I am NOT homophobic I’m asshole-phobic!

If you hate people who wear ‘flip flops and jeans in the middle of winter’ then why not just say you hate people who wear flip flops and jeans in the middle of winter?? Where did you get the morronic idea of linking these traits with being gay?? Judging by the title of your bitch, you also seem to think that there are alot of gay people who are assholes. So where did you get the statistic that there are more gay assholes than straight assholes? Because you sound like a total asshole yourself. You also sound homophobic and idiotic. Stupid ass!

good call.

I totally understand with the asshole-phobic bit. There are “some” gay people out there that are really over the top being jerks and pushing everyones buttons and doing whatever they can to push people to the edge, and then when you call them on it they pull the “you’re just a homophobe” card. It makes me want to slap them.

OK, first of all…Marly: straight men are constantly, publicly talking about “bitches” and “hos” and “big racks” and whatever. They are very open about it. They talk about how often they “get a piece of tail” or how “easy” certain women are. And sometimes they intentionally say it loud enough to be heard because there are women whose self-esteem is so low that they actually think the best way to find a caring boyfriend is to allow themselves to be victimized by such “hard-as-nails” thugs – whose ghetto fabulous slang was borrowed from the street that is so far outside the neighborhood they grew up in…anyway…TLB, matt: stereotypes have to come from somewhere. And that means that some gay men will speak with a lisp, or wear make-up, or do drag, or whatever. But just because a guy speaks with a lisp, or wears make-up, or does drag does not mean that he is making an effort to live up to a stereotype. It means that is the person he has grown up to be. A lisp is a speech impediment. There are straight men with them too. Make-up or drag can be mutually exclusive of each other. And it all comes down to personal preference and self-expression…just like a guy who plays guitar or football. But I don’t know a gay male who makes a conscious effort to shove anything in anyone’s face. Some people are simply more outgoing and expressive than others. Some jocks are loud and obnoxious. Some are not.The long story short is that yes, you are homophobic. Homophobia isn’t a fear of homosexuality so much as it is an intense discomfort with things that CLEARLY represent homosexuality. If you didn’t react to it so strongly, it wouldn’t be as much of a big deal to you. If you ignore it, or just frown at it rather than provide nonverbal reassurance that it is getting a reaction, it would be far less likely to happen again. Just grow up and get over it, and yourself.

TLB: I never said I was having any trouble understanding. Indeed, I understand that you feel uncomfortable when people “appear” to be gay. I understand that you believe that no one is “shoving” straightness in our faces every day. I understand that you think it’s completely acceptable to call a gay person “a big flame.”What I can’t believe is that those who have posted and agree with you are so inadequately educated on the subject that they don’t realize that it’s homophobia.Matthew: well said, thanks for that.

I’m not homophobic but….. You’re not an idiot but….So Marly and TLB are bothered when a gay person “flaunts” it? Guess you should rethink your club wear before you hit up the Dome this weekend! You certainly don’t want to offend someon by flaunting it.OP, I hope your “gay best friend” reads this, figures out who wrote this and ditches your ass! If you need to defend yourself that much before launching into a tirade about god damn flipflops, you should ask yourself why.

holy.I’m actually surprised that i still am in shock over the amount of stupidity in this city.Jennifer you are probably the biggest idiot of them all. I am not uncomfortable with gay people, you don’t know me and if you knew who i was it would be blatently obvious that i have nooo problems with gay people. I have problems with gay people that tell me i am a homophobe simply because i don’t want to hear about thier orgies with all kinds of hotties or whatever. When it’s NOT because they are gay that i have a problem with them, it’s because of the PERSON they are, whether they are gay or not. just as i do not want to hear a straight male or female go on about banging someone for hours. I fail to understand why you claim you understand what i am saying when CLEARLY you are either A) too stunned to actually read what i’m saying. or B) not stunned at all and just purposely pulling things out of your ass to start an arguement.and Lynn, again, i’ts not that they are gay it’s that we don’t want to hear it gay/straight/bi/trans whatever they may be – this time it just happened to be a gay person. And don’t put me into the Dome catagory – i do not go there. Infact i’m at reflections every weekend. is that enough of a hint for you there jenny-pooh?

are you effing retarded? I don’t care about the non political correctness of it. I did not make excuses for anyone and i never once said that straight people don’t do it. What the hell is wrong with you? I said in this case it was a gay person. So what if they were black would all the black people in the city stone me to death for being a racist bitch just because ONE of them happened to do something i did not agree with???? Hopefully not, hopefully they will understand that it was a single incident. If you have a brain, please use it and think about what is being said here.I wouldn’t hate you because you wear boots, i wear boots myself. I might dislike you because you are the only one spewing generalizations into other people’s mouths or fingers around here.I don’t care if you kiss your girlfriend, that’s what girlfriends are for. But i would not like to watch you two go at it anywhere public JUST as i would not like to watch two straight people or two gay people or two trans people or a group of bi people or a group of barnyard animals.Who the hell is hanging out with these people? I don’t even know who they are. get over yourself and stop pulling the “she just hates me because i’m gay” card which is EXACTLY what this bitch was about in the first place.You don’t get on my nerves because you are gay or whatever you are you get on my nerves because of the things you say.

