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Ya… That’s nice, you and the 20 other people I know have either had a kid, or about to have one. I just don’t give a shit anymore when I hear about someone being knocked up, I can’t be all happy, and enthusiastic anymore… I just can’t! —Mind Snap
This article appears in Mar 10-16, 2011.
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“I can’t be all happy, and enthusiastic anymore… I just can’t”
Your mom felt the same way!
FIRST YOUR MOM JOKE!
snapper, i didn’t do it, i shoot blanks. (that info is not for general usage). what’s up hon, you got a bitch on today?
Its not mine !
You know, I think I’m going to be the type of mother who likes her own kids… and that’s it. lol Just like EVERYONE in my family (immediate and extended, haha).
I went to the pool yesterday and OMFG. I’ll be visiting during the adult-only swims from now on, thanks very much.
100+ nattering, screeching, running everywhere-kids yelling “mommy. mommy. mommy. mommy” while ‘mommy’ was trying to do something gave me a serious tension headache.
And I might sound like a huge bitch here, but when you have kids that are the opposite gender than you, use the fucking family change rooms. No need for 5-6 year old boys in the female locker rooms. Kthx.
I don’t hate kids at all — I want my very own… someday… and I guess I’m at a stage in my life where I’m content being around adults for the most part (i.e.: adults only resort down south as opposed to a “family” resort or adult only swims). I like my friends’ kids just fine, but most only have one or two and my friends’ kids don’t suck, because my friends don’t suck 😛
When someone is having a baby it`s a major life change and it`s a really happy and exciting thing for people and they like to share it with people they love and sometimes far beyond that group like with co-workers, coffee shop workers….and even fellow bitchers. 🙂 you don`t have to be happy or excited for them…..that`s your choice…but you can`t control what comes out of other peoples mouths…. and if you care about the person at all maybe you should just bite your lip say congrats and move onto a new topic.
sure pk lets leave a 6 year old boy who came to the pool with his mum alone in the boy changing rooms with what possibly could be someone taking advantage of him by helping him “change” he’s six ffs he probably still thinks your tits are pillows.
Sorry grouchy this morning, i hate unsupervised kids like the ones at the back of my apartment building that love to climb up the cliffface when its raining.
Anglo, what kind of stupid nimrod are you? The weird cat lady clearly suggested the use of the family changing rooms. Learn to read you jackwad! I am with Mind Snap on this bitch. I assume she is talking about those skanky tramps that are always on the busses that pass Mumford way. Their announcement that they’re pregnant is about as surprising and relevant as yet another kid coming forward to claim they shared a bed with Michael Jackson.
kerflunk’s right: I suggested the family changing rooms. That’s what they’re there for: people with kids of the opposite gender. I don’t see what’s so difficult about using those as opposed to dragging a six year old boy into female dressing rooms (not directed at you anglo, directed at the idiots who do this). I read somewhere the oldest a child should see their parent of the opposite gender nude is age four. I know I certainly don’t ever remember seeing my dad naked and i don’t ever remember being taken into the men’s change rooms when we went swimming. Always used the family change rooms. *shrug*.
I got an email from someone to re read my post which i did and i completely apologise to you pk. I misread one word which skewed your post to me, but yeah sorry about that. No need to call me a nimrod kerflunk we all make mistakes, if there was an edit after comments button i would go back and rectify it but now its done. So again i apologise and completely disregard my post.
right on .. i love when single welfare type chicks think your spoused to be all delighted at their “news” ..oh goody gum drops another ward of the state a com’n 🙂
No apology necessary, anglo 🙂 We all misread things here and there. I’ve done it *shrug*
That’s why my rant in the second post wasn’t directed towards you 😀
While we’re on this topic… I have a friend who got pregnant a while ago and… every time someone congratulated her it was like she deserved it and it was an expectation that people would shower her with praise because obviously she’s the only one to ever get knocked up. When i congratulated her, she asked me what i was going to buy the kid and then gave me a list of things and said she was sticking with those brands.
I found it VERY hard to be excited for her after that.
Frig, I need some better friends, lol.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=–ljRn5GX_s 🙂
Maybe they are congratulating them on going into the debt because they couldn’t keep their legs shut. Keep your dual incomes.
PK, I’m not sure about this place, but for the most part, family change rooms are usually pretty damn small.
If this place was as packed as you said it was, I wouldn’t be waiting for a family room. There are places in the change rooms that you can curtian off and change there. I will take that option.
Sorry, but have you ever had to deal with a line up with only parents. Parents are flippin crazy! I avoid it like the plague.
Now mind you, if the change room has a lot of naked bodies around, perhaps six is a bit old, but I grew up in Asia, it was normal for men and women to swim naked, walk naked..whatever.
I don’t think I’m overly damaged from that experience.
That’s very interesting, FA. What part of Asia did you grow up in?
… I find people who get stark naked in changing rooms weird anyway. Like whatever, I see a breast, who cares, but I’ve been in extremely awkward situations where I’m at my locker and the lady next to be is naked head to toe, and I have no idea where to look.
My little guy just turned 4 and if it’s just me and him swimming I usually got to the ladies and pick an empty section…cause the family room is 20% the size of the ladies rm…and always packed. And as a woman I feel better changing in front of a bunch of woman and a little boy then a bunch of dads and 7-10 year old boys.
I think it’s the parents who can’t control their kids. There were a lot of kids there who were well behaved, but some were screaming and yelling and running around like little idiots with no regard to anyone or their property — and I don’t blame the kid for that — it’s the fuckwad parents.
