This article appears in Dec 11-17, 2008.
GEEEZZZ take a hint!
To the socially inept new girl at my work: WE DON’T LIKE YOU!You hardly say anything and when you do it’s something completely random or pointless. Then at the end of every week you ask the rest of us what we’re doing on the weekend and you always ask u
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Agreed, Viego. They should at least give her a chance. She probably has difficulty adaptingto her new environment, and nobody is making her feel welcome. If I worked there, I wouldtake the chance to get to know this new girl.
Sounds like a great place to work. A little like LTWWB really; “Fresh meant. Kill!”
Sounds like a great place to work. A little like LTWWB really; “Fresh meat. Kill!”
Agreed Jammie. Mean Mean Mean
Argh, why is this juvenile idea of an association between “social privilege” (i.e. wealth) and nastiness still around?? Let me assure you, there are lots and lots of brutally nasty po’ and unprivileged folks around. Can you say defense mechanism? Give me a break.
PS Tabitha, totally agree with everything else you said though 😉
Women can be such bitches at work.
Actually, Jammie, what I meant wasn’t wealth. Sorry about the confusion in my message. I meant girls who were socially popular (ie. had a lot of friends, boyfriends, went to many parties and social events), no matter what financial background they came from. Snobby girls who were part of the “In” crowd, who excluded “geeks”, “weirdos” anyone who wasn’t “cool”.
Ah sorry Tabitha. It was the word privilege that made me think you meant socioeconomic status. It’s a common theme in media that rich people are assholes. I’ve generally found the opposite to be true, so the stereotype gets to me. LOL
This is probably a case of New Girl standing on her own and not giving a shit about La Douchebags, and the High Whore Representative of La Douchebags decided to give a clear and important message – via anonymous interwebs – that if you ignore them, they’re going to try to flip it around and pretend to ignore you. Only out loud. And on purpose. Douchebags think messages speak louder than messengers. They can’t help it, they’re douchebags.
Wow. Offically dazzled.OP, your post says quite a bit about the kind of person you are. Instead of welcoming your new co-worker and making an effort to get to know her, you chose to alienate her and no doubt make her feel ridiculous for simply trying to be social with you and your group. It’s never easy being the ‘new girl’, but you’re purposely making it even harder for this person to feel comfortable in the workplace. You should be ashamed of yourselves, but i can bet that you’ve left your sense of compassion back in high school along with that crappy attitude. Wake up OP, because one day those you think of as your friends will turn on you too, and you’ll be wishing you’d done things a lot different back when you picked on that ‘socially inept new girl at work’. Give your head a shake.
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What a bitch you are Trish. Hopefully the girl in your office will read this and realize she is soooo much cooler then you douchebags.
what gets me is the end bit when she demands this employee quit her job because ‘no one likes her’.since when is employment the playground? so what if she doesn’t waste time chatting with you all while she’s WORKING? did you ever stop to think maybe there’s a reason for that?also, maybe she had friends outside the workplace, unlike you, and therefore doesn’t need to make pals at her crappy job. maybe she’ trying to be nice to YOU by inviting you on weekends, seeing as how all of your friends are ones who are paid to be around you. or maybe she’s new in the city, and is looking to make friends. Either way, I think you’ve proven she’s better off looking elsewhere. hopefully actions like this will haunt your dreams when you grow the fuck up and realize how horrible you’ve been.and yes, clearly, LTWWB is just mean mean mean……..ive said it before- we’re a nasty little sandbox, either get in and play with the rest of us or leave. and Kay? your constant riffs about how much this place/this city sucks? getting old. just get over it, suck it up and see the good, or leave. honestly. you’re not going to convince any of the rest of us to defect.
Hey Trish, got a question for you. Have you ever even gone out with this girl once? Gotten to know her at all, her likes, her dislikes? You may be surprised. This girl will be working with you so live with it and make the best of it. If you continue this bitchy behavior, don’t be surprised if your company’s HR comes down on your ass someday.
You are exactly the reason why I don’t work with other women. You catty bunch of nasty cunts.
trish, i actually feel sorry for you. the fact that you cannot accept others for who they are says a lot about your personality as well as how insecure you must be about yourself…. hopefully someday you will realize how stupid this is and you will feel sorry for your behaviour.
Trish calls the New Girl “socially inept”, yet she’s the only one of this whole group who seems to have any social skills whatsoever. I guess banding together with like-minded skanks, ignoring coworkers, and talking behind people’s backs is “socially ept”.
hedgy says, “Kay? your constant riffs about how much this place/this city sucks? getting old. just get over it, suck it up and see the good, or leave. honestly. you’re not going to convince any of the rest of us to defect.”1. This bitch is definitely something I’m not surprised to see2. The co-worker being slagged is also described as someone trying very hard to be tolerant, nice and fit in yet is met with this sort of disdain. THIS is the disgusting behavior I see happening everywhere3. TTFN is right on the money (I call it how I see it)4. Last but seriously not least…. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don’t defect and breed your kind elsewhere. I’m soon to leave and I’d like to be confident I’m leaving all you fuckers behind.
