It’s been nearly seven years since I came out of the closet; since I told you both that I didn’t feel okay in my body, with my sex or perceived gender. Like most LGBT+ teens, I was told that it was “just a phase.” But it’s been seven fucking years. Seven years that you both have known. And yet, during these seven years, NEITHER of you have tried to learn or accept it. In fact, NO ONE I’ve known for years has made any sort of effort, like if you ignored it it would magically disappear. I’m so tired of being told “it’s hard for me, too” or people excusing you saying “oh well, just give them time!” It’s been seven years; that’s plenty of time. As for it being “difficult” for you, how fucking inconsiderate. Is it really hard for you? Is it so hard that you’ve felt the need to harm yourself? To end your life? To feel like absolute scum? Because for me, having the people you love tell you that you’re “ruining their lives” for something I had never asked for is hard. —I just want to be me
This article appears in Aug 28 – Sep 3, 2014.
1) you can NOT control the world around you.
2) Ask yourself the real question you need an answer to:
Why is external validation so important to me?
don’t ‘ruin your life’ over something you never asked for – your parents. walk away. nothing you do is going to budge them. they are the ones with the problem, not you. so they have to deal with it.
their not loving you doesn’t mean you are unlovABLE, it means they aren’t lovING.
There’s a fairly large LGBT community here in Halifax. Thats one place to get your support; that and good friends. Once you’re comfortable in your own skin, you can deal ; or not ; with how your family feels.
Family is important but their approval of all parts of your lifemay not be.
Well dear, just be you. Speaking from personal experience…
Be the best you that you can possibly be. If you’re relying on others to affirm that you should live, you’re misleading yourself.
By taking away your life, you do yourself the greatest disservice.
Do not equate acceptance with love-they are not congruent. Acceptance may never come, but their love for you will always be there.
Change is always difficult. Change means loss. Loss equates to grief. Denial is part of grief. Fear of what comes is next follows. This is about them and where they are at in Life, not you.
YOUR newest Life challenge is to accept that this is the way things are right now and you are powerless to change things.
Love them. Care for them. Forgive them. Live Life. Love yourself. If you don’t love yourself, no one will…
See? Not always such an old cunt after all kiddies!
I think ISIS might have an action plan here.
You should get a cat.
o.p., be very comfortable in knowing who and what you are. to hell with what others tink or say. piss on them. you are the only one that really matters here. be YOU.
m.m., are we feeling okay, today?
Why do [eo[le think that everyone has to accept them, love them or whatever. People have their loves, likes, indifference, and dislikes about things. The world does not revolve around you. If someone doesn’t like or care about you, so what? Carry on and quit being whiny.
^^I feel the need to be accepted by everyone on this board.
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Life Sucks (09/04, 9:30AM)
Well yes, as a matter of fact, I am. Is there any particular reason you ask?
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
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: Life Sucks (09/04, 9:30AM)
I posted a reply – Well, yes Sucks, I am, but why do you ask?” and noted that it was deleted Do you think that the Mod (aka Lavrenti Beria of the NKVD) from Birtch struck again?
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
you just nver know there, m.m., as to the okay part, it was directed to the isis thing you said. there is actually an isis integration center in fairview. look in the local white pages for halifax. fucking near floored me.
Hey LS, did you hear that the WWF is into saving animals now? Friggin floored me.
Tomaso speekum heap big truth.
http://wrestlingonearth.com/wp-content/upl…
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: Life Sucks (09/04, 7:47PM)
Are you sure it was in the white pages?
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Immigrant Settlement & Integration Services at Mumford? Been there a few years now.
..or so the Germans would have us believe!!!!!!
*cue sinister organ crescendo*
Boon: “The Germans?”
Otter: “Forget it, Ivan’s on a roll”
whatever you do, do NOT mention the war!