Stop asking me why I don’t want kids, better yet stop trying to convince me how to live my life and why your way is better.It’s none of your business.
I would never have the gall to ask someone why they decided to have kids, even if I would not have done the same in their shoes. It’s none of my business. My favorite is when people grill you about it, you say you’d rather not explain the reasoning behind your personal reproductive choices. They push the issue, often making gross assumptions about you —that you’re selfish, you hate kids, you hate your parents, you’re just a rebel without a cause.
Then you give them your reasons, they give you the same tired arguments you’ve heard a million times as if they are really trying to convince you to rethink or change your choice, then you defend yourself and said choice, and then, wait or it, they get the nerve to tell YOU that you have a chip on your shoulder? —Not ashamed to say it
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i hear ya op…”what’s wrong with you, are you gay”? “that’s so selfish” or my favourite, “you have only one child”?” that’s not normal, your child will grow up selfish and spoiled” piss orf nosey wankers
Being an only didn’t hurt me none.
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Hmmmmmmmmmmmm?
It is indeed none of their business, so you do not need to give them reasons. If they push it go on to other subjects. If they are still stunned enough to go on about it just tell them once and for all that the subject is closed and if they continue, then you will no longer speak with them, or if possible never see them either.
Hard to do if it is a person you work with, or a relative, but then again people have to learn to respect other people’s privacy. Just stick to your guns and do not go down their path of wanting to speak about things you do not wish to discuss.
However, if there is a reason that they can not always be avoided I am sure that they also have certain areas of their lives that they would like to keep ‘under wraps’. Turning the talk towards those subjects may get them to ‘belt up’, but best if you can avoid going that route, and becoming as cruddy as they are. However, there are times that fire needs to be fought with fire. Good luck with that and keeping or sharing your personal info as you see fit to do.
Huge double standard in our culture. Someone decides to have children, don’t you dare question it no matter their circumstances. Someone decides not to have kids, everybody thinks it’s ok to badger them about it and even try and convince them that their decision is wrong. How dare they?
This is my bitch I’ve just been getting sick of justifying my life decisions to everybody in this baby crazy ( and grossly overpopulated I might add) world.
I’ve put more thought into it than most people who decide to have kids, I think.
People got the nerve to call me selfish but a lot of people have kids for extremely selfish reasons. (I want to be a parent, I want someone to take care of me when I’m old, I want to preserve my legacy, my favorite, I want to see what it’d look like, gawd)
I might consider adoption and I’m seriously thinking about getting a vasectomy. No means no.
Talking somebody out of having kids is just as rude and disgusting as trying to talk somebody into it. Are you going to put clothes on my hypothetical child’s back? Food in his little belly? Buy me a house in a decent neighborhood where I won’t fear for his safety? Put him through school? Right, didn’t think so, so kindly fuck off. I don’t care if people understand my decision, but respect it or I won’t respect you.
“Why don’t you want to have kids?”
“I don’t want to talk about it”
“Well, what is it? do you hate them or something?”
“I said I don’t want to talk about it”
“I think you’d love it. I’m due with my second in 3 months…”
“grrrrrr… oh yeah, and why did you have to sleep with 38 strangers before you found one that would settle down????”
….
*crickets*….
problem solved.
I’ve heard this many times and I’m always surprised! I don’t have kids, never wanted any and nobody has every asked me why or shat on me for it!
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TJ you’ll have 1 child. It will be a girl. It will produce many grandchirrens.
Or perhaps
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lol u wanna help me out with that Donk? I might reconsider 🙂
tommy and the donkster making babies^^ thanks for the larfs snubiz
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hahaha aah fuck zZz.. that’s a good one.
Tommy being groomed to take Suckster’s place when he retires? Mighty big shoes to fill, Bra. >; )
baby… the other white meat.
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Well I guess you surround yourself with more polite and considerate people than most of us Snubiz, congratz.
I know people don’t really mean to be all that rude about it but if it were the other way around they’d have no problem calling you out on it and throwing a bunch of “how dare you’s” in your face.
Even if they’re on their 4th child, 2 of them with the ex that are neglected, and not supporting any of them. How dare I suggest that maybe they’re being stupid and irresponsible? Right?
I mean shit if anything, people should have MORE of a say in that situation because guess who’s paying for that baby bonus and those tax breaks you get? But it’s considered extremely taboo.
