My friends know I’m looking for a man, and I’ve been single for 4 months.
The other day one of them tells me “I’ve got a nice guy I’d like you to meet some time. I know you’ll like him.” I agreed to meet him some time, but I asked her if he was cute. She got all disgusted and accused me of being shallow. “Oh, ____, looks aren’t everything! He’s a nice guy, you’ll like him, for sure! What is wrong with you?”
What the fuck is wrong with asking (someone who’s setting you up) if the guy is cute! Did I ask if he was hot? No! I said cute! Okay, so he’s a nice guy, but if he’s hideous and looks like Shrek, no sorry I’m not dating him!
I’m not drop-dead gorgeous, but I’m no fucking dog either. I KNOW looks aren’t everything, you fucking twit, but I’m not settling for a ‘4’ or lower! —In search for guy of equal attractiveness as myself
This article appears in Jun 24-30, 2010.
Argh, the “he’s a nice guy” clause is a horrible description. I’ve been introduced to “nice guys” only to find out they are completely what I am NOT attracted too. Yes, looks matter and so does the ‘nice’ part. Why can’t both go together?
“looks aren’t everything! He’s a nice guy”
wow… not doing the ol’ bloke any favors with that kinda talk…
I’m willing to bet were he a 5 or 6, you’d think he were more of a 4 after your friend just blew his first impression on you with those tragic words.
“he’s kinda stocky and well just losing his hair a bit” “you mean he’s bald and fat?”
yeah!
it’s like the realtor telling you the place has plenty of character and a modest kitchen with plenty of potential.
what, no takers? can’t imagine why… it’s ugly with a small kitchen and needs some work.
If you are relying on being set-up by a friend then you have bigger issues than being single. Go out and meet your own meat cause only you know whether you want beef, chicken or pork. Hell, this city is a buffet…….eat up!
it’s a handyman’s dream or needs lots of tlc
fuck me gently, never mind the attractiveness bullshit, it the guy/girl has the working parts, go for it. unless of course you want to enter them in some kind of beauty contest. then you should be alone, forever. i’m no fucking hunk, but betcha dollars to donuts, i can put out better than a lot of younger studs than me, and people say, i’m not hideous either. the old sucker can rock your world honey babe, anytime.
It’s a charmer. My all-time fav realtor line.
a buffet, really koda, a buffet. then i guess i must be the hamburg course, everything, all mixed together, gee, i feel special now.hope it’s a self serve buffet tho. clang, clang, come and git it.
LS self admittedly == hamburg….
classic.
i was thinking a nice meatloaf, baked potato and some peas…perfect for our resident tommy lee jones
You sound like a “4” or lower. heh
She probably doesn’t want some shallow bitch breaking her friends’ heart.
What’s with women who are “looking” for men? Why do you need to look so bad? Why not just let life’s random events take you through life and maybe along the way you will meet someone! Don’t people know you will never find someone if you’re looking? You come across as a little desperate when saying you’re “looking for a man”.
Four whole months! Oh your poor, poor dear. No one to fawn over you and be your personal slave in the pathetic hope for affection and respect.
Try living for yourself. It is really very empowering. Oh wait, sorry I forgot… the slaves are lined up each with the desperate hope of serving a master… how could women resist that? They are human; I think.
Are you sure you’re breathing?
4 out of what…100? Some people have seriously low self-esteem.
i have never understood this particular numbering system i am 7 x 7
Why don’t you do something worthwhile with YOUR life other than set out a hairy lasso for some poor sap who’ll probably take a tablefork to his testicles after a year?
Oldhand, I likes the cut of your gibe.
This city is *not* a buffet.
There are A LOT of tragic cases walking around this burg, I’m afraid to say.
Four months is not a long time to be single, so don’t despare. Four months IS a long time without a lay but that’s a different sport.
Do as Koda says and get out and meet people. Keep your interactions within your standard and eventually you’ll strike gold. Try to live in the moment (seems like a foreign concept to some people).
If you really value how a potential partner looks then don’t settle for something you don’t find attractive. Its not fair for either party (cause you’ll lose interest and they feel hurt when you do).
Also, anyone else who’s getting tired of LS pounding his chest like a monkey raise your hand. Give it up dude. We get it, you’re such a fuckin stud… Join a dating site or something man.
seriously? 4 months? try three years! cripes. some of us wait to heal and then understand being alone is not a crime. While I’d love to meet someone nice that I’m also attracted to, I date nice guys. What’s so awful about that?
he wasn’t cute at all… until I fucked him! Now I can’t take my eyes off of him, so I married him. Looks mean NOTHING until you’ve seen what’s under the skin then suddenly your mate exudes beauty in places you never thought to look before.
who are you and what have you done with Kay?
how very sheep of you, zZz
bah! I don’t know what you’re talking about,….
kay is obvious proof that looks mean nothing. 🙂
I can’t imagine a high-profile rock star actually wanting to marry a dog but if looks don’t matter then go nuts.
Looks do not matter. Personality, confidence, and chemistry do.
I’ve gone out with anywhere from 2 (as in “wow…you’re dating HIM?”) to an 8. Now, where they say that ugly guys are nicer…not really. I’ve met some truly egotistical dicks whose faces could stop a clock. I’ve met some average dudes who thought they were amazing, and said the DUMBEST shit. I’ve met guys who made me wet just by looking at them, who had NO confidence.
Guys are just plain fucking confusing.
As soon as you say this: “I KNOW looks aren’t everything, you fucking twit, but I’m not settling for a ‘4’ or lower!”.. You’re shallow.
Who brands people 1-10 anyway!!! maybe a 10 to you is 2 for someone else & vice versa.
Rawr…
you think we’re confusing????
flip that coin… and you’ll see confusion.
like deer in headlights…
trying to solve for x…
how bush got re-elected… kind of confusion.
Like seriously… how can you own 80 pairs of shoes and still be afraid of a spider?
you have 160 choices of how to kill the thing!
You ARE confusing.
You want a girlfriend. You want the girl to be pretty, sweet, funny, interesting, etc. You meet the type of girl who is ALL those things.
You don’t want her.
Despite saying that she is all of those things…you still don’t want her.
Yet, you continue to whine that you cannot attract a girl in this city.
“He’s a nice guy” means that he’s not cute. If he was cute, your friend would have just told you so when you asked.
But instead of telling the truth and sounding superficial herself, she decided to make you feel like the superficial one instead. She’s kind of a bitch.
I don’t know who you’re referring to Rawr…
but in my experience, women who ‘want’ cute, sweet, funny, interesting, etc. guys… NEVER go for them. they pounce on the jerks and assholes and then complain/pine when they get treated like shit.
I guess in the very least it works both ways.
to be expected I suppose, based on probability and the unimaginable amount of unknowns in the equation.