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You’re my best friend and I completely fell for you….
But is your way of telling me that you feel the same is acting like a elementary school boy with a crush on a girl in his class. Cause you wrestling with me to pin me or making fun of me is really starting to piss me off. —Hot and bothered
This article appears in Apr 29 – May 5, 2010.
20 Comments
probably has intimacy issues; danger will robinson
Intimacy issues? Don’t all guys have that.
guess it’s time to pull the trigger… if you tell him to stop, he’s take it as “don’t touch me, I don’t like you” so if you want it to work, take another step so that he doesn’t need excuses to touch you (as in hold hands or something…..) or if you’re pissed off enough at him, start to distance.
‘course, I’m by far the worst person to provide any relationship advice so do whatever the hell you think is best.
Just go ahead and grab his cocknballs, that’ll shake him out of the fifth grade – or out of the closet!
Assume for the moment the interest is mutual.
Could it be they haven’t done anything further for the same reason you haven’t? Rejection. A predating friendship makes things all the more harder. Don’t assume there’s something wrong with the other person or you for that matter.
You’re unhappy. Let’s end this. Communicate. Throw out a feeler. Ask the person if they like you. Tell them you like ’em in a playful manner. Start simple. See what kind of answer you get and go from there. Something tells me this isn’t a girl referring to a guy either, but no matter, the response and tone you get back will hopefully put in an end to your unhappiness one way or another.
now that song is stuck in my head… DAMMIT!!
there’s a song here somewhere?
hrm, shows how much I know about music
Linger by the Cranberries – argh.
That’s right another adenoidal paddy with a brush cut, who actually makes Shit-head O’Connor sound like a Rhodes Scholar in comparison. If entertainers actually learned to keep their yaps shut about politics maybe we wouldn’t have to endure Clinton on the sax and Harper detaining, i mean, tickling the ivories.
ah, the cranberries.. haven’t heard them in a long time…
but still remember all the lyrics to every song on that album.
gonna have to dig that one out now…
OP here… i think its a case of serious mixed signals on his part too.
fyi i’m female.
Hey, hey, hey. What’s in your head,
In your head,
Zombie, zombie, zombie?
Hey, hey, hey, hey, oh, oh, oh,
Oh, oh, oh, oh, hey, oh, ya, ya-a..
Brace yourself, Elle…Lifesucks is heading this way soon to tell you how it is (or should be)
= p
My bad, elle.
Advice remains the same however. If he’s not going to move on it, you got to ease this unhappiness you’ve described if its truly that big of a deal. That means doing something or nothing at all. Both present risk and the unfortunate possibility of it going bad, but you already know that.
Thanks everyone, it was more a bitch then seeking out advice. However your comments did make me think.
He’s also the same guy that stays up way too late with me to let me bitch when he has to be for work in 5 hours or the guy that will come to my rescue with a joke and trip to one of the local coffee shops to make my day a bit brighter… maybe it is time for me to fess up.
…and strangely enough, I’ve reclaimed my enjoyment of The Cranberries. Kudos to you.
If it means anything, for the week and a half or so before my ex finally made a move on me, we did a looooot of play-wrestling. Haha.
hot and bothered, if you want the guy so much, chuck off your panties at him. even the dumbest fucking idiot in the world, will get that idea pretty quick. shit, throw them at me, and we’d be fucking like minks in about 2 seconds.
ahhh LS if only years of close friendship wasn’t in the way.
theres nothing more than I’d like to do with this guy… but I’d prefer a healthy relationship not just a roll in the hay.
play-wrestling… tickling… spontaneous cage matches…
wait.. scratch that last one.
save that for if it goes bad.
NOT to say it will… just keep a folding chair handy.
Staying up late, listening, being there for you, could just be the signals of a real good friend, but I’m willing to bet now that he feels something for you. How much so and to what extent, I don’t know. Mixed signals may have gotten in the way, but it’s clearly evident neither one of you want to risk the friendship over a relationship that may or may not work out.
All the best with whatever you decide to do, elle.