I HATE lazy people. It really grinds my gears when people message me on Facebook or talk to my boyfriend about how I need to stop by, because they miss me, or haven’t seen me in a while. You know what? There’s a REASON I dont visit, and if you miss me so much, walk down the road THREE FUCKING HOUSES AND VISIT ME. For fucks sakes it’s not always one person making an effort, and that is why I dont consider you my friend. Friendship is a two way street, and I’m sick of being in your neighbourhood. —Can’t wait to get the hell out
This article appears in Feb 24 – Mar 2, 2011.
Don’t let the gate hit you in the azz on the way out~
Here here, OP.
I get fed up real fast with being the only one who initiates anything with friends. If you don’t want to take a little bit of effort ever to make plans with me when I’m the one always doing the planning then you can go hang out with someone else.
This irks me to no end.
I figure if someone REALLY wants to be your friend and hang out they’ll actually take SOME sort of initiative. But maybe that’s just me.
Hey OP, why don’t you test out the new “facebook share” features on LTWWB. Maybe you’ll get your point across better that way. 🙂
I’m bothered the same way by friends who never make an effort to keep in touch and then ask why they haven’t heard from you. It’s a fucking two-way street, man.
..peeps are too busy jogging/working out to have time to actually walk to your home ..dumbasses 🙂
I’m pretty much a loner. My wife is my best friend and we hang out together on weekends (because of our work hours). May sound crazy but it works. Ocassionally we’ll meet through the week for lunch.
You know what else really frosts my cupcakes? When you have a group of friends who’ll get together, but neglect to invite you. Not intentionally or anything — they just don’t think of it. For example: good friend of mine, who I haven’t seen in like 5 years was home for the week. Said friend got together with the rest of the girls in our “group” but OH HAY no one invited PK because apparently moving from the valley to halifax is the same as moving across the universe. Every time this friend comes home the same shit happens.
It’s so irritating. It’s also irritating when you DO take the initiative and the friend is all flakey about it. If you don’t want to hang out, FINE just tell me. Stop being all “oh yeah let’s hangout” and then never take any initiative and don’t make sold plans when your ‘friend’ DOES take the initiative. Bahhh I’m done being the friendship facilitator. It’s too much fucking work and it’s too disheartening, most of the time (yes, I take things to heart, so what?) It’s up to others to take the fucking initiative if they want to see me. If not, well then I guess you won’t see me. I’ve done enough work in each and every one of my friendships, and the ones who matter reciprocate…the others? Well I’m not chasing you down to spend time with you.
Wanna hang out/catch up/talk to me — lemmie know (I’m not THAT hard to get a hold of). If not, buh bye. I’m done doing all the legwork. DONE.
I’m often the one initiating because I’m pretty new here so no one thinks of me, but I’m totally happy inviting myself along. I’m also fine hanging by myself. And I’m like you, Senor, my boyfriend and I love hanging out together, we’re great friends and only get to hang on the weekends, so we just do whatever, go with the flow if there’s a group out, and if not we’re happy just being together and being silly.
Though, I am happy to say that the last couple months I really feel like I have a gang of friends to call on when I’m lonesome. So that’s pretty cool. It’s usually me doing the calling, but I get awful cabin fever, so it works. 😀
PK – you ever want to hang out, I’m a totally low maintenance aquaintance and love just going for a drink after work.
wow, my thoughts exactly! great bitch
I couldn’t agree more! But they contact you when they want something! I hereby give up initiating contact, being the one to travel to do the visiting and looking after everyone’s pets!
ralmn. We are just happy keeping ourselves amused. We are always kidding around with each other. Hope you can keep up the same relationship like us.
Laughing is the key.
Anyone else finds this sappy. Seek therapy. Life is too short.
It really grinds my gears when STFU.
Next.
Agreed 100% Senor – I’ve been there, done that, and I’m happy to say I’m in a great place now. What a difference it makes when you’re happy in your own skin and really love just being with your partner.
I hope sometime soon we can actually live in the same town and stop this weekend commute nonsense.
Me thinks OP needs to find some real friends. They’re worth their weight in gold.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-0WNbm1jz6A
How about when the other people are the busy ones?
when you ask and ask and ask when they’re free but they always have studying, working, previous engagements, exams, plans for lunch, supper, evening entertainment…
what the fuck are you suposed… holy shit Donk, is that a giraffe? sweet…
ahem… what was I saying?
oh yeah.. you know the type they are…
the flaky or forgetful type….
the focussed or passionate type…
the always drunk and forgetful type…
Hey, if you don’t want to be friends… don’t respond.
They’ll barely remember you and you’ll get your time to sit quietly and masterbate in the corner to threesome midget porn like you wanted to this evening anways….
