You, me and our other girl friends have been tight for 5-10 years. Some of us are single, some of us have men. What part of GIRLS night out did you not understand? You were the only one who brought your stupid boyfriend along. One night, ONE FUCKING NIGHT, could you ever be away from your boo? No! Why does he always have to come along? The rest of us manage to go places without our men glued to us from time to time, except you! Doesn’t he have buddies of his own? Does he not trust you? I don’t get it.
Then the other day, I asked you to come for a walk with me in the park because I wanted to confide in you about a personal matter I had. You agreed. You made no indication that he’d be coming along, yet who do I see sitting in the passenger seat when you drive by to pick me up? Him! I asked YOU to come for a walk with me, not you AND him!! When I told you that I had something private to talk to you about and I’d rather us be alone, you say he won’t tell anyone! What in the actual fuck!
This has got to stop. I understand that you’re crazy about this guy, but you’re losing your independence. It’s not healthy to be with your partner all the fucking time. And how about spending some one-on-one time with your friends, ’cause, um, we’ve been in your life longer than this dude, and it would be smart not to ditch your friends if he were to ever kick you to the curb. Gawd!! —Fed-up Bestie
This article appears in Sep 20-26, 2012.
You’re quite right to be upset OP. A hot dry summer always means it will be a bad fall for boy cooties.
If asking your friend up front to leave the penis/wallet at home is too difficult; maybe these folks will help. They’ve “got your back”, supposedly.
http://halifax.ihollaback.org/share-your-s…
I know a guy who will not go anywhere without his significant other …… significant to him not us!
I had two tickets for a sold out black-tie event and invited him along …… he showed up with her! Where the fuck was she going to sit? The hotel staff graciously provided an extra seat at out table but this was awkward for the other guests. He was taken aside by one of the organizing staff and asked the method of payment for the ticket, which was $150.00 …… the look on his face was priceless!
He still bitched about having to pay and I keep telling him he did not have to pay but rather SHE HAD TO PAY!!
My Heavens people please get a life other than the one you have created for yourself….stuck like glue to your significant other. Be it a boyfriend/or husband, for cryin out loud have a little sense and independence. When your besties invite you out UNLESS they are bringing their sidekicks along have the good sense to go alone. If you don’t you can be assured they will be talking about what a sucker you are behind your back. That and the fact that you have LOST your independence because you are so desperate to Keep the other one happy. YOU Are NOT responsible for your other half’s happiness. You are jeopardizing your friendships for someone that in all likelihood will get fed up with your clammy ass. In no time flat.
as sad and pathetic as it is that she feels the need to be with him 24/7. the fact of the matter is, you already know that anything “private” you say to her will be promptly repeated to him as soon as they are together again.
find a new friend to confide in that has a little more self confidence.
Ahh give it 6 months ,they are in “love ” and all those ,,,birds that suddenly appear ,,,(you know the song),,,
will all go south…..
and yall be readin ’bout it here,,,
were there any ground rules laid down beforehand? if not, you should have. times change o.p., and so should other people. you can’t expect or demand that someone only be there for you or them. you and they have your own lives, and both have to settle for that.
Yeah that’s pretty lame, if you value her friendship try talking to her abiut it she could honestly be oblivious and blinded by her own happiness. If that doesn’t work just put her on the back burner and promote one of your other friends to bestie status for those girls only events. She will either come to her senses or the relationship will end and perhaps friendship can resume, if not you did your best and don’t really want that type of person in your life anyway.
Perhaps she could’ve left him at home with one of these?
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-22…
Did we not just flog this dead horse properly?
http://www.permaculturenews.org/images/flo…
TC – Sloppy seconds, YUK!!!
You may want to dig deeper in this one OP, not sure if it is her who can’t be without him or him not letting her do anything herself. There maybe some trust issues here which is going to come to ahead sooner than later, call her, texted her, email her, whatever, bacause if she is a friend it might be worth checking out.
