You are the laziest, sneakiest money-sucking bitch I have ever known. You took me to court AGAIN for the eighteenth time and the judge had your number before you opened your mouth. This judge saw you for your true colors finally and did not award you one single thing you demanded. She also backed it up with family law proof. She even reduced your child support I am to pay you by 40 bucks! I bought a flat of beer with it instead. I have overpaid you for years and now you are terrified because our child is almost 18 years old. OMG, now where are you going to get your money from? Maybe get a real job and stop sucking EI (all winter) and me dry. In a very short time you will NEVER get another penny from me and that will be a scary day for you. Lose some weight, get a real job (working 5 months a year is not a job it is a student job), try to find some happiness and move on! We have not been together for 10 years, get over the fact that my new wife is so much better than you ever were. —Sick of it
This article appears in Jun 2-8, 2011.
As much as I like this bitch… I’m wondering if your kid is adequately supported? You could’ve given that 40 bucks directly to the kid to spend instead of buying beer.
I dunno, while I think your ex is an asshole, you sound way too eager to be rid yourself of supporting your kid. But maybe that’s just the way I’m reading it — might not be the case at all.
Also: if your kid goes on to post secondary education, I’m pretty sure you still have to pay… but maybe then you can send it directly to your kid and not the wench of an ex.
System is great isn’t it. People will never learn though. This scam will go on forever.
Congrats, OP – I’ve seen too many women like your ex fix their financial umbilical cord to some poor bugger’s wallet, not taking a shred of responsibly for their own lives. Here’s hoping she has to do twelve hour shifts at the local Tim’s drive-thru and that one day you and your new spouse can tip her a dime.
Don’t forget you’re talking about your child’s mother here. I’m with PK. I really don’t know what you’re all about but it reads a little too “I’vewashed my hands of this” for my tastes. Ah well.
I hope you keep supporting this child … even though they’re past 18 op. Regardless of what people say, if you’ve raised your child right they will appreciate it.
jesus christ, i thought you were talking about my ex wife there, then the part of the 18 year old came up. i had an ex like that, and she bled me for next to every penny i had. the justice non-system backed her up, and i got the jerry reed song. you know the one i mean, she got the gold mine, i got the shaft one.
Depends on whether ex-wife has turned the child against the OP. That often goes hand in hand with bleeding the ex dry – she can play the eternal victim as long as the child is under her care. What a fucking role model for any kid.
Donk, there is a difference between a woman who actually uses money to take care of a child to one who wastes it, wants more, won’t do anything for herself, etc. Support her because she’s the mother of your child? Are you nuts? Just because she pops a kid doesn’t make her any more of a mother than a sperm donor is a father. This chick just sounds like an entitled money-grubber.
fucking evil bitches from hell have a friend in the family justice system..
You know what, y’all need to stop mating with lowlifes!!! The end. No one forced you yo lay with a fatuous bint, but you did, now deal.
Pay what the court tells you. Pay your fucking child support and shut up.
This bitch reeks of annoying and spiteful. It doesn’t read like a man who truly cannot afford to pay. You think you child doesn’t see this shit happening … if they don’t now one day they will.
I dunno, no matter how scum baggy there’s something to be said about how a person talks about the other parent of their child. I suppose it is an anonymous site but good God.
Yeah, rag on me, go on.
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Awesome OP! Silly bitch will probably try to get knocked up again to get child support from some other sucker.
“I bought a flat of beer with it instead” ba ha ha ha I love this bitch
I enjoy these “met-at-a-bar-and-banged-her” scenarios.
How often do you see a guy bring a girl home after a night of partying and then she moves in to his apartment (so his expenses decrease and he can have extra cash and get a pricier vehicle) and then she gets preggerz……….and the cycle continues………hahaha, nothing is FREE my lads…..nothing
Getting pregnant is fine as long as you get an abortion <3
you see this melectric….
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/2…
I hope he woulda paid. Lolzzz.
In NS child support ends at age 19 and can continue if he or she goes on to higher education.
What can I say. Finally the system works out for someone with a penis. Who would’ve thought. It’s good that there are judges out there who don’t just give the woman what she wants just because she’s a woman. They may be a minority.
