Remember when you said that? I laid in my room wide awake reading the messages coming in with a smile from ear to ear. Knowing I was the girl that drove you crazy, made me happy and also made me melt and wrap around your finger, which you have now incessantly manipulated me with.
Lately, you seem uninterested, and every time I message you, you never answer back. It’s mega confusing when you say you like me one day, and act like I don’t exist when I see you out, then invite me over 3 days later to hang out with you and your friends.
I’m writing this because I don’t know if you enjoy head games, you’re testing me, or you’re just insecure and like having me close but not too close. I don’t know how to tell you this without fear of losing you altogether, because the times we share are fun but it’s starting to hurt.
I’ve decided to treat you the same way you’re treating me. In hopes it will help you feel how I feel. In hope’s you’ll realize you either have to let me go or be something I know you want to be but are too scared. You’re attractive, humble and insanely smart. Stop keeping me on a thread because you’re insecure with yourself. Because I don’t have the scissors to cut the strings you attach me to. I’m just as vulnerable as you are. —Figure it out and let me know
This article appears in Sep 25 – Oct 1, 2014.
This response would be the same were the genders reversed:
OB your guy is probably not ready for commitment. Whether he thought he was when he asked you out or whether he knew that he wasn’t and consciously decided to string you along is almost impossible to say for certain.
You might also be so infatuated with the idea of a relationship with this person that you are inadvertantly smothering them. How often do you text? Once a day? Twice? Twenty times? How long do you wait between texts if one is not answered? Some people don’t keep their phones beside them 24/7 and actually enjoy doing things besides texting. (I know, right?) How often do you see eachother?
Either way – you are not happy in this relationship and should probably end it and move on. If you do this one of two things will happen. 1. The guy will be like “K” and you will be sad for a bit but ultimately better off. 2. The guy will realize that you aren’t a doormat that he can call/text at his convenience with no consideration for what you want/need in a relationship and either wake-up and be a better boyfriend for you, or he will back off and be honest about his feelings toward you and commitment.
You nailed this one perfect, Ho!s+. If I was in this gentleman’s position, I would bolt from this young lady like the late, great Roger Bannister. A tip of the fedora to you.
LOL, For a couple of years this was the last song played at any King’s social event.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3wxcieByT28
How old are you two 12?
Be an adult ,simply talk to her in person…face to face,be direct… Ask why she’s hot/cold….She was probably waiting for you to make the next move.
She may have been very nervous to tell you how she felt to begin with with.You didn’t tell her you felt the same,she thought you weren’t interested.
I wish whoever came up with the ‘he/she is just scared to commit’ would wash her brain out with Lysol.
some people just don’t want to. some people have deep feelings but just don’t emote all over the place. some people are reserved. some people just want to be friends. some people are assholes. and some people fall in ‘love’ at the drop of an eyelid.
if you like the relationship, stay in it. if you don’t like it, leave it. don’t blather on about how you want to make him feel the way you feel. he won’t. he can’t. don’t expect other people to change they way their mind/heart works. go find someone who ‘fits’ and quit trying to squish this schmuck into your frame of reference. he is not a blank canvas on which you can paint a friggin mirror.
and ditto on hoist’s disclaimer. VV for sexes reversed.
Dis dudes main agenda is getting his rocks off and he got someone else for the night to take care of that. Maybe someone closer, cuter, someone he didn’t have to take out, an easy lay. A man’s words are meaningless honey, ‘specially when they horny. Actions tell the tale. Respect yourself enough to ditch this chump and move on.
Is Ho!s+ really Dan Savage writing under a pseudonym? I nominate Ho!s+ for replacement to Dan…
It hurts to realize u were used by the person you love.
FINGER EXERCISES
“Knowing I was the girl that drove you crazy, made me happy and also made me melt and wrap around your finger, which you have now incessantly manipulated me with.” Figure it out and let me know
I think it’s time you began having regular sexual intercourse. Things should work themselves out then.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Thanks for the compliment Meaty but I am nowhere near as good as Dan Savage. Saw him when he was at the spatz theater, very funny guy. He kept hitting something under the podium with his foot and glancing under there, the 3rd or 4th time it happened he goes, “There’s a boy under here.”