For FUCK’s sake! Why do people not respond to messages?! Even if you don’t like the person, a simple ‘Fuck off now’ would suffice, and it would make life easier for everyone involved.
I send someone a message; no response. I text that person; no response. I call that person; they don’t answer. I see that individual face to face… everything’s peachy, and they’re full of sorry excuses as to why they couldn’t respond. The real kicker? You don’t respond to them and they’ll make you regret it.
Don’t even get me started on the dating sites. 100+ unanswered e-mails (no joke). Not even a simple, “sorry, no thanks”. People have a serious case of arrogance and self entitlement, where they feel that they don’t need to respond to the poor average Joe because they’re far better. A Queen wouldn’t respond to my e-mails, why should these people? It makes sense, I’m just a human being, and they’re the center focal point of the universe.
The only language that Humans don’t understand is silence. —Get Off Your High Horse, Respect Others!
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I really think that is a result of all the instant texting and messaging that’s out there. At one time people would actually phone you and there wouldn’t be the option of Caller ID to decide whether or not to answer the phone. Now with instant messaging it is the same story. People now have the option to see who is calling and find out what they want. In some cases it is great; you get to dodge the yakkers who sit on the phone all day going over and over the same bullshit but with a different listening ear each time. Either that or if you are experiencing that much rejection on a daily basis maybe you should examine yourself. What do you talk about when you do connect? If you are boring or negative, people will shun you like the itch. Most people don’t have the time anymore to connect on a personal level unless they Want To. It’s a fast paced world now, multi tasking is normal. Time is limited. Maybe you’re not their priority. Sorry but maybe….
‘Fuck off now’
You self identify as a ‘poor average Joe’; that’s probably working against you on a few levels. Maybe you should work on that.
There’s nothing wrong with being humble.Not everyone is ‘blessed’ or ‘cursed’ with a big head.
Imagine! a regular joe or mary expect respect from people.
You want respect, you don’t go fishing for dates on a rat-infested dating site. Capiche?
Your neediness is cloying, OP, no wonder your buddies are ducking you. Who the fuck needs all that drama?
As for expecting replies from dating sites, you’re wearing a catcher’s mitt for the whiff of a cyber fart.
Back when I used POF I decided one day to make a profile as a female. I went on google and typed in a random girl name under images and found the most average chick I could. Not bad looking but not particularly stunning either. My profile was pretty generic: “I love my family and friends, listen to all types of music, looking for someone with similar interests.” etc…
Within four hours of having set up my account I got over 60 messages from different dudes. There was no way I was gonna read them all. I only made the account to see what kind of dudes were using the site.
So OB, if you don’t get a reply from everyone you message on a dating site, don’t take it too personally, they’re getting a ton of messages from lots of horny dudes, you’ll just have to take a number. haha Or delete your account cause it’s mostly just damaged goods. You wouldn’t buy a broken chair from ebay, would you? Would you?
Holy fuck, it sounds like an on-line cum dumpster.
Many people don’t like to come right out and reject someone, so they take the silence route. It’s hard to say “not interested” without hurting the other person’s feelings to some degree, no matter how tactfully it is worded. No response is an unspoken “not interested”. Also, there are people who become very defensive and bitter if they don’t like the response they get. Try not to take it personal.
Do not take these things to heart OP. Maintain your sanity.
Take it like a man, junior. Nobody owes you a damn thing in this world, not even the time of day.
Sounds like a boring one person drama or is that comedy.
Lou ouch, you don’t like internet dating.That’s fine.Your entitled to your opinion.
How about respect,do you like being disrespected? How about being treated with common courtesy or being treated rudely? Just wondering
I respect myself, Boru. The rest is water off a duck’s back.
This behavior annoys the Captain on a daily basis.
I think it IS a lack of respect, no fault of the OB, and maybe a little too much self esteem from the people ignoring them. People in my generation were taught to have a high self esteem, pride in oneself, but I think that may be deluding our sense of reality.
It’s one thing to believe that you’re great (the Captain is guilty of this), but if you think you’re far better than you actually are then you’re going to have problems. They’ve noticed this trend in the US in some schools/university’s. The students are more confident than ever, but are performing poorly. There’s a growing gap between what people think they’re capable of and what they are actually accomplishing. There’s something to be said about modesty.
Beauty falls into the same trap, I think. Bitches thinkin’ they be all hawt stuff, which lets them disrespect men and get away with whatever they want, when they’re actually just your average girl dressed up to hide her below average IQ. Which would make her, not only a bitch, but a dumb ugly bitch.
“What a strange illusion it is to suppose that beauty is goodness! A beautiful woman utters absurdities: we listen, and we hear not the absurdities but wise thoughts” – Leo Tolstoy
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I’d rather take a trip to Venus Envy than go to a internet dating site – just sayin’.
“Beauty falls into the same trap, I think. Bitches thinkin’ they be all hawt stuff, which lets them disrespect men and get away with whatever they want, when they’re actually just your average girl dressed up to hide her below average IQ. Which would make her, not only a bitch, but a dumb ugly bitch.”
Captain just wait. Wait until they get dun dun dun OLD! Not to say a woman’s worth is only in her beauty but if that’s all you cultivated in your youth eventually you’ll be left out at sea without a paddle.
*GASP* Old?! Impossible!!!
Good one, Donk. I knew there was a reason liked you
This is why I don’t have a cell phone
Welcome to the world of, me, myself, and I. Where have you been for the last 3 or 4 decades?
What are you saying on all these multiple text messages? “hey” or “whatsup?” I’ll bet. Quit bugging people all damn time with the stupid texts Forget the “hotties” and find a nottie, just one nice girl -call her and ask her out to a steak dinner sometime.
Do a lot of people do this to you op? Maybe it’s you. You know.. because of the clinginess.
See.. people like you are the reason that stupid “message seen” feature on facebook sucks so much “uhgg.. i saw you were online and saw my message an hour ago. Wtf are you mad at me???”
It’s even worse on ipods and iphones.. you can see the last time people were even online, whether they read your message or not.
Op heed my advice. Don’t be so needy. It will NOT go well for you.