Child support is bullshit, she should have to provide proof via an itemized statement what she is spending that money on. Otherwise we are enabling and yes, encouraging women to fuck over men and their own children. Same goes for welfare recipients. It’s not your money, it’s for a specific purpose, prove that you’re using it for what it’s for.
People who live off child support payments make me sick. I hold them in lower regard than people who commit welfare fraud, because they are leeching from someone who they were close to at one time, not just the faceless government/taxpayers. They actually know the person who they are defrauding. They may have been in love with them at one time. That’s foul.
Dats sum craazy shit Zed. Those crazy New Mexicans.
My mom was one of those crazy child support women when my parents split up. Fortunately, my father was a CWO in the military and able to pay child support as well as send my brother and I a twenty or something every now and then because he knew not all of his payments were going to us. Even when I moved out of my mom’s house and into my dad’s, my mother still demanded he give HER money and he did just to keep her away/shut her up. That’s probably why I have such a hatred toward women and usually take the man’s side on things, especially when it comes to child support and such. Mel Gibson, Tiger Woods and Charlie Sheen are my heroes. Jk…..
You see … the children always find out and who do they hate … the person who was doing wrong in the equation.
Bon’s right, actually, with one addition: if the child is unable to care for themselves after age 19 support payments continue.
I have friend who’s dad never missed a support payment on her half siblings, even when he was laid off but their mother told them their dad didn’t pay anything. One of the half siblings confronted my friend’s dad once and her dad showed her all of the returned checks from the bank along with the registered letter forms signed by their mother.
Some exes are nightmares to deal with. You’d think a bit of maturity would shine through and they’d think about their kids and not about how much they hate their ex spouses.
And speaking of ex spouses — my mom was going through old pictures we had in a box from my grandmother’s house this past weekend and she found my dad’s wedding photo with his ex wife. ROFLZ. It was HILARIOUS. Dad had no desire to see it, but mom and I got a good laugh.
Is 19 too late for an abortion? First trimester, 19 years old, what’s the difference?
Sorry PK, unless they are attending a secondary school or have a disabling medical problem, CS stops. It is usually at this point the greedy bitch kicks the kid out of the house.
Oh and if the kid goes to school away from home, then the payor can pay directly to the child and further the child can go after the other parent for support too. My son did that and boy was someone was pissed and it wasn’t me.
I knew you had beed burned! Lol, but all women are not bitches. That’s all.
Wow, I can’t believe the amount of asshats on here who are trying to make the support payers into victims. Bringing a kid into this world is a two way street and the fun doesn’t end after birth. Whatever the women are spending the support money on is their business. It’s not like they are not paying through their teeth already to raise the child. OP, so what you are saying is it’s okay for you to have the extra money to buy your beer, but your ex shouldn’t have that ability? Fuck you all, I am certain the majority of you wankers on here don’t even have kids, so your opinion and perspectives mean nothing
Yes, BT, that’s what I meant — a disabling medical condition. My cousin is autistic and I’m fairly certain his support payments will continue after he reaches 19 in a couple years because he can’t support himself and will rely on his parents for the rest of his life (though he is doing vocational training now and will have a job at the end of it — not enough to support himself, though).
Hey BRoc, you’re a self-entitled parasitic cunt aren’t you?
BRoc…. yeah. That was one of the dumbest things I’ve ever read.
The support money is FOR THE KID NOT THE MOTHER. IF IT WAS FOR THE MOTHER IT WOULD BE CALLED SPOUSAL SUPPORT, WHICH OP’S EX IS OBVIOUSLY NOT ENTITLED TO AS PER FAMILY LAW STATUTES OF CANADA.
If she wants money for beer or whatever she needs to get herself a job that allows her to have the money for such things. Go read up on the spousal support statutes in Canada and you’ll realize that just because you’ve married someone and you’ve divorced doesn’t mean your ex spouse is on the hook to support YOU for the rest of your life. This ain’t the USA.
OP is doing his part and paying his support payments (as far as I can tell from this bitch). While I think his expenditure on beer instead of sending that 40 bucks to his kid directly is a dick move, that money is for OP’s kid, not his ex spouse to sit on her ass and do nothing.
