I was so proud of myself when I had saved up enough money to buy myself a very expensive outfit which included an awesome pair of shoes with a matching bag. I ventured out last Saturday night for a night out in downtown halifax. Well in the most popular night club was a very tall and attractive girl with the identical outfit that I had on, shoes and handbag as well. You see I am short, medium built and average looking. This tall attractive girl got all the attention. I did not even get asked to dance one single dance. So I guess the documentary that I had seen on TV last month was true. If you are tall and attractive that person will most likely get more opportunities and advantages in life, like a better job, get any man that they want and be able to hang their head up high life than the short average looking woman. You know maybe if there is such a thing as a next life, maybe I will be this tall and attractive lady and then I will have all the goodies in life. —Not Jealous But Just a Little Envious
This article appears in Nov 17-23, 2011.


The “documentary” that you saw, was it produced by the National Institute for Stating the Obvious, by any chance. Set your TIVO – next week’s expose is titled “Size – It DOES Matter”
Ivan!!!! Be nice.
OP I’m tall and I always wanted to be short. I can’t wear heels without being taller then my partner, when I was younger girls always picked fights with me (little woman syndrome) guys always liked shorter girls. Now I’m happy with my Hight and comfortable in my own skin cause I’m happy on the inside. You will be too … It just takes awhile
Op, stop trying to attract shallow people. When you meet the person, they will want you even if you progressively get less attractive as you age.
OK, so here’s some advice from auntie xenophilia: find your own look–one that you didn’t find off a mannequin at the mall. Just get basics there-then create the rest of your outfit with unique items from crafters and artisans (I got some very nice costume jewellery and scarves at the seaport farmer’s market for not very much $) check out value village-you can find designer labels there, also funky handbags. Learn to sew. Know your look and don’t follow every trend that washes ashore–if you don’t look good in ruffles, don’t wear them, ffs!
I hate to blame you, victim, but honestly, the whole outfit, head to toe? What were they, GarAnimals for grown ups?
Otay MamaB. >: ( I try.
There oughta be a law that manufacturers of chick clothing are not allowed to make more than one copy of their clothes because it is a major crime for chicks to wear the same thing. This law would not apply to men because we love our jeans and tees too much.
BTW envy and jealous are interchangable.
I thought they were kind of interchangeable too…
and a little isn’t bad.
“If you are tall and attractive that person will most likely get more opportunities and advantages in life, like a better job, get any man that they want and be able to hang their head up high life than the short average looking woman.”
I wouldn’t say ANY man they want… but they definitely have more to pick and choose from.
The same holds pretty damn true for men though.
I’m sure glad I’m not a man under 5’6″… that would be rough.
Same with balding… guts n beer bellies… to shave or not to shave (Various parts of our anatomy)…. how nice the ride (if we even have one)… how fat the wallet is….
Some people are just born with the proverbial silver spoon… be it looks/money…
and the rest of us… well we either work twice as hard for half as much… or get bitter and jaded.
or *ahem* BOTH!. 🙂
Leave the pity party the only person there is you.
self confidence and a smile is more attractive than a pretty face on a bitch. besides, it takes too much energy to stay mad or bitchy.
we can’t all be glammoue models o.p., really, who would want to be. skinny bunch of anorezic broads anyway. i like my women, with some meat on them. hi kitty, meow.
And some meat *in* them. Hi, Seb. Me-OWWWww!
Try having some confidence. That’s what makes the difference. I’m a chick with some jiggle, wiggle and junk in her trunk and I never have a hard time getting men, attention or making new friends. Same goes for finding jobs. Its personality baby!
Mamabear is right. Being tall isn’t as great as you may think. I was teased as well in school for being tall. I can’t wear heels either because I’ll be 6’2″. It’s awkward when all you want to do is fit in sometimes. Everybody is uncomfortable in their own skin.
That being said, looks fade and the people who rely on them to make friends/relationships have shitty personalities and when their looks fade, tend to go under the knife in a desperate attempt to cling to the one thing that made them tolerable to be around. Next thing you know, you got Joan Rivers everywhere!
But this is nothing you haven’t heard before.
yeah jyo, standing in the back row for school pictures, looking like a freak with cat eye glasses^^
You should have gone to another club where you would have been the SUPASTAAHHHH.
Not me, man. I love being tall! I wish I was one inch taller, so when people asked me my height, I could just say “six”
I don’t mind reaching down stuff at the market for little old ladies…and as for fellas, well, in my single days, I believe I was worth the climb…☺
Oh sweetie … you sound attention starved and full of resentment. Not a good combination when you’re out and want to meet people. I have seen lots of ‘average’ girls get male attention in the clubs because they’re confident, positive, upbeat and having fun … and that is attractive.
By the way … just curious … did you ask anyone to dance? Stop feeling sorry for yourself, stop expecting things to fall into your lap, stop wanting what you think the ‘tall attractive’ girls have … accept who you are and love who you are, take some responsibility for your life and quit blaming everyone else if things don’t go your way.
I’m tall and always wanted to be short.
(I’m not really attractive in the face area though)
OP, be happy for what you have.
Also, where does one buy a matching purse and shoes? The 1950s? It’s not really done that way anymore.
But yeah, in all seriousness, if you want to be different, try ordering clothes online from places that aren’t in Canada.
