I understand your need to heal….BUT

You asked me to respect your decision to end the relationship and I did, even though I wasn’t happy about it. You never discussed how we would handle the situation between the kids and left no ability to do so, which is how I discovered you deleted/blocked me on all communication, when I tried to do so. Every time you pass by me and can’t be bothered to acknowledge me? Seriously? And all this from someone who claimed to love me and care about my feelings…Did you ever stop to think about how your decision to cut off all contact or acknowledgement would affect others around you?

My daughter is hurt and doesn’t understand why she can’t talk to you or play with your daughter. She doesn’t understand why your daughter told her it would be another 1-2 years before (you) would be ok and they could play together again. She doesn’t understand why your daughter told her you hate me and didn’t like us coming over to your house so much. She loved you too and here I am trying to tell her you’re a good person and just going through a difficult time which is why we can’t see you. You asked me to respect your need to heal but you gave me no ability to hear or discuss my needs or concerns going forward around this.

You make me question everything that happened between us and who you are as a person. Maybe all I ever was to you was a rebound and a way to pump up your self esteem…You used me, that’s how it’s looking now. I understand you were hurting but why would you need to completely cut us out of your life when we’ve done nothing but love and support you? Love is a two way street, when you ask for respect and consideration, you should be willing to give it and your actions after the end, doesn’t match your prior words. I believed in you and I’m so hurt and disappointed in how you’ve handled this situation… You deserved better in your marriage, just as I derived better from you after our relationship. If you think this Bitch sounds harsh….Just remember that ALL of it could have been avoided by keeping a simple line of communication open… —Rebound Guy

This article appears in May 18-24, 2017.