This is why I really hate the child support laws in Canada — there’s no control over how that money’s spent. Someone could be paying a decent amount for their child and the parent with primary custody could be feeding them generic KD every day and banking the rest. If I was paying money for my kid I’d want it to go towards paying for my kid and nothing else.
It’s sad there aren’t more shared custody arrangements out there — where both parents get 50/50 split of custody and no support is paid on either side and the child’s costs are split 50/50. We have family friends who have such an arrangement and it works out wonderfully for all involved. One week the kids are at the father’s and the next they’re at the mother’s place. I know that’s not always practical, but it’s just an example of how custody arrangements COULD be in a lot of cases.
My best friend has a set up like that too PK. They even change who gets the child tax every 6 months. It’s tough on the kids though sometimes, I think. I mean, any separation is. The sad part is when the two parents aren’t mature enough to set aside the pettiness and just deal with it. It’s getting better in my friend’s case, so I’m thankful for that.
And I totally agree with you on your rant towards BRoc – that was the douchiest comment I’ve seen in a while. Just because mom (are YOU BRoc, the subject of OP’s bitch?), is too lazy and useless to look after themselves that’s NO reason whatsoever that they should be getting money from their baby daddy for their own needs. Support yourself you lazy ho.
(in the case of my friend, she’s currently holding down 3 jobs to make ends meet, fix up the house she bought, and support her kids – the life of a single mom. But she’s got self respect, in many ways she’s my hero for being able to do all that for herself).
I agree PK, and we’ve all seen these mothers at the grocery store wearing designer clothes with a couple kids and a shopping cart FULL of kraft dinner. I know I have. It takes away from/discredits honest women who use the money strictly to support their child. People are selfish though. Lots of deadbeat dads out there too.
To me it sounds like you’re paying for a car or shipping something. “I wanna see the bill of lading and I wanna see every item!” I suppose I’m not talking about complete stupid mothers, but I’m saying … for the parent who has sole custody, yes you can put a price on physical things but how do you price out the boo boos kissed, the meals prepared, and the tears wiped. Simple you can’t, which is why I have no sympathy when it comes to the other party. Be it the mother OR the father. If you do not have sole custody, go to court and pay what the court tells you to pay. Do no tussle, do not act stink, do no whine about it. That and spend time with your children!
I am NOT the subject of this bitch and I am NOT a mother. What I am is a dad to a 14 year old boy who has a bioligical father who is too lazy to work so has never paid a red cent for support unless forced to by the courts. Why don’t you ask my son (and yes he is now my son, as I adopted him a couple of years ago) what it’s like to have a biological dad who only calls him once in a while. I definitely have a slightly skewed perspective on this issue but the bottom line is that support payments not only represent helping the custodian parent but also emotionally helping with the child, and while not all dads can be painted with this brush, they simply need to shut up and pay up
Uh huh, well I think your experience is causing a misdirection of aggression here, BRoc. OP pays. There are plenty of fathers who pay. You actually HAVE painted all dads with the same deadbeat brush.
Your experience doesn’t really come into play here because your situation and OP’s situation are completely different. If OP’s ex was entitled to spend that money on her fat ass’d self, it would be called “spousal support” and not child support. The issue of spousal support in Canada is quite different than the concept of alimony in the US. It’s not meant to be a life-long crutch for women who don’t want to work. My mom works in family law and has told me since I was old enough to understand that you can’t rely on a man to take care of you and it’s important for women to get educated and have the ability to be independent and stand on their own two feet financially and emotionally and not have to have a man to provide both things. Obviously OP’s ex cannot do this, or is wholly lazy, in which case, too bad, so sad for her when the support cheques run out.
It sucks ass that your son’s biological father is a dipshit. I can’t imagine how awful it must be to see a kid you love dearly get rejected by one of their parents, but there are plenty of fathers out there who aren’t and plenty of moms who are kunts and take advantage of the support system and that’s the issue here, not the fact that OP or your kid’s biological father is a deadbeat.
“OP pays.” … but still sounds like a right twat.
FUCK YOU OP, FUCK YOU!