Did the tall chick step on this garden gnome of an OB? We have a bald, short guy working in our office. Short as in 5’4″ (or maybe less) short. I am conflicted as to whether I am supposed to refer to him as a little person, midget, runt, gnome, or troll. Either way, he’s good at refilling the staff coffee pot because the pot is at his almost at his level.
BIL you kill me!!! 🙂
Laugh! Did you just compare getting asked to dance at the “hottest club in town” to obtaining a successful career? It’s called a stairmaster, I suggest you two get re-acquainted.
Boo hoo OP. I’m fat and average, I used to be hot and now I’m not so I know what you’re saying is true because I live it. When I put on weight and stopped wearing makeup every time I left the house I started getting treated differently, but only by strangers who I realized I don’t give a shit about! Who cares what some drunk creep in a bar fnds attractive, bitch about something important or get some plastic surgery.
“We have a bald, short guy working in our office. Short as in 5’4″ (or maybe less) short. I am conflicted as to whether I am supposed to refer to him as a little person, midget, runt, gnome, or troll.”
Do you suppose he has the same conflict over what to refer to Sebaceous as?
Suggestions anyone? >; )
You’d be surprised how many men date down, OB.
Trust me, from what I’ve witnessed lately, there are some men that could do a whole lot better.
Also: I’m guessing as soon as you saw the other chick in the same outfit you got a bit self conscious and that showed in your body language. I know lots of men that get turned on by sweaty women who just finished a work out (and not the bitches who wear make up and do their hair to work out, either).
Besides, the kind of attention you missed getting from a club is hardly anything to cry over. AND, I know lots of guys who aren’t into tall chicks.
Don’t underestimate yourself, OB — we’re often our own worst critics, I know, but I’m sure you know deep down, better than this.
BECOME A NUN
Your story is very sad but unfortunately also very common. There is very little you can do about it since your physical appearance is, after all, your physical appearance. So, is there any way out of the dilemma. Two possibilities occur:
(1) The various clubs in downtown Halifax could be colour-coded according to the looks of their clientele. For example, a red card would indicate clubs that favoured very good looking people, green for the average, and white for the ugly. A coloured cars could be posted at the entrance of the club. All prospective club-goers would have previously applied to each club where they would be assessed on their appearance and issued with the respective cards. Your situation would only occur if, holding a white card for example, you entered a red-card club. Red card holders, of course, would be discouraged from attending green or white clubs. Sadly, however,
the chances of colour-coding the clubs appear to be slim. (Everyone would probably think they’re reds. (heh, heh).
(2) Become a nun. All the clubs, in any case, are simply meat-racks in which the female is the meat and the tumescent creeps are the butchers. Simply by attending you are placing yourself in an invidious position. You must cultivate autonomy which here involves rejecting your hormonal drives which scream out for copulation and procreation and focus your mind on higher matters. Since you do not seem to be of a philosophical turn of mind, I suggest you focus on God. Become a nun. It’s true that they get up very early in the morning which is a drag but at least you will be spared the humiliation of the mean-rack. Good luck.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Unfortunately genetics, evolution and sexual selection are not fair.
So having said that, you’re looking to meet someone in the wrong place. Your current strategy is not going to work.
Luckily there are lots of places to meet decent people.
And short, average looking people do just fine if they’re smart and don’t walk around feeling sorry for themselves because they’re not the prettiest girl in the room. You’ve identified that you may not be a beauty (and i say may not because maybe you are and your attitude affects your posture which makes you ugly..) so why not work on cultivating the parts of yourself that ARE strong in you and use those to sweep the social scene?
Plus, and people won’t like this but frankly i don’t give a flying fuck because i’m going to offer you a piece of wisdom OP.. I grew up a typical, classical “beauty”. And it fucking sucks. Think about it for a second.. you spend your childhood being pampered, you spend your teenhood being handed everything by guys and being called a whore by girls. (without doing a damned thing) and as you move through adulthood, you realize slowly that not only are you in danger of intellectual stagnation and becoming a lame person, no one will ever tell you that because they all want to get in your pants.
Add to that the fact that most of the men beautiful women attract are the kind who will leave her the second she no longer fits the requirements of trophy girlfriend or trophy wife.
Girls like you? Fuck.. you’ll meet a great guy at just the right time who loves you with every particle of his anatomy. He won’t be high maintenance or superficial. He won’t be difficult to please and hard to hold onto. You will work hard for him, he will work hard for you and you’ll grow old and happy together.
It’s pretty people who are cursed OP. It’s like that layer of hell where you get everything you want and it drowns you.
I don’t complain about it because i’m still at an age where I can use my looks to my advantage but someday that will change. I don’t want to come out the other side of all this and realize i was only treated like an interesting special person because i was good breeding fodder (which, by the way, is the only reason she got all the attention and you didn’t. Because those places are cheap)
Chin up OP. You’re one of the lucky ones. I promise you.
AND op did it not occur to you that this girl may not have been just PRETTY but whorey too? See pretty girls learn pretty quick that if we shove our tits in various faces, eventually one of those faces will ask us if they can buy all our booze.
