We hooked up a couple times, and I told you someone else (who doesn’t want it) has my heart. You said that was fine; you had your own stuff and didn’t want to date me. It’s been weeks since I saw you, but over a few too many drinks with a mutual friend last night you came up… a few times, and I realized… I have a huge crush on you. I have no expectations, and no time to see you (but I’d make some if you actually really wanted me to), but I do want to get to know you. Just putting it out there. —This One IS For You
This article appears in Sep 20-26, 2012.
Go pound sand up your arse ya gameplayer. You fucked up and lost out, now suck it up. You don’t have any TIME anyhow, remember dummy?
no-fool Welcome back.
OP If you have a serious crush on her/him get in touch with her/him again,maybe they are still missing you.Don’t leave such a thing up to chance….you might be missing out on a great love.
Baaaah. Admitting your feelings to the opposite sex is for chumps. Showing any kind of vaulnerable isn’t worth it. It just feels icky and gross.
Especially since there ISN’T someone out there for everyone. Hate to break it to y’all.
OP You told her she/he wasn’t good enough so now(for whatever reason) your not seeing the other person.Now you want the woman/man back.You say you haven’t the time but,if she/he contacts you you will make the time .
1. How is the person you want back supposed to know you want them back?
2.Ask yourself why you are so afraid of rejection,you can’t contact the person you (basically)told they weren’t good enough for you to date.
3. If you are not happy with yourself, you will never be happy with anyone you may think(feel)is good enough for you….Number 3 is more like a peace of advice.
I empathize with the person you wrote the Love to.
Is that a no for the OL no-fool?
No matter how happy you are w/ yourself, some people just end up wanting people who are very wrong for them.
For instance: Everyone I’ve ever been with or wanted to be with were oh so very wrong choices… For whatever reason. There’s these two guys, currently, who are impossible, but intriguing at the same time. So, maybe it’s just best if I die alone?
That and guys play just as many games as women. All hot one day, cold the next, then right back to hot again.
I don’t have time for that nonsense.
PS: ALWAYS let the boys come to you, ladies and make them work for it. They end up all egotistical and sometimes mean otherwise all ‘bitchez want me, I’mma make these hoes work for it!’
Um no. I don’t need to impress any guy. They can bite me if they think I need to convince them to ‘choose’ me.
Boru, you have some really good questions, but first: “their”.
Ok I feel better now.
1. Perhaps OP can’t tell them because, in case you missed it, this person didn’t want to date them.
2. I missed the part where they said they told someone they weren’t good enough to date. Can you point out exactly where it is in that post? And I also don’t see anywhere in the post stating that the person who had/ has OPs heart and OP ever dated in the first place.
Sorry to be an asshole, but it looks like neither of these people wanted to date each other, and now the OP just needed to get it off their chest that they care without having to feel the sting of rejection again.
I bet on damage on both sides.
I think PK needs a hug. *internet hug*
She doesn’t need a hug. She’s finally enlightened to how it works… and how utterly shitty and useless it really is. Despite that, there are little things you can hope for amidst all the sorrow… like being an innocent victim in a street shooting and having your life insurance pay out to help your family.
Analeigh Thanks..Please excuse my spelling errors.
Perhaps the other person wanted to date or alittle more than a “hook up”.
“I have no expectations, and no time to see you (but I’d make some if you actually really wanted me to)”
“IF”? OP seems passe about their relationship (or lack of).
Just wondering why “put it out there” at all?
@Zed: whatever happened to the idea of hope being tied in with despair….love and desire wouldn’t feel so great if yearning didn’t suck so hard (at times)….just sayin’;)
The text that preceded that little despair and hope quote…
Bruce Wayne: Why didn’t you just… kill me?
Bane: You don’t fear death… You welcome it. Your punishment must be more severe.
Bruce Wayne: Torture?
Bane: Yes. But not of your body… Of your soul.
only wants her because she didn’t wait around. she’s your back up plan. i wouldn’t want your time after you did that
People make mistakes, it’s owning up to those mistakes when you after you realize you made them.If he is honest about his mistake(telling her she wasn’t wanted)and she is still very interested,I feel she should go out with him again.He could be the love of her life and she,his.
OL has no time but can make time if necessary. How’s that for a mixed signal? No expectations, sounds like someone looking for FWB. Thinks of you when they get piss drunk, yeah this is true love.
SheSang “love and desire wouldn’t feel so great if yearning didn’t suck so hard (at times)….”
I hear ya girl
Especially when it’s been years since you felt another’s touch and you need a hug from a certain man so badly you hurt.
SheSang Are you and your manfriend getting re-acquainted?
SheSang Sorry for sticking my nose in your affairs.I care a lot about people and their welbeing…untill they fuck me over.I’m Irish but I don’t have the good luck of the Irish.I’m pretty sure a relative(way back when) had sex with a Murphy…That would explain the fact that Murphy’s Law is in my blood.NOTHING in my life has ever gone right. Pitty Party?Party of one…Story of my FN life. IRISH WHISKY ANYONE?
Hey Boru:) sorry to have missed this convo–have been a little off-the-grid since back from TO…mostly helping my mum:). And yeah Boru, I got to see my man-friend a couple of nights ago:D (thanks for asking:)). We hung out for a few hours and talked about a bunch of stuff over a little wine:). It was REALLY great to spend time with him again….dunno when ill get to see him again though….but it was sweet to be in his company again:).
How are you doing Boru? Sounds like you had a rough end to the week:(
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@Zed–thank you for enlightening me…..I am truly embarrassed to say I had forgotten that quote completely (I know, I know)………mental note to self: rewatch Batman ASAP;). How you doin Zedster?? Is the weekend bringing you any fun?? Too bad it looks to wet for a bike ride:(
SheSang I’m happy you had a good time with your manfriend.
I am not well at all,stress.I received a call from my son this morning…he’s in a whole lot of legal trouble,I can’t and won’t help him.I’m just stressed and lonely,but…. 🙁 🙁
hugs for boru http://ihasahotdog.files.wordpress.com/201…
Painy Thanks,that made me smile. 🙂
Feel better Boru. And thanks for the nice vibes:). I really liked Paingirl’s link too–pup looks like one of the dogs I just got to spend 10 days with. Glad you know what you can and can’t do–tough choices suck. Hope you have a really relaxing sunday Boru:). You too Paingirl.
Shesang Yep choices suck.I went out and had a couple beer,I probably shouldn’t have let alone be on here now….anyway life sucks.,mine does anyway.Pity party…party of one.Tired of it all…sigh.
Not looking forward to tomorrow at all…it’s going to be a bad,bad day. 🙁
What’s happening tomorrow Boru? I mean other than Monday.
My son is in trouble with the law again. I hoe I hoe it’s off to court I go…He’s in deep deep shit this time.
Really sorry to hear that. How old is he?
Troodon Thanks.He’s 22 with a drug addiction.He isn’t up on assault but,I don’t think anyway.I’m very afraid for him.
How do you know when an addict is lying?He moves his lips.
Makes you feel any better… that was easily one of the worst weekends I’ve had in the last decade. Not quite sure how I managed to avoid hanging myself.
The world keeps turning, much like the shit swirling ’round the toilet bowl before it’s whisked away to a not-so-much-better place.
What happened, zed? 🙁
it started with YLoD and just kept getting worse from there.
Zed What a Ylod? I hope your feeling better today.
yellow light of death, i had to google it. it’s a warning on your computer system before everything craps out. love your avatar boru
Not a warning… an error code that it HAS crapped out…
And fuck you for trying to turn it back on again.
I swear this fucking rain had better stop. Every weekend is shit and I always get stuck out in it and drenched to the core.