Does it really matter that much if they ask if you’re busy to chill for an hour or so?
ah, i knew facebook had to show up in here someplace. i guess you and they never heard tell of phones, you know, the kind you actually say words into. not the things that you type a message on.
or do you even remember how they work anymore? you turn it on, punch in a series of numbers, someone on other ends hears it ring, or makes other disgusting or disturbing sound. they take finger or claw, push send or whatever, and say HELLO into the area to actually speak words into. then you,”gasp”, say real words back to them. see how easy that works. and you know what o.p., it takes less time than fucking texting. get a fucking life you idiot.
WTF? Zed posting at 12am? Outside working hours? Jesus, were you drunk?
In any event, I get that people are busy, zed. No one gets that more than I do, and no one is more understanding of that than I am. But when you’re ALWAYS the one making the effort…it just wears on you after a while. And then you find out ALL your girls from back home are getting together over and over and no one so much as picks up the fucking phone or emails or texts or even sends a FB msg and asks if you’d like to join them — I know they’d be all up for me joining them and I would invite myself along but NO ONE TELLS ME WHEN OR IF THEY’RE GOING TO MEET. I might as well live on another planet as far as they’re concerned.
And I get that people have other things going on. I understand they might be all “I’m not sure — let me see”…but when it becomes a pattern and they never actually get back to you…that’s when it starts to get irritating and quite frankly, pretty damn hurtful. What’s the point being friends with someone who never bothers with you? Especially when you have a plethora of other friends who do. THOSE are the relationships one should be focusing on: the relationships where BOTH parties actually take an interest in interacting with each other! What a concept!
ralmn: I’d love to hang out and get a drink sometime 🙂 I’m always up for meeting new people!
I’m like you, too, I have no problem entertaining myself. Heck, I’m an only child and grew UP entertaining myself and sometimes I’d just prefer to chill out by myself…I’m not a high maintenance friend either. Which is why it hurts when people I really do like make no attempt to acknowledge my existence. It’s not like I’m CONSTANTLY on their ass to hang out with me.
I don’t have A LOT of friends like this, I’ll admit, but it is irritating and quite hurtful nonetheless. And you can only ask so many times and get shot down so many times before you just have no inclination to bother asking again (because there’s no point!).
maybe…
ah, the early risers. well, my long day is now done, so i can turn in for the rest of it. us vampires need sleep too. i leave the bitch board in you guy’s capable hands. and don’t let the nerdlingers get you all. tata. and kay will send her best, or in some cases, her worst at you all soon again.
I hate being the one to make plans too … and I don’t really have many friends that are here anymore. When I do make plans with a friend, I know that 80% of the time it’s not going to happen. Something ALWAYS comes up, like them forgetting completely (if I actually want to hang out with them, I have to keep reminding them several times a day and they still forget!) or hangs out with someone else and just assumes I want to hang out with this other person with them, most times it’s this person I despise because of the crap they put this friend through. It just sucks to be second choice over a cheating, disease-ridden, pretentious psychopath. But whatev, my kitty is the best company ;D. Wow I sound like a loser haha.
And ralmn, me and the BF also have to commute :(. He used to live in Oromocto so we would see each other on weekends, but now he lives in Petawawa, Onterrible soo it’s not really possible to see each other on weekends :(! But he is moving back here soon! Well, not here, back to Oromocto haha. Blah it sucks! I just hate going out and seeing couples together :P! Or when people complain about not seeing their BF/GF for like, 5 days or something. I just wanna punch them in the face :D!
Drunk on a Monday night…*shakes head*
mel: what bugs me, really is when someone says they’ll hang out with you and then when you remind them they’re all “oh…I can’t” then you find out they ditched you to hang out with someone else. And then they tell you about it! Like, get a fucking clue! I’d never do that to someone.
And sadly, my cats are the best company too. At least they WANT to hang out with me. Which is more than I can say about SOME people, lately.
someone’s overusing her ‘jump to conclusions’ mat…
You’re lucky I’m not working at the WTCC office today, Zed, because I’d go over right now and smack you!
You’d have to somehow get through the 2 security doors PK. People in this office are on top of aliens like the whip cream atop my Mom’s glorious cherry cheesecake! Mmmmm… can’t wait to have Mom’s cooking this weekend!
Great. Remind me of the cheesecake I never got to have.
What the heck did I ever do to you? 🙁
definitely not me…
http://www.wholesalebarsupplies.com/images…
Definitely not……. YOU don’t slobber.
*sigh*
This thread makes me want to cry out of frustration.
Thanks for that, guys! 😀
P.K “frosts my cupcakes” Love it! Probably stealing it:P
At least SOMEONE apprecites PK around here 🙁
Thanks FA, that just made my day! 🙂
P.K, I 100% appreciate you. We are in the “orgy of awesomeness” group together remember!
How could I not appreciate that.
But isn’t frosting cupcakes generally considered a good thing? 😛
Thanks, FA! I appreciate you too! I’m quite glad you’re back posting these days 🙂
Think of it in a metaphorical sense, 195 😉