You probably looked fantastic. You might have just exuded a sense of dignity that your doppelganger didn’t.
oh kramer…
life’s so tough having it all handed over…
“Girls like you? Fuck.. you’ll meet a great guy at just the right time who loves you with every particle of his anatomy. He won’t be high maintenance or superficial. He won’t be difficult to please and hard to hold onto. You will work hard for him, he will work hard for you and you’ll grow old and happy together.”
that’s because he’s an average bloke as well… you know, the kind you don’t give the time of day…..
not some prissy Ryan Seacrest wannabe type with adjectives like ‘dashing’ and ‘sensual’ as an appropriate description.
Whatever.
I care not.
just remember to take that silver spoon out at bedtime… wouldn’t want you to choke, rush to hospital, and have to snag up some George Clooney type doctor
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It’s pretty girls who are cursed
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Awww. Life’s that tough, princess?
Beauty comes from inside of someone. Whatever randomness of DNA presents, it’s made into actual Beauty by the person who is inside, like a light that shines from within.
Sorry to get sappy, but it’s true. It’s why I meet great girls. Otherwise, I’m a science experiment gone bad. The girl I’ve been seeing for the last month sees who I am. And she’s pretty effing hot, with Awesomesauce shining from within.
Save us how tough it is to be beautiful.
Us ugly motherfuckers try hard and make pretty good partners.
“If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you”
– Frank Guida
-Recorded by Jimmy Soul – 1963
You’re a pretty girl, Vastie.
C’est adorable!
One tip, OB, a study I saw on the news said that men in their 20s tend to be a lot more superficial in what they’re looking for and men in their 30s and beyond tend to look for ‘good mates’ rather than the prettiest thing in the club.
I.e.: the interests of men deepen as they age and mature. You might do better with an older crowd than the yougin’s that hang around clubs downtown.
can’t deny pure SCIENCE
http://jezebel.com/5862170/science-confirm…
Not to mention, PK- looking for a good mate in a bar is a fairly pointless and stupid endeavour.
WHAT IS BEAUTY?
“Beauty (n) – combination of qualities as shape, proportion, colour, in human face or form; an exceptionally good specimen.” (Oxford Concise Dictionary)
: “I grew up a typical, classical ‘beauty.'” (isoceles kramer, Nov. 24, 10:17AM)
All the comments on this thread presupose what the nature of beauty is but none attempt to directly address the question, “What is beauty?” Fortunately, the concept of beauty falls under the category of “aesthetics,” the fourth category of philosophy (the others being ontology, the nature of ultimate reality; epistemology, the nature of knowledge & truth; and ethics, the nature of the good, justice). So, Montrealman will apply his analytical intelligence and attempt a preliminary examination of the concept, particularly as it relates to beautiful women.
The first thing we can say is that beauty IS a female quality. Men, unless they are very feminine, can at best be said to be “handsome” but not “beautiful.” A beautiful man” is an oxymoron, a contradiction in terms.
The second thing we can say is that beauty has objective existence. This negates the view that beauty lies wholly “in the eye of the beholder” or that beauty “comes from within” which are simply variations of the view that beauty is simply a subjective assessment of the observer. The history of beauty and beautiful women says otherwise since the consensus as to what makes a beautiful woman beautiful goes well beyond an accidental or contingent consensus.
The third thing that can be said is that beauty consists in the possession of positive qualities. A negative conception of beauty, one that beauty consists simply in the absence of imperfections, appears to be a vacuous concept of beauty. A woman may, for example, have no imperfections yet still not be considered beautiful. This is where things get difficult.
The definition given above refers to a “combination of qualities” which does seem to imply a subjective element to the assessment of beauty. Such combinations are obviously the products of individuals and so are not simply objective “givens.” Similarly, one could ask as to what constitutes “proportion” or an “exceptionally good specimen?”
So it seems that there is a twofold aspect of beauty, the objective qualities themselves and the subjective assessment of those qualities by an observer. Beauty, then, is a female attribute that lies somewhere between the two but the pendulum would seem to swing more to the former – the objective qualities – than the latter – subjective assessments.
Maybe isoceles kramer can throw more light on this.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Tl:dr
(crickets)
Xeno, you’re not single? Damn. (goes cries in the corner)
THE BEAUTIFUL ISOCELES-KRAMER
“I grew up a typical, classical beauty.”
“No one will ever tell you that” (beautiful people are in danger of intellectual stagnation and becoming a lame person) “because they all want to get into your pants.”
(isoceles_kramer, Nov. 24, 10:17AM)
isoceles_kramer has told us that she is beautiful, and I believe her. However, in my last post (“What is Beauty?” Montrealman, Nov. 24, 4:40PM) I asked her if, being beautiful, whether she could throw more light on the subject, the view from the inside so to speak. But as I concluded in my post, I maintained that beauty is a combination of the objective fact itself – isoceles_kramer is in fact beautiful – and the subjective opinions of others, in this case the guys in the bar who wanted to get into her pants. They also thought that isoceles_kramer is beautiful. I’m coming around to the view that the subjective assessment of observers weighs more in the combination.
First, look at the first of isoceles_kramer’s statements above. The word “beauty” is in quotation marks, meaning that she was told that she was beautiful. If isoceles_kramer wanted to base her claim on an objective standard, there would be no quotation marks. No, isoceles_kramer believes that she is beautiful because the guys in the bar who wanted to get into her pants said so.
