There seems to be a lot of smart people out there who could go far if they weren’t so damn lazy! However it seems like it’s the opposite for you and you don’t realize it.
Do you honestly think you’re gonna be a head honcho making 6 figures by the time you’re 45-50? You’re already 32 and you’re still making minimum wage. You’re a hard worker, I’ll give you that. But usually hard work leads to success and after receiving a business degree (with medicore grades, mind you) FIVE years ago, you still are struggling! You say it’s because you have no connections that your career hasn’t taken off yet. For fuck’s sake, I’m so sick of hearing that excuse! I got my job with no connections and am doing well for myself because I had the ambition and… the brain!
You worked a temporary office position for a 10-week term a few months back and went on and on about how great you performed. Just last week I ran into one of your former co-workers. Turns out that although you really tried, you weren’t very productive and made a lot of mistakes, more so than other temps they had there! Now (out of luck, I think), you’ve got another temp job lined up with a much larger company for 4 months. This is it, you say, I’m gonna finally start moving my career ahead, I’ll have connections this time! Uh, do you really think connections are going to help your particular case? You made no connections with your previous employer because you did a poor job!
I know I sound like a bitch, but I actually feel sorry for you. There’s been patterns with you all your life. You have no disabilities, no substance abuse, you’re not (technically) mentally handicapped, and you do bust your ass. Unfortunately, I just don’t think you’re intelligent enough to really get as far as you’d like. Some people just don’t have the cognitive ability to be as successful as they’d like. I’m worried that you’ll be let go halfway into your 4-month term since this will be the most challenging position you’d ever be doing. If I’m right, I just hope you realize this and stick with just aiming to be, I dunno, a full-time office assistant by the time you’re middle-aged, rather than in upper management. —Your Cousin Telling It As It Is
This article appears in Apr 26 – May 2, 2012.
OK, so hard working stupid people don’t make good bosses. Get him the right job with a boss who knows how to use his strengths and trains him up right, he’ll make a great employee. Every corporation needs a few hard-working stupid people working for them.
And this is your business why?
I hate these bitches, let the guy live his life. Who are you to shit all over his dreams? Would you prefer if he had no ambitions and dreamed of being a minimum wage worker in his 50s? You gotta aim high and think big in life, there are people with no high school or GED who are multi millionaires, and people with PHDs who are walking the street right now looking for work. Sure he isn’t likely to reach his goals according to what you’ve written here, but does that mean he shouldn’t try to be the most successful person he can be? This is a really petty thing to bitch about imo and you don’t even have the guts to say this shit to his face. Hard work trumps intelligence any day, ever heard of Donald Trump?
People with aspirations are hard to come by in this city, at least he has that.
“I don’t know much, but at least I know that”
You should remember this, op. Dick.
I hate people who think they have enough self awareness to judge their own level of intelligence. I bet you think you are real purty too. Take a step back, man.
We used to have a word for people with this condition. It was short, pithy, but got right to the point. Can’t quite remember it…oh yeah. It was “stupid.”
if you are a female, you don’t need any smarts at all, just a cunt and a mouth, need i say ore. and if you are a guy, well there are sugar daddies for you too.
This is a bitch? You’re shitting on a guy who tries to remain optimistic and busts his ass at whatever he does? You don’t think he has the intellect but he has a very good attitude and work ethic? Leave him alone! You want him to give up and go hang himself. Some friggin cousin you are. Do him a favour and keep your opinions to yourself.
Jesus, OP – why the hell is it your business anyway?
You bust your cousin’s ass because you don’t think they’re “intelligent” enough, but clearly you’ve got it all figured out. That’s why you’re posting this shit on LTWWB rather than having a frank conversation with them.
If you were a decent human being who cared about your cousin, you’d approach them in a more compassionate, yet direct, way. This leads me to the conclusion that not only are you not just “sounding like” a (lazy and/or cowardly) bitch, but are in fact a (lazy and/or cowardly) bitch…and one who is likely not as smart as she thinks she is.
And your cousin’s former co-worker is obviously right because I mean, it’s not like there’s ever more than one side to a story.
At least your cousin tries.
The only thing you probably try at is being an asshole.
Leave the poor bugger alone. Hardworking is always a great quality. Always. I’d rather a hardworking dumb employee than a smart employee who’s an asshole and/or lazy.
