I do not want to date you. Why do you keep asking me out? You have no job, no prospects, you are ugly and I don’t get the tuppy feeling AT ALL when I’m around you. Fuck off and find someone in your own league!
And to other people who know both of us, why do you keep saying he’s a nice guy and we’d make a “cute” couple? Where do you get that from? I’m financially independent, I have a university degree with an accounting major and I’m cute. He’s on welfare at the moment ’cause he got laid off but he’s hardly looking for other jobs! He’s not going back to school to get more education and to get a better chance in the workforce, and he’s fat and funny looking! And you think I should date him just ’cause he’s a nice guy? Give me a break! —I Can Do Better
This article appears in Mar 11-17, 2010.
I hate it when people say “he’s out of my league”…get the fuck over yourself.
Yes, please date a financially independent asshole hung up on social fripperies and fleeting physical attributes. You can grow old and bitter together.
he’s funny looking but nice, sounds like a real catch compared to you
With an attitude like that, he needs to find some one else. Your are a self absorbed, pretentions bitch!
“I’m financially independent, I have a university degree with an accounting major and I’m cute.” So that makes you better then eveyone else? Go fuck yourself.
“you keep saying he’s a nice guy and we’d make a “cute” couple”
“I have a university degree with an accounting major and I’m cute”
“he’s fat and funny looking!”
LOL. I think the joke’s on you.
I agree OP, if this guy has no drive or motivation to better himself, but is satisfied with Fare well, it’s probably safe to assume he’ll do the same thing when he’s depending on your paycheck. Hanging your credentials out there is a little over the top though. You may be cute, people on here see it as pretentiousness, but it could be seen as having self esteem, something women in general are short of these days. IF these people feel that strongly, tell them to fucken date this chump.
OP… I am everything he is only i have a job. Are you out of my league? And you don’t mention his personality. So your real problem is that he is not nice-looking and not perfectly fit. Oh, and I am sure you are sooo cute. Is that what all the guys tell you in the bar? “Oh, you’re so hot…. I would love to buy you a drink….. oh, i’ll share a cab with you…. oh, here’s my place…”
I’m not saying you should date this man but you should have the intestinal fortitude to tell him that you are not interested in him on any level. If he doesn’t get the hint, send a male friend to read him the riot act. Unless he’s a stalker, he ought to back off.
That being said, sweetflaps, you are looking for a relationship in a very shallow pool. You’re cute now, right? Here’s hoping you don’t grow into an haggard old Cheeto hag that your handsome partner leaves for someone as ‘cute’ as you were when you were young. I’ve seen that happen a few dozen times over my lifetime and it ain’t pretty.
yep… shame when people have to list their must have’s in order isn’t it?
looks and money come up before personality every time.
You should thank your parents… they’ve obviously taught you well.
well enough to be alone for a long time if you’re after looks AND money and are only ‘cute’…
Sounds to me as though those around you don’t seem to have the same sentiment towards your immense beauty and amazing personality considering multiple people seem to think you’d fit well with someone you yourself have labelled an ugly loser. Gee, I wonder which side of this situation would be closer to the truth…..
If you can do better, OP, then why are you single? Doesn’t sound like anyone wants to be with you either, and I really can’t blame them if you’re anything like how you come off in this bitch.
Ha… one of the rare times I find myself on the side of the penis. And an exciting one at that (apparently)
yep, pretty shallow. this isn’t a big surprise though, good luck finding someone as perfect as you are 🙂
I agree with bullet in that if he has no motivations in life, he probably won’t change that. And that’s a perfectly legit argument. It’s how the argument was presented.
potentially should have been, maybe…. though putting herself on a pedestal didn’t help her cause when we’re all ready and raring to rip on some new bitches today…..
maybe the funny, chubby guy just wants his 20 bucks back
I say just send a us a link to both of your pictures and we will determine this once and for all! AND… if you’re cute enough, I just might allow you to ascend up to my league for a night…….
The “I’m cute, and you’re ugly” thing is a dumb
reason not to go out with someone. I’m ugly, and there are “cute” girls who like me and
went out with me.
I’m completely in the same boat as the OP so I can totally relate. People keep trying to set me up with those “he’s a good guy” types who have no money, no career, no house, no possessions, no car, etc. Umm, last time I checked, being a “good guy” doesn’t pay the bills. Quit pawning losers off on successful, career-driven individuals like us.
OP here.
Okay, having re-read my post, I realize now I came off as very arrogant and conceited, and that was not my intention.