Second, some might argue that isoceles_kramer just needed to look in the mirror to know that she is beautiful but this would be her own subjective assessment, not an assessment by others like the guys in the bar who wanted to get into her pants. To be valid, any assessments of beauty like isoceles_kramer’s must be by others, even if they just wanted to get into her pants.
Only one question remains. Isoceles (may I call you isoceles?), did the guys in the bar ever get into your pants?
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MHywo44KsR4…
secretagent, there is a love for you
zZz uh.. yeah that’s exactly my point.
I knew people wouldn’t like that little speech. I predicted that. There is great wisdom in it but people chose instead to focus on the fact that i know i’m very attractive. That’s quite unfortunate. I urge women who date jackasses and who wish that jackasses would pay attention to them to reread that and really understand what it says.
wheeliep for someone who hangs out on this board ranting and raving about instant judgments of others, you certainly were quick to make one of me. Because i’m pretty that makes me a “princess”? Typical..
Or perhaps.. because i was also very intelligent and rather awkward, i was lucky enough to be spared most of the bullshit accolades thrust on most attractive people.
Or perhaps if you used your brain instead of your heart when you read that you would have read between the lines and realized that i make it pretty much a rule not to date GQ guys. In fact, outside health issues, looks don’t even factor on my radar. I date for intelligence, sense of humor, personality and gentle nature.
But good job wheeliep missing the point of what i say as you so often do. You ought to learn to read more slowly perhaps.
Not to be a bitch but i was trying to offer wisdom. And you came back with nothing but arrogance. Which, knowing what i know about you, i find ironic.
RSVPs
Well, well, some interesting exchanges with isosceles (sorry for missing the second “s” in your first name – just like the triangle, right?) which bear further scrutiny. Unfortunately, none of isosceles’ responses were for Montrealman but, what the hell, he’ll jump in anyway.
The unifying thread in each of isosceles’ three responses, in addition to the possession of beauty, seems to be that of her “wisdom.” In her response to zZz (Nov. 25, 3:44PM) for example, she speaks of her “little speech” possessing “great wisdom;” in response to Wheeliep (3:48PM) that she states that dates only for “intelligence, a sense of humor, personality, and gentle nature” which amounts to dating wisdom and, finally, also to Wheeliep (3:49PM) that she was simply “trying to offer wisdom.”
Now, in order to firm up her claim to wisdom – we concede that isosceles is beautiful – can she define what she means by “wisdom?” If you do I promise that I won’t pursue my question as to whether the boys in the bar managed to get into your pants (but if you want to answer it, please do).
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
I imagine Wheelie to say: “Girl, sit your irrelevant ass down.” *Z snap*
he eats trolls for second breakfast and uses the bones to clean his teeth
You went out of your way to say how beautiful you are, and how difficult that makes life for you(meanwhile the thread talks about how easy it is for the Beautiful People to get what they want).
Pardon me if I’m not sympathetic to your plight.
I believe MMan is trying desperately for your attention. I’m going to get a bowl of popcorn and a comfy seat while you reply to him!
<3!
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You ought to learn to read more slowly, perhaps
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I’m so goddamn turned on right now…
(sighs)
This goes back to the last post I made in the last bitch some female submitted, I believe it was about being tall and noticing that tall men were all dating really short girls. I’m too lazy to go find and post the link.
No matter how amazing someone looks, they always want to change something. If you were that girl you’re talking about OP, you’d just find another girl to be “a little bit envious” of. So deal. No matter how good you look someone will look better. So you can either pout about it or brush it off and live your life for you.
I for one find short girls irresistible, I most recently dated a couple taller women, one was 5’8″or 5’9″ the other was 5’10”. I’m only 5’11”. I was crazy about both of them, and the tallness had nothing to do with why we no longer see each other, but it kinda did bother me when we’d be out and it’d be hard to dance because we just didn’t really fit each other. Not to say I wouldn’t date another girl that height if I liked her enough, but I’ve been eying a lot of shorter girls lately. They’re just soo cute!
Tall women tend to be less curvy as well, I like curves. However short girls usually have to work a bit harder to avoid putting on too much weight. Tall girls can gain a little weight and no one really notices because it’s more spread out. There’s pros and cons, and there are many exceptions to what I just said (short slim girls, taller heavier girls)
Anyways, I really find that most women who other women think are beautiful, most guys will say they’re too skinny and fake looking. You have been brainwashed by tv and magazines that profit from your insecurities. Photoshop can make hideous people look amazing, and amazing looking people look impossible.
Personality goes a looooong way, especially if you’re trying to find someone worth your time. I’ve dated a couple of girls who weren’t as easy on the eyes as some other women but their personality turned me on and kept me interested. I’ve recently been seeing this girl who is physically perfect but her personality has got me ready to move on. I don’t take her seriously, she’s way too vain and superficial. There are plenty of people out there, girls and guys, who are not all that attractive physically but do great. It’s because they don’t let their looks define them, which I think is what you’re doing.
Love yourself first and other people will take notice. Attitude is huge. Personally speaking (and I know other guys will agree) a smile and good body language and posture can make the difference between me not noticing someone and wanting to approach them. A smile goes a long way. Instead of wishing and trying to be something you’re not, emphasize your strong points. I know you have some. It’s not the height, darling. I really don’t think being tall would solve your problems.
