Why is it that every fucking retarded single parent who has like three fucking screaming kids thinks that it is a great idea to take them all at once to either the mall or the grocery store on saturday morning? It’s not. I don’t blame the kids, it’s just when I am standing line to pay out a lot of money for shit that I need I don’t want to hear screaming and crying for ten minutes before I even get to the register. Also an unrelated bitch: Just because you are over forty doesen’t mean a guaranteed seat at the front of the bus. You are old, not handicapped. Calm the fuck down, and take a fucking seat somewhere else so I that I can read Savage Love and watch the bus driver do a piss poor job.
—Nai Blanc
This article appears in Mar 19-25, 2009.
I wish my mom hadn’t brought me to the store when I was a tot. I kept sensory overloading and clearing the shelves.
i think you may have answered you own question with stating “fucking retarded single parent.” should she, as a single mom get a babysitter for two hours while she buys the milk?
screaming kids is annoying as hell for sure…but so is paying money out unecessarily.
When else is the mother supposed to go shopping, maybe you should ask the store not to let small children in while you are shopping on saturday mornings, hopefully they tell you to fuck off some place.
So you think over forty is old are you retarded? Then again I have read comments where you younger people think anyone over thirty is old.
Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many- Anon.
Have you been watching the news lately? Some people don’t live to be over forty. I think you are just so damm stupid and shallow wake up idiot.
40 is the new 30, I’m baffled that you consider 40 year olds practically geezers. May early arthritis hit your karma infested joints.
HAHA
If your language in person is a well seasoned with four letter words as it is here on line I would prefer the children. But with repsect to the children, I feel sorry for them not you. They probably have no desire to be there what so ever.
You are right. How dare I think that parents should show common courtesy to other people by not bringing their children who are obviously not equipped with the maturity to behave in public? Or how about the idea that parents should in some way be held accountable for their selfishness, and are not exempt from criticism based upon the fact they have children and a life that is so fucking hard? I have kids, two to be exact and when I have to run out to get milk with my children, guess what? I don’t wait until the absolute busiest time to do it. So go fuck yourself. Secondly, I was talking about single parents, not single mothers. Single fathers are not exempt from this standard, and as I am one I have every right to make that point. Lastly, being over forty may not be old, but it’s not young, so stop expecting younger people to move for you jackasses.
P.S.
When on the bus, I move for disabled people, as well as parents with infants.
So let me get this strait OP, children should be mature. Well as you just stated
“I have kids, two to be exact and when I have to run out to get milk with my children, guess what? I don’t wait until the absolute busiest time to do it.”
Well as person who obviously instills maturity and disipline in your children, why would you even worry about having to bring your children out at the “absolute busiest time”?
Gustav, if you actually read the post you would see that I made it clear that children should not have maturity demanded of them, but parents on the other hand should.
nai blanc- It might be what you meant but is definately not how it reads.
“How dare I think that parents should show common courtesy to other people by not bringing their children who are obviously not equipped with the maturity to behave in public?”
maybe if the single parent were to wake the kid(s) up at 2 am to grab some groceries. would that be a less busy time? im sure most run errands when its most convienient for themselves. not for others
Not all kids are screaming twats when taken out in public.
I never screamed and cried when I was taken out in public and my mother carted me around everywhere (even in a stroller on the bus! and that was in the early 80s when bus drivers went postal over that shit). I never made a scene because I didn’t have any inclination TO make a scene, but I also knew I would be disciplined if I did so. Maybe if parents stopped trying to be their kids’ BFFs…we wouldn’t have an exponential growth in screaming kids in public places.
On another note: I was at HSC on sunday and this larger woman was carting around her larger child in a stroller. The kid HAD to be pushing 5. I mean obesity already runs in the kid’s family….and her mother carting her around in a stroller when she’s already quite chubby isn’t going to help. My mother took my stroller away when I was 3 and made me fucking walk. GG parents.
I am a mother of 4 children (now teens) I take them and have always taken my kids everywhere I go if they want to go, even when they were little tots, I took them with me, and yes this includes to the grocery store, I have been a single parent for most of my kids lives and in the earlier years I couldn’t always afford a sitter to run out and grab milk or whatever it was I needed at the time.
I am in a much different position today and even so I would still take my kids regardless of who it iritated, my belief is that you need to spend time with your children regardless of how trivial it is. Even going to the grocery store if you are with your kids, you are teaching them the morals of being a family and spending quality time together. As I said earlier My kids are now all teens and they don’t insist on going out with friends hanging around malls getting into trouble or any such thing, however, I know of parents who always had a sitter for their kid and now their kids are the ones that are getting into trouble..
If parents want to take their screaming kids to the store it’s their right to do so!!!!
I must say errant parents at the mall (though not single parents etc) are sad. Just this weekend my wife and I saw one kid full on punch another right in the mouth…I stopped on the spot and asked if he was alright, he was crying and upset but said it was his brother and that their Mom was in Winners (for losers…apparently). Waited for the Mom to come out so she knew what was happening (it was a pretty serious punch, snapped the kids head back into the bench…) her daughter…maybe 11 tops swearing and behaving about as uncouth as one can be and the mother didn’t even bat an eyelash.
