men are from mars, women are from venus, I’m tired of being treated like scum cause I have a penis. Let me tell all you women out there who think they are god’s little gift to this earth, grow the fuck up! Most guys could give a shit if you wear makeup, or straighten your hair. Most of us are looking for one little thing, being yourself. So hey, here’s a thought; and write this down, stop being bitches!
This article appears in Apr 17-23, 2008.
So if a woman isn’t interested in you, she’s a bitch? Wow, where can I get a guy like THAT!Or maybe it’s you.
qwerty lol. Let’s face it OP asshole you won’t find a decent woman she wouldn’t go near you with a ten foot pole!
Depends where you’re meeting the future mater of your zygots. Sounds like you hang around too many bars. Best way to meet anyone is to stop looking. Desparation reeks.
I agree. I was single most of my life until I met my soulmate 3 years ago. I never went out looking for her and never complained that I wasn’t getting any. I continued to be myself and low and behold met my current wife to be at work. For me, patience paid off in a big way.
You remind me of a friend of mine. He is constantly complaining about single life. (Yet he dumped his last girlfriend because he thought he was getting more attention from other, more attractive girls when he was unavailable. Now he’s single and lonely -go figure!) Why don’t you change your disgusting attitude and maybe then a nice girl will see past your shitty side ..because right now you sound like you deserve to be single.
While some girls do have the sickening princess attitude (no reference to Ginger!), there are enough guys out there who also think they’re god’s gift! Realistically, I dont think there are many women out there who would treat you like scum simply because you have a dick. Unless of course you’re just attracted to the vain, empty- headed princess type of girl that you’re complaining about? I have a neighbour like this, who, because he has a nice face, won’t settle for anything less than a blond Pamela Anderson lookalike. Too bad for him, because as a result of this attitude he hasn’t gotten anything more than a kiss in the three years I’ve known him! It serves him right though, because his personality sucks. He’s constantly moaning about how nobody will give him a chance because he has a shitty job (he prefers video games to hard work) His idea is that girls are too shallow; they expect you to be rich and sucessful! It’s nauseating, because this is the very type of girl he wants. He rejects every girl that isnt wearing a tight miniskirt, stilletto heals, blond extensions and 5 layers of makeup; and the few exceptions to this that do attract his interest, he involuntarily chases off with his boring, incredibly rude, sexist, oafish, 12 year old behavior. I’m always sceptical of anyone who makes the complaint that nice guys always finish last. Maybe it’s a coincidence, but it always seems to be dickheads that say this!
Someone once told me some men want a sex kitten in his youth, a mother during middle age and a nurse when he’s old. Maybe the babes you’ve hit on have clued in to this universal truth.
I think the poster is caught up in a tv-induced stereotype. What people want for the most part (male AND female) is simply to find someone they’re compatible with and attracted to. Many of us meet our spouses when we’re young and struggling financially and mature together into solid, secure couples. The notion of women in general rejecting guys because they’re “too nice” or don’t make enough money is very simplistic, and telling of someone who really doesn’t have all that much real life experience.
OMG, NMH, I know that guy! I’m sure I do. You just described a guy I used to work with to a T. Or maybe there’s more than one of them…Decent guy, I’m going to take a guess that you recently fluffed up your courage and approached a woman, and she rejected you, maybe even rudely. Maybe she acted like she was “god’s gift” and out of your league. Am I warm? I’m going to go even further out on a limb and guess that she wasn’t the girl wearing comfortable jeans and a t-shirt with her hair in a ponytail. If you’re constantly being shot down by women who think -rightly or wrongly- that they’re out of your league, it’s pretty obvious that you’re not approaching the kind of down to earth girls you claim to be looking for. Because those kind of girls don’t look at you like you’re shit on their shoes just for saying hello. If you don’t care if a woman wears makeup and does her hair, go talk to the woman with a ponytail and no makeup. I bet you, like most guys, walk right past a dozen of those women on your way to try your luck with the bombshell.