The reason for mentioning the things I have going for me (ie. established accounting career, financial stability, good looks, etc.) is I didn’t want to everyone to think things such as “who are YOU?”, “How could YOU do better? How do we know YOU’RE not on welfare, are unfortunate looking, and lazy?” blah blah blah.
I’m not looking for a man with looks AND money, I just want someone who can support himself and not be financially dependent on ME! And come on, guys, admit it, you have to be attracted to someone to be with them. Everyone has to be with someone who gives them the tuppy feeling. I’m no “10” but I’m confident in saying I’m physically attractive enough, myself, to get a SOMEWHAT better-looking guy, at least.
I’ve worked hard for my degree and spent months going to countless interviews to get the job I have. With the money I’m making now, I’ve been able to take my mom on a trip to Europe (where she has wanted to visit but she never could ’cause she could never afford it). It just enrages me that I work so hard and these people believe I should be with this guy! Come fucking on!
Tylessa… just how well do these people know you and in turn, know this guy? If the difference is as vast as you say it is, wouldn’t real friends recognize that you are at a totally different place in your life and want to be with someone who is part of that same forward motion? Seems the bitch should be more with these so-called friends.
Obviously the main deterrent for you is that you are going in opposite directions. You should have a serious talk with those that continue to play cupid though. Obviously their encouragement only serves as a fuel to this guy’s fire and misleads him to think he has a chance. I can understand not wanting to have to confront this guy in such a way as well, but if he has not done anything to get himself to a better place…… being let down once more will make no difference I am sure. Don’t suppose you have a thing for urban planners do you?
I have to agree with OP, there’s nothing worse than a one-sided crush and she shouldn’t be slagged just for having certain criteria for a boyfriend. Good for her for having at least the expectations of him having a job.
I mean what if they did go out? It would obviously be one-sided there too, he’d be happy and she’d be miserable. He may be an awesome guy but people want what they want.
Woody Allen said it best when he was fucking his stepdaughter: ‘The heart wants what it wants.”
Bluenoser, it would also be one-sided when I’M the one always paying for dinners and dates ’cause he only has 10 bucks to his name! As for engaging in sexual acts with him, I’m sorry, but the very thought makes my flesh crawl.
Jonnoman, these people aren’t what I consider friends, they’re merely acquaintances of mine and his.
Finally, a Bitch about a Bitch by a Bitch
I don’t get why she’s a bitch? She couldn’t have pleaded her case more clearly and I’m sure ALL OF US at one time in their life wanted someone who didn’t want them…
TTFN you just grossed me out! LOL
I agree with not being attracted to a person who has no drive. I hate dating guys who have no goals, no plans, no job. He doesn’t have to have a really good job, but at least have an idea of what he wants for his future, and some plan as to how he’s going to get there. I can look past looks, car, money, but a person needs to have ambition.
I applaud the guts to come on and explain yourself a bit more clearly…
too frequently we get a bitch typed in the heat of the moment and nary a word from op about all the details they left out to explain why they sound colder than kay’s vagina in January.
you did look kinda shallow putting yourself up while putting him down.
Even in Wrestling you’re supposed to promote the guy a bit before you say you’re going to eat through his neck and shit down his throat. it’s about presentation….
now yes, you do need the attraction and want someone whom you don’t have to hound for $20 for two fucking months because they’re too much of a loser broke ass to pay you back….
you’re just going to have to lay it out for buddy.
Explain he’s not your type (the nice, yet obvious way of saying it), doesn’t have any career or personal goals and doesn’t fit into your plan for the future.
I just want to know what the hell a “tuppy feeling” is…
i just re-read the bitch hmmm tuppy maybe it was a spelling error it should say puppy, guppy, yuppy nope that makes no sense
ah i read this sounds like it’s written about me boohoohoo. oh well
hahah yeah i was wondering the same… i thought it was supposed to be “tummy” which still doesn’t fully make sense. i’m guessing it’s supposed to be something good either way..
maybe tipsy?
I dunno…
urban dictionary describes it as the nether regions of a woman…
or self-inflicted male camel toe
it’s pretty bad OP when even google doesn’t know what the fuck you’re talking about.
Do explain…
well la de da, fuck me, is this writer that so struck and stuck on themself, that they think their shit don’t stink. man oh man, given the way you come off here, you sound like one fucken bitch.and that could be used for either gender today.
I just came across the UD definition as well. So she means a vagina feeling, I guess? Now I’m just weirded out.
She used “tuppy” in her rebuttle too, so I doubt it’s a typo…
Oh. I thought it might have had something to do with Tupperware.
yeah, but what if he has a 10 inch dick, soft?
I, for one, give props to the OP.