And yes, I have employees and I do hiring and I’d have no issue letting an employee go who’s incredibly smart, but lazy as fuck. Hard work aways wins in my books.
So go suck a lemon, OB.
I’d be willing to bet that your cousin is not a coward and possesses the intestinal fortitude to have this kind of conversation with you face to face, if the roles were reversed. Unlike you who chooses to air family laundry on a public online forum, you cop out.
In fact, he probably wouldn’t have felt it necessary to have this kind of conversation with you at ALL because, hey! It’s none of his business.
“For fuck’s sake, I’m so sick of hearing that excuse!” Ummm, does he somehow have to explain himself or answer to you for any reason? He’s 32 y/o so you CAN’T be his legal guardian?! So WTF business is it of yours? Unless he is somehow sponging off of you or affecting you or your family’s lives in some negative and preventable way, then you really have no right to criticize this man the way you did in your bitch.
How DARE you quash his ambitions! You said yourself that he’s not lazy and busts his ass. But by your suggestion, because he hasn’t reached his goals yet or met some arbitrary career achievment standard that you’ve concocted and put so much importance on, that he should instead just give up and aim for being an office assistant or some other, middle of the road position. I wonder how different this world would be today if everyone took your advice and just gave up on achieving something after only 1 or 2 tries. You’re a real piece of work, OB.
Since you seem to have it all figured out, if you truly cared about your cousin you’d be offering encouragement and support, maybe TACTFULLY pointing out some of his mistakes in the past that he may not be aware of and suggest some solutions or offer some friendly advice or pass on some lessons learned from your personal experiences to help him achieve his goals. Maybe the only thing he needs to nudge him there is the knowledge that his family fully backs and supports him.
And maybe he IS intellectually challenged or has a learning disability or whatever and no amount of adivce is going to change anything; at least you could honestly say that you tried to help and accept him for who he is because he’s family, instead of insulting and feeling sorry for him. With family like you, who needs enemies?
The whole world is full of hard trying, dumb fuckers, look no further than city hall.
WHAT IS INTELLIGENCE?
“Unfortunately, I just don’t think you’re intelligent enough to get as far as you’d like. Some people just don’t have the cognitive ability to be as successful as they’d like.” Your Cousin.
Presupposed but nowhere exlained in this bitch is the nature of intelligence itself. This is not a minor omission. Without some notion of (1) the nature of inteligence and (2) how the cousin failed to satisfy its minimal criteria, all that remains is the bitcher’s empty posturing. But this is not all. Failure to provide substance to the concept of intelligence points to a lack of intelligence, a failure of cognitive ability, in the bitcher himself. In other words, in a fundamental sense “Your Cousin” really doesn’t know what he is talking about.
Clearly, he equates intelligence with “success” in the business world but is this equation legitimate? “Your Cousin” never demonstrates the equation, only presupposes it. But the equation is false. “Your Cousin” is talking about rat-like intelligence, being “clever,” having “smarts.” But this is not intelligence. Intelligence involves the capacity to understand, to reflect and have insight into the nature of human condition. It addresses questions of meaning and purpose, not banal superficial pragmatic business tactics. Indeed, there is a real sense sense in which the business world itself PRECLUDES the very operation of intelligence since, in its rat-like manner, it is concerned only with profit, power, and prestige. These alone have meaning for the “intelligent” businessman. That is who he is
Sadly, however, this bitch reflects a common current misconception about intelligence. The equation of intelligence and so-called “success” is evidenced by other comments on this thread. But, as with the bitcher, they too are wrong. Intelligence, rather, is demonstrated in the asking of prior quations like, um, what is intelligence?
A pleasure as always.
Cheerio!
Only someone with their own self esteem issues would post something like this, I reckon. And yes, you do sound like a bitch. Is this your idea of help? If you can’t say anything nice….
summit snubiz? same bat time same bat channel
Oh! I’ve been so busy, I feel out of the loop! I’ve got a week-end of hard labour planned but I’ll try! That last one was fab!
you, sir are an asshole.
Victor’s got the idea…
get this guy to run for Mayor!
The structure and wording of your rant, Cousin, implies that you yourself are likely not in the upper echelon of human intelligence.. so mind what you say. Chances are there are a number of brainiacs just itching to put you in your place.