I really hate fighting with you, I do. But you just piss me off so much when you mock me. Yeh I can be a bit childish and slam a door, but why do you have to do it right after me? There is no point to be proven, two wrongs don’t make a right in case you haven’t heard, and why the fuck do you always answer my question with another question?! Holy shit when you do that it goes right through me!!!!
Fuck marriage is hard sometimes!
—Happy Wife, Happy Life?
This article appears in Jan 14-20, 2010.
yeah sweetcheeks,i t truly sounds like you’re happy here. either suck it up, or throw the fucking bum out the door he slammed. hey, that might be his intention all along. keep us posted, and hey, i’m available.
yeah sweetchecks, i can tell how happy you are. either suck it up or throw the fucking bum out the door he slammed on you. maybe that was his intention all along,to get you to give him the boot. if so baby, i’m available.
divorce is good for you! s’all I’m saying.
D-I-V-O-R-C-E honey!
People who act like this are too immature to be married. What are you—a couple of 5-year olds?
Grow up and start resolving your problems like adults. And for god’s sake: CUT IT OUT WITH ALL THE DOOR SLAMMING, WILL YA?
I can hear it from over here.
Sheesh!
Divorce?! Why? Because they can’t fight properly? Sounds like the OP is one of those dramatic fighters who likes to storm off rather than discuss an issue and hubby is just calling her on her bullshit. Sure, he’s being childish…but so is slamming doors and arguing like a 2 year old in the first place. Why do people find it so hard to just say what’s bugging them without getting into a fight about it?
Asking a question to a question, comes down to a lack of respect for one another. But so does slamming doors. Does that make any sense princess?
Oh, I forgot to tell you too ovary up.
I was going to post something but Miles has made the point perfecly clear.
Possibilty of a troll 90%
true miles…
if you can’t communicate even when a difference of opinion occurs then there is something askew. ovary up, talk it out and get the rest you need to start another day.
It’s the sullen silences that piss me off–there’s no way to communicate when confronted with those.
The OB sounds like a me me me me me me me me me me me asshole.
That’s what OP gets for thinking she’s Jessica Simpson.
when I try to talk to my gf about what bothers me, I’m apparently being an asshole and intentionally making her feel like scum… women are strange hormonally imbalanced creatures and I think they should just fuck off and stay single if they don’t know how to be with someone… ahem.
Just gotta learn how to play the game, Diddy = p. Don’t you know, it’s not what your saying, generally, it’s how you’re saying it.
@HKM, I know how to play the current game, but the fucken rules change mid-stream most of the time. Make a point that she doesn’t like and I’m an asshole, wrong or right, it doesn’t seem to matter most of the time. I try a conversation, she knows she wrong, and out comes the pouty hurt look. Again, I’m the asshole. Women are just too much sometimes.
Refer to: Where’s the Beef post: Handy Set of Rules To Follow When Arguing (written by Kay)
Link near the bottom of thread.
Bad advice I realize now. Here, I found this just for you, Bullet:
http://open.salon.com/blog/man_talk_now/20…
Fuck I hate women. And I am one. They’re all so bitchy and start fights for no good reason. They refuse to actually talk to someone about a problem and just yell play games. Except me ;D. This is why I only have one girl friend.
Is she hot?
If you are asking me NGF, yes. But she is a friend that’s a girl, not my “girlfriend” if that’s what you’re getting at :P. I’d totally be lesbian if I didn’t hate girls so much. And boys are just tooo cute! And you can have sex with boys and not just scissor.
Wasn’t asking about the sexuality, melectric. Just was curious if your gal pal is hot lol =P
Good healthy arguing with an open mind makes for awesome make up sex !!!!! Slamming doors – nawwwwwwww thats kiddy play !!! Just gotta learn the game – male or female – just learn the game and play it well .
Haha okay then. She is in Kwahbeck though :(. That spelling/pronunciation pisses off the frenchies 😉
Fuck , lesbians are HOT !!!! Too bad haha.
There’s a divorce fair tomorrow and saturday at the Westin I think. Only $6 to get in, apparently.
I’m going to the Westin tomorrow to hook up with disgruntled MILFs who need some energy/stress to get rid of…
you know something guys, and chickies, it’s not the fighting, it’s the making up sex that is fantastic. each tries so hard to be the sorrier, and sometimers it works. other times, it just makes more tension. the golden rule here people on the recieving end, i’m always wrong, you are always right. take your licks and move on to something more worthwhile, than a fucking arguement. but hey, i’m still available if that don’t work out ladies, sigh.
Fuck I’m jealous now Fat !!! How did you get that gig ?
KHM: I’m a very calm person and address any issue in my life straight on with communication. My gf, like many women I know, is an otherwise sweet as pie girl… however, unfortunately under-confidant and has cases of anxiety anytime she feels targeted in any way. Anytime I start a sentence with any kind of “I think you could work on…” type talk she immediately feels as if she’s being personally attacked and any attempt at talking further condemns me as a mean spirited asshole. As nurturing as I am at heart, this is still a bitch, and I stand by my prior statement. 🙂
You know the sad part–just when you get it all figured out, your woman goes through menopause and turns into a man (in some ways), while at the same time, your testosterone levels dive, and you turn into a emotional woman (in some ways). Either you will understand each other a little better by then, or she’ll get paid back everything she doling out now = D
Diddy: “Anytime I start a sentence with any kind of “I think you could work on…” type talk she immediately feels as if she’s being personally attacked”
Inability to take criticism is hardly a female trait. Regardless, I always found it best to suggest stuff in such way that they think it is their idea. Getting them to follow through is whole other thing! = )
“I always found it best to suggest stuff in such way that they think it is their idea.”
That’s just manipulative. The ladies really excel in this area of expertise.
facilitator, mediator, negotiator, sanity saver–all much better terms than manipulator = p
Stop trying to make me think its not what it is.
This marriage should have ended 10 minutes ago.
People always label other people manipulators when they feel pressure to do something that they don’t want to do. But, the fact is, EVERYONE manipulates. It is the means used or the intent of the user which calls into question the ethics of the individual.
I disagree feeling pressure to do something is very different then being tricked into something.
The childishness demonstrated by the poster and her unit is what will eventually do this marriage in – I’d bet a tenspot on it. Seen this shit too many times and its subsequent ending.
I agree. But, both are forms of manipulation–it’s just that we have come to think of it in only one way (especially when applied to women). But, you can manipulate a plant to grow in a certain direction, just as you can manipulated a child to follow a responsible path. If a woman uses it in this way, she is called clever.
Women, like everyone else, can use it both ways:
“a: to manage or utilize skillfully or
b: to control or play upon by artful, unfair, or insidious means especially to one’s own advantage”
You are talking about the second use, I understand, but I find that when it comes to men, even the use of the first definition becomes negative, if it is a woman managing or utilizing.
“I always found it best to suggest stuff in such way that they think it is their idea.”
This is trickery. And is definition B.
I have to signoff HKM. Have a nice weekend.
Some friendly advice:
1) Treat people the way you would like to be treated.
2) Say what you mean (and say it in an appropriate way).
3) Don’t play games.
Have a great weekend, everyone!
You too = )