My niece was bullied by a bunch of cunty bitches like this – they made her life perfectly miserable because she happened to be naturally cheerful and willing to help. I so wanted to go down there and confront those goddamn cows but I knew I couldn’t. She suffered through that job for three years before she had enough. What really pissed me off was that her boss was too wimpy to deal with these vicious, cackling pigs – he allowed them to bulldoze over my niece because he was afraid of them. Fortunately, my niece gave them a solid piece of her mind on her last day and told them if she ever saw them crossing the street, she’d stomp on her gas pedal without hesitation. She received a stellar reference because I think her spineless boss was secretly happy that she had told those crusty twats off.
Addtional comment: I realize not all women operate like this on the workplace but it seems that this situation happens more frequently than it should. In the 35 years I’ve worked with men, I’ve never, ever seen the viciousness that permeates most female-oriented workplaces. My theory is usually the women who do this sort of bullying have no fucking lives or they have miserable ones, therefore the channelled rage.
Contempt breeds contempt. TTFN’s happy-go-lucky niece became someone to be feared by the time they were finished with her… I used to be nice too. This is what NS does to women and even the big men are afraid of these bitches so they end up following their lead. Mean Mean Mean
Women, womenWhat a blessing.They can show their c~#+swithout undressing.author unknown…but I wish it was I.
Geez indeed. I can just imagine what this person is like with their bitchy little clique freezing out someone AT THEIR PLACE OF WORK, just because they aren’t super-extroverted like the OP and her other co-workers probably are (hint OP: you don’t HAVE TO like her or talk to her, but nevertheless you sound like a big ol’ bully). How about getting to know her? If you still don’t like her after that, just extract yourself socially, you have no obligation. Most awkward people start to relax if they feel accepted, the lack of which can produce quietness and “random/wierd comments.” Although in your case perhaps “random/wierd comments” refers to talk about politics or just anything that doesn’t have to do with how you all got drunk at the Palace last weekend and how it was SOOOOOOOOO OFF THE HOOK. Tabitha said it perfectly, grow the fuck up, you’re not in high school any more and you sound like a serious bitch……no sympathy.
Jesus Murphy you fucking cunt. She’s trying to be friends. I hope she realizes what a waste of space you all are.
“Although in your case perhaps “random/wierd comments” refers to talk about politics or just anything that doesn’t have to do with how you all got drunk at the Palace last weekend and how it was SOOOOOOOOO OFF THE HOOK. “And you said THAT perfectly, Mole Rat! The “random/weird” comments were likely jokes or about subject matter that went way over Trishy’s and her skank co-worker/friends’ heads!
they’re ?- JammieTo be grammatically correct ‘they’re ‘ is the word that possibly should be used. But as I said “I didn’t write this” I just wish that I had. I copied it here ,just as I received it. Perhaps its written that way to be derogatory in a possessive way (ie: their shoes, their purse, their assholes, their c~#+s). As opposed to they’re (ie:they are) assholes. Am I making any sense, or am I just attempting to put my spin on someone else’s poetry, & possible spelling mistake?However you look at it, I was definitely attempting to show my distain for Trish. Without realising that grammatically correct spelling was somehow just as or more important.
Hey More – I don’t think you spelled it wrong – it could be spelled either way and that is the whole point. It’s a pun. I didn’t mean to appear to be correcting you, but to point out the pun. Sorry for the misunderstanding 🙂
I’m not surprised the OP hasn’t come back with a reply to any of this- her type is usually spineless!
I think all of the comments ring true. The OP is obviously a shallow socially inept bitch herself, not to mention just plain nasty.As to Kay I’ve been reading your comment about NS for some time now. I’m originally from ON, and have lived in Alta, MB, and PQ before coming to halifax. It seems to me that you are the kind of twit who will bitch and moan about your circumstances no matter where you are , has it ever occured to you that the problem may not be Nova Scotia, but you. of course it hasn’t that sort of self realization would only happen to a sentient, thinking being, which you obviously are not.
Yeah, sure, I’m the problem. Because I came to NS people here got mean. Sure. Whatever floats your boat, Doc T.
Doc, it’s seriously not worth it. Kay’s a deluded rambler who OCCASIONALLY has a good point (yah I said it) but it’s usually followed quickly by a slam about how eveyrone on this board/in halifax/ in nova scotia/I’m assuming the world in general is horrible. of course, she will never leave, as that would deny her the pleasure of bitching about it all and feeling superior.hmmm sounds a bit like the op……..cocks eyebrow.
I guess you’re right hedgy, I actually feel sorry for the self centered little git though
Save your pity for people like Trish
oh go talk to your cats and the voices in your head kay
And that goes for camping trips where you conveniently leave money behind when we go for food, gas, and beer!