Ok so what do you do when your boyfriend doesn’t want to fuck you? We have been together for a while now and have finally worked out our kinks (good/bad), we are both super comfortable with each other, both love each other, so why no desire to fuck me? Why don’t you want to throw me down and make passionate love or dirty kinky sex with me? I know he’s not cheating on me or want to be with anyone else because he told me that I’m “the One”. All I get is excuses, I’m tired, I’m not in the mood, I’ve got alot on my mind, I just wanna relax…..WTF! I am a young attractive, sexual woman who even opened up sexually so much to eat your ass and let you fuck me up the ass like COME ON! I need intimacy and the desire to be wanted. – Horny and Frustrated
This article appears in Jan 10-16, 2013.
Yeah OP with a mouth like that I can definitely see why he is turned off. Your post is totally disgusting. If you can’t think of a nicer more presentable way to state your problem methinks you are a phony who gets off talking dirty. Save that shit for the bedroom ok???
op, you may have stated the reason…he wants to make love and you want to get ‘fucked dirty’.
room for both, time for each, but if love is the only kind he wants, and dirty is the only kind you want, there’s a problem.
or…this is just a fake post to try to get a sexual discussion going on ‘in public’
if so, sheesh. growup.
OP Your man seems to be stressed out.Talk with him.ask if he needs help with anything.
Take care of your partners’ emotions,feelings then he/she will take care of you.
Maybe your partner lacks the “sex drive” you have
A smelly vagina comes to mind….
“passionate love or dirty kinky sex”
You actually categorize like that? Chances are he doesn’t want to fuck you because there is somebody else or he’s not interested any more. The whole situation of being known as the “One” means zilch, girlie, and he’s probably saying that to you so it’ll shut you up for a few microseconds.
#IvanNoMore
Either your hygiene sucks or you are not “The One”.
Guys tell all the bitches that they’re ‘the One’.
Your man is either in the closet or it’s just YOU he doesn’t find attractive.
A big turnoff is knowing you can’t say no.
“he told me that I’m “the One””… It’s very easy to talk … does he treat you like “the one” ? Boru may be on to something as well. Don’t know, maybe it’s just me but I smell immaturity (maybe naiveté?) from this post …
i say this is a fake bitch. A guy doesn’t need to be horny or in love to wanna fog their girlfriend.
If this is a true story, OP, you found the Q in LGBTQ, ie Questioning.
just saying
“FIFTY SHADES OF GREY” OR: HOW TO READ FEMALE EROTICA
” I need intimacy and the desire to be wanted.” Horny and Frustrated
I realize that many will hoot with hilarity in view of my claim that I never read fiction but the claim was true. I had bought “Fifty Shades” for a female as a Christmas present but who, at least for now, was not interested. Anyway, the story confirms the legitimacy of Horny’s bitch. Females are indeed horny and frustrated but not in the same way as males. But first, how to read female erotica.
One can read “Fifty Shades” at two levels, either for titillation or for insight into the female mind. It is well written and easily induces an erotic reaction. It’s a page-turner. However, I read it to explore the mind of its author E.L. James, a married woman living in London with two children who I take as an articulate representative of the mind of the female in general. In other words, I did the same thing as I do on this site, listen to the mind of the author. It’s my philosophical training, what else can I say? Anyway, what does James have to tell us?
The story is quite simple. A newly graduated, awkward virginal university student called Anastasia Steele falls madly in love with the drop-dead handsome Christian Grey, an extremely wealthy and culturally accomplished businessman who is only in his late ’20’s. The problem is, he is a sexual sadist. He is a “Dominant” and requires that she become his “Submissive”. He demands that she sign a contract outlining various forms of sexual sadism – caning, fisting, and so on and such is her love – and lust for him – that she consents, at least for a trial period. (The most interesting exercise, at least for me, involved her bending over naked, looking back through her ankles at Christian while he inserted two metal balls, after they had been warmed in both their mouths, into her vagina and demanding that she walk around the room. She found the experience deeply stimulating and came when he slowly withdrew them from her vagina. So you get the idea.) But what’s author’s E.L. James’ message?