It’s pushed on us in the media and in movies and music and shit because guess what, the powers that be want to you to have kids, because it’s more money for them. On average it costs 250k to raise a child. Call me fucking selfish I don’t give a flying fuck, I’ll live with my decision, not you.
lol people keep making that comparison Colonel! I dunno I’m just a guy with opinions and a little too much time on his hands. It still amazes me that people even read my posts.
I get it out of me on this board and I feel so much better in real life. You guys have provided many a laugh over the past several months, as well as some perspective.
Tell them to collectively stick their middle finger up their ass and spin around on their elbow. No one should ever be made to feel guilty about not having kids – kids are a 20 year commitment, not a decision that should be taken lightly. In fact, there are a lot of childless couples out there perfectly happy NOT to have kids. The people with children who try to pressure you are simply part of that ‘misery loves company’ crowd.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DJc0pvBsugo
lol yes TTFN, why do people think that everyone should want the same things out of life?
I think it’s ass backwards personally, people should be badgered and given every reason why not when they start talking about having kids. There’s no need for any more people on this planet, it’s over crowded. There are millions of orphans who already exist who need a loving family.
But I would never say any of that to anyone who is considering having a family because who the fuck am I to tell them how to live their life? I just think that if anyone should be pestered, it’s them.
But I don’t think anyone should be pestered and forced to justify any decision they make that doesn’t hurt anyone else, especially that particular decision. Live and let live I say.
And we prefer the term “child free” to “childless” TTFN.
The number of people surveyed who say they don’t plan on having any kids has gone from 1 in 10 to 1 in 5 over the last 10-20 years or so.
Seafood is healthier Zedman.
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I know what ya mean Tommy. I’m a different Ivan than when I first started posting and I’ve made some hella good friends.
Heh heh heh. I was just fontune cookie-ing out. Plus… who says I’m having any children … 250,000 … uh … yeah no.
lol yes Ivan, I’m not new to message boards or blogs but this one has a very accepting nature about it. Also I’ve been engaged in some heated arguments with a couple posters but it’s never been personal. I’ll have a friendly conversation with Bro Tim or the Suckster a couple days after we drag each other over the coles. Nothing is taken too seriously.
I almost choked laughing looking at your pic. Babies are cute little buggers, there’s no denying that.
It’s not just the children issue. People will judge you on every fucking aspect of your lives because OH HAY everyone obviously knows more about what’s best for you than you do yourself.
Maybe I’m just in a bad spot/mood/whatever lately, but people need to fuck off and die with their bullshit and leave people alone with their unsolicited advice. It’s like, if you’re single, everyone who’s NOT is somehow better than you are (and obviously there’s something wrong with you if you’re single! OMFG!), or if you’re unmarried, those who are pretend they’re in on some secret that someone who’s not married, let alone *gasp* SINGLE can’t understand and is somehow less intellectually developed than you are, and if you’re single, unmarried AND childless and OMG you’re reaching 30, then you’re just some flake who refuses to grow up and god FORBID anyone take you seriously because WTF is wrong with you? SOMETHING must be wrong with you! *eyeroll*
Well, you know what? In 2-3-4-5 years when you’re paying out the ass for a family lawyer to handle your divorce and in another 10-15 when your kid decides they hate you because you exist, remember all the hokey shit you spewed out of your smug mouth of being so in love and having the perfect fucking family/life and choke on it.
That’s only 125,000 each Donk! Come on! Quit being so selfish! But for real I am going to start putting it out there really early in the dating process, I really want a girl who doesn’t want kids. That was one of the reasons me and the ex didn’t work out. I could tell as soon as I put it out there.
That’s the thing, people think you’re bullshitting, or that you can be convinced, or that you’ll change your mind, that EVERYONE deep down wants kids. It’s so acceptable to try to sway people one way but not the other.
Cute, yes. But you don’t want to overcook them…..
hahahahaha preach PK!!
OP, they’re just jealous their lives are over and dominated by their spawn children. Not to mention they don’t have any money for nice things anymore. Kids are a waste of money.
Ahhh I say your doing us a favor you’d probably end up being a crappy parent anyway. Thanks for not
lol see that’s exactly what I’m talking about.^^ Because I don’t want kids I must be somehow inept or inadequate. I happen to think that I’d be a great loving and responsible parent. Like I said I would consider adoption.
I don’t take the decision lightly, I think those that do are the ones who shouldn’t be having kids and end up being crappy parents.