Love or hate it. She’s confident in calling it how she sees and feels it.
It’s her opinion that matters. Its her life. Not ours.
A lot of girls date just anyone because he looks nice, plays a good game or sprinkles them with attention (which sometimes they’re starved for). That’s the flipside. I see it too often. Don’t be another statistic.
LS, can’t you just shut the fuck up sometimes? She has valid points, she doesn’t like the guy and no matter how much she gets pressured by her friends, she still doesn’t want him. Even you must have been hit on at one time by someone you weren’t attracted to. I know it’s different for us guys because we think with our other head at times.
Sounds like the OP is really pissed at her friends for thinking this ‘couple’ would be good together. Funny how she wants a guy who can pay his own way. Sounds like the girl for me as long as she pays her own way as well. But we all know that does not happen.
Now that she came back on and changed her presentation around, I’m completely with her. I wouldn’t want to date a guy that had no passion. If you have no passion to even work towards getting a job or a career..or anything, you aren’t going to have passion for anything else.
I’m not exactly the wealthiest person around, but I have very real goals, and some of those goals include traveling. If I’m going to settle down with a guy, I’m not going to be able to afford to put out money for him, myself and my daughter to travel. That alone discourages dating guy’s that have no motivation to go anywhere in life.
That’s not to say I won’t date a guy that doesn’t have a job, he just has to want to have a job, or have some amount of goals and work towards them.
And dar, that does happen, you just need to find the right gals.
I couldn’t imagine getting into a marriage with a guy if I didn’t have any independence and had to live off him for everything, I would feel so dam trapped. It would suck.
yes bluenoser, i have been, too often sometimes. but not by”ugly” women. some very nice looking chicks i might ad. but they just expect me to be wrapped in them, put on a high altar, so to speal. nope, not for me, the plain jane ordinary for me, and i don’t give a shit whether she has a “job” or not. i’m not pretentios.
i like my men/women to be handy and jocular and i guess i lucked out
And dar, that does happen, you just need to find the right gals.
I couldn’t imagine getting into a marriage with a guy if I didn’t have any independence and had to live off him for everything, I would feel so dam trapped. It would suck.
Excellent. Too bad all women do not feel the same way.
I think the problem with her bitch is that she should have focused on the fact that she is not attracted to him. End of story, stop pushing him on her. But she went on to put him down and put herself on a pedestal, which just made her seem conceited.
Coupled friends like to try and push single friends into relationships, and it’s not always going to work. So if she tells you she’s not into him, deal with it and move on.
Cornflake girl- Tori Amos. Maybe you could learn a thing or two. That league stinks.
When I first met my wife I was laid off, on E.I., and moved back to my parents to save money. When I asked her what attracted her to me, she said that I made more on E.I. then her paycheck. So she said I had potential. Plus I had stinky sneakers. If she got over that, it must have been love at first smell.
Now I have a good job with good pay. Parents, may they rest in peace. New sneakers. But she has to put up with the farting which is kind of fun.
I think the “tuppy” feeing is that butterfly feeling you get when you’re attracted and interested in someone.
I can sort of see where the OP is coming from, but I think it’s more about compatibility than being snotty. OP wants someone who isn’t lazy and financially dependent on someone else and I think that’s pretty fair. Also, like it or not, looks have a MAJOR impact on who’s attracted to whom and basically whom dates whom. Sure some people aren’t as caught up in that, but different people are attracted to different ideals in physical attributes.
A few years back this guy was pursing me — he was 11 years older than me (35-36) at the time and still lived in his mom’s basement and couldn’t find a job to save his life, and all he would talk about with me is random shit from the 80s. I also didn’t find him attractive. Some of my friends thought we should date because he is, i will admit, a very nice guy…but I just wasn’t attracted to him, or his lifestyle, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Tylessa good for you. Sounds like your “friends” want to dump this guy on you (he’s probably pissing them off). Who says you have to date anyone. Stick to your guns and wait for someone you want to be with. And since none of us can foresee the future, it may be someone your “friends” don’t like. I say fuck ’em all and enjoy your life.
Pretty Kitty. Was that Uncle Reco from Naploeon Dynamite?
No, but I’m pretty sure that was his idol.
John, How can someone who cheers for the Habs be so wrong? Did you read the entire thread? She doesn’t like the guy – ‘enuff said. You may not agree with the reasons but It’s her life, let her live it.
His first problem is having an avatar with a toilet seat on it. LOL.
