There is a child in the balance here. There is a shared interim custody order in place. For years now… I say black… you say white… I say up… you say down. It never ends. It just goes on and on and on. Endless emails back and forth back and forth… thousands over the years. If a father shows no interest in a child… of course… he loses. If he expresses his concerns and interest… the other party says and does anything to counter and cause problems and act almost combative. He loses. And it shouldn’t be win or lose. It’s the child who suffers. What a terrible thing for a person to do. Does anybody have any idea what a father is to do in this endless spiral? —Spun out and burned out
This article appears in Sep 19-25, 2013.
Start a journal of every incident, and as often as possible, have a third party present so they can confirm your story. Eventually you will a legal leg to stand on unless you are the one that is truly the bitch.
There’s two sides to every story, OP, which begs the question – just why is this woman flipping out so badly? Many women usually have a good reason for doing so.
This poor child is nothing more than a battered shuttlecock between the two of you. All you so-called adults can do is fucking bicker about bullshit and compromise on nothing. I wish this poor child could be adopted into a loving home instead of being bombarded by the appalling behavior of his ‘role models’. Sad no matter which way you slice it.
Sometimes it would have been better to swallow than to inseminate. This would be one of those times!
GV- Doesn’t work, I tryed it. The other half can then fabricate and do the same, but which side does the judge believe? Neither, its heresay.
OB- I have had sole custody of my child for almost 8 years. I can recommend a great lawyer and a few strategies if you need it, email 83jonrotton1971@gmail.com if you like. I don’t believe in sharing those personal details of my life or the court battles I went through online.
Many women just can’t get past their own egos when the husband leaves.They become selfish,vengeful women,women who despite love for their children become incensed with revenge on the husband for having the audacity to leave Her.
Yes unfortunately it’s the child who gets hurt in the end.
Children watch and learn and will know which parent is the instigator..Remember OP, your child will learn the truth when he/she grows up.
You say black…i say hash??? lol
There is nothing more evil than a woman scorned. I know I’m going to take heat but I have seen so much of it. Women holding kids as hostages and I’m sure most of you know someone like that. And to be fair I’ve also seen my share of assholes who do not pay child support and don’t care about the kids. The only way things are going to change is if the courts have the balls to throw the offending parent in jail. Do this a few times and maybe, just maybe the idiots will smarten up.
make the best of the time you do have with your child and petition for joint custody. that’s what I would do.
I can tell you first hand that my mom used us kids to get what she wanted from my dad, and made his life a living hell. My elder sibs and I saw through this, wasn’t easy on the youngest ones though.To this day I will never forget my dad crying, (he felt so helpless and manipulated). Even though I’m 57 now, just thinking of how his life was at that time still brings a tear to my eye. As much as I loved my mom, the unfettered truth was she was one cruel bitch to my dad and us.
Klyde out of curiosity, after you and your siblings became old enough, how many of you remained close to your mother? I know in my case they will have very little to do with her. Maybe a card for the holidays.
My mom passed away in 1976 at the age of 42…same age as Elvis.. I was 19 at the time….as kids we were traumatized by her, but what she did to our dad, there is no forgiveness for the cruelty she put on him. Although I can honestly say I loved my mom on one hand, I can also say I wanted any other woman to be my mom on the other hand. My grandmother stepped in to fill that need. My sisters still held loyalty with her, but my brothers and I didn’t. She robbed a life we could have had with our dad.
I swear my Dad croaked at 61 just to get away from my crazy, nagging, abusive mother who lived to be 96. I just vowed to be everything she wasn’t and, thankfully, succeeded.
keep your dick in your pants.