I pay far more than I should in child support, because it is “Child Support”. mew.mew.mew, The mom is seeing another guy.mew.mew,mew, Suck it up fuckface.
Hooray! You bought a case of beer instead of buying your kids some new shoes!
What a MAN you are.
Oh I know, Donk! I’m just into defending the good dads who get a bad rep because of all the deadbeats out there.
I agree with you, ML. I think it was a huge douche move to brag about spending 40 bucks that should’ve gone to his kid on beer. I would hope he’s just bragging because it didn’t go into his ex’s pocket and not his kid’s mouth or on his kid’s back. Like I said, there was nothing stopping him from sending that 40 bucks directly TO his kid.
One thing I should note too is, a lot of dads do pay more than they have to or are mandated to pay more than they can afford, really, and end up living like hobos while their exes live the high life. I’ve seen it happen, unfortunately. A friend of mine’s dad makes well into the six figures and lives in a small apartment while his ex wife, her boyfriend and my friends’ brother (who’s still a minor) lives in a huge house in an upscale neighbourhood. And my friend’s mom has bragged about how the child support payments are paying for the boyfriends’ university tuition!
And who knows, maybe OP has a great relationship with his kid and spends other monies on him that isn’t included in the support payments. I know my mom and dad paid for a lot more than just support payments for my half brother and sister.
Well said kitty, that’s y I luvs u
“I know my mom and dad paid for a lot more than just support payments for my half brother and sister.” Ah I see it now.
You’re not an only child then … but that’s beside the point lol.
Uh, I think this all comes back to the start. Be careful who you lay with.
Ehhhhhh I’m done.
Not technically, but their mother moved them away and remarried and wouldn’t let dad see them so they developed more of a father-kid relationship with their stepdad. They’re both in their 40s now and we have no relationship whatsoever.
So I consider myself an only child as I have no concept of what it’s like to share a parent. 🙂
I luvz u too, Matt 😉 I knew you’d pick up on that $40 thing!
Also, I think it comes down to the fact that people change and the person you end up divorcing/leaving isn’t the person you first met, donk.
My mom regularly tells me about how her and dad were when they first met and how dad used to be compared to how he is now, and the same with her and the differences really are striking. When they first got together and got married, they used to do tons of things together… these days dad has his friends/social life and mom has hers and they rarely spend any amount of time together. They just developed different interests as they aged. And, I know I’m not the same person I was 10 years ago, for instance and I’m not sure if I’ll be the same person in 10 years from now.
I think anyone who posts here who’s been divorced, or going through a divorce (there’s quite a few, I believe) will say that the person they’ve divorced/are divorcing isn’t necessarily the person they saw when they first met and fell in love with.
People can turn into all kindsa crazy for all kindsa reasons, or just grow apart from one another. Even in a ridiculously short period of time!
A rose is a rose is a rose. Deep values do not change when placed in a difficult situation.
… who knows, I might have a child by an idiot. Though, I always maintain that you know. You know when you love a fool, you know when that person is unscrupulous. Qualities like that don’t just appear out of left field, they’re always there, though we just choose to ignore them right … ’cause it’s loooooove.
I don’t know, I don’t have all the answers and it’s always easier from outside looking in.
Well, love CAN make you dumb as fuck. There’s a whole lot you can forgive when you’re in love/lust that may bother you down the line.
It’s all fun and games when you’re in that initial stage of a relationship. A research study said the brain acts the same way when it’s in “love” than brain activity of people with OCD. *Awesome,* eh?
I know I’ve ended up falling for some dooshsacks in my time. Lord help me if one of them had’ve gotten me knocked up. *shudder*
Who needs love anyway. Pssssssht.
“Well, love CAN make you dumb … ” My point exactly. That’s why procreation deserves thought.
Well it seems that the OB has followed the court orders and now it has ended. Then there are the people who want the CS enforced but will completely violate the visitation orders by not allowing the child to go with the other parent. Whne the other parent calls the police, the police will not enforce it as it is a civil matter and they don’t want to upset the kids (ie watching the custodial parent taken out in handcuffs). Family Law can be good but it only takes one idiot (either a person who refuses to pay or one who uses kids as pawns) to fuck it up. I think if more violating idiots were thrown in jail, this shit would stop quickly.