It resonates in the title of Horny’s bitch. Like Anastasia, Horny wants to be fucked. She wants to adopt the role of the Submissive and have her boyfriend, the Dominant, fuck her. But, and the parallels with Anastasia continue, she does not just want to be fucked. She wants what Anastasia calls “more.” She wants romance. She wants to be wanted as a person and not just as a sexual plaything. This is the tension in the novel and, of course, this the identical tension between Horny and her boyfriend (if he ever gets around to fucking her).
How will the tension be resolved? I haven’t finished “Fifty Shares of Grey” – hey, I’m still reading philosophy at the same time! – so I can’t say. I can’t say about Horny’s tension either, but at least we have some context, the role of erotica in the mind of the female. In a nutshell, it’s that of the Submissive being ravished by a beautiful, wealthy, culturally male. But, dammit, he’s not sensitive to her emotional needs.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
He’s fucking someone else.
You know, I was once with a girl who instead of trying to seduce me when she wanted some she just kinda whined and demanded it. Huge turn off. Could this be your problem?
RSVP- Montrealman
Ordered it as a Christmas present?
Teehee, you can be honest, we won’t judge. Let me guess, ordered it online didn’t you?
Screaming Fields of Sonic Love
RSVPS
: Tommy Jules (01/13, 1:45PM)
Tommy! What are you doing here? I am still waiting for your reply back on “Merde” about those multiple ways of saying “fuck” in French. I’m raising the ante, Tommy. Instead of just saying them, I now require that you demonstrate personal experience of each variety complete with a brief description of each. Write back soon, Tommy.
: Sonic Nukka (2:27PM)
No Nukka, bought it right in the book store. As I was looking around and holding the book with the title showing, a young hot sales girl came up to me and told me that she thought I would enjoy it. She had read it herself. She said that she had enjoyed it. Enjoyed it a lot. She gave me the eye. She was hot. We met again at the cash. I paid by Mastercard. She wanted my e-mail address. I was turned off. like Tommy above. I said, “I just want to buy the book, not give my life history.” But I told her I was just joking. She smiled back. She was hot.
But she was right. I did enjoy it Nukka, but in my usual reflective, cerebral philosophical way of course.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
RSVP- Montrealman
Now that was a Blow Me story if I ever heard one. If you did actually buy it in a bookstore though, they ask everyone for an email to put in their database. You know, to email store promotions, new releases, sales, etc. Like I said, sounds like a Blow Me story you old player you.
Screaming Fields of Sonic Love
Get the Turbo Drilldong 2000 from Venus Envy and use it on high speed while he’s watching the Space Channel.
Honestly, OP, if he’s not putting out while he’s young, he certainly won’t when he’s old. You are going to have to decide whether you can handle the constant frustration, which, I can assure you, will turn into bitterness as you grow older. Either he needs a wakeup call to your distress or he’ll continue to ignore it. Do you honestly want to live like siblings for the rest of your life? Don’t fucking do it.
Hah – just go to the mall like The Chicken Lady does
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1hJ6ea0Aik
If a man does not want to have sex with his girlfriend I would say it is either because he does not like sex or he doesn’t see you in a conventional sexual manner. Your sentence about anal sex makes me think that possibly he may enjoy unconventional sex and is uncomfortable about bringing it up (so to speak). Perhaps you said something to him you thought was innocuous but wasn’t to him.
Have a nice relaxed discussion with him about sex and what each are looking for. No pressure, no ultimatums. He might offer up some insights.
I know two women in this situation – I’ve watched their self-worth diminish year by year because their husbands refused to have sex (one, however, would accept a blowjob, fucking pig). I’ve also saw how increasingly bitter and hostile they became as the years rolled by. Whenever I talk to either of them, the bile and anger permeates every conversation and the hostility they have toward their long-term spouses is nothing short of spitting acid.
I’d just hate to see the OP waste good years on a man who will deprive her of the beauty of intimacy between two loving souls.
…lol… Capital Health need to hire some gigolos.That would calm some angry,anxious middle age women.
Oh my god, if I were in a relationship with a guy who wouldn’t fuck me the last thing he’d be getting from me is a blow job!
Morning folks,previously I emailed to say taping begins at 7;taping begins at 6:40.I was originally given the wrong times.
Have a great day. 😛
Dude’s obviously a closet case. Tell him you’ll bring another guy into the bedroom with the two of you and see how he reacts.