Someone once told me some men want a sex kitten in his youth, a mother during middle age and a nurse when he’s old. Maybe the babes you’ve hit on have clued in to this universal truth.TTFNI fail to see that ignorant and unsupported statement as “Universally Truthful” you are generalizing and making yourself look as bad as the OP.
…and the exaggeration police have arrived! Look out, word criminals!
And some men are looking for a yummy mommy in a nurse’s outfit with the stamina of a sex kitten….
lmao MilesWhat about a mother nursing a kitten? Maybe in the fetish community.
Hahaha.And a middle aged nurse dressed as a kitten? Furries need love too.
Ha ha!!…Hadn’t thought of either of those poop and qwerty, but great points…Stuff like that keeps Dan Savage in business.
I said ‘some’ men, not all men. Sheesh.
Don’t mind Christopher TTFN, he thinks he knows it all. The rest of us knew what you meant.
Thanks, NMH. I guess I’m at the age where I’ve seen more than a few men who fit into that ‘sexpot-mother-nurse’ category. Thankfully, they are in the minority and any woman with self-esteem would avoid them like the plague.
I’m not a bitch, but I seem to attract assholes, instead of good guys. After all these years, there’s one thing I’ve noticed about the fellas; they want a lady on the street, and a freak in the bed. The virgin/whore complex is a big thing for men, too. That’s what I’ve found in my experiences over the years.
Actually Matt, Vicky/Faith is right; it’s definetly ‘freak in the bed’. She’s quoting the lyrics from some song by Usher they played on the radio here every 15 minutes for about 6 months straight.
Actually NMH, I was quoting Ludacris.
Paranoia can be the first sign of mental illness. Unless you folks can proove that either myself / ginger/vicky are all the same person, knock it off. It can be repetitive also yawwwwwwwwn. You folks just don’t like anyone entering into this forum that is new. That is amusing i’m sure a pyschologist would find it too lol. Vicky what did you do to get these folks’ flames to be put out with fire lol. If you think we are all the same person then proove it. Otherwise shut up.
FUCK OFF GINGER. EVERYONE KNOWS IT’S YOU.
qwerty with that logic i could say that you and matt are the same person. nice try.
Seriously though Ginger, why pretend??? We know it’s you, you know we know it’s you, and we know you know we know it’s you. Why not just come clean, admit you’re sad and lonely and desperately need friends. You might just find people responding to you with a heck of a lot more compassion than you expect. Remember how everyone embraced Holly a while back? Give people a chance to get to know you, rather than trying to trick them and inundate them with phoniness and suck-uppery. It’s worth a try.
Amen Qwerty! Admitting being wrong, being vunerable and looking for personal growth are amazing life-changing traits. Who knows? Maybe someone reading this board somewhere will take a quiet moment to reflect on some of the things said here and grow from it (but then maybe that’s just my insomnia taking at 3am) While this whole thing is stranger than fiction, I can’t help but hope that it will ultimately help a troubled soul somewhere. Whoever you are.
I love the female responses here. As usual, if a guy has a problem, it’s his fault. If a woman has a problem, it’s a guy’s fault.The women in the Maritimes are insecure psychos, that’s why this guy can’t find a decent one.
Actually no, Vicky, the song is by usher and features Ludarcris.
Wow Jam, you’ve done so much to open my eyes since you started posting here this morning! If it wasn’t for you, I never would have realized how black and white and utterly simplistic the world really is!Thank you, on behalf of the human race, for enlightening us with your profound wisdom! PS There might be a Dalai Lama position opening soon, you should TOTALLY apply!!!
aa haa.
Wow Jamilaka, you sound really smart! All women in the Maritimes are fat and insane huh? This coming from the person who said that red-faced, thick-necked, Irish jock beefcakes turn their crank… maybe you need to go down to the Lower Deck and slam back a few more beers. Maybe if you spent less time comforting all the hard-done-by Maritime boys with what’s between your legs and more time making friends, you’d discover that women are more than the sum of their body mass and attitudes about men. You really sound like a fucking idiot!