Alright I’m done.
long winded but nice to see you back in the fold, thomas
“Tall women tend to be less curvy”
… Eh. Not real.
… but that was beside the point.
ISOSCELES_KRAMER’S ANDROPHOBIA
: “See pretty girls learn pretty quickly that is we shove our tits in various faces, eventually one of those faces will ask if they can buy our booze.”
Isosceles_Kramer (Nov. 24, 1019:AM)
“Misogyny,” the male hatred of the female, is a commonly known phenomenon which has its roots in a reaction against what is perceived as being “controlled” by the female. There might be certain grounds for this going all the way back to the male infant’s dependency on the mother and continuing on into adult life but it then becomes a response to what is perceived as “androphobia,” the female hatred of the male. Unlike misogyny, however, androphobia does not have its roots in the perception of being controlled by the male – at least not in liberal Western societies – as it does in “contempt” for the male. But where does this contempt come from?
The way the reproductive waltz is choreographed places the male in the role of the pursuer of the female. This places him at an immediate disadvantage since his advances may often be rejected. She is in the cat-bird seat, in the position of controller. He, on the other hand, is vulnerable. The female immediately sees this with the result that the rejcted male becomes an object of pity, even contempt in her eyes. This is called “androphobia” and is most common in beautiful women who, naturally, are pursued the most.
As we already know, isosceles is a beautiful woman as she has told us – she might also possess “wisdom” but has not yet shown this to be the case – and therefore displays the classic androphobic symptoms of contempt for the male. She is at the bar. The pursuing males (the “faces”) cluster around her. She knows that if she “shoves her tits” in one of those “faces” he will ask to buy her booze. The contemptible pig! Can’t he control his lust?
Of course, what she doesn’t mention is the reason she is in the bar in the first place. It is to play her androphobic games. After all, that’s the way androphobes get their kicks.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
I feel a song coming on…
♪ Pretty women are walkin’ with gorillas down my street ♬ They say that looks don’t count for much, or so I’m told…♬
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r8PScDbLdeQ
Physically attractive people probably do have an advantage or “edge” when it comes to getting by. They may not climb to the top echelons of human society but nor do they starve either. One tends not to see good-looking homeless people. Not because attractive people are superior but because if they suffer negative life-changing events like drug abuse or mental illness, I believe someone in their life will try to help them and prevent the total crash.
IK brought up an interesting idea as to whether or not attractive people carry a sort of burden. If pretty from childhood, do others tend to help or do things for them? Do they suffer a sort of atrophy in both intellect and work ethic? There is no doubt that they will suffer prejudice and jealousy from members of the same gender.
There is a universal beauty in both men and women in the symmetry of the face no matter the race or culture studies have found. So we know what beautiful is in the pragmatic sense. The brain and heart of this person completes the package and determines how successful they will be. This is the type of “beautiful” person that thrives beyond the time when their looks start to fade.
So OP, this lady might have some advantages you’re right but it’s what she does with them now and in the future.
Not saying they’re not out there Donk.
That was one of the best and most eloquent posts I’ve ever seen on here trood. For Real.
RSVPs
: Troondon4 (Nov. 26, 9:49PM)
1. Circular Reasoning:
“One tends not to see good-looking homeless people. Not because attractive people are superior but because if they suffer negative life-changing events like drug abuse or mental illness, I believe someone in their life will try to help them and prevent the total crash.”
Troon seems to be walking the tight-rope between political correctness – “attractive people” are not superior because, um, no one in the world of political correctness is “superior” – and the role their attractiveness plays in preventing a “total crash” – someone in their life will try to help them and prevent it. But – we’re only talking about the role of physical attractiveness here – the obvious question is just why would someone try to help them? Why, they would try to help them because they’re, um, attractive. So it’s back to square one.
2. Incoherence:
“So we know what beautiful is in its pragmatic sense.”
What does that mean? Must beauty have a “pragmatic sense” in order to count as beauty? Can someone possess beauty without reference to its “use value?” Does utilitarianism have anything to do AT ALL with beauty? Troon’s philosophical presuppositions – politcal correctness and a utilitarian pragmatism so far – are beginning to show.
3. Vacuous Assumptions:
“There is a universal beauty in both men and women
in the symmetry of the face no matter the race or culture studies have shown.”
What, exactly, is the nature of this concept of “universal beauty?” What is its content? “Symmetry” is obviously a component of beauty but it is only one among many. Surely it is possible to have symmetrical features and yet not be beautiful. Of course, there is the further question: CAN “culture studies” reveal the nature of beauty? To do so it must enter into the aesthetic framework of those cultures the studies purport demonstrate, a claim that “multiculturalists” such as Troon must, if he is to remain consistent, deny. In any case, the results of such “cultural studies” are themselves vacuous.
4. The Dog’s Breakfast:
“The brain and the heart of the (beautiful) person completes the package and determines how successful they will be.”
First Troon has returns to his unexamined utilitarian pragmatism – note the use of the term “package” which determines “how successful they will be.” For Troon, like Madison Avenue flacks generally, it’s all about “success” which, of course, is undefined. Then Troon turns to more of his vacuous assumptions, this time about the “brain and the heart” of the beautiful person but doesn’t reveal just what these qualities might look like or, for that matter, if they are even relevant given that we are just talking about physical beauty. Try to stay on topic Troon.
