This is fucking bullshit! I am a 27-year-old smoking hot woman who hasn’t had sex since May of 1999! Between 1999 and 2003, I was in university earning a Bachelor of Science with a double major in chemistry and biology. So I dedicated all my time earning almost all straight A’s during those years. Then I went to medical school, which I haven’t quite finished yet because I’ve been pacing myself with my courses. Lately, I’ve been going downtown with my friends, trying to find a man. But every man I hit on rejects me! Are they gay or something? I mean, I don’t get loaded and I am very charming with these men! And I’m drop-dead gorgeous (I don’t mean to be conceited, but I am… sorry). What the fuck? All of my friends are getting laid on a regular basis, and I’ll sit there with my textbooks and a vibrator on a Saturday night! Do the guys in this city think I’m too good for them? Do I intimidate them? Fuck, it’s been 9 years with a dildo, I want the real thing! Why should I keep up on my looks and obtain a prestigious medical occupation when I can’t even have something as natural as sex? Why don’t I just stop wearing make-up, stop exercising or getting facials and professional haircuts, and work at McDonald’s for the rest of my life?
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I don’t know…reading your post, I honestly don’t liek you very much. you sound concieted, arrogant, demanding, and generally like a not very nice or interesting person.I could totally be wrong. You could be super awesome and fantastic and whatnot. but your focus on your looks and your grades screams ‘I’m prettier and smarter than you you’d be lucky to have me!’. Which isn’t that attractive. if that’s all you’re putting out there, then I’m not surprised you’re not meeting people (although I am a little shocked the guys who go for bar skanks aren’t flocking…usually those one-night-only guys go for th epretty packaging).it just sounds a bit like you’re like a pal of mine; he’s pretty, a very niec guy, smart and all that. but when he’s out, what he projects is this twinky bimbo thing so all he gets are these guys looking for twinky bimbo sex. He’s a much deeper person in there deep down, but it doesn’t come out.so maybe you’re a nice person in there, but in this post at least, and I’m guessing at the bar, you come off as a bitch.
People really are strange. Not the OP. But people in general.I know a lot of really good looking people who have a problem meeting someone. I would say I am average and have no problem. It may be an approachability thing. You sound very self-confident (ignore people here who call you conceited, nothing is sexier then a confident woman) and that could put a lot of guys off, but thats not your problem (Except for the whole Vib thing). You obviously have a lot going for you.Let me know if you want a date. Confident women seem hard to find sometimes. 🙂
Are you going straight for the hottest guys in the room? Because believe it or not, plenty of shallow bastards who think they’re the clear blue shit might consider you past your prime at 27. But in all honesty, Too Good, I think the most likely explanation is that your social skills need some work. Are you charming? Or are you all, “Hey there, baby. This is your lucky day. Play your cards right and all this charming, intelligent smokin’ hottness could be yours”? Because that kind of attitude is just obnoxious in anyone, no matter how hot they are. My advice: Get overyourself. Wash off that make-up (if you’re that hot, you don’t need it anyway), put your hair in a ponytail, and go socialize without an agenda. There’s something palpably creepy about a person who’s primary objective is to get laid.
I agree with what the Bad Guy is saying too. It might be their problem. But it might also be some of the signals you put out. Just be aware of how, yes, some people might be intimidated, and tone it down if you think that might be the case. Again, “charming” MIGHT come off as “trying too hard”.
If I were a man and met a woman like you, OP, I’d run for my fucking life. Just reread your post and clue in to what a self-involved ‘smoking hot’ egomanical little twerp you are. Somebody needs a personality transplant.
For some reason, i am not thinking that the way OP described herself is how she carries on IRL. I have some stunning hot chick friends that are as pleasant as can be. They NEVER get hit on when we go out as a group. Matter of fact, they rarely get approached. Sometimes in life us guys feel that this girl is “WAY too hot” or “out of our league”. It is funny to watch.I think a big example of this is when a group of girls go to the Dome or Palace and you see about 6 of them hanging out. 1 thick/ugly one, 4 attractive ones, and the one that just is too fine to be human. More often than not, guys will take a stab at the 4 or the thick/ugly because they feel they have a better chance.
maybe you are…or maybe you need to look in a mirror. i dated a “smoking hot”. she’s a lawyer now (me engineering). trouble was, she lit up a room all right, for about a minute. trouble was she wasn’t a very nice person. I loved her a lot, (and still do), but never liked her very much. offhand, was she competant..no but enough to pass the bar, I would not want to use her professionally. she was totally over the top hot but that will in time pass. she had a lousy attitude towards other people, especially other women. she was an inward child, me, me, me and had a father that indulged her with fat ass checks to supplement her miserly legal income. kind of rewarding bad behaviour. so personality wise, she was a zip. but I forgave her, but eventually we all grow up, don’t we? or at least most of us.lets face it, after nine years of batteries, you are probably more than a little quirky, but I bet you can tingle all over by now at the merry thought… remember the days when entry to the professions was based on criteria including a discussion during which they were looking for maturity and soundness of mind…oh well. you’re not my doc ever, pitty, not.