Well said………..
Hey Lynn – my point was simply that a lot of the guy-girl matches that I see in the little town seem rather unbalanced. Decent looking guy / immense trailer pig girl. And the women are soooooooo insecure and clingy. Maybe the guys are too, but I don’t date them so I don’t know.I’m sure you’ll tell me it’s all my fault that of the women are overweight and clingy, or half decent looking but insecure and bitchy (to return to the original topic). It couldn’t possibly be their own issue. Never is.
PS assuming that i must be “into” the guys just because I said they look better (for guys) than their girlfriends is immature and borders on homophobic. Some of us grow out of that silliness.
Jamilika, you SAID you had a preference for thick neck jock types, that they were attractive… ohh, so now I’m homophobic because I wasn’t PC enough to assume that maybe you like women too? Give me a fucking break! I really don’t give a fuck who you find attractive but your grasping at straws to make me look bad is really pathetic.You came out in another post with your wacko statement that 98% of women in the Maritimes are fat. Here you said they are overweight and clingy, now you’re saying they are not as good looking as the men overall. I happen to come from Halifax and am not remotely fat and am quite happy with the way I look, thanks. Maybe if you stopped spending time in Walmart, you’d see that women in Halifax are more attractive than you are giving them credit for. Oh… does that make me a lesbian Jamilika? Are you being a homophobe now? Paranoid much?You should try harder to not come across as such a jackass!
alright, I didn’t know it was Usher’s song…I was paying too close attention to Luda. My bad.
I don’t know what the fuck I did to deserve all this misdirected flaming. I thought we got past this episode the other day. I’m just a stoner chick surfing the ‘net for something to do when I’m not at work. WTF?
Yes, but… you’re annoying.
Lynn I didn’t say i had a preference for anything. I was simply describing the generic Maritime guy look and saying it’s an OK look. You injected the sexual element by saying something about me comforting them with what’s between my legs. You were very clearly implying something sexual in a sly homophobic kind of way. And don’t throw your lesbian remark at me to try to turn things around – it was YOU who suggested that acknowledging a member of the same sex as being attractive must mean I want to fuck them. I never suggested anything like that about you.To be fair, 98% of Maritime women are not fat. Something just over 60% are, according to the statistics. But clearly, whether you are fat or not you are bitchy, like the women referred to in the original post. You’ve definitely made that much clear. And stupid, if your attempts at debate and logic are any indication. Thanks for playing.
Is Jam a dude or a chick?? I assumed chick, but now I don’t know.
Good question qwerty. Who knows at this point!
qwerty you gotta be kidding right?OK, so the original poster said he found it hard to meet nice girls, since so many out there seem to have bitchy natures.Several women piled in and accused him of thinking he’s god gift, etc. etc. I jumped in and defended him, and said I hate the fact that women insist it must be his fault if the women he meet are bitchy. I hate the fact that it seems women can never ever be at fault for anything. they blame blame blame men.i also said part of the reason it is hard is because so many are overweight – true even if you don’t like it – and clingy. so far, i see absolutely nothing that could confuse you about my gender.i referenced what i see as strange juxtoposition – in halifax i frequently see well built guys with rather large girlfriends – to further my point about there being “slim pickins” out therei guess the fact that i said the well built guys look good made you think i must be a woman – cuz god forbid a man acknowlege other men as looking ok. god, that would just be so gay.gimme a break.
Lynn you must be even stupider than i already thought – one enormously dumb cunt! – if everything i already said to you didn’t make the answer to that question painfully obviousgo play with your crayons or something, both of you
I see nothing in any of your posts that would lead anyone to assume you’re a guy; maybe there was something somewhere that might have enlightened me, but I didn’t see it. I honestly, truly thought you were a chick. hahahahahahahaI don’t know why, but knowing you’re a guy makes me like you even LESS, and I really didn’t like you much to begin with.Oh, and it’s not because I’m fat or unattractive or insecure or psycho or any of the other reasons a woman might have for disliking you. It’s because you’re an asshole.