Yes I’m trolling, sue me.
I don’t necessarily NOT want kids, I’m just realistic in the fact that kids/marriage/coupling in general are probably not in the cards for me and that I am most likely going to die childless and alone.
*shrug*
There’s nothing wrong with having a realistic outlook on a particular situation/fact of life.
Lots of people with children die alone. Besides, if you aren’t a cranky ol’ fart, the care workers will love you. Kids are not for everyone – there are no guarantees that your kid won’t be a psycho when they grow up – it’s one of the biggest crapshoots in life. That’s why lazy baby mamas on welfare honk me off – their parenting is only comparible to raccoons.
yeah PK, and what really gets me is when people take it for granted “I’ll be married with kids”
I think that’s so obnoxious to assume that you’re going to meet someone who wants to spend the rest of their life with you. If that’s what you want, and it happens, it’s a blessing. Never take it as a given.
OK, I’m changing the subject. It’s been on my mind. Anybody else notice that the same folks have been staring at us from the Coast Halifax Match over there on the right for, like, everrrr? Maybe, Travek4life, it’s because you say things like “i’m very random”?
It’s true, go to a nursing home and see how many of the residents have kids. Ask them when the last time they saw them was. You’ll probably be appalled.
I hate to say it, but if you’re having kids just so you can have someone to take care of you when you’re old, it’s kind of what you get.
It’s true Avast. Whatever happened to Datiffi. >: (
haha, it’s snubiz admiral, i have made that mistake a few times with t’others. i try not to look at that side unless jonnoman or 195 are on
Q “Why don’t you have kids?”
A) “Cuz I still like sex more than once a month”
OR
“It’s easier to buy cars”
Sorry Snoob. I’ve seen Jurassica Park about 3 times in various locales. Must mean I spend way too much time here – I have the faces memorized.
you have a minivan don’t you guyute
OP, if I was you, I’d give them a medical reason ( make it up ) and then break down into tears until they feel like crap for even asking. If they continue to ask, just keep crying and calling them insensitive assholes.
It’s always the people who already have, or who are planning on having kids, that ask, too. Not so much the people with “accident” kids! Heh. My theory is that on some level, of which they themselves may not even be aware, they feel that your choice is a subtle dig at them. I always remember this one guy, trying to convince me by saying “what about when you get old, who will take care of you/visit you?” Well, who cares, really? If I get that old and I’m really that miserable (doubtful), I’ll just run the car in the garage with the door closed… Not to mention stuff other people mentioned about how it’s no guarantee your kids will even give 2 shits about you, even if you were a good parent. Next time someone tries to nag me about not having kids, especially someone random, I’m just going to flat out say, “why do you even care so much about my life. it’s wierd.”
Admittedly, no one asks me if I’m going to have kids or if I’m ever going to get married because I’m such a loser that people just expect that no one would every want to procreate with me, let alone hang around for a ‘relationship’ let alone get to the stage where someone would willingly want to be legally bound to me.
So, that’s nice, I guess.
Hunh?
I called you Avast. Datiffi was a girl whose charms were amply illustrated on the Match site about a year ago. Haven’t seen them, erm, uh, *blushes* her. Yeah, that’s it, haven’t seen her in a while.
I used to really hate it when I was part of the ‘not getting any’ crowd, and people would say rude things like ‘ are you gay?”.
I used to have to drink beer so everyone would believe me when I said no.
mmmm……beer……..um, brb!
Come on PK don’t be so hard on yourself.
Funniest post I read elsewhere on this subject was
” White people are an endangered species”
Don’t want them, don’t have them.
Freedom of choice.
yeah,that’s right o.p., it is none of their fucking business. if yu just wanna fuck, and not have the sperm be a kid, is entirely up to you. p.s., watch out for fucked up condoms in your future. better yet, just swallow.
and i didn’t read the post before sending last comment, so the swallowing is out.
Yeah, I do. With a pretty nice factory stereo, I gotta admit.
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Taking delivery of this in two weeks, though. MUCH nicer stereo…
Let’s start a club called the Fuck for Pleasure Club. We can all get fixed and do all the fun things you can’t do with children like go to the casino or to a restaurant at an unplanned time. It will be like our version of a parenting group. Maybe we can even get the government to contribute to it as we are providing such a great service to humanity. They give grants to hippies to make art with roadside trash, so I don’t think we’ll have any issues.
sign me up Mel
you may need to tweak the name a bit… remember, the conservatrolls are in power.
first meeting should go well though.
we already have an agenda.
