All the shit that happened to you, school, family, and work, I tried to support you and do whatever I could to make your life easier. Even after you dumped me, when we were supposed to be friends, I was there for you to talk to about all your problems. But when I needed you, you tried your best to turn tail and run. You said I had asked to much, it was too stressful for you, too hard on you…
Well all I asked was for you to be there for me, and be supportive of me for a week while I was going through something very scary. I asked of you something any of my other friends would have gladly done if I had felt able to tell them about the situation. But for you it was too much. If it’s so hard for you to just be nice and caring towards your friends when they really need you, I don’t even want to know you. Talk to me if you ever realize —what you threw away
This article appears in Nov 21-27, 2013.
That hurts, op. I think you should append “Why? What happened?” onto the end of this and send it to your friend. It may not be worth wasting the friendship over but then again… it might. I’d at least want to air the laundry before putting it away.
Depends on what the shit was …. I could give someone a year and help them deal with life but no way will I spend a second covering for murder. See, it all depends on WHAT is at stake here ….. what seems like earth shattering devastation to you is just another dose of that serum for the syph that others are used to taking for breakfast …… perspective baby – it is all in the perspective.
Unfortunately, OP, lots of people want to “stay friends” or HAVE friends because it’s convenient for THEM, and it has nothing to do with actually wanting to be there for other people.
Chalk it up to a heartwrenching experience that you can avoid in the future.
40+ years ago, I broke off with my first boyfriend a year after my dad died. He said I was ‘throwing it all away’ – did I mention that he was clingy as Saran wrap and possessive to the point of insanity? Did I also mention that 2 weeks after my dad died, he told me to ‘get over it?’ We were just kids in our late teens but I never regretted the day I walked away from him. And never looked back.
I’d like to hear both sides of your story, OP.
Is the title supposed to be “I gave you a year” or “I give you a year”? Are talking about the past year or are you giving this person a year to come around. Just curious.
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Having a friend/partner/etc abandon you is a shitty thing to happen.
Having experienced a similar situation, here is what I learned. 1) If it wasn’t this event that made them act this way, it would likely happen during another time 2) Let them go to figure out their priorities and what they think is appropriate behaviour as a friend 3) Wish them the best, wishing them otherwise weighs heavily on your heart 4) Don’t look back; regret and dwelling on the past is not in YOUR best interests 5) Cherish your friends who do support you 6) Remember this experience if you have a friend who needs YOU.
I hope whatever was very scary for you turned out ok in the end.
Clearly written by a five year old.
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