AAAHHAHAHAHAHA!I just re-read the comment section of his bitch now that I know Jam’s a guy it’s HYSTERICAL!!roflmao infinity
“Knowing you’re a guy makes me like you even LESS”Thank you for just reinforcing absolutely everything I’ve been saying about the woman’s mind.Nw go back to the bridge and chasing billy goats.
Awwwww poor jammy wammy can’t get a guwlfwend… poor wittle jammie hates women because they awen’t attwacted to him…. poor wittle jammie wammie…
I’m married, so someone must have been attracted to me. Possibly still is. Let’s not ask her. LOLANYWAY, while I am still stupefied as to how you two thought I was a chick, this thread is funny as hell now that I know you thought i was.You must have thought I was a TOTAL TRAITOR to the gender. LOLOLNow at least you can comfort yourself by saying I am sexist. LOL
You just seemed to be into guys… not that there’s anything wrong with that…
Nope the only “red-faced, thick-necked, Irish jock beefcakes” I’m into are the ones playing hockey on my TV. MMMMMmmmmmmm sweaty mullets HOT
and being annoying sometimes is my god given right, qwerty. some folks might describe you the same way. hmmmmmmm.
Uhhh… I’m not trying to take away your rights. You asked why you were being flamed.
for no good reason, apparently.
Maybe because you talk about pot in every single post. It’s annoying.
So what? I’m free to speak about anything I like, just like you.
Jamilika, I thought your name sounded “feminine”…ok, now you can attack me for having sexist/eurocentric beliefs relating to gender, names and socialization. You are one paranoid asshole! I thought you sounded like some caddy, snotty bitch that thought she was way hotter, less clingy, less fat, and more intelligent than “98%” of the girls in Halifax- you did sound like a traitor to your gender. Now you sound like a caddy, superficial, uneducated, middle-aged asshole. I hope for your wife that she doesn’t gain any weight or maybe you’ll think she’s just a fat pig like the majority of women in Halifax. I hope you don’t have any daughters that’ll learn to feel pretty insecure about themselves at the rate you’re going. Oh, and you better look pretty fucking good for a married old fart to start running your mouth off about the women in Halifax because you want to know what I see more than anything in Halifax is fat, balding, Marks Work Wearhouse wearing, loser men who think they’re entitled to something they’re not. How’s that for a taste of your own medicine?Hmm, come to think of it, you probably got your wife from a mail-order-bride catelogue with that attitude- Poor woman!There’s nothing wrong with people appreciating the attractiveness of the same “sex”. I never said that, nor do I believe it. Maybe its time to get yourself a prescription of antipsychotics, you paranoid fart!Now back to my crayon playing…
Vicky, I’M NOT TRYING TO TAKE AWAY YOUR FREEDOM. You’re free to talk about what you want, and I’m free to say it’s annoying. Welcome to the internet, people! If you can’t take it, GO TO A DIFFERENT WEBSITE. I think there might be a few to choose from now – this internet thing is really growing!!!
I can see how a nickname ending in “ka” would seem female. I’ll adopt the new tag bestowed on me by qwerty (I mean “Jammie”, not “asshole”).I don’t care if my wife gains weight – we’re both approaching 30 so it’s bound to happen to both of us in a few years. But she’s the type to deal with it herself and not blame the rest of the world for her feelings.I don’t care if someone is fat. I care if they are fat and have a huge chip on their shoulder and constantly lash out at everyone else about it. It won’t help them be liked any better – and surely that is what they really want, even if they would never admit it – and it makes the rest of us annoyed. It’s a very counterproductive coping mechanism that only reinforces their isolation and self-loathing. More psychobabble, I know!
then stop acting like the bitch police…and stop accusing me of being “Ginger/Princess/Ocean” THAT’S VERY ANNOYING. I can take whatever you want to dish out, water off a duck’s back for me. Also, I don’t mention pot in every post here, get your facts straight. Have a nice Sunday, some of us have to go to work.