It won’t last…
A relationship that lacks sexual chemistry and compatibility is doomed. If my man wasn’t enjoying me, thoroughly and repeatedly, I would be gone like the wind.
Nurse say it’s not so, say you don’t have a man. I thought I was yours (tears).
Tim, the man is hypothetical…I can’t seem to find one who can keep up! Lol! 😉
you miss me o.p., tell everyone, that you do. now back in shadows again, whoooosh.
TTFN, your advice resonates with me. I am not OB, but I could very well be. I have been with someone who has a video gaming addiction for 7 years. It does get tiresome trying to talk to the side of his head, and only getting a grunt in return, or denial that there’s a problem. I’ve expressed my frustration @ the 1-2 times I get laid per year. It falls on deaf ears, like everything else I say to him. It’s very depressing. The “living like siblings” situation is no joke. I just try to do my own thing. (And have plenty of batteries on hand at all times.)
Kontee I know what it’s like living with someone like that,all too well.
It really sucks, Boru. It’s difficult to keep things in perspective at times. I have to keep asking myself if my feelings and self worth are more important than my lifestyle. Awful choice. I hope I win the lottery someday. Working on the problem has been very one sided and futile. I like to think of him as an ostrich, only instead of sand, he buries his head in Star Wars online.
Never understood why people stick around in a sexless relationship. It makes no sense to me. Blah blah blah because there is more to a relationship than just sex…..
@kontee:
If you think it’s such a problem that you aren’t getting the D that it caused you to talk about it in a public forum then you probably give zero fucks about the relationship anyway. You’re most likely sticking around because of kids, the fact it’s easy, or some small retarded idea of love. Personally, I think you should nail his best friend or get some D on the side…Bitches gotta eat ain’t no shame in that. Also judging by your picture….probably not hard for you to get a free cockmeat sandwich if you wanted.
I say all that in the most polite way that I know how while still using the word “cockmeat”.
Kontee I know leaving your partner may seem intimidating to you now but “If momma ain’t happy;no one’s happy”;even If you don’t have children.I realize now,Leaving a relationship is like taking off a band aid..you just have to tear it off quickly.As far as your “standard of living” after you leave,sure that will be affected, for a little while.Would you rather be single and eat Mr Noodle and (as Zilla said) have sex basically when you want or, stay in a sexless possibly(?) loveless relationship?…I did that for almost 20 years with an abusive bastard;it was not fun at all.I’m not implying I’m getting any now that I’m single.
Good day
Now that is uncomprehensible to me………
Play video games or fuck my woman??…..
Play video games or have sex with my woman??
Get rid of that man….
Here is some advise on how you can either kickstart the relationship or end it once and for all….
Next time he is playing video games….get naked and stand in front of the TV screen. Say “I wanna fuck, do you?”
See what he says..
If he says no…..blast him with both barrels.
THE FUCKER & THE FUCKEE: TWO WAYS OF BEING-IN-THE-WORLD
“Just fuck me already.” Horny and Frustrated
I’ve been thinking more about this and would like to post a postscript to my initial “Fifty Shades of Grey” or: How to Read Female Erotica” (01/13, 12:04PM) where I briefly described the novel’s plot-line consisting of the Dominant Male (Christian Grey) and the Submissive Female (Anastasia Steele) and concurrently attempted to draw a parallel between them, on the one hand, and Horny and her reluctant boyfriend, on the other. I am suggesting that the question is not so much about oddly behaving particular couples but rather about the contrasting natures of the minds of the male-female – what I have rudely called “The Fucker & The Fuckee” – in general. Let’s start with the wording of the bitch itself.
“Just fuck me already” is spoken in the passive voice. For Horny is a Fuckee and fucking is something that is done to her. This is not a criticism but rather flows logically from her anatomical construction. It cannot be otherwise. On the other hand, the boyfriend is a Fucker. He would never title a bitch of his in the passive voice like Horny but rather only in the active voice. He is one who does the fucking. For the Fucker, at least for the heterosexual Fucker, to be fucked is an unthinkable abomination. He recoils at the thought.
However, the first point to note is that Horny does not find her role as the Fuckee an abomination. On the contrary, she relishes the role, looks forward to it and actively seeks out the Fucker by means of the usual feminine strategies. In other words, in the so-called “Battle of the Sexes,” while the Fucker is the puncher, the Fuckee is the counter-puncher. She reacts, slips the Fucker’s punches and scores her own by being flexible, quickly devising the means to render the Fucker impotent (but of course not in the most important relevant sense).
