To a certain north end club toting pink-washing “pride” slogans while your patrons slur derogatory, homophobic remarks when my friends come in and play a Joni Mitchell song on the jukebox: No we will NOT sit with you. I will not support you financially for allowing this to happen and for treating us like unwelcome trash. When my friend tried to level with you and discuss how it’s not okay to accept this behaviour from your patrons, you got defensive, wouldn’t listen and were unwilling to see past your own ego. I’ve always felt a sense of exclusion from this bar and I just chalked it up to my own anxieties. Needless to say, my intuition was correct and I won’t be returning. P.S. To the bartender in question: you should take note that a “gin and tonic” does not contain rum. Thanks for the shitty drink. —Sitting Anywhere But There
This article appears in Aug 18-24, 2016.
What northend club? Why Joni Mitchell? Are you certain it’s not your own anxiety? Should this not be titled: I won’t be returning?
OB, don’t go to the bar looking for politically correct conversation.
Why can’t you name the club? I think that would smack on the hornet’s nest you’re looking for…
City Mouse, you’re technically not allowed to identify places or names of people in your Bitch. It’s in the rules of the site and if you do mention it then it would likely not get posted.
There’s enough shittyness in the world already, why do people have to be such dirtbags all the time? Two important things we all learn at a young age that we should really keep at the front of our minds all the time to make the world a better place for EVERYONE, including yourself:
1. Treat people the way you would like them to treat you.
2. If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything.
Are you offended or is your friend offended? Why didn’t you speak to the bartender yourself? I’m pretty sure your friend demanded an apology from said bartender. The bartender then told your friend to come back inside and point out the person who made this remark…did you do that? Did you friend also tell you how she accused this bartender of being a homophobe? Did you go to that bartender and ask for your drink to be remade? Do you personally know this bartender and their ego? Or did you just decide instead of being an adult and ask this bartender to alleviate this situation instead write this passive aggressive solution bad mouthing a bar from a secondhand party on their take on how the bartender should handle this situation? I was there. I saw it all. You and your friend are dead wrong. Good on you.
Here’s the thing though, OP, and I know many may not agree or see it this way, but at least you know what kind of people run this bar. If those people were forced to hide their bigotry, we’d be unknowingly supporting said bigotry.