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Why can’t i get a boyfriend? is there something wrong with me. Everyone else has a boyfriend or special someone. I’m almost 30, and i can’t even get a date. Sometimes i’m shy, but i wish someone would take a risk on me for once. —Thinking of settling into an old cat lady
This article appears in Nov 26 – Dec 2, 2015.
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I don’t know you, but I think your “inability” to find someone is rooted in you somewhere. You’re either giving off some bad mojo that’s keeping the menfolk away or not being your ideal self in other areas of your life to make you attractive. Nobody in this life gets everything they want falling into their lap; they gotta work for something. Start looking at yourself with a really critical eye. Do you have a “type” that’s unrealistic for or unavailable to you? Are your conversations frequently focused on money and/or marriage? Who the heck are you, anyway? What do you like? What don’t you like? Are you the “crazy” type that most normal men would run away from if they thought with the head on their shoulders? Unless you can answer those questions honestly and make a real effort to improve the answers that aren’t good for your prospects, you’re gonna be on the shelf for a while. By the way, 29 is not a reason for panic – it does mean that your pool of candidates may include a couple single dads and/or divorced men and/or widowers. Take your own risks once in while.
^^^ the above as well as try to surround yourself with an air of availability. You will absolutely attract the type of man you’re looking for.
Date, date, date. Dating doesn’t mean coitus, dating means trying different people out. The more you date the more you’ll be comfortable with it.
Good luck and keep your head up.
And when the fuck did this become the Ann Landers page?
It is probably to due your grammar and punctuation.
There’s NSLC’s all over the place, shouldn’t be that hard….
and hey, if it is… doesn’t matter, you’re too drunk to care.
I’ve never had a boyfriend either 🙁
Be adventurous and visit the CoHo and see what may happen. May open many new doors for you. If that does not work out try making the first move on a guy if they are not taking the lead.
I get the vibe that your desperation reflects in your demeanor, poster. If you love yourself & are secure in who you are, that will attract people. If you’re not, then don’t put yourself out there until you are. Neediness is very unattractive & ppl can smell it a mile away.
It’s funny I was asking myself the same question.
I’ve been single for 5 years!
I’m far from shy. I’m a nice and down to earth guy. Treat women with respect and have a fantastic career and live a good life. Yet I’m wondering the same thing. Except I’m the complete opposite of you and I HAVE taken chances on people.
A new post shall come up and I don’t think guys are the problem in this city!
Sorry to say OP but this statement “Sometimes i’m shy, but i wish someone would take a risk on me for once.” is the problem. I have a hard time believing you’ve never been hit on. I’m sure you have and I’m sure you’ve almost always said no! That’s most likely why you can’t get a boyfriend.
What’s even more funny is that I originally started thinking it’s me! Then I discovered it’s nothing to do with me at all as anytime I travel, be it within Canada or internationally, I have absolutely no problem meeting women, except for this place for some reason.
What’s even more hilarious that than, is I’ve actually met women here and most don’t live in Halifax! Most actually want to pursue something but I don’t do long distance!
This has been my experience with dating in Halifax!
Maybe that’s her problem as well. It’s not her it’s this city. Maybe she is being hit on but not her type. Who knows. It is getting harder and harder to find genuine, down to earth guys out there who aren’t just looking to get laid on the first, second, third date etc., you know what I mean. How do you find out if someone is there for the right reasons unless you make them wait for anything more than dating with no sex for at least 6 to 12 months or longer. Believe me if he’s still around by then I think you got a keeper. We have become too promiscuous too soon in our relationships and believe it or not this is why so many relationships fail.