You have to clear OP. Tell her it’s her and her alone and see if she shows up.
Reminds me a bit of that movie ‘The Ladykillers’ where a group of criminals are planning a casino heist. They decide to meet at the local Waffle Hut to discuss the details when the demolition guy shows up with his girlfriend much to the surprise of the others.
This is sort of like that isn’t it?
you all should listen to woggie, she speaks from experience. when her ex dumped her, she had no where else to go, except her imaginary friend way out there. over the course of years, it really warped her little mind, more than it was. she started off here spewing the hail mary’s and now, she curses like the rest of us. i say that is a job well done. slap your backs folks. other convert to depravity appears.
Blow mE. sHOULDN’T YOU be off somewhere brushing your tooth? Or rollin a makins? No one was spouting Hail Mary’s especially not me since I am Not a catholic and don’t agree with that religion at all. If you can get your stinkin ass of the rockin chair for a minute and get a breath of fresh air outside, yeah I know that’s a hard one for ya, you would know this. You too are against perfumes but in your case anything, even Hai Karate, of years gone by would be an iprovement. And a bit of soap to wash out your dirty mouth wouldn’t hurt either. I never said I was perfect. Just forgiven. Ther’s a big difference.
The real perplexing question to me is why does the boyfriend even WANT to come along for girl’s night? guahh
Blow me: Also again clean the shit out of your ears. My X did not dump me. I dumped HIM after a few years of calculation on my part. When my kids grew up and after I had padded my nest the exact way I wanted it, I made my departure. You have it wrong once again. Probably because your X dumped you the same way. We women, the smart ones anyhow, make sure ALL our ducks are in a row before we make our exit. We’re smart that way. While the X’s are having their fun we are planning our exit. And we ain’t goin till it’s time! Believe me, my X paid through the nose, just the way I like it!
Good point @ Brand New. Why would a guy want to sit around listening to chick talk? And for the friend to say “He won’t say anything” is just lame. In other words, the boyfriend will know your personal business the minute your back is turned anyway. Serious breach to the girl code. Never, ever tell your significant other private information about your friends. It is, quite frankly, none of their business.
You grabbed your ex by the ears and made him squeal like a pig did you Woggie? Figuratively speaking of course.
it really hurts getting your ears pulled, fortunately for us our folks did not employ this technique
Wog’s ex was no doubt weakened from blood loss, after having gnawed off his own arm to get away from her.
Col: Au contraire. it was quite a shock to him and that’s how I wanted it. For me, however, it was a blessing and a windfall. eeeeeeehhawwwww!!!!
Yes, of course that’s how it happened wog. Your life plays like an episode of the Golden Girls in which the smartass old crone always has the last word.
I hear ya OP. I have a girlfriend who’s like that with her now husband. We’d have girl nights and she’d bring him along. At first it was nice to see her happy and with someone, but then it got to be annoying.
It was your Deliverance wasn’t it Woggie. (cue banjoes)
Getting back to topic, I’m with TJ, why would any guy want to go with his lady on one of these outings? An evening of talking about men, purses and shoes. (j/k)
i hate all those subjects, except for men^^waves at the boy
Col: I ain’t complainin. It seems to all have worked out in my favor ????? Dumpin a loser AND gainin a windfall. It is a win/win situation! What’s not to like?
Rashomon: LTWWB STYLE:
wogdog’s version:
http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2153/242426…
Mr. Dog’s version:
http://blogs.coventrytelegraph.net/thegeek…
I know which one seems more plausible, to me.
Col: Your Dog’s version is for the stupid ones. This chick had her ducks in a row remember? Yup, win/win. You should try to learn a few tips from these postings, ya never know when your ole lady will dump your ass, if she hasn’t already! |Just a heads up.
Now , wognog – does this like a couple who might break up?
http://wiki-images.enotes.com/thumb/b/ba/R…
I think not.