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We tell ’em her womb is ravaged by disease. They move on to other topics…
I read my name being taken in vain ^^ so I HAD to chime in, just to make it legit!
Good for you Tommy for sticking to your convictions. Like you say, it IS a double standard out there and it is NOT anybody’s business but yours as to the reasons why. It doesn’t make you any less a person for not wanting to have kids and, in fact, I’d be more inclined to respect someone for sticking to their guns then just caving in because they felt that they were being shunned or less of a person or whatever. Not to mention, having children is a HUGE committment, time wise, financially, socially, etc. It’s not a decision to be taken lightly, (as seems to be the norm lately). Kids seem to be more of a fashion accessory these days then a serious life altering decision. Like you said, the world is over-populated as it is. Give a loving home to an adopted child, someone who really needs it. (Or, as in my case, an adopted puppy fur-kid) As for “accident” kids, well, that’s another post altogether. That being said, people ask me where I was born and I always say “Just outside of Wedlock”. I wasn’t planned and I turned out ok. (*eye twitch/tries to bite his own neck*) But, I digress.
Bottom line, you’re not letting anyone pressure/bully/shame you into doing something you don’t want to do, based on YOUR own reasons. Good on ya. If they persist, I love GreatValue’s idea of feigning some irreversible reproductive disorder and making them feel like shit for even asking. Awesome idea!
p.s. PK, I gotta say, I know I have only been posting here for a short while compared to a lot of the regulars but, having read your various posts on countless subjects, it surprises the hell out of me that for someone who seems to be as intelligent, witty, educated, strong willed, and well liked and respected by almost everybody on here, as you appear to be, that you would call yourself a loser. Shame on you! I think it would be a very safe bet that others on here would echo my sentiment. You most certainly are NOT a loser. You’re the pretty kitteh, after all, and don’t you forget it! 😉
Having met Pretteh Kitteh in 3-D I can only say Avast you are 100% correct, plus she is, to quote Wheelie – “ADORABLE” Once my conversion to Islam is complete, she IS going to be my 2nd wife. Beer and Baby Back ribs at my place to celebrate – All are welcome. >; )
P.S. – No ululating – makes the neighbors cranky.
agreed admiral, i’d put her in a little gunny sack and fling her over my shoulder^^where would the kids go guyute? wait, don’t answer that…guffaw
Jeez PK! It never occurred to me I’ve never been asked that for a reason….
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D’oh! Thanks a lot!
Damn! I do so love a good ululate. (sigh)
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You CAN fire your AK into the air. It IS Dartmouth after all.
WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF HUMAN LIFE?
What is the philosophical issue buried in this thread, i.e., the decision not to have children? It isn’t a matter of being “selfish,” of failing to provide for one’s old age, and so on. No, the philosophical issue concerns the purpose of human life.
Recently, for example, on another thread, I was accused of failing to understand that it was having children which gave human life meaning. “Stephen,” I said, “the purpose of human life is not exhausted simply by having children. That’s okay for cattle, but not for humans.” Of course, this raises the question, “Well, what IS the purpose of human life?” I’m glad you asked.
To ask about the purpose of human life presupposes two further questions: (a) what is the nature of “purpose” and (b) what distinguishes “human purposes” from other life forms?
(a) Purpose itself might be seen to fall into two general categories, extrinsic and intrinsic. Extrinsic purposes cover things like life everlasting and so on. Our concern here, however, is with intrinsic purposes, i.e., those purposes connected with human life now and on earth. This brings us to the second question, i.e., “Just how is human life to be conceived?”
(b) Human life is to be distinguished from other life forms on the basis of the fact that we possess rationality. We ask that distinctively rational question, “Why?” This question then gives rise to different conceptions of human flourishing, that is, to distinctive philosophical positions. We have arrived at least at home base. What, then, are those distinctive philosophical positions?
Generally speaking, such philosophical positions break down into collective perspectives (i.e., political ideologies, communitarianism, and so on) or individualistic perspectives (i.e. skin-surface hedonism – are you there Mel? – existentialism, idealism, pragmatism, and so on). Our concern is with the latter, with distinctive individualistic perspectives on the purpose of human life. But what can one say about differing individualistic philosophies relating to the purpose of human life?
One, of course, can say a great deal but space dictates that it be said at another time and possibly another place.