Hey Jamilaka, where did you meet your wife, just out of curiosity?
We met in Chicago, but she’s Canadian.
What makes you think that the majority of women are incapable of any inward reflection regarding their problems? Why do you assume that they blame the world for their problems and/or have chips on their shoulders? Why do you feel the need to judge so many women and make really nasty blanket statements about their physical appearance or mental well being? What do you think Dr. Phil would say to you now? Let me guess, before you met your wife, you were dumped by a “person” (don’t want to assume and be homophobic here) that you really loved. You never got over being so burned that you now look at “the majority of women” (hopefully wife aside) and regard them as a bunch of intellectually and emotionally inferior idiots. You have internalized your pain and in turn, are imposing it onto a bunch of individuals that by virtue of gender, you have determined you are in a position to judge and thus inferior to you or those close to you. How’s that for Dr. Phil psychobabble?
Lynn Lynn Lynn, that’s good psychobabble.But my remarks overall apply to both men and women. I repeat, I just hate hearing people of both genders externalizing all their problems and lashing out at the world, and never taking control of their own actions to do something about it. This applies to perceptions of other’s judgments about their weight, to perceptions of being judged by snobby “CFAs”, to others’ advice about bad urban planning – we always yell at everyone else instead of acknowledging that we do these things to ourselves.Now on the weight issue, I did pick on women because I hear sooooo sooooo much of women saying their weight (or more accurately, their discomfort with their own weight) is women’s magazines’ fault, the food industry’s fault, the diet industry’s fault, our obsession with thiness’ fault, their husbands’ fault for not sharing the housework, skinny women’s fault, their kids’ fault, their jobs’ fault, and on and on ad nauseam.Maybe men do it too, but I certainly don’t hear it all around me like I do with women.For the record, I do not think women are intellectually inferior. That was not the point of any of this. I just think that a huge subset of women politicize their weight issues too much. And I think men seem to get blamed for bloody everything – men’s problems are men’s fault, and women’s problems are also men’s fault. Of course, the gender wars are as old as history, so maybe we should all just give it up LOL
And none of my comments have been about me insulting other people’s physical appearance. I have simply said, if you’re fat, you’re fat, if you want to change it, do something about it, and don’t blame other people who mistake you for pregnant. trust me, I don’t go around insulting fat people. my whole family is fat except me. I know they have a hard time. i know it’s even harder for the women because they have less muscle mass to start with. i just think resenting thin people is really a really stupid way to deal with it.
Some people go out of their way to insult fat folks, and that’s reality. I’ve been big since I was a pre-teen, and I’ve experienced that many times over the years., from both males and females, and almost always unprovoked. The best back-handed compliment is “But you have such a pretty face…” Are you serious? People are big for many reasons, and some of those reasons have nothing to do with food. Yes, I know, the more you eat, the less exercise you do, the fatter you are. But, do you know that person’s story? People will always focus on the exterior, and that’s life. Folks are brainwashed to do so, in my opinion. Personally, I don’t give a flying fuck about what people think about my size. I stopped caring a long time ago. So what are we to do?
Oh vicky how about this one “if you’d loose weight i’d by you a bikini”
I’m tired of being treated like scum cause I have a penis”i <3 the penis
I’m just gonna comment on the bitch and ignore the other posts. Where you say that most guys don’t give a shit if you wear make-up or straighten your hair…well that’s surely is not how most guys come off to be. Example: girl walks by a table of guys wearing her hair in a pony tail, no make-up and casual clothes…no response. Girl walks by a table of guys wearing a low cut shirt, hair styled and make-up…guarenteed she will get more then just a glance. So, maybe if guys didn’t drool over the skank that just walked by the table, girls wouldn’t feel the need to straighten their hair and wear makeup all the time (and just so you know, I’m not one of those girls. Most days I wear no makeup and I am fine with that).
You might be confusing reality with a teen comedy you saw once.
I’m a nice girl, we exist.