Wow! Where have you been? You’ve obviously never hit on me. 😉
Maybe you should stop trying so hard. Things can always happen when you least expect them to.
you dated her too david?
Maybe the guys in this city sense or guess that you think you’re too good for them. Don’t get me wrong; there’s nothing wrong with knowing you’re hot. But there can be a certain desperation attached to that knowledge. People who’ve spent their lives knowing they’re smokin’ can, almost counter intuitively, become extremely insecure because they worry that people will think that’s all they’ve got. So they may overcompensate, always trying to prove themselves, and can come off as quite needy or aggressive.What the rest of us mistake for arrogance is sometimes just the opposite.
Wow. I will reiterate my point.Don’t change. Be confident. You deserve to be. It is refreshing to hear someone who is unaffected by what society tells them to be.I agree a lot with a lot of the people here. But they have no right to tell you you shouldn’t feel good about yourself. And let the world know. The right guy will come along. They are out there. It can be frustrating, but they are there. And you deserve him.
Like the song says, “she ain’t pretty; she just looks that way”. Being a wannabe doctor she probably has an ego the size of a Buick and all the charm of a pack of starving wolves. I can only imagine how well that goes over amongst the macho men that haunt the Halifax bar scene.I think I’ll pick up some Energizer stock…
Many major models and actresses that are single complain that no one appraches them, this isnt that hard to believe.Them raging hot bartenders or what not, they get whistled at and what not, but they dont get hit on in many cases. The more i think about this, the more i can see the OP’s point. It might sound egotistacal from her point, but how would it feel to always get whistled at and what not, but never approached in a decent manner?I also have a guy friend that chicks oogle at because of his features and whatever. The comment i hear most about him is that he must be cocky or arrogant because he knows he his hot. I reply, “have you actually talked to the guy?”
Fuck Pick up lines, Fuck Hesitation, If you see someone you want to talk too, dont wait for them, walk up offer your hand and ask them their name and where there from, no bullshit please, just start where you should and go from there, believe me, it doesnt take a minute to find out if youre both compatible, and and if not ,say it was nice meeting you, shake again and Peace out!, LONLINESS IS NOT OTHER PEOPLES FAULT
@The Homieyup, to my lifelong sorrow. unfortunately, I’m attracted to women whom are bad for me, the confident, strong, educated and smart (the one does in no way imply the other sadly) and the ones whom can actually get things done.I always thought the lawyer would make an excellent ex wife for someone someday because a relationship long term with anyone was not going to happen. perhaps then she’d be more of a friend which was missing the first go round.I remember my divorce at 225/hour and my lawyer insisted I walk away with nothing but my son, my dog, and my boat. It’s the little victories he said. he was right.obviously the thread starter has social issues, perhaps after all its as simple as she’s trolling the wrong side of the volleyball net.
You sound kinda full of yourself. Nothing at all wrong with self-confidence, but there’s definitely a line. You think the superior attitude could be a bit of a turn-off! Perhaps? Maybe? It just came across in your suggestion that men are “gay” or simply not good enough if they don’t want you…Also, your last question is telling: “Why don’t I just stop wearing make-up, stop exercising or getting facials and professional haircuts, and work at McDonald’s for the rest of my life?” You seem to be saying that you’ve been keeping up your appearance, choosing your career goals and hobbies all in the interest of getting a man. Um….I hope that’s an incorrect impression, ’cause girl, really!You’re still very young. You’ve been focussing on school and career, but seem to think that guys should’ve been flocking to you all along, when probably would’ve just complicated matters anyway. I think that things happen when they’re meant to, meaning that even if you thought you were ready for a relationship, maybe you weren’t.It also sounds like you’ve been looking in the wrong places. Bars? Really. I’m shocked that you haven’t found anything meaningful.(!)Anyway, if you were only looking to get laid, easy solution: post and ad: “hot girl wants to get laid”. You’ve managed to get the guys on this board interested, so I’m sure they’d answer a classified ad. (kinda creepy, guys btw!)
Sweetie… If you’re still reading… lots of negative stuff on here..Realistically, a beautiful woman such as yourself obviously should have HER pick of man..Respectfully, try putting a personals ad into Kijiji.. I’ve been lucky enough to meet an awesome lady (or two) in this manner..State what you’re looking for in a “casual encounter” or if you’re looking for something more serious, try “women looking for men”.Many men put their ad in just about every category, even in the ones where they clearly state “couples”.. but men read the casual encounters and “whatever” seeking men.. LOLAnyway, don’t pay any attention to those who are too insecure themselves.. Be confident, pay attention to your instincts, because you WILL be bombarded by many emails… trust me… Weed out the obvious losers, and always meet in public first.. Don’t go anywhere with the person by yourself in a vehicle. Go in your car, and they take theirs and you meet for coffee or a meal.. fast food of course because of the people around..Pay attention to your instincts because although 99% are just horny guys, there are a few losers who have alternate plans..Just play safe okay? Have fun..