For me though, I just don’t have the patience to deal with kids right now, I think. I will someday, but I am actively choosing to not have kids for the time being so I don’t think there’s anything wrong with not wanting to deal with other people’s kids, especially in high volumes. I mean I’m not going to be hateful in a situation where there are tons of kids (I keep my frustration to myself), I would NEVER be anything but friendly and kind fo any child, and I love kids in small doses, but I also just like being a grown up on my own without that responsibility right now.
Donk. OMG. The gym I used to go to in Clayton Park… a lot of the older ladies when there because it’s women only and they all, apparently, seem to think that it’s a GREAT idea to bend over whilst stark fucking naked. And not only that, they’ll do it when you’re sitting right there on the bench. Yeah, no, keep your hairy beef curtains to yourself, “ladies.”
Look them in the eye Donk.
PK – I think they were trying to get your attention, wink wink, nudge nudge.
Aw maaaaan.
WINNING!
PK: Not wanting kids, and not wanting to deal with kids that aren’t your own is totally O.K; but it seems to me that you are complaining about not wanting to deal with kids in the situation of a public and family friendly place.
It’s like going to a MacDonald’s play area and saying that you shouldn’t have to tolerate the screaming kids. It’s part of the territory.
If you are in certain places, like a nice restaurant, or something like that, than no, I don’t agree that having to deal with a screaming kid is something you should have to endure. But going to a public family swim, at a place that just opened, dealing with kids in high volumes is going to be part of the territory.
And no one is perfect, you sound like you had great parents, but I’m sure there are times when you threw fits for your parents.
People look at a screaming kid and put so much judgement towards the parent, and have no idea of the actual situation. Now mind you, I’m far from being perfect there. I also agree that there are some bratty kids out there, but not always.
Why can’t some parents just get the benefit of the doubt? You have no idea if there are any underlining mental issues that child and their parents may face on a day to day routine.
heh z
Hugo I find it hard to look someone in the eye after I’ve just involuntarily seen their minge.
Oh I know, FA. Which is why I plan on going when it’s a little bit quieter (I even asked when it’s generally quieter) 🙂 I’m not so much bitching about the fact that there were kids there because hay, it’s sunday afternoon and it’s family swim time. I fully intend to adjust my own schedule because of my own preference in environment. I totally agree with your point there. It’s my problem, not theirs 🙂
Being a parent is frigging hard (which is why I’m not one right now, and I give all my friends with kids props), and there are TONS of great parents out there (mine, for example were/are fantastic parents), it’s just the shitty ones who give all parents a bad rap.
I just want to do the adult thing right now and just enjoy the company of my friends’ little ones (because I can give them back when they start to cry :P) as opposed to my own — there really is nothing like holding a cooing baby in your arms 🙂 And I’m fully willing to help with a diaper change, and hell if one of my friends who lives closer has a baby I’ll be the first one to volunteer to come over and watch the baby so mom and/or dad can get a little sleep. I just don’t want the 24-7 responsibility. I’m quite capable of caring for a child at this stage in my life, but I spent so much time in school I want to enjoy not having any responsibilites and just working and doing what I want with my downtime.
It’s just…when little kids get together in packs they’re so…energetic and I tend to be more low key and enjoy being a little more… zen, I guess, and the chaos tires me out — even if I’m just watching it 😛
LOL I rarely threw fits in public because I knew there would be consequences 😛 My mom figured out that if you take away my main source of entertainment (toys, tv, etc…) she could get me in line and keep me that way pretty easily 😛 I had a friend who’s mom packed up all her toys and she had nothing to play with for a whole week. I plan on employing this method with my own kids 😀
Though, I DID stand up in the middle of church when I was two and yell out “FUCKING IDIOT” in the middle of mass because the day before my parents’ car was almost hit and mom yelled “FUCKING IDIOT”… she never could summon up the courage to take me to that church again 😛
I did most of my tantruming at home. LIke the one time my mom wouldn’t take me swimming. I finally got so fed up I packed my barbie bookbag up and hit the road. I got down the block and realized I was hungry and came home. heh.
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“When someone is having a baby it`s a major life change”
Especially when most of the people this bitch refers to are under the age of 25 which is why I can’t be all congratulatory and happy… I feel like most of the poeple I know are throwing their life away, and don’t seem to realize the level of commitment and what-not that having a child requires
Bahahahaha @ Donk and her minge comment.
Snapper, I think it all depends on the situation. Some people are ready at a young age, some people aren’t. Either way, it’s the ones that are ready at a young age who have the last laugh. Sure, they may be throwing away their youth in one sense, but one thing I have come to realize is that there is nothing like family when it all boils down. When these people are reaching the advanced stages of their life they will be enjoying great relationships with their children as they grow up, and in turn be able to spend more time with their grandchildren. I don’t really want to wish a single moment of my life away, but once I am there I hope to have as many years as possible with my grandkids and live to see my own kids grow old.
I am done having kids. I have to say, though, I am happy that I had both by the time I hit 30 because I know (barring major health issues or an accident) that I am going have many healthy years with my girls AND their kids.
100% agreed mind snap. People are having children when they still are too young to be adults themselves. I had my little guy when I was 26 and although he’s my world and the reason I became the person I am now….I didn’t know who I was at the time. I got married at 25 and pregnant immediately following and then looked around a year later and was angry and resentful at the fact that my whole world changed and I had no control anymore and wasn’t happy with myself and ended up throwing away my marriage and then trying to do the single mom thing and luckily I swam instead of sinking and turned my whole world around….and became a better and stronger person on the other side. I wouldn’t suggest it…you need to have fear…and you need to love your kids so much that you’ll do anything to make their lives better than your own. There’s no room to be selfish in parenting. If I could give anyone advice it would be to wait until your 30 or older to have kids.