To one of my father’s dear friends: While I was in the kitchen having some ice cream. You come waddling over with your big ol’ beer belly and tell me I need to be healthy and work out. That that shit isn’t good for me. Yes I know it’s not but let me have a treat. I workout. I go to the gym. Hell for the past 2 weeks I’ve been walking at least an hour to work there and back. You tell me that dolling up like I do won’t keep working to make me pretty if I keep eating that way. And I’m only going to get bigger. That I should slow down because I’m not very small. Well, thank you. Thank you for that blow to what little self esteem I have left. I know I am not a small girl but I didn’t think I was fat. Thank you for going on about it for about 15 minutes to the point I was in tears. Look. I have my body issues. Everyone does. You don’t need to point them out to us. Especially when your belly is so big. You tell me it’s not just about the outside looking good it’s the inside feeling good. I know that, that’s why I go to the gym asshole. You tell me the gym isn’t doing me any good. It was unnecessary and hurtful. Learn to shut your mouth. —A Bitcher
This article appears in Feb 9-15, 2012.
I think you should’ve smacked him… maybe next time!!
Maybe he was joking? I don’t know ’cause I wasn’t there but my dad does this to me sometimes in jest. He’ll say something like “Why are you eating the fattening thing?!? *troll face*” all while he’s guzzling juice from one hand and eating a Boston Cream in the other … he makes it really obvious that it’s a joke though …
… if they do it again, lay down the law.
“…to the point I was in tears” oh I missed that … did they see you crying?
Ignore him … I know I know, easier said than done.
you could just wait until later when he cracks the cap off one of those beers and spout the same shit to him…
though he does have the upper hand because beer is WAY better than ice cream.
I didn’t know sebastard has friends.
Huh, who knew?
Oooh and OB you should’ve made some sort of snarky comment like “yeah because beer bellies are so attractive. So WHEN exactly are you due again? Looks like you’re carrying around a 20 pound fetus up in there.”
That would’ve shut his fat face alright.
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Don’t ascribe to malice that which is most readily explained by stupidity. If this is who it sounds like, your friends want you happy and healthy – aside from that we love you just the way you are.
And, yes, you are allowed treats from time to time.
wow what a complete jerkwad. you should have told him to fuckoff. I would have.
Well, once again, my profile was off. Doesn’t matter OP. You’re living for you, not some old fat fuck.
people should just keep their mouths closed, esspecially if it is none of their fucking business.
see…. i would’ve told him to fuck off or said something just as rude but i could not bring myself to do it…
i didn’t want to sink to his level.
Take the high road Alex. Next time, snap his white cane in half and jam it where it will do him the most good – jagged end first.
or tie his shoe-laces together…
odds are, with that belly, bending over will give him a brain hemorrhage.
Why did you stand in your own kitchen for 15 minutes and put up with that nonsense?
I’d start by telling your dad. And making a point of leaving any room he enters.
I’d also wonder if it isn’t worth ringing up his wife and letting her know you’re uncomfortable with the amount of attention he is devoting to your physical appearance. Embellish whenever possible.
I stood in my kitchen for that long because thatès where i eat. shocking I know
My dad was beside him nodding his head in agreement knowingly that I am not one of the thin daughters thanks to his families genetics that i so luckily received.
His wife… she is interesting
Speaking of getting back at people via their shoes, when I was younger and I was mad ay my boyfriend at the time, I stormed out of his house and hid his shoes on the way out. Can you imagine the inconvenience of not being able to find your shoes when you’re trying to go out somewhere? HAH. Also, driving a car without shoes is illegal apparently…
aahh Mel thanks for the idea next time i get in an argument with my boy friend
Hey Al, give frozen yogurt a try, it tastes just as good and makes you feel a lot better in the end. There are tonnes of flavours and it is the same price or cheaper. It worked for me. I had to give ice cream up at 30, cause it was literally weighing me down.
