a grip for fucks sakes. This women is pregnant with two kids, all she asks is that the spot for “parents or mothers to be” are left open for just that. Most of you people say too bad you can walk like the rest of us…ASSHOLES, really are you that selfish, no those spots weren’t there forever, but guess what they are now so there must be a good reason for it. Right? Fuck what is happening to society really , just a little courtesy people it wont kill you. reading alot of the comments being made in here is making me lose faith in people. I picture a bunch of little snotty university kids typing away in their parents houses, sad thing is alot of these comments are coming from grown men and women. Its sad …really , really sad.
Look, all I’m saying with the Power argument is that your reasoning behind ” if you didn’t need it then, you don’t need it now” is faulty. And to show that, my argument works.
There are still lots of people in the world who live without electricity, it IS a luxury to them. In the developed world however, it has become a need because we’ve screwed ourselves out of living without it. We don’t live with easy access to natural resources, or available free food, we need electricty because we’ve grown dependant to it. But most of us can survive if its out for a day.
And Kirbul – “This just proves once again that most of the people that comment in here have a hate on for kids and parents alike. Doesn’t matter what the bitch is about if it involves kids or parents there is always negative comments made.”
I’m saying that having negative comments on a thread about kids does not PROVE that we mostly hate kids, it proves that you’re on a bitch board, where negative comments are made on EVERY thread, not just the ones about kids.
Kirbul– I see, your point, however, you’re refusing to see the other side of the argument due to the fact that you feel that pregnant women, and women with children are entitled (or at the very least it seems that you have this attitude) to these courtesies. It’s a very noble thing; however, that’s where it ends. Courtesy goes a long way in the real world, but I actually feel that the OP takes this sort of stuff for granted, and feels entitled to it, regardless of the amount of backpedaling that was done. That’s where my niceness ends. They chose to have children, so, as I mentioned, they get the roles and responsibilities associated with that “job”. It’s simple, really. People had regular pregnancy and “high-risk” pregnancy (what a load of bullshit that is, if you have high blood pressure when you get pregnant or fart the wrong way it becomes high risk) long before this sort of world we live in. Pregnant mothers have become fragile, and mothers with young children have suddenly become burdened. I think that is what is wrong with our society. When did mothers become so whiny and self-important?
Holy fuck, and the all important message here still flies over your heads. Bottom line, the spaces are there and marked. Don’t use them, whether you agree philosophically or not, and if you do, you’re an asshole or bitch. Topic done.
Fever, I’d like to try to answer your question: When did mothers become so whiney and self important.
Just a couple of generations ago, when I was a child, people automatically deferred to women with small children and pregnant women. It would have been unthinkable for a man or a young woman or teen to sit on the bus while a pregant woman stood. Even elderly men with canes would stand and offer an expectant mother their seats. Mothers were held in high regard, simply by virtue of being mothers. They never had to ask for or demand special consideration. That is no longer the case. Mothers, in today’s me-first society, seem to be held somewhat in contempt. I won’t speculate as to why that might be. But mothers and expectant mothers seem now to feel that they must fight for the consideration they feel they need. So perhaps they are not making new and unreasonable demands. Perhaps it’s just that they never had to demand these things before.
Holy shit there are a lot of comments on here… sorry, Ill admit I didnt read them all – so if someones said this already, consider this a reiteration of the point!
But lots of you are saying, hey preggo – why cant you walk the extra fifty feet?! And is it just me… or couldnt that dude have walked those same extra fifty feet? Jesus, lets be honest here – if neither one of them had hybrids they shouldnt have even been near the front of the store, right?
I dont think theyre a necessity. But I think the OP (even if she may have exaggerated her condition, even if its grossly exaggerated) had the right to say that to the man. Just like the pedestrian in that other thread had the right to biff the coffee on the driver who nearly killed him!
Oh but thats right too… theres probably more pedestrians than pregnant women on heres so… of course her halfway rude/halfway justified action is unacceptable where as the coffee slinger was ever so right! … Hmm. I think I exaggerated too much in that point, some of you may have been telling the coffee guy to chill.. cant quite remember – I think thats the sign for me to log off and let you guys razz each other into pieces :).
Cheers!
Has anyone considered the parking spot is paid for and the owner has chosen to pick pregnant women to accommodate with it? Isn’t it a crime when such a courtesy is ruined by others? It should be but it’s simply not law. 3 cheers for their thoughtfulness though.
As for all the comments about pregnant women… how they can work until they pop, blah blah blah… you know, Indians had quite an effective method of cleaning their rugs too. They would get a good stick and spend half a day trying to stay upwind of all the dust they produced while ‘cleaning’ and then, thank God, man invented the vacuum cleaner. Just because we can do things the hard way and our bodies can withstand it doesn’t we should… this is what technology is FOR!
OP, I must concur with my fellows here…
pregnancy disabled
hmm, they took my advice on how to prevent html in these posts… I meant to type ‘pregnancy does not equal disabled’