I agree Bro Tim, it should absolutely be a crime, even child abuse to spend child support money on anything but the child. I’m not talking about a pack of smokes. People aren’t going to be perfect 100% of the time. But the example someone gave earlier about a woman bragging that her ex’s CH payments were putting her new boyfriend through university? And this is being enforced by a “justice” system in a modern country?
I would fucking kill that bitch and not feel bad about it. And I’d go serve my time and tell the judge why I did it. Shit got my heart beat up just thinking about it.
It’s one thing to take the money but to brag about that shit is just… like it’s nothing to brag about it’s pathetic and light years beyond spiteful. I would be ashamed to admit to something like that.
What a lazy, no integrity or sense of right or wrong having cunt.
She’s setting a horrible example for her kids and this is why it’s such a vicious cycle.
No one ever thinks it’ll happen to them though. I’m never getting married or having kids. Never.
It’s a shame too because if it weren’t for this fucked up system that’s in place I wouldn’t be so afraid to commit to someone. I’m SURE I’m not the only one who feels this way. Sure, it’s not the only reason, but I’ll be damned if I’m one of these ex husbands. I just can’t take the chance.
Jesus, tommy…if you worry about becoming and ex-husband with every relationship you enter into, you’re never going have a relationship. (Maybe that’s what you want, I don’t know and really none of my business) If that’s the case, then hey, to each their own but I think you’re missing out on some pretty amazing moments in your life. It’s like saying, “I’m never going to eat solid food because I’ll be damned if I’m going to become one of those people who ends up choking on a chicken bone.” You’ll survive but you gotta admit, life would be pretty boring eating pureed food for the rest of your life. (Bad example, I know but I think you get the point). Trust me, the right person will come along and completely blow you away. You’ll wonder if it’s even possible to have someone so perfect in your life and you’ll have no problem committing to them. Will it work out? Who knows? It’s a risk. But that’s what life is, taking a series of risks. If it doesn’t work out, you learn from your mistakes and you move onto the next risk. Think about it. Everything in our lives has/does involve some measure of risk. If we all worried about taking risks, nothing would happen and we’d all be complete shut-ins, hermetically sealed in bubble wrap or whatever. You’re not committed to anyone and you’re already worried about becoming an Ex. Life is wayyyy too short to live like that. I’m a firm believer in fate and that everything happens for a reasong, whether we understand what that reason is or not. Go with the flow and enjoy the ride.
Well fate and a couple of bucks will get you an extra large at Timmies. Exactly what is the reason for a good person to die in a car accident, or murdered, or raped, or taken to the cleaners by an evil or supid person. There is none. It’s called life. Explain to a child that there was a reason that a drunk driver killed them.
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i gotta go with donk on this, a rose is a rose is rose and a sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. fizz is a stupid bitch
“Who needs love anyway. Pssssssht.
“Well, love CAN make you dumb … ” My point exactly. That’s why procreation deserves thought.”
YUP. On both accounts! a) the pill doesn’t cost THAT much (some are as cheap as 15 bucks a pack!) and b) condoms aren’t that expensive, either and there are plenty of ways to get ’em fo’ free.
And hay! Abortion is covered by MSI when it comes right down to it! 😀
Yes love can make you dumb and lust can make you dumber. I agree with PK that procreation deserves thought, a huge amount of thought. A child takes an enormous amount of energy, thought and resources to raise to a reasonably well-adjusted adult, all things being equal.
If a couple have a child then decide to split, that child’s needs need to be met. In this case, OP indicates the mother lies, cheats and is lazy, not a particularly great mother. If the child was foremost in OP’s mind, why didn’t he document his case and fight for full or partial custody a long time ago?
I believe OP cannot see the child in his glare of hatred for the mom. He doesn’t like her and certainly does not want send his hard-earned cash to her.
I just think if you truly love your child, you will do everything you can to reduce the ex’s irresponsible influence on them.
troodon4: I agree 110%.
Well seeing the child is now 18, that until very recently, men very seldom or ever got custody of a child unless mom took off or was in jail. It’s a bit easier now for a man to get custody but it is still an uphill battle.