Anyone seen isosceles_kramer?
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Hey now, let’s all cut IK a little slack. She is clearly young (by which I mean in her 20s) and yes, has some opinions that seem, well, strident at times, but back off, Kay? She sounds like she’s been burned a few times; to quote one of moman’s faves, Moll Flanders: “If a young woman once thinks herself handsome, she never doubts the truth of any man; for if she believes herself charming enough to captivate him, ’tis natural to expect the effects of it.” If this happens a few times in a row, it’s pretty easy to feel like a victim of beauty.
As for where she is, it’s prolly where I am when I get ensnared in the bitch board: Outdoors and far away from her computer. Or maybe she’s at the bitch summit…hey guys, hoist a glass for me, will ya?
we could skype you xeno, that would be hilarious. as i always say “best to keep your bow and stern lines slack” does that many any sense to you?
I grew up supa hideous, a tomboy. I barely even wore girl’s clothes but my looks weren’t something I really paid much attention to and was very happy and had lots of friends. I only started to care in junior high when the prostitots were popping up everywhere and felt it was their duty to destroy the self-esteem of those who were not like them. Still, I wasn’t rushing out to American Eagle or whatever boring stores the Pretties got their uniforms at. I only started to feel okay with my looks at the end of high school. I have noticed how I get treated differently now, even by those who used to make fun of me who don’t recognize me. I definitely don’t think it’s a curse and really wouldn’t have minded if I looked better since birth, it probably would have spared me many tears and years of torment. But maybe not, who knows. I’m sure being a “popular” gal wasn’t sunshine all the time, but still much easier. The boy, who in fact is no longer my “the boy” since yesterday, won me over with his personality and not his looks. He was even still joking yesterday, “I should have just treated you terribly, then maybe you would have stayed with me,” to which I joked back, “well at least you can no longer say that all of your ex-girlfriends cheated on you” and being able to joke about a terrible situation while still crying over it, is worth much more than a six-pack to me. Like, not beer, the toned stomach muscles.
not really–I used to sail and don’t know why you’d want to keep your lines slack. Wouldn’t that mean you’re ‘luffing’? Wait— when you’re on your way into the harbour, though, you’d want to keep slack, right? Did I get it?
I’d skype though!
i’ve actually never said that before^^i was thinking, when your tied alongside something like a dock or other vessel. people forget about tides and stuff…leotards. xox for mel
apparently it has to do with mooring your boat…http://www.usps.org/lc/bare/How%20To%20Tips/raft.html
KIP
Mel…sorry about your loss. I can make a playlist of breakup songs for you…I have newly sad and fragile/angry and bitter/hope for renewal/glad he’s gone (4 different playlists) just let me know what stage you are at…
I`m interested in all of those playlists (for no reason), post them all.
Meh, meh, pretty ugly, who cares. To someone you`re beautiful to others you`re ugly. Eh, whatever.
I will say though … tooting one`s own horn … repeatedly … is just … irritating. Saying you`re beautiful really means nothing …
I`d like to think there are more components to character than when lies on the the outside.
… and buy your own fucking drinks at the bar!
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SO WHAT?
Since isosceles_kramer is still in hiding I thought I would comment briefly on the recent posts on the topic of Beauty in general and on that of her androphobia in particular. To most of them – all of them? – the appropriate response seems to me to be simply, “So what?”
: Xenophilia (Nov. 26, 10:36AM) – I wasn’t sure if this was for me or not, but in response to your “I feel a song coming on…” all I can say is, “So what?”
: Troondon4 (9:49PM) – As an additional comment on my previous comment, Troon seems to have misunderstood the entire question which, if you recall, was the nature of female beauty itself and its relation to androphobia. His comments on the “brain and heart” were beside the point and all I can say is, “So what?”
: tommyjules902 (Nov. 27, 12:30AM) – I’ve always thought of tommy as the voice of Halifax’s “Everyman.” He has his patter – he likes this and doesn’t like that, he goes here but not there, he does this and not that, and so on – to which the obvious response is, “So what?”
: Xenophilia (11:27AM) – isosceles_kramer may be young but, “So what?” That’s no reason to “cut her a little slack.” And you made a “double” error on your Mol Flanders quote: (1) It’s definitely not my “fave” – and (2) your interpretation of the quotation does not make sense. In fact in fact it has nothing to do with it, but I simply say, “So what?”
: Paingirl (12:41PM) – Your interpretation of “keep your bow and stern lines slack” is correct but, “So what?”
: Depeche Mel (1:32PM) – You’ve got to keep the discussion theoretical and not personalize it. Otherwise all one can say is, “So what?” (By the way, what exactly was that “terrible situation?”)
: Xenophilia (1:33PM) – No, “luffing” is letting your sails go slack in a headwind as one tacks into a new direction, but all I can say is, “So what?”
: Xenophilia (2:22PM) – You seem to have quite a collection of songs relating to break-ups Xeno, but all I can say is – wait for it – SO WHAT?
If anyone sees isosceles_kramer would they please tell her that she is wanted on the bitchboard? Thank you.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Well, I’m sure lots of people could add to these playlists, but it’s a start…For brevity’s sake, I made it into 3 steps: 1. hurt 2. angry and 3. relieved/resolved.