I had to just say “You are just so sad” and walk off.
It’s those exact same parental types that say “I don’t know where I went wrong!!”…at the seriously dysfunctional young adults murderprostitutionassault (yadda insert sad demise here) court appearances.
People should simply have to take a course in parenting and Cause and Effect and be given a license to procreate.
Fucking grade six dropouts should not be allowed to raise children, sure they can pop em out like gang busters…but they should have to prove that they have the ability to keep and develop them.
Some people don’t even know the difference between children and ferrets…sad.
Why is it that every god damn single parent is out on a Saturday with their screaming children???…. hrmmm well, anyone with half a brain would realize that this is the only time we have to get our fucking groceries. This is the life of a WORKING single parent – through the week…you are busy from the time you get up (around 5am) until you go to sleep. So on the weekends, when most people (ie. YOU) who have tons of time to do your shopping during your many evenings during the week decide you want to shop on a Saturday – you will listen to my fucking kids as I get my groceries with the small amount of cash I have. Not all of us – especially single mothers have cash to throw out to babysitters on weekends. If you don’t like it, then don’t shop on the weekends. And stop fucking assuming everyone with screaming kids is a single parent – chances are they are not. I’m sick and tired of people like yourself assuming that because you are a single parent you can’t control your kids, or you are stupid or on welfare.
It’s gotta be short for …naive.
Actually, I am not stupid nor am I on welfare. I love the fact that most of the responses to an honest observation can be boiled down to the fact most parents (my self excluded) believe they have the right to be inconsiderate pricks in public places where they have no control over the kids they can not afford to raise, and that the rest of should just put up with it. Let me make my point crystal fucking clear so as to appeal to the lowest common denominators who have responded with such anger: You have the right to be a jackass in public; however you should be ridiculed accordingly because you are a fucking asshole who lives in a bubble. You get up at five am, and then you go to work, and then you pick up your kids, make dinner, blah blah blah, boo hoo hoo. So do I. You want to know something? I still have the time to provide for my children, not subject them to overwhelming crowds and not piss off everyone in the whole store. But since you work for a living, and obviously you are not on welfare perhaps you could take some of that baby bonus you get and use it for a sitter every once in awhile instead of burdening us with your bullshit. Speaking of which, the self-entitlement in your comment is unbelievable, Bgirl. I will listen to your kids because you don’t have very much money? You really must be a great parent…or perhaps just a retarded single parent…who thinks it’s a great idea to take all of her kids to the mall or grocery store on Saturday morning.
Okay, for your first bitch, please shut up! Many single mothers are poor and can’t afford a babysitter. What? Should they just stay at home all day to avoid inconveniencing your f’ing a$$?
For your second one, do you ever notice that little sign on the window above those front seats? It’s there because those seats are reserved for people who are mobility-challenged. So, get up and let them sit down in your place, or you should have you a$$ tossed off the bus!
Uummm, you are HARDLY one to talk about ‘self-entitlement’, Nai Blanc!
So let us see..when is the LEAST offensive time to take the child with us while we get things done?? Hmmm!
We’d better not fly home with the baby to visit my family 5000km away- the baby is not emotionally mature enough to be flying on a plane, and even though it’s never happened before, if he should suddenly become tired of being in the same postiion for 7 hours, or if his ears should hurt, he might cry, and so someobody might get offended! It just wouldn’t be courteous to the other passengers, so let’s avoid the risk and just stay home! And when I find I have the rare free time to do some shoppping, well I’d beter forget about it if it’s a Friday or Saturday, because if the baby should get hungry at an unusual hour and I happen to be out, he might cry and thus offend somebody!
Really, please do us a favor and fuck off with YOUR ridiculously unrealistic self-entitlement, Nai Blanc. Honestly, it’s pathetic.
Why is it that after I’ve typed a reply here and then go to the ‘edit comment’ option so I can fix any spelling errors, etc- it doesn’t work? I make the changes, hit submit…and then my first draft gets posted! Every single time. It’s very fucking annoying.
the edit option appears to have some long standing bugs.
And one more thing, ‘Nai Balnc’, even the most well-behaved child can have the occassional off-day, which can take even the best parents by surprise and be quite embarassing when it happens in public. Yes, I have the emotional maturity to remove my infant from a public place as soon as possible if he is upset, but let’s be reasonable-I am not going to leave the line up when I am two people away from having my groceries rung through at the till..so you will just have to put up with it!