The second and major point, is that these two roles – the Fucker and the Fuckee – play themselves out in the larger context, that of the existential context of their “being-in-the-world”. Their generalized approach to life varies fundamentally. The Fucker is the doer. He acts, often without much thought. He can be self-absorbed, often unaware of the concerns of others. His mind is directed towards clearly defined objectives whether in the sciences, business, or even philosophy. He seeks clear and unambiguous answers wherever possible.
In contrast, the Fuckee is more involved in relationships. Her mind is geared less toward clearly-definable objectives and more toward inter-subjectivity. Her realm is that of intuition. She seeks comforting relationships rather than success defined in terms of objective criteria. She is compassionate. She is nurturing. However, her passivity is not to be seen simply as a “passive passivity” but rather as an active yet accommodating posture, at one time receptive yet purposeful, all supported by that intuitive grasp of the big relational picture. The picture is “relational” because, as a Fuckee, she defines herself in terms of relationships rather than Fucker’s objective benchmarks. She is flexible yet also determined. She is a “stayer” and as such, may well be considered the stronger of the sexes.
Is all this biological determinism, the view that the Fucker and the Fuckee are predetermined to play out their being-in-the-world on the basis of whether they possess a penis or vagina? It might have been true in the past when gender roles were more a product of earlier and more rigid agricultural/industrial conditions but they no longer obtain, at least not to the degree they once did. Perhaps both the Fucker and the Fuckee are slowly making their way to some fuller, more rounded middle ground in which their being-in-the-world will have a softer, more nuanced and fluid embodiment.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Good points….but I think the Fucker wants to fuck boys or himself…not her. I feel bad for her.
I appreciate your advice, guys, and yes, I am so bothered that I spoke about it on here.
Yes, it’s sexless, but it’s not loveless. That’s the main problem.
I don’t mess around, that’s not the way I roll anymore. I just need to set a deadline, which I am doing today. I have a bit of a plan coming together. It’s hard, after 7 years. I need to start taking care of myself, though, because this situation is taking its toll on me. I’m really sad 🙁
Joe mocha, I have, and he just chuckles, and stares back at the screen. It gets disheartening after a while.
A relationship with no sex is no relationship……
Sex is not everything of course but it is hard to maintain the delicate balance without intimaticy…….its just so natural.
Sorry to ask this….but is he cheating on you??
Joe:Unless he’s doing one of his online wookie friends, he never would have time. He wakes up, around 4-5 am, plays the game before work, and after work, until he falls asleep, on the couch. He’s not the cheatin type. But it feels like he’s cheatin with this game, because it gets all of his time. He knows nothing about me. I left him a Dear John letter on top of the computer today.
Kontee….it is just obvious to all- and now thankfully yourself….to end that. He loves his games more than you…..I pity him more than you because you are attractive. I am sure you will have no issue with finding a loving man who wants to be with you instead of playing with his own joystick…..(pun intended)
and then, there is the fuck buddy system. i hear that works quite well with just about the whole world.
LOLOL! I know he’s not cheating on me or want to be with anyone else because he told me that I’m “the One”.
LOLOL!
Gawd…he has got to be gay…what normal heter male would reject a woman who is begging for sex…..let alone anal sex!!!!???
Its like Seinflelds bizarro world!!
alright moman:
Baiser
Niquer
Enculer (this one refers specifically to anal sex)
I know there are more but those are the three that I can think of right now.
And I hate to even say this but am I the only one who notices a double standard here? When a guy bitches about his woman not putting out it seems to be a bit of a different story when it comes to responses, particularly from women.
i like your comments young thomas, it’s like you’re right beside me. you’re always honest and i appreciate that
It’s true, Tom! Bitches be actin’ like starfish n’ shit.
What should you do when your boyfriend “doesn’t” want to fuck you? I would say just go finger yourself on the sofa and shaadaap.
If you fight all day, and then look to fuck all night – it doesn’t matter how GGG you are, dumbass – he’s gonna have a headache. Try boosting his ego, being genuinely interested in him, and just talking to him – then cuddle, and go to sleep without pushing for sex.
I guarantee, you’ll get some in the morning.