Step 1
4th of July -Aimee Mann/We’ve ended as lovers- Syreeta/You’re not the man- Sade/Do what you have to do -Sarah Mclachlan/Long time till I get over you- Little Feat/till you say you love me -Aretha Franklin/A better man- Toni Braxton/take the L out Pretenders/Hope you feel better -Isley bros
Step 2
It’s over– Lisa Loeb/breakin up Gwen Stephani/ absolutely nothings changed Tina Turner/Caught out There – Kelis/Really want my love Ms. Jade and Missy Elliot/What Goes Around – Dr. John or Justin Timberlake or DEA & Mara/I can do better or Everything back but you Avril Lavigne/Black T Shirt Ben Folds/Fuck Off – Song Reel Big Fish/Mr Wrong Sade/Son of a Gun-remix Janet Jackson/Get out of this house Shawn Colvin/Bad man missy elliot/Pack it up the Pretenders/Pack up your shit and go – Friday Morning’s regret/Get Out Macy Gray or Sublime or Busta Rhymes/You had me you lost me Eve/Your good thing is about to end Bonnie Rait/Limp – Fiona Apple/Shake it off Jay Z, Mariah/there you go Pink/You oughta Know Alanis/
Step 3
I will survive Cake/ I belong to me Jessica Simpson/Depend on Myself TLC/Sugar Mama Bonnie Rait/independent woman Destiny’s child/I get by Talib Kweli/Gold digger Kanye West/strong woman Trick Daddy/Stand up and Be strong Keb’ Mo’/No More Drama Mary J. Blige/Another night Aretha Franklin/I could hurt you now Aimee Mann
Well, I did post earlier that I like to burn CDs for people. As it happens, I burned the CDs for my niece over the past several years (she has terrible taste in men, and lives far away, so I burned these CDs as she went through the steps).
I do have a soundtrack of my life, but none of those songs are on it! Thanks for playing though. Ainsi ce qui? Je m’inquiète pas.
Props on the Sade heavy playlists.
SO WHAT? (Cont’d.)
Has anyone noticed that these posts are totally scrambled and out of sequence? Maybe it’s because of the new system of posting the first 25 comments and then requiring the reader to click on for “More Comments.” It’s a perfect example of increased “sophistication” but it’s hopelessly confused. Did Control suffer a meltdown? Of course, the only answer to it all is, “So what?”
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Thanks for the input TJ and you too Monsieur although you left my post like a frog in a science lab. Being neither beautiful nor female, I was tring to get a handle on I_K’s post about the burden of attractiveness. You were the one talking about the concept of beauty and it’s relation to androphobia not me.
Anyway, the “pragmatic” sense of beauty I spoke is the measurable part of it. The “golden Ratio ” of symmetry that’s found in nature from plant vines to seashells to human faces. The idea being that a certain symmetry is found in the face of those people considered most attractive. Beauty, though mostly subjective, can have a mathematical component to it.
BTW Monsieur, if you’re looking for Isoceles_Kramer you’ll find her in the Coast “top three commentators”. Congrats Kramer. Took full advantage of Tommy Jules trip to Montreal to slip in there.
Thanks Xeno 😛 I’m not sure what category I fall into.. I’m mostly sad because he and I were friends since high school. I don’t really listen to music to feel better, I usually just watch things like really horrible, twisted and uncomfortable horror movies that make me forget about anything else existing or something funny like Home Movies, Flight of the Conchords or The Room. Oh and more recently, Beevis and Butthead! I had no idea they were making new episodes! They shall occupy (that feels like a bad word now) me for the time being :).
So I_K says she’s basically a hottie but the most important question that everybody wants an answer to is how big are them titties?
Hope you’re doing well, Mel. You know we all like you and care about you- you’re one of US!
Whatever you do to get over this, do it and move on. You’re a nice gal, and sone nice guy is out there waiting for you to share eggs benny with him!
Wp
So then.. you’re free on Friday Mel?
I’m just joking.. I hope you’re doing ok. Breakups suck but they build character. Judging from your posts you’re a really cool person and you’ll be just fabulous. Trust me, kid.
“occupy (that feels like a bad word now)”
LOL Mel. >; ) . Humour has gotten SOBova & I through some times. It’s a good weapon to have the arsenal of the survivor (that feels like a bad word now)
Couldn’t find invisible eggs benny, this will have to do:
http://icanhascheezburger.files.wordpress.…
lol, trodon, I was thinking the same thing! Here’s a cool little clip about the golden ratio and beauty…a little eye candy to get your morning going…
http://www.wimp.com/fibonaccisequence/
RSVPs
: Troondon4 (Nov. 27,9:26PM)
You’re right about my wanting to talk about the “concept of beauty” and I_K’s “androphobia” since both presuppose your “trying to get a handle on I_K’s post about the burden of atractiveness.” In other words, her “burden of attractiveness” – in respect to which other posters clearly reject – is a psychological condition which is inexplicable independently of that concept on the one hand while, simultaneously, it is intertwined with her androphobia on the other. In other words Troon, her “burden” and her “androphobia” are interdependent psychological phenomena.