As for those putting this woman down, how many of you have never based not dating someone based on their looks, education, financial stability etc. I think every single person in the world has done it at one point or another. We choose who we date, are friends with, do business with, vote for, for many important and a lot of stupid reasons. Tyressa is not doing anything that none of us have ever done before.
i suppose you missed that she comes off as a snotty, arrogant bitch Bluenoser. not once in her post does she mention telling the guy shes not interested. i suppose it should be clear to the guy that by her blinding beauty, she is far and away above his level
theres many different reasons for not being interested in someone. be it that your personalities dont match; or youre emotionally, spiritually, religiously in different places…along with many others. ill even agree with financial reasons. no one wants to be with a deadbeat who cant contribute. however, there are ways to impart this lack of interest to someone as a human being.
Bro T I agree with everything you say except for the toilet seat comment…lol
toilet seat…ahahahahaha. never heard that one before. *groan*
i can’t comment further on the original bitch… but mr. blue you know full well that being a habs fan does not absolve you of heinous deeds. i’m sorry the leafs suck boy
John I understand, she did make a later post to correct her seemingly arrogant and self-centered appearance, she said he keeps asking her out so she must be telling him no. How many times does she have to say it before he gets a clue? No mean no not maybe some other time…
PG you confuse me, what does’ I’m sorry the Leafs suck boy’ mean. You haven’t confused me with one of those retard Leaf fans have you?
ahem…my son is a leafs fan the bear a habs, i just kinda go along
“because he is, i will admit, a very nice guy”
I cracked a huge grin when you said that. Hope you don’t mind, PK.
“”You haven’t confused me with one of those retard Leaf fans have you?””
We don’t use that kind of language on this forum, Bluenoser.
Just because some has a learning disability, is unable to participate in the normal school system or get a job in the regular workforce is no need to denigrate them. Smearing yourself with faeces or chronic masturbation until red raw is no reason for namecalling.
You can have an IQ under 70 and still not deserve to be called a Leafs fan.
My apologies to all for not being PC, I guess the new term is ratard anyway.
ahh excuse me i believe the proper term is a leaf fan w/ “special needs and assisted living support 🙂
um, the joke was about the term “leaf’s fan”?
I’m fine with retard. It means to “slow”…
yea they go hand in hand i thought
welll. im the kid of, look at the bigger picture in life, and get there when i get there kinda guy.
girls are all into that finnnacial stability and university degree stuff. which is good, but not the reason why you wanna pick someone to be in a relationship.
secondly how well do you know this guy anyway, instead of saying his unmotivated and lazy you should look at the underlying circumstances as to why he is on on welfare and such. i mean at least walk 10 paces in his shoes before you tear him down.
and finally really its okay if you dont wanna go out with him, TELL HIM that ass. i mean it sounds like your one of those girls who puts on the nice sugar coated leading you on kinda face and then tears the guy down when hes out of earshot. admit it, your flattered.
in my experience, girls ideas of what Fat and funny looking are, their pretty warped. so i doubt hes that bad. 😛
Kamen, I’ll agree to that.
and Bro Tim, I guess I’m an exception to the rule…
met the wife in first year university (so we were both pretty poor…)
didn’t have any stability whatsoever… and wasn’t only into looks or mad sex or any of that crap. She asked me out (weird, I know… why would anyone do that voluntarily…)
and I said, “I don’t even know you. Hang around with me for a while and we’ll see….”
A couple hours every day for two weeks was enough to convince me this could work and we were compatible….
so we went out (in public), I made the usual clown of myself… and she laughed rather than being mortified!
hence… a keeper. Looks fade, money comes and goes, but personality, compatibility, and loyalty are all I’m “into”.
if they make you laugh keep em around but it doesn’t hurt if you like to play hide the sausage with them
F.A.T. as in fucking a towel haha ugly as in ugly personality.
Preview of her next bitch:
“I am sooooo done with this fucking asshole I’m dating. Where are all the nice guys?”
Sigh.
I’ve had 4 boyfriends. 1 of them has had a job. And that is the one I am with now and have been with for 1 year and 7 months now. I can say coming from experience, having a BF with no job can be alright but it’s not really about money. I don’t care if they spend any of it on me. All I want are mix CDs <3. But when your times together are spent tagging along while he tries to find someone to "bum a smoke" from and "match up", faking sex (I must say I am a pro at it...not that I need to do it anymore ;D), and drinking in their mom's basement, it's kinda hard to stay with the guy, no matter how "nice" he is.
Good for you Tylessa, for not making the same mistakes I did. Someone who does fuck all with their life with will do the same with you. They have no motivation, no passion, and will make you despise yourself and everyone around you.
Fuck I lovve my current BF 😀
Well said melectric, well said.
I hope you get ovarian cancer