I’m going to be honest… I really don’t like children… I just don’t. I don’t think my dislike of children makes me a bad person. I work really hard, volunteer, pay my bills on time… so don’t give me a dirty look if I don’t think your kid is adorable or his screaming is just his way of expressing himself. Alot of the comments to this bitch go on and on about how parents need to take their kids out with them and that they can’t afford babysitters. Well to be honest, that isn’t my problem. It was your choice to have the child, so its your obligation to look after it. If you can’t control your kid you shouldn’t inflict other people with its screaming. I don’t like children, so I try and avoid them… I don’t go to kid friendly events or Macdonalds playrooms… so why do you think its your god given right to take your child to adult restaurants, hotels and venues and get offended if someone is bothered by your kids screaming. I understand I can’t avoid children altogether, but if your kid is screaming at least do something about it. I don’t think you kid is cute, and I don’t find its playing hide and go seek under my table at a restaurant adorable… its annoying. If you can’t resonably control your kid please keep it in child friendly situations or leave it home. I get that children get tired, cranky, etc. but have the good sense to try and stop the situation. In small places like trains, planes and buses, people can get just as cranky as your kid so PLEASE try and keep your kid resonably quiet. No I don’t want to say hi back to your kid, and no I will not understand why you feel you need to bring a monster of a stroller on a crowded bus and expect everyone to oooh and ahh over your infant. It was your choice to have a child, just like its my choice not to have one! I don’t mind the odd outburst, I get it happens but at least attempt to do something about it… you might be used to your child’s constant shrieking but I am not and its giving me a headache.
They think it’s their god given right, because most of us don’t tell them anything different. We live in a city, much like every other growing city where the numbers of single mothers specifically are increasing all of the time. These single mothers are the ones who are outraged by the comments I have made. It’s a political issue as well. Single mothers despite what they would have you believe, are one of the best taken care of sections of our society given the massive amounts of money paid out by our government, and are apparently exempt from any sort of criticism whether it be about their behaviour or their child’s behaviour. I think that to not hold parents accountable for their actions also raises a much bigger question which is: What happens to the children when they are raised in an environment, where the parents do not have any consideration for their fellow men or women? The answer is selfish adults, who lack maturity. We see this time and time again play out before our eyes, and the issue of effective parenting is a small but an important role in either perpetuating or curbing this behaviour. But it was a valid point you made star0girl, those of us who do not have children such as you, and those of us who effectively parent our children like myself should not have to endure this nonsense from strangers, within reason and it’s not our problem. It may take a village, but I don’t give a fuck.
Guess what nai blanc, my baby bonus goes to what it was intended…which is food, diapers and formula for my baby. I’m not sure where you get the information that single mothers are the most “well taken care of members of society” and I can assure you that we don’t get massive amounts of money paid out to us by the govenment (Unless you are on welfare – which I believe is the LAST resort).
Working single mothers and fathers, are treated just like every other parent. The only reprieve being when tax time rolls around and believe me that money doesn’t last long. Even with making a resonable salary I have only enough to cover my rent, food and important things. I can’t even afford a car. Yes, it is true, I choose to be a parent, because I don’t believe in abortion and I felt that I should own up to my responsibility and the mistake I had made. Does that make me a bad person?
Personally I would rather take my child out into the crowds of people so he can see what mommy does – rather than leave him cooped up inside with a babysitter anyways.
If anyone is being self-entitled it is you…oh glorious YOU who must have complete silence while you check out your precious groceries and who cannot possibly endure this nonsense from complete strangers. My point in the original post was, although clearly you didn’t GET it…the fact that you are singleing out single parents. Which is unfair. I get tired of the bad reputation we get and your comments are insensitive and off the mark. Negative consideration towards a group of society has a name. It’s discrimination.
I have to agree with parts of what Bgirl is saying and parts of what Nai Blanc is also saying. I do feel that parents need to parent, single parent or coupled… I don’t think parents should allow their kids to run around misbehaving and not try and calm them down. Singling out single mothers though is something I don’t agree with. I have several friends who are single moms and I think many of them are fantastic parents.
There is a time and place for letting your kids scream and yell though, in certain situations its not appropriate. As parents I think its important to at least try and keep your child calm because not everyone in the world enjoys children and its annoying. I wouldn’t go running through a mall screaming and terrorizing other shoppers, if I did, then someone should rightly tell me to calm down or get out. Because kids have trouble controlling themselves it then becomes the parents obligation to assume the responsability. Bgirl, you say that you want to live up to your responsability for your mistake, which I think is fantasic, but part of that responsibility is making sure your child can behave itself in public.
A screaming child in a nice restaurant, or in a salon can really ruin somone’s experience which they are also paying for. I think its irresponsible of the parents to put others in situations like that when there are CHILD friendly venues with similar services. I don’t have a problem with single parents but rather with parents who refuse to be accountable or at least apologetic for their child’s antics. Its not a problem with single parents but many parents as a whole.
Having a child does not give you the right to be insensitive to those around you. In certain situations I think kids should be left home if they cannot behave. If you cannot keep your kid respectable for the public than that is your problem not mine and I shouldn’t have to listen to it scream. I hate that people think they can let their kids behave however they please in public and then get offended when someone is bothered. Everyone curbs bad behaviour in public, I try to keep cursing to a minimum because it can be offensive. I don’t walk around naked, or throw a tantrum because its not appropriate so why does your kid get a free pass to behave that way?
I understand that no kid is perfect and sometimes they scream… but you can’t absolve yourself from any responsibility! You need to parent your child, whether a single mother or not. I understand times are tough but if you can’t control your child then you should hire a babysitter!