Your explanation of the “pragmatic sense of beauty” as the “measurable part of it” indicates that you have confounded pragmatism with empiricism. Pragmatism, sometimes called utilitarianism, is the view that something is of value only if it has a use in obtaining something else. Empiricism, on the other hand, reduces to the claim that something which cannot be objectively measured – which cannot be “verified” – has no reality. Troon, you are an empiricist but the difficulty is that the “verifiablity principle” is itself empirically unverifiable and so empiricism is self-refuting and falls into incoherence.
Your empiricism carries over into your “golden Ratio of symmetry” which, as is usually the case with empirical definitions, is circular. The “golden Ratio” maintains that there is a “certain symmetry that is found in the face of those people considered most attractive” but, of course, those people who are considered most attractive possess – wait for it – the “golden Ratio of symmetry.” The definition, in other words, is merely verbal and circular.
(9:41PM) – Troon, your empiricism surfaces even in respect to your comment on where to find isosceles_kramer – in the “top three commentators.” But Troon, that is irrelevant and worthy of a “so what” reply. I want to discuss matters of SUBSTANCE with isosceles here on “Identical Outfits” and not just her numerical ranking among the commentators which, as we all know, means precisely nothing since a “comment” can consist of nothing more than a cartoon and often not even that.
That will be $10.00, Troon.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
RSVPs
: Xenophilia (Nov. 28, 9:35AM) – Xeno, I found your post to Troon about “a little eye candy to get your morning going” both condescending and, since it suggested contempt for the male, marginally androphobic. I’m thinking of placing you in the same category as isosceles_kramer.
Men, we must reject this rampant androphobia on LTWWB! Let’s man up!
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Hah! You’re all too sweet. I’m fine, I’m not staying in bed all day with a fortress of snotty kleenex and empty ice cream containers forming around me, just bummed and am getting annoyed a lot easier is all :P. Especially when people talk over me OMFGAGU that pisses me off “LOL SORRY TO CUT YOU OFF, THAT’S JUST HOW I AM LOLOLO” well mister/ma’am, sorry to jab your larynx with a knife but that’s just how I am LOLOLOLOL.
Also like my number one pet peeve Mel, but we all do it. Glad you’re doing well.
Moman,
Your claims of superior intelligence and learning are continually disproved by the total lack of higher order thinking as evidenced in your replies.
Why is the term eye candy threatening to you? It is something pretty to look at. The video (did you watch it, Moman, or just print your knee-jerk response to your perception of my post?) was not directed specifically to Trodon; I don’t assume that everyone who reads LTWWB knows what the golden ratio is or how math can be beautiful… Trodon clearly does: “Beauty, though mostly subjective, can have a mathematical component to it.” I thought this video might be helpful to visual learners who did not immediately see the link between math and beauty.
I like men just fine, thank you very much.
Eh, pay no attention to Annie, xeno. His blue waffle’s just flaring up and he’s taking it out on all of us.
I’m sure his doctor has prescribed a cream.
Excellent post, MM!
lol @pk 🙂 – I bet that goes over his head.
Xeno – I’m going out on a limb a bit, because I can’t bring myself to read any of Smeagol’s posts.
Montremoleman wouldn’t understand a fractal if Benoit Mandelbrot explained it. And like some people, he fears what he cannot understand, so in order to hide/deny that fear and ignorance, he attacks as viciously as he can (intellectual bully, sans intellect).
RSVPs
Once again the posts were scrambled so that one had to go over the entire thread (!) to pick out those of November 28, only two of which were worthy of a reply. An exhausting exercise but one Montrealman took up in the interests of advancing at least a minimal level of reflection among the posters on the aptly-named “Bitch.”
: Donairious (12:59PM). I agree that my post was marvellous but it would help if you identified the date and time since, as I say, the posts were scrambled and I had no idea of the one you were referring to. Do try next time. But thanks anyway.
: Xenophilia (10:53AM) – Things were not so cheery with Xeno’s post who, in her usual androphobic fashion, took issue with my views but, also as usual, failed utterly to unhorse those views.
Her “thesis” (if you want to call it that) is that I have failed to prove my “claim of superior knowledge” since my “lack of higher-order thinking” is evidenced in my replies to her and to Troon. Her thesis can, of course, be dismissed immediately since I have nowhere made such a claim and defy her to demonstrate otherwise. This might appear to be a minor point except that a failed hypothesis vitiates any evidence brought in its support. Let’s look at that “evidence” now.
She begins with the odd question as to why the expression “eye candy” is “threatening” to me. Well, that’s an easy one. It isn’t threatening to me at all but my point, which she clearly missed, related to the androphobic subtext the expression had when offered to Troon. What was that subtext? It was, “Here you contemptible pig, here’s something you might get off on.” That’s called androphobia.
Next she drones on about the “mathematical component of beauty” which, once again and not suprisingly, missed my point which was – are you able to grasp it? – that (1) it was irrelevant to the current issue of the discussion of the concept of female beauty (anything can have a “mathematical component” to it), (2) it was simply an empty circular assertion (read my previous relevant post over), and finally (3) it was just another misguided empiricist attempt to reduce all meaning (including beauty) to purportedly objective measurement.
I realize that you will have difficulty with this Xeno, but I have put it as simply and briefly as possible. I suggest you review my posts again, reflect uopn them, and submit a further post if you are up to it.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!