That will be $10 please.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
P.S. If my stalker, The Turd, pops up with a comment on my post, ignore him. He is unbalanced.
When people ask me if I have children, I have two stock answers that I will share with you:
1. No (pause) none that I know of ..(love this answer because I am a woman)
2. Ohmygod! I left her on the bus!
you hear things often enough… you’re inclined to believe them.
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It’ll behoove ya’, to care for your uvula!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MwHWbsvgQUE
Aw thanks, Avast0 and Ivan! I was just having an INCREDIBLY awful day yesterday. I could’ve given zed a run for his money on the whole depressy thing. I went shopping for pillow fabric and groceries and I broke down crying in both stores over nothing. *sigh*
I feel much better today, though. I went to bed after big brother last night on timeshifting and slept until 4pm with moscar. They usually don’t both sleep on my bed with me because they hate each other, but they made an exception for their sad mommy. I’m going to visit two other kitties tonight too! I’m looking after a friends’ cats and they are wonderful kitties. They’re gingers, but for some gosh darn reason they aren’t soulless! They’re european short hair and have the prettiest faces. And the smaller one is the most affectionate kitty I’ve ever met aside from molly. They shed like motherfuckers though. It’s funny how short haired tabbies will shed like mofos, but long haired kitties like Molly hardly shed at all. Weird.
ALSO, back on the topic of this bitch: I was ‘unplanned’ and ‘earlier as expected’ as my mom likes to say when I ask her if I was an accident (mainly just to shit disturb, heh). My parents’ marriage was only two weeks old when I came along! She hates it when I tell people that. But it’s not like it’s not a matter of public record. 😉
ALSOx2: is it wrong that when I see babies I think of my fur-babies? :O
And, I have to ask: why is it that when people decide to only have one kid everyone needles them and keeps nattering on asking when they’re going to have another kid, blahblahblah? It’s not good enough that you had A kid, you have to get on having that second kid! My parents didn’t have another kid because they wanted to make sure they were financially secure and not stretch themselves thin with two. There are FAR too many people out there who have kids they can’t afford. I think that’s a pretty good reason.
Though, I also didn’t sleep through the night until I was four, wouldn’t go the fuck to sleep for hours when my mom put me down and would wake up 5-6 times during the night enraged for no reason and my mom had to work and my dad had two jobs so that could’ve had some, uh, impact on their decision to stop breeding after me. Plus I had a short attention span (which I still have), and my mom had to constantly entertain me when I was too little to be off playing on my own, which was a full time job in itself. I hated the swing-o-matic and pacifiers, too.
I was a high maintenance baby. Well behaved, sweet child, but high maintenance.
Ginger kittehs have souls, it’s just ginger bipeds that are hellspawn for whom the only remedy is FIRE, and lots of it. Glad you’re feeling more chipper today PK. SOBova’s going to be home soon and I’m going to have to find some way to explain that whole Islam/polygamy remark to her. >: (
I was told by a friend that I’m “not normal” because I said I have no interest in having children. I think aggressive breeders that try to force you to squirt/squeeze one out are “not normal” but that’s just me.
I’m so glad I’m not alone on this one guys, thanks a lot for your support. I thought I was the only sane person left on earth there for a second. I was sure some obnoxious parent was going to lay a trip on me and try to make me feel somehow inferior. I’m with you sodey, wtf is normal? We’re a minority, sure. Abnormal? Hardly.
And PK, it happens to the best of us. I’m in such a good mood today I think I had forgotten what it was like to be in a good mood and feel happy. I realize I’ve been a little jaded for some time.
I been layin off the pot I think that’s got a little something to do with it.
Yyyeeepp just took a couple puffs and I’m right back to feelin squinty, irritable, even a little depressed and resentful. I could just be tired though I didn’t go to bed last night. Or hungry…
Tommy
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No sleep + no food = agitation. Eat something light, have a beer, take a nap.
That’s what old folk do 🙂
Welcome Brother – Heh Heh Heh
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Glad I wsn’t having a sip of beer when I looked, Ivan.
Good laugh, on a couple of levels 🙂
Quit trying to tell me how to live my life Hugo!! Na, actually I’m in the process of doing exactly that. Hadn’t pulled an all nighter in a while. Was fuckin giddy (gack) until about 4 oclock when I was starting to nod off at my desk. This beer and pork chop is going to be better than sex. Safe, non procreational sex, even.
