To all you fucking assholes out there who drive by in your cars or stroll down the street,
you see a “hot” or appealing chick, so you decide to yell,
“hey sexy!” or just simply honk you’re horn with a disgusting lick of the lips,
Fuck you.
i am one of those constant female victams of these acts and what the fuck do you expect us to do? say “hey baby you’re sexy 60 year old man gut really turns me on, can i jump in?”
it really hit me how annoying it is when last week on my way to school, (yes school, i am fucking 16) when a 50 year old man walked by me and said, “you got a sexy ass”
fuck you and fuck you to all the other men who are carelessly yelling at young women.
This article appears in Feb 28 – Mar 5, 2008.
I’d be tempted to say: “Have you looked in a fucking mirror lately, you old piece of shit?”
Oh yeah, this really pisses me off. It’s as if by tooting the horn at you as they drive by, you’ll be suddenly overcome with desire. Like it’s such a big turn-on to be degraded in public. Like each time you leave the house, you dress to impress these fucking pigs. Like you just can’t wait to meet the man of your dreams as he yells something disgusting out the window of his piece of shit car.
Do women out there ever take it as a comliment? Seriously, does someone ever honk and you get all “cool, someone is noticing the effort I put into getting ready today?” I mean, if a guy at works says, hey, you look nice today, do you take that in a good way or a bad way? Maybe honking the horn (in some cases) is the same thing. I know that is not the majority of the situations, since the honk is accompanied by a leer, rude gesture or sexist comment (like “nice ass”). But from a 50 year old to a 16 year old is always a little creepy.
My theory is that this is about intimidation. It’s about men feeling powerless and inadequate, and wanting to punish you – women – for making them feel that way. Making you feel bad makes them feel a little better. If they have the power to make you feel angry/embarrassed/dirty, then they are not completely powerless after all. When a guy drives by and says something lewd, it’s not a misguided attempt at flirting. He’s not saying, “I think you’re hot and I wish you’d like me.” He’s saying, “I know you think I’m disgusting, but I still have the power to publicly humiliate you and there’s fuck all you can do about it.”
I agree with poop on this one! Ya know if i decide to wear my mini on a friday night with heals or a pair of pj pants i dress for me. no one else. i know that in my heart i look good or feel good. i don’t need little shitheads who can’t get it up yelling at me through their daddy’s car window. maybe when you got a real job and are a real man i might look at you but until then put your pecker back in your pants honey its only a three inch tool.
Well don’t worry. It’ll end sooner or later. I started receiving such verbal assaults when I was 13 and it was at least several times a week… now at 19 I’m a little too old for all these perverts and almost never receive such comments, despite being more developed now than as a 13 year old. Well, by ‘almost never’ I mean like a few times a month vs several times a week.Such sexual harassment is not okay, not excusable and can not be brushed off as something cultural, nor something the woman/girl is ‘asking for’ by dressing or acting a certain way. It is in fact DAMAGING to the individual and their psyche and I speak from personal experience.What should you do? Well talking about this sort of thing is important, deconstructing the reasons for it, and how this affects you. But in the moment? If you can summon your wits – scream and yell back. Call them a pervert. Call them a paedophile. If there are other people around that is, that you can humiliate them in front of. Trust me, I did this a few times (once in the Oxford theatre during a movie screening) and the horrified looks on their faces were well worth it.
Nice points matt. I also liked what Don had to say too. As a guy I never understood this tactic. I assume they must get lucky with it once in a while, probably on works on big sluts and/or girls with low self-esteem though. But sluts (male and female) tend to gravitate to each other anyway. Guys can be such tools at times.
Don’t worry kiddo. The best thing about skeevs that yell crap at women is that the majority of them are 50+ and will all soon die.
I don’t think it’s designed to “work”. Its just some jackasses being dicks. It’s also never going to stop, unless they stop making jackasses.Your best bet is just start hitting the cans of pringles. But not enough that guys drive by and call you fatty. There is a fine middle ground.
Next time it happens, yell their own licence plate number back to them as you write it down. Do it as a scare tactic, or actually remember it and report them. Especially if you’re under 16, I’m sure they could get in a lot of trouble for harassing underage girls.
Often I’ve been graced by the presence of a Venus and have wanted to say something. Not in some lame attempt to pick her up but just because she is Stunning, like absolutely beautiful. I’ve only on a few occasions said anything. For fear of sounding like someone just learning how to talk, tongue tided. Sometimes I imagined how much I would get berated if I said anything. Hmmm, judging by the comments, perhaps it is best I said nothing. But there are some women out there that are amazing to look at. So beautiful that is makes the sunset or art look drab. Guess the ladies around here do not like to be complimented. Based on some on the comments in the Coast, I should remove that description of the fairer sex.
we’re into penis size again… 3 inches, ginger? you’re not so generous with these suckers ! ha!ha! that’s really funny.still , as they say: when they can’t do it, they have to shout it. i think it’s empowerment to these losers who are probably being henpecked at home by a butch wife. and like miles mentioned, it isn’t that they think you’re hot but more the power to think they can call out at you and even say lewd things and you can’t do anything other than give them the finger. i wouldn’t even bother with the finger, as i think the worse insult is not to be noticed. just act like you didn’t even hear them. finally, are they always 60 year olds? maybe 3 inch 30 yr olds do look 60 and wrinkled if not well lubricated, ha!ha! thanks ginger for letting me plagiarize.
sorry, it was don, not miles who said something about intimidation/empowerment.
dr anytime
Good point made by Don. Interesting that these guys feel the urge to do this to young girls. I remember the first time it happened to me, I was like, 13 or 14. 15 years later, I look a hell of a lot better but strangely enough, those kinds of catcalls have all but petered out.Guess now that I’m a WOMAN I’m a little too old for their perverted tastes.
I agree, Kelly. I think the same mindset is responsible for the popularity of “barely legal” porn. Young, inexperienced girls are more attractive than adult women to insecure men .