I would like to get a general feel of your opinions. I’m not trying to provoke anyone here so please don’t take it like that. Is it okay to use words like gay, lesbian, black, white as descriptive words not as stereotypes. For example: That gay man was very nice /flamboyant /annoying. Using the word gay in this way has nothing to do with my beliefs about gay people, it is only being used as a way of more distinctly describing this individual.

WOW .. this quickly got INSANE!Re-think club wear? What the hell? So if I was to lower myself and go to the Dome to pick up, and wore a shirt that showed some cleavage, that would mean I am flaunting my heterosexuality? Do lesbians not like tits just as much as straight guys?This board is for OPINIONS .. which we’re all intitled to. No one is saying “I HATE GAYS” .. they’re simply stating, or, at least I am “I hate overly flamboyant, in-your-face PEOPLE” .. straight or gay and in this topic we just happen to be discussing gays.

I don’t know why anyone would even defend a petty, pathetic, HOMOPHOBIC bitch like this one.

hahaha.hahahahahaYou are an idiot and YOU are not understanding a thing that is being said. I did not make the orignal bitch, i simply was saying that i could see where they were coming from.I never said straight acting gay people are ok and gay acting people are not ok. i said *ahem* that SOME gay people are ASSHOLES. Not all. Not assholes because they are gay. Some gay people ARE flaming gay. And because they are flaming gay does not mean they are idiots, it means they are – insert dramatic gasp here – flaming gay! Flaming being an adjective. 100% of my gay friends use the word flaming to describe themelves and/or others. And i also have been randomly asking gay acquantances if flaming was an insult and 1 person was confused and the rest LAUGHED in my face!!!It’s like you are refusing to listen to common sense. Do you know what the actual derogatory name for a gay person is? FAGGOT. Not gay. Not flaming. faggot. I would NEVER ever ever in a million years call anyone a faggot. There is a huge difference. haha. wow. And if i ever met you in person i would laugh in your face (along with my gaggle of homo friends, who are busting a gut laughing because i’m being called a homophobe).

No matter how hard you try, TLB, it just isn’t working.

This will be the last time I waste my time on this bitch, and those of you who keep arguing with me only to make yourselves look like ill-educated douchebags will be cheering – and no doubt throwing insults at me that I will never read…which is probably a good thing since every time I respond I prove my point and then open you up to make yourself look worse than you already do…and so it begins once more…the dance with the douchebags…TLB ->#1) I mistakenly implied you were the original author, I correctly implied you are a homophobe.#2) Having gay friends does not mean you can never be a homophobe. There are such things as homophobic homosexuals. They are more commonly referred to as self-loathing homosexuals.#3) Faggot is not the only “actual derogatory term for a homosexual male (faggot does not apply to lesbians so it cannot be considered a derogatory name (name?) for a gay PERSON because this implies it applies to women as well). Terms such as queen, fairy, queer, fudgepacker, one who “putts from the rough”, pooper scooper, nelly (I never understood why the rapper chose this moniker), tinkerbell, pole smoker, turd burglar, cocksucker, flamer and any number of other terms used to demean or imply weakness and femininity in a male.#4) A gay male using words like “flaming” to describe themselves or other gay men when implying femininity are perpetuating the same problems those who came before them fought to change. The only time flaming is an appropriate adjective is when something is burning, like a building, a car, or the gears on the hamster wheel between your ears when you’re “thinking”. It is just like black people referring to their brethren with the all-encompassing N-word. It isn’t reclaiming the word. It is just maintaining it in the public consciousness as a source of potential animosity and a reminder that society still has a long way to go.#5) I never refuse to listen to common sense. I encourage its use. I just haven’t seen it used by you, Marly, matt, and ‘my best friend’s gay’. If you are flying off the handle because someone wore jeans and flip flops then defining the sexuality of the individual is neither warranted nor required. The clothing was the issue, was it not? So complain about flip flops and jeans in winter. The author brought the sexuality into it because he wanted to criticize a homosexual and needed a reason to do so. Why is it that we don’t talk about straight men and women? It is this guy or that girl. How does sexuality come into play when discussing fashion sense or not dressing for the environment? Some people are running to the store three buildings away so they throw on convenient clothes to achieve a means to an end. Others may not be able to afford socks and shoes…things others consider a necessity when it could be a luxury to someone else. Sometimes “Bitches” are warranted. Sometimes they are just one person’s way to insult others and make themselves feel superior when all they are really accomplishing is pointing out a small mind, a prejudicial mentality, or a wondrous combination of both.#6) And finally, if your gay friends didn’t know the writer was you, they would likely think you were a homophobe too…even in the slightest sense. I’m gay. I have straight friends. I think you’re a homophobe. And I am not alone in this based on other contributors to the comments on this Bitch.

so big deal, my uncle is gay?! what is your point retard? maybe you should visit his partner my aunty tony.