It could have been because he cares and didn’t say what he wanted to say in an eloquent manner. Why does he have a beer belly? There can be many reasons, one being body damage over the years. I myself have no knees and a bad hip due to years of wear and tear in the military, when I was in excellent shape. But when it pains you to run ten feet, you start losing the motivation to stay in shape. Then growing older makes it that much more difficult. I tell my kids to take good care of themselves and not to abuse their bodies or they could end up like me, which is not fun.
Then again he could be an asshole.
i looove frozen yogurt i just didn’t have any.
Ummm… Am I wrong in assuming that it’s just plain wrong for someone to make comments about weight issues to your friends daughter? Your father just stood there and nodded agreement? Way to go superdad!!!
Maybe while you were scooping your ice cream, you could have offered him a cup of shutthefuckup.
Or as a dear friend replied to a guy who called out “hey dumpling” did, “hey, yourself, pork roast!”
Tell that fucker to get fucked.
yes my dad is a real winner at times. he has his moments. this was not a good one but it’s been like that with my family for as long as i remember.
and for his friend i have no idea why he felt he could say that but he did
Alex, you are so good at standing up for yourself and not taking any shit on this forum, it’s hard for me to imagine your taking it in your own home…
Time to have a little chat with dad. In fact, why don’t you print your letter and give it to him? If he still doesn’t get it, print out the whole thread, including the following.
Dear Mr. Alex Parris’ dad:
A friend of yours has come to your house, eaten of your bread and salt and then had the temerity to offend and hurt the feelings of your daughter.
You should let him know that his comments were not welcome in your home, nor should they ever be repeated.
And you should show your daughter a little backbone in the future, sir, by checking your friend’s thoughtless actions within the first minute, rather than letting them pile up for a quarter hour.
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his wife… She is interesting
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THREESOME!!!
Just lightening the tone, Alex.
Some people are plain clueless, and believe they’re doing something like what he did in a spirit of generosity. It sucks you get the benefit of his interest though.
In the spirit of The Board, let me suggest you talk to your folks about this and why it insulted ypu, and how it made you feel badly. If the friend is half reasonable, maybe tell him the same info, so your folks can easily support you without hesitation.
Ivan’s comment about don’t mistake mean for stunned is a good one.
Consider the source, and always keep in mind what an awesome Alex you are. A perfect You.
And then have a threesome with him and his interesting wife.
Joking!
Wp
“i didn’t want to sink to his level.” Ah, I see, not cast your pearls before swine. Very classy. However, sometimes all people need is one (just one) hard slap from a perfectly manicured hand to get the message!
Although if they were to get a backhand on the return of the original slap, it would still count as one, right?
… you take your shoes off and exit left, fast.
You are Beautiful!! Don’t let some drunk bastard be the judge of how beautiful you are, he obviously doesn’t know and your dad should be kicking some ass for letting some idiot talk to his daughter that way!!
oop..I meant kicking the ass of the idiot of course:) Enjoy your ice cream OP and crack him in the nads the next time he tells you what to do or eat in YOUR house!!
i do have a back bone for most but not my family. i’m the one that takes the heat in the house hold always hav been.
it’s strange i know but i think it’s different with family.
but thank you guys 🙂
Wow, a strange situation indeed 8cookie. Yes, Dad needs to get a piece of your mind. it’sjust ridiculous that you should be subjected to such brazen hypocrisy i.e. fat guy telling you to stop eating so much ice cream. Maybe you invite Dad’s buddy to go on your morning walk from Spryfield to Barrington st. each morning and see why the ice cream doesn’t matter so much.
Alex it is too bad you are having to deal with this. That is terrible. The problem with these old guys is they don’t even know how much their comments hurt you. You are a beautiful girl – don’t let the old guys tell you any different.
alex sweetheart, if i would have been there, relative or no, his ass would have been flying out the fucking door. from what i can see of you in your bio pic, where the fuck, does he even come off with saying such a hurtful and stupid thing. if you ever decide to chuck bf, remember, the suckster is still here, and can do everything a 20-40 yr. old can do, maybe even better. chin up babe.
a sucker punch in that fat gut of his was definitely warranted. Love how men expect women to be bones but it’s totally acceptable for a man to be a fat tub of shit.