Pork chops & mushroom soup on mashed potatoes? =)
lol Just two chops, I never been a napper I’ll probly just go to bed early. I like to put my beer in the freezer for a few minutes before I drink it. I’m quite the gourmand.
Ululate means to howl or wail. Never heard of that word before. The colonel keeps me googling and I appreciate it.
On the topic of breeding, birth control is essential if our species is to survive with any semblance of a civilized society. Those choosing NOT to have children are the wise ones, the responsible ones. More young couples should adopt, there should be a way to make the process a little easier, especially with children overseas.
We are going to hit 7 billion in the next few years and that spells trouble.
Aw mannnnnn pork choppies with mushroom soup and mashed potatoessssss mmmmmmmmmm! I’m coming to hugo’s house for supper! 🙂
The pot is a depressant, isn’t it, Tommy? My allergies have been flaring up this week during the nighttime (sneezing/sniffly nose central RIGHT HERE!) and I think the allergy pills I took (nighttime formula) fucked with my happy brain chemicals because they’re depressants. Gravol can do the same thing.
yes it is indeed pk, and I’ve been puffing it quite heavily on a constant basis for the last 10 years, every day (multiple times a day if possible) for the last 8 years. I was in a good mood because of other stuff but I think it’s already made me more energetic and outgoing. Today was day 3 and even before that I had been weening, so I’ve smoked I think less than or around a gram in the last week, definitely not 2. I actually went into work with a smile on my face this morning.
I’ve quit before, for like a week or 2, but I don’t think I’ve ever really wanted to as much as now. I’m sure I haven’t smoked my last doob. I just need to get my life in order before I can worry about spending time, money, and brain cells on getting high.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it really, we all have our vices after all. Just not really doing it for me anymore really, to top it all off. It’s bad for your lungs, your brain, your immune system, it dries out your mouth and eyes, makes you want to stuff you face late at night, and for some people, including myself, kills your sex drive.
I’m 24 and I want to be in better shape and be getting laid more, among other things. So it’s goin on the back burner for now. I always said I do it because I enjoy it, not because I fiend for it. So wish me luck guys.
And I was taking decongestants too PK, so maybe that does have something to do with it as well, but today kinda made me realize that I’ve been a bit of a cynical prick for a long time. Being happy doesn’t come natural to me. I mean I’ve never been unhappy but being, I guess chipper is the word I’m looking for was never me.
pork choppies with mushroom soup and mashed potatoessssss – was last week pk
Tonight was chicken & riz & beer
Last night was Sheephearders pie, tomorrow BBQ Ribs 😉
Pot’s not really a depessant, has some of the properties, it’s a mild hallucinogenic narcotic.
I think the thing with pot is it has vastly different effects on different people. Some ppls it makes them horny, some opposite, some get more energy when they’re high and want to go play sports or something, others don’t want to get off the couch. Hallucinogen? Really?
Yay Ivan for mentioning DaTiffi and the twins lol.
Hugo that’s 1 of my many favorite meals! Uuumm cream of mushroom.
As for you Thomas – good for you!! Children are a big commitment and everyone shouldn’t have them. On the mama front though and defending the people who think marriage and kids are a death sentence – kids don’t equal no more sex and romance, it just means you have to put in more effort and be creative. Between breast feeding and keeping a 4 year old entertained n cooking n cleaning n still selling real estate n getting woken every 4 hours to feed – this was the exact life I’m suppose to be living and I’ve never been happier. Life is about choices and learning and growing so be the person you want to be Tommy and stop woring about what everyone thinks and don’t make excuses – just do it. I believe in you kid 🙂
man i miss the boy mamab
All set for 2nd year is he, Painey?
Rawk Rawk MamaBear.
yep, working seven days a week then 3/4 shifts when he’s at school. he was lamenting about the rude ttc drivers, i told him to start his own bitch board^^
I know bread lady. Time fly’s by so quick. I’m already dreading the day. But I’m loving every minute watching the cubs get bigger.
i’m not sad because he is living large but i miss him. he’ll probably come home with the squeeze for christmas
I know what you mean. I’m excited to see what the future brings and will be very happy the day he goes off to college or for work – being a proud parent of all his accomplishments and hopefully sending him into the world a smart and good person. Its just nice taking care of them for now and watching them learn new things. I just know I’m going to miss them so much if they move far.
Thanks, RC that was sweet of you, you sound like a great mom