This reminds me of what a friends mom told me once. It’s when you’re not looking that you’ll meet the right person.I can still remember my retort which unfortunately has been true ever since. “If I’m not looking then I don’t give a crap and I’ll pass it up.”
i don’t know. being confident and all is good. but like others have said, there is a line. and also someone else said something about not changing, and it being refreshing to see someone unaffected by society or whatever. don’t feed your ego with that nonsense. if you think that you are breaking social barriers, or whatever, by excersizing and getting proffesional hairdoos and facials and becoming a doctor so you can be rich and have a lovely car and home and eventually find a georgeous husband who is 6’2″+ with an equally “prestigious” job and then have lovely children who you can teach, from birth, the importance of having a prestigious job that pays you enough to get nice hairdoos and have a gym membership and drive a fancy car and have a beautiful house, bla bla….so yes, if you think that you are being unaffected by society by wanting all of that, you are wrong. those are the things society tells you will make you happy. i mean i’m not saying that you can’t have all of that and be happy. i’d love to be filthy rich and roll around in diamonds all day (which is totally what i’d do) but it wouldn’t make me happy, for long. i mean really, those seem to be your goals and are you happy? do those things make you happy? i’m not one to judge really, i’m also super vain. my cosmetic drawer is overflowing with creams for this, and creams for that, all in the quest to fight off the signs of aging. but it’s important to have perspective. don’t think that you are better than that girl who is working at mcdonalds, who is unfit and “unattractive”, cause you aren’t. society might make you think you are cause you are beautiful and intelligent, possibly, and are doing all the right things, but you aren’t better than anybody else. you aren’t deserving of love and happiness any more than anyone else. neither am i. we’re all in this together. so yes. get ahold of your ego, and try not to place too much importance on things that aren’t actually important. you will find someone who will make you happy, you might just not be seing it cause it’s not 6’2″+ with a masters degree in whatever, driving a whatever the latest fancy car is. so really, just be open to things. the kind of energy you put out is the kind of energy you will get back. so if you’re looking for a super conceited egomaniac who only wants you because you will look good on his arm, keep acting like that.but i could be wrong.
When it really comes down to it, things like straight A’s in uni, a pretty face and a hot bod don’t really matter. People don’t actually go out looking for those attributes for a long term relationship. If it works, it works because you have mututal understanding, no matter what you or the guy does for a living, looks like, or if they are charming or maybe they are a complete asshole. I NEVER get hit on at bars, and people consider me pretty, funny, intellegent and educated as well. But I am also told that I look like a snotty bitch, which I am not. So that’s likley the problem, you are emitting a signal, whether you know it or not, that you are too good for people. Also, a lot of men don’t want high maitenence women. Good luck!
Honestly,t hat’s probably it. It’s all about the vibes people give off- ever wonder why you go to a bar, and that girl who’s maybe not the most attractive girl, the skinniest girl, the best dressed girl, whatever is just swarmed by guys? guarenteed it’s because she’s not only emitting confidence, but also an opennes and a sense of fun.if all you’re putting out there is snotty condescending I’m-better-than-you (which many people appear to think is confidence), then no, you’re not going to seem very attractive to other people, no matter how pretty your packaging. You honestly DON’T sound that confident. you’ve put all your eggs in very superficial baskets- assuming that because you’re educated, because youw ork out, get expensive hair cuts (which aren’t neccessarily better btw we’ve just placed a created-value on them), facials, dress in expensive clothes, etc that you are better and thus more worthy as a person. Confident people are gorgous with a shaved head wearing a bag. they don’t need the trappings to make themselves feel better, and they dont’ need the validation of others to keep them doing what they’re doing- you shouldn’t stop going to the gym, taking care of your hair, and pursuing a career you like just because others aren’t ready to fall at your feet inw orship over attaining these things. but if the only reason you’re doing these things is the impact it makes on other people, then it probablyd ones’t matter as you don’t ACTUALLY get anything out of them.so how bout this? try……dressing for you. NOT for other people. try….working at a job youc are about, and fuck what you think is prestigious. try…..working out because the endorphin rush is killer, not because it makes you a size 0 which society has told you is attractive (newsflash: different strokes for different folks, you acn be rocking anda size 18). Maybe work on actually liking yourslef, not for all the trappings, but for you. and then watch what you project change from this desparate man-hunting for-the-love-of-god-someone-love-me-as-I’m-so-super-wonderful-and-supieror into something that someone else wants to be around.
What kind of person sacrifices all the fun of age 18-27 for all A’s? I’ll take the B and the boobies instead. I think the OP wasted some of the best years of her life crossing items off her “Things to Make Me Successful” list and now she is starting to realize the folly of that mistake. Being a hot lonely doctor harldly seems worth it, huh?