To the buff man with the big shoulders who prowls about a certain dating site playing games with everyone you need to stop. I know your type geek in high school works out a little and then gets cute, but you turn into an ass hole. You meet all these people online and you are nice to them, but you never meet anyone in person you always come up with a bull shit story and drop them and go onto the next one a week later. Its all a numbers game to you, see how many people find you cute, because no one did in high school and everyone made fun of you.
The thing is you are no better then the people who picked on you in high school. You are doing the same thing as they did, fuck around with people’s minds. The thing is people are smart and they will see right through you, and like high school you are going to be alone the rest of your life.
Picking on people sucks, it can ruin people’s lives and you are no better because you are just like them.
—No To THe Bully
This article appears in May 14-20, 2009.
Chic? Sheik? Sleek?
Cute douchebags are a dime a dozen online, same as in RL. Move on and don’t (proverbially) give it up the first moment some guy bats his lashes at you.
That’s a type?? …never heard of that before at all. I’m not trying to start a fight here, but I would only expect that behavour in women. I don’t know why, but I just can’t imagine a man chickening out about meeting IRL like that.
If some douche on POF picking on people “ruins their lives” then they have A LOT more to worry about than some asshole on the internet.
Just sayin’ 😉
I second Kitty on this one. If your feelings are subject to the mood of an internet dating zombie you’ve become codependent and in the worst way… counting on a faceless, nameless, soulless entity to stroke your ego… you’ll be single for an eternity! Time to get real, isn’t it?
Haha…”sheek”.
Learn to spell, dooshbag.
yeah, I’m with PK and kay. How would someone online that you never even met? have the control of being a bully. It’s online dude. How does that work?
@ thebeardedonion
Actually, it’s “douchebag” 😉
hahahaha, that would be really funny if it wasn’t purposely done.
Don’t take it personally, is all I can say. It could well be that this guy gets a rush from racking up the “willing to meet” score, and has no desire to take it any further. But it could equally well be that the man is unwilling to meet for a variety of other reasons…many of which boil down to misrepresentation. He may not be nearly as buff in real life as he looks in pics or on the webcam, he may be a practising alcoholic, he might not have that sweet ride and is unable to borrow a car, he may not have two cents to rub together (for all you know he’s unemployed or underemployed), and maybe he’s in a relationship.
It doesn’t add up. He probably decided you didn’t give a sh*t about him. He was right as you seem to be extremely insecure and prejudicial. I’d be willing to bet your assumptions are false.
1. Most men on online dating sites suffer from some sort of anxiety/selfesteem/mental issue. I’ve talked to enough to know this is true. Not ALL, but the vast majority. They get an ego stroke out of a girl wanting to meet, but they never have the balls to actually do so.
2. He could be hiding something…namely a significant other. If you think that, no, not possible, he’s “proven” that he’s single…you can hide a S.O VERY easily.
That said, it’s really easy to fall for someone’s story online. Especially if that particular area of your real life is lacking. You have someone who connects with you easily, who makes time for you at first, who says all the right things…it’s easier than, “But you’ve never MET them!”
So, lemme get this straight – You’ve been talking to some guy… And it came to the point of meeting and he decided to back out?
Maybe all that is going on here is he got a scent of your crazy. Just from reading this bitch I’m picking up on it.
So, what happened.. He was all Oh, i love you – Lets make babies.. You said SURE! (I’m guessing you were ultra happy about it due to the fact that otherwise, why would you be bitching about it?) And then it was all, “Oh sorry – I can’t. Bye”?
I think the real issue here is your ability to handle rejection.
Oh, and lastly – So what’d you do – troll around POF looking for anybody this person has even spoken to and gotten the low-down and dirty over everything they’ve done?
Hrmmm… I’m smelling crazy again!