Earlier I was talking to an ex. He says within thirty seconds, “Let’s go have sex” and I said “What the hell is the matter with you?” I have hardly talked to him for weeks, and out of the blue he says this. But then he said something which applies to most if not all men. He said “I need sex. That’s why I have sex” I know this is pretty obvious, but it somehow made me less offended. At least he was honest about it and up front about his intentions instead of pretending that is not the only thing he wanted. Most guys say they are interested in something else about you, but they are full of shit. They don’t care if you are smart, or funny, or have the most gorgeous eyes in the world, they are looking to fulfill a basic need, it is like eating. So to all men who will hit on me in the future, just be honest. I still won’t sleep with you but at least you don’t have to waste your time pretending to be a decent person.
This article appears in Oct 16-22, 2008.
So, did you fuck him or not?But yeah, you’re right, honesty is the best policy but unfortunately it can ruin your chances and scare away the ones(girls) who are probably down with fucking for the sake of fucking but don’t want to appear that way. Know what I mean? And don’t kid yourself, the ladies “need sex” as much as the guys, maybe you’re not there but you sound like an exception.
Your right cranky, ladies do “need sex” but they also need something else. The women who have meaningless sex either have low self confidence, are trying to make someone jealous, or don’t know that is intended to be meaningless. What the good girl is saying is that both partners should be on the same page. Men say women are irrational and emotional but it is because men lie, manipulate and use us.
lol, “good girl”, eh? You ain’t a good girl. You’re just bitter at the world because you have nothing else to offer, other than the pussy you possess. Grow a personality, then maybe, you might attract better men. You loser. You’re a failure in life. You go into relationships with ulterior motives, and think “oh this guy just wants to fuck me”. Youre just a jealous bitch who cant attract good people. Sorry to hear that. I apologize for being harsh, but I cant stand people who think like you. I’m glad I don’t keep girls like you in my social circle.
“you’re a failure at life?” that is pretty damn harsh.granted the “what the hell is the matter with you” response was also harsh. ladies need sex just as much as the gentlemen do. i know that i’ve fucked an ex because all i wanted was sex…exs are great for those of us who maybe don’t want to be a bar star but don’t want anything else, exs know you because you’ve got a history…but that doesn’t mean you have to have a future. guys should be honest (which he was)…but the girls should be too, if he’s hitting on you and you don’t want him to look at him and simply say something like “dude…it’s not gonna happen”. which by the sounds of it you did. guys if you’re in the same situation, say the same thing. don’t be mean (guy or girl), just be honest.and i’m wondering the same as cranky: did you fuck him? lol.
so question to the OP…why the break up…he fuck around on you because of all the sex he needed? and whats this about only men possessing the basic need to have sex. ive been with many women who possessed the same need and they werent delusional whores who lacked self confidence…they were just honest with themselves by accepting the fact that liked to have sex. so if youre looking for honesty TGG…look within first.
I can see why he’s an ex. Ok, all biological needs/urges aside, that was really way out-of-line. “Well, I’ll just blame my rudeness on me needing to shoot my squirt.” Men DO have these things called hands. If they need to shoot that badly, they can always use them.I’m sorry, not all men are like this pig (and I’m female). Some of them don’t see women as freakin semen receptacles.Your ex is a major creep.
“So to all men who will hit on me in the future, just be honest. I still won’t sleep with you…”looks like we have to stick to listening, conversing, and pretending to care in order to get laid.
wow that is a little bitter, huh? i’m not going to go as far as the person who called the OP a failure at life (wow there’s a bitter little monkey throwing their emotional baggage poop everywhere) but if you go into ever interaction thinking that, then it’s going to happen. Self fulfilling prophesy and all. I know guys who are just as frustrated with this- the assumption that all they’re after is something nice to look at and a warm hole to shove themselves into. But they’re as quickly turned off by attitudes like yours, op, as you are by the dogs of the world.
I don’t so much understand the point of this bitch. I mean I get it…but…don’t really care, I guess. Sex is sex. Boys don’t “need” it, they like to have it. Women do too. That said, yes, it’s annoying when an ex randomly announces they’d like to have sex with you and yes, it is nice that he was honest about it. Anyhow I just wanted to respond to another response here, specifically the quote below:”The women who have meaningless sex either have low self confidence, are trying to make someone jealous, or don’t know that is intended to be meaningless.”–Untrue. Women do not always need to have meaningful sex. Sometimes ladies just like to get down and nasty. It definitely does not mean that lady has low self confidence, is trying to make someone jealous or is naive enough to think the man she’s chosen to play this game with will love her because she’s done it. It sometimes just means that she had an itch she wanted someone else to scratch.It is attitudes like yours, moe_ira, that lend itself to the archaic belief that men can sleep around (boys will be boys, after all!) and we should expect that of them, so it’s ok, but if a woman dares sleep with someone she’s not trying to be in a relationship with, she’s either kidding herself (because, golly gee, he’s not going to buy the whole cow if he can get the milk free!), has zero confidence or is just plain stupid (if he has sex with me we’re going to be so happy together forever!). All that said- no I am not a whore, yes I am aware some people have sex for the wrong reasons, blah blah blah.
Holy cow. Write a novel much? Sorry about that, it’s just a long standing point of irritation. Now I’m off to find a man in the streets and do him. After that I’ll be visiting the shrink to discuss my lack of self esteem and *then* I’m headed to the wedding planners. I mean hey, he’ll have slept with me, that means marriage, right? RIGHT?!
I like how she said “At least he’s honest about it” but then says the honesty isn’t going to get him anywheres.Not to say its right, but that’s why guys lie.