Believe it or not continually being inconsiderate of somebody’s time is not acceptable. It’s not a rare occurrence with you, it’s an expected thing now. The worse part is you act totally remorseless about it. I don’t know if it’s because I put up with it, or if it’s because we’re best friend and you know I’ll still love you, probably both. Guess what? Being a flake isn’t an attractive quality on anybody especially your best friend. —Break the habit it’s gotten old
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WHAT IS TIME?
“Believe it or not continually being inconsiderate of somebody’s time is not acceptable.” Break the habit it’s gotten old
But why is being inconsiderate of somebody’s time being inconsiderate in the first place? Presupposed is the nature of time itself, but what is it? In my view the Bitcher has made a common mistake, that of identifying time as a commodity, something which has exchange value. In our pragmatic age this is not surprising but such a view fails to engage the nature of time itself. It reduces to something one uses rather than engaging that which is constitutive of one’s identity. In that sense, two possibilities present themselves as to the nature of time, the objective and the subjective views of time.
Objective time is time viewed from without, that of an extended period in which all organisms, ourselves included, come into and pass out of existence. We are all born and we all die. It’s just a matter of time (a little joke there). Objective time is measured in minutes on the clock, the months on a calendar, and the years on our birthdays. But objective time is something “out there,” something which can be empirically measured and as such lacks philosophical interest. It is the nature of subjective time which is anomalous.
Subjective time is the temporal dimension in which we live. We cannot transcend our subjective time, our temporal dimension, any more than we can transcend our subjective space, our spatial dimension. We are locked in the space-time continuum. So what can be said about the subjective nature of time?
We know that we have a past – indeed, some say that our past constitutes our identity. If we did not have a past we would be nobody. There is something to this but not, I believe, everything. However, there is one thing one can say about the past and that is that it is irretrievably gone, never to return. We have memories it is true but the reality of our past is gone. Our past, in that sense, is a foreign country even to ourselves.
Similarly we know that we have a future, other things being equal. However long that future may be we do not know. We can say that if the past is gone and finished, the future is “not yet.” It has the quality of possibility but also of contjngency. It is contingent on factors over which we have no control. We just don’t know what the future holds.
Then there is the present which is even more puzzling. Some say that the present doesn’t actually exist since by the time one realizes that the present is actually present, it has become the past. Some say that there is something called the “specious present” meaning that the present is not marked off in instants but rather in meaningful episodes. My typing this comment, for example, can be said to belong to the present although its beginning has already slipped into the past.
But if typing this comment is a meaningful episode in my present time, it suggests that one’s identity is more a matter of one’s creative endeavours – if one can call typing a comment on Bitch a “creative endeavour” – than simply being a product of my past time as indicated above. In that sense one’s identity is more a matter of current reflective activity than one passed on by simple inheritance from the past. It is an achievement.
Of course, all this has very little to do with the bitch narrowly conceived. But it doesn’t matter since the bitcher still loves the guy and that’s all that matters.
Thank you for your patience and understanding.
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
It could be worse… you could be a child convicted and charged with child-porn offenses. Not certain how that changes the past… seems it only ruins someone’s future as an adult. Can’t help but wonder if we aren’t over-reacting to tragedies rather than learning from them. Sad days. We should be ashamed of ourselves…
Yeah, I know… I’m repeating myself… it’s the shock and disbelief…
Brush that flake right off your shoulder, my good bitcher. Your friend does not have you on their radar of priorities. You are taken for granted to be there when this person needs you, otherwise, you might as well make armpit noises in the key of B sharp.
meaty, your comments do deserve a thoughtful response, despite the cut off. i am immersed in a project right now but will address your remarks later on.
Well, you may as well hold off as we are again being censored…
Garbage Mod is garbage.
meaty, conjecture is one of YOUR main rebuttals. i refer to your absolutely baseless accusation that i would support
a texas state execution of the mentally unfit, or a la jean val jean – for stealing a loaf of bread. what possible reason could you have for thinking i have adopted any of my values from the usa? where did you dredge that up from? i fail to see where i have done the same – but by all means, illustrate to back your statement about ‘my’ motivations.
further, your hauling women’s equality into this is irrelevant to this issue. a young fellow was accused of a crime and pleaded guilty to the charge. he admits he did it. you state that should be the end of it, i disagree. that does not make me a hangman. you are guilty of hyperbole. your far reaching and fairy tale responses indicate this could be a highly emotional subject for you. if you could stick to the point. i have based my judgement on this situation by what i have read that was written by the parties themselves, not by general opinion or some pre-conceived notions. these fellows are not ‘going to have to live with’ the results of their actions in any way unless imposed by law. there has been no remorse, indeed there were threats to the family of their victim. taunts. jeers. horrifyingly callous behaviour to people suffering a death of a loved one. sad days indeed, that people should do that.
my beliefs are that each and every case before courts should be judged on its details. intent, remorse, possibility of reoccurrence. this is why there is such a range of sentencing in law. one person may receive the absolute minimum, another gets the maximum. no punishment can change the past, that’s not the point. if that is your argument, that since it cannot change the past there is no point to it, then extrapolate. open the prisons, free everyone? one could argue that every person convicted of a crime will have his/her life ruined by the conviction, so never convict? never charge? never arrest? where do you draw the line?
and tomasa, don’t muck this up again with a reply that is no better than nyah nyah your mom wears army boots. geeze Louise
I’m out! You said it best.
The bottom line, in all the ranting, is that the punishment doesn’t meet the crime.
Comments closed.
I am good with that meaty. I don’t believe argument, discussion, call it what you will, has ever changed someone’ s mind about something like this. I think most of the time we just want to get our view out there, to affirm it perhaps. take a stand. speak up.