She is the kindest, most gentlest person I know, she loves ALL things and sees that ALL life has value even in the bad people. She’d never hurt a fly but people treat her like shit anyway. She’s funny, smart, beautiful, and she has endured so much and has come so far and people still treat her like shit. A man did a very bad thing to her when she was very young and when she brought it up years later not many believed her and those that did told her she ruined everything. She never forgives and she never forgets and on countless times I’ve had to save her from myself but I’m no saint either, I’ve done bad things but I’m trying to do right by her, to be there by her side 100 percent whenever she needs me. She seems to have the worst luck in the world because if something can go wrong for her it will and because the way she is even a small thing becomes blown out of proportion. So why do you hate her? You know what her problems are and yet whenever she comes to you for advice you talk down at her and make her hate herself even more, she deserves your loves, she is one of the most hardest working women I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing and she doesn’t deserve ANY of the hate you have towards her. She’s never done anything wrong to anyone, she doesn’t start rumors, she doesn’t talk about anyone behind their backs, and she’s never wanted anyone dead and yet people still treat her like shit. Stop treating her like she doesn’t know how to do her job because she does, oh does she ever, probably more than you. I know I don’t deserve her but I’m damn lucky to have such a amazing woman like her and I’m going to make damned sure that if anything happens to her, people will know her story. She deserves your love, not your hate. —All she needs is love.
This article appears in Feb 12-18, 2015.
Nobody can “make you hate (your) self” unless you let them. If, like, 100% of the people in her life are against her, which is what you make it sound like, perhaps she is doing something to cause this? It’s either that or everyone she knows in conspiring against her and that’s unlikely. The only other possibility is that you are grossly exaggerating. Anyway, i hope she finds the peace that she needs and makes any necessary changes that this may involve – most importantly getting rid of the people in her life who are detrimental to her happiness. This may include you.
My Zen Moment for the week – Kanye reads The Scroat?
“Yo, yo, Coast, I’ma gonna let y’all get back to Auto-Da-Feing them Dal Dentists, but first I just wanta say that Utne Reader is the best agit-prop broadsheet tailored to educated middle class white progressives in the North American marketplace”
And who can argue with Yesus?
Have you ever heard of schizophrenia? You must seek out professional help immediately.
Is this about the union lady with the big house?
She should also stop referring to herself in the third person…
Is this another another one of those self-loathing bitches?
If not, if everybody seems to dislike this lady of yours, there may be some aspect of her personality that doesn’t jive well with people. You love her and can’t see the flaw as well as others. You say she loves all things (great) but doesn’t forgive or forget (not so great).
I don’t know this lady but she sounds like a doormat but with a huge passive-aggressive tendency. You may need to save this woman from herself more than save her from others. You certainly seem to be in her corner. You’re probably the best candidate for the job.
She sounds like a fucking sucker who falls for every lie she’s told by people who want to hurt her.
OP: If you are not part of the solution you are part of the problem.
OB, show your lady friend the RaisedByNarcissists subreddit. For her to be so constantly maltreated, her abusers must be her parents or people she thinks she can’t live without their presence in her life. Once she gets there and reads a few posts, she’ll recognize what’s going on and take the